Cultural divide

[weever]

There are two things which as an Australian Born chinese with traditional parents...... i absolutely dread.......

1.) the idea of marriage and commitment
2.) Emotion

Whats all you guys view on these subjects?

I would open up the discussion but i dont think the thread has enough room.

[enigma740]

Explain a little more about what you mean by traditional parents. Are you talking about strict, forcing you to have an arranged-marriage type of parents?

I live in the states and my parents aren't very traditional. I'm not scared of marriage...when I feel like getting married I'll start looking for a girl who feels the same way.

Emotion? You're being vague here. Are you talking about a lack of emotion in the relationship with your parents? Cmon speak up bub nobody is a mind reader.

[SunWuKong]

yeah, i hate emotion.

[returntosender]

how can you hate emotion?

are a lot of chinese like this?

the other day i was watching the rowing championships in eton england and when the chinese boat won, a member stood up and pumped his hand into the air. one of the broadcasters mentioned that it was a rare moment to see the chinese express any emotion in a victory.

personally, one of the things i hate most about asian culture, and I may be generalizing a bit, is the lack of recognition towards their emotions. it is just hard to refute charges of robotic tendancies by people of other backgrounds when we ourselves prefer to act like one.

And from being around some mixed kids, one of the most prominant stereotypes of asian men are the stoic, cold, uncompassionate, father figures. so I don't think that disregarding our emotions is usually a good thing.

[Martino]

Emotion ... is illogical, Captain.

Originally Posted by weever

There are two things which as an Australian Born chinese with traditional parents...... i absolutely dread.......

1.) the idea of marriage and commitment
2.) Emotion

Whats all you guys view on these subjects?

I would open up the discussion but i dont think the thread has enough room.

[mrazntre]

i don't really understand the question, but that might be because i'm neither australian nor chinese.

[CBC guy]

Well my parents aren't particularly traditional. My father's family in Hong Kong was relatively well-off. (My grandma studied English literature while my grandpa held a high post in the Bank of China back in the 50s. Both of them spoke english fluently, which was a huge asset back in 1950s Hong Kong)

In fact as we speak my parents told me that they encourage me to get a G/F. (I am single)

As for the emotions thing, many Asian men are taught growing up to be stoic and tough. (Well to be fair many white men are taught the same.) I've rarely seen men cry in public, and I've never to this day seen Asian men cry in public. I've seen them celebrate in basketball or soccer, and I've seen a few of them blow their tops and get pissed off, but yeah Asian men tend to be on the reserved side.

Maybe a girl can speak for the ladie's side?

[didu]

Originally Posted by weever

There are two things which as an Australian Born chinese with traditional parents...... i absolutely dread.......

2.) Emotion

Would you prefer to see your parents snogging each other all the time?