the silent treatment

[amietron]

Do you respond well to the silent treatment? Are you usually aware that she's pulling it on you, or are you oblivious to it? Do you think "she just doesn't feel like talking right now because she's busy" or "damn, she's pulling another one of those stunts."

Why do I ask? Because I'm wondering if it's really worth the effort to not talk. Cosmo says a lot of guys don't realize they're under (the treatment) when they are, so they don't react with "I'm so sorry, honey" or anything apologetic. What's your take/thoughts?

[Fireblade]

Omg. You actually listen to women's magazines?! They're like Maximum Mag, or Stuff Mag. They insist that these things work, but the truth is, they're written by ppl who have no idea what the hell life is anymore. Remember, these are journalists and reporters who look at statistics and junk, and report accordingly.

Personally, as a guy, I think I'd know something is up if my girl isn't talking to me. Of course this also depends on how close I am with the girl. If I'm distant and haven't really talked, then shit, the silent treatment might not mean anything to me. But if I've been talking to you for like the longest time, and then you stop talking to me, I'll know something is up.

Give the guy a week to think. In other words, don't call him, tell him you have to talk to him later because something came up when he calls, etc, etc. This gives him time to think what the hell is wrong, and enables him to review ALL the shit he's done. But just remember that after that silent treatment, you've gotta deal with all he has to say, on top of what you want to say to him too.

(but why take advice from a single guy? oh well.....) :blink:

[deez nuts]

I enjoy it while I can.

[Adaon]

Like that punk Fireblade said, depends on how close the guy is to the girl.

If I were dating * :cry: *, I'd prolly notice and wonder what's up. But then again that's cuz I tend to keep my mouth shut more when I'm with my girl.

If the girl was just a friend, I'd still wonder what's up, but I'd be more prone to just think it's something going on with them and it's not anything I did.

BUT THEN AGAIN IT'S NEVER ANYTHING I DID. MUAHAHAHAHAHAHA.






............*I'm prolly wrong about this, but then again that might explain why I'm still single :cry: .....eh..... <_< *

[ism]

I think it's childish. I mean, the last time I experienced it was in high school. Or perhaps everyone after that was extremely subtle. Anyway, it's also a sign of bad communication. It is functioning as a punishment and a message which is not entirely clear. It expects the punishee to know why the punishment was enacted. A problem cannot be solved if the problem is not known. And c'mon, don't you want to speed up the process of arguing about a problem, resolving the problem, and having make-up sex?

[SunWuKong]

kind of depends on how i feel about the girl and what the situation is. if i don't really care all that much about the girl, but is with her for who-knows-what-reason, then i don't care if she gives me the silent treatment. hell i'd probably enjoy it. but if it was a girl i care alot about and it was a situation that was pissing me off or something, then the silent treatment would annoy the hell out of me. i'd probably react by vacating the vicinity.

[applehead]

i don't understand how women can give their partner silence treatments.
maybe it's because i have a big mouth but if something's bothering me, i can't let it fester. i really can't. i need to let it OUT.
it'll be too frustrating not too.
how do you do it??

by the way, i pretty much consider most of women's magazines junk but i really enjoy InStyle and Marie Claire. InStyle doesn't have all the bullshit about sex and relationships and Marie Claire has really good social awareness articles pertaining to women and also articles featuring real women and their boyfriends.
but yeah, cosmo is one of the worst.
Lucky magazine has really good freebies...

hey guys, don't read maxim or stuff in public. it's really pathetic. :lol: :lol:

[lethal]

Some (if not most) guys would be oblivious to the silent treatment unless it was completely pointed, such as his asking more than 1 question that you looked at him, but did not respond to.

Or it could be just that I'm oblivious.

[angel nympho]

Such a high school thing to do.

[babysakura]

Originally posted by lethalweapon@Nov 19 2002, 10:41 AM
Some (if not most) guys would be oblivious to the silent treatment unless it was completely pointed, such as his asking more than 1 question that you looked at him, but did not respond to.

Or it could be just that I'm oblivious.

i was just teaching my guy-pal how to react when girls have a change of tone in their voices..from nice to angry.

it's pretty obvious most guys are just totally blur about it! not that they're trying to be jerks or whut...but they're just not sensitive enuffff

[Pooh]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Nov 19 2002, 04:52 AM
I enjoy it while I can.

word

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Nov 19 2002, 04:52 AM
I enjoy it while I can.

Bwahhaahhah

[ellsworth81]

the girl must be damn "busy" to outright stop talking to you <_< i think it's kinda immature, but i've been done it before (recently might i add ) whatever the case, most of us non-pimps don't like being ignored (who does really) unless the other person is real annoying or the "victim" is just really busy with other crap to care about getting the silent bidness.

[princess]

i never give the silent treatment. a good scream clears the air...i hate having issues hanging around in the air. i prefer it when my guy yells at me rather than shuts up.

I use to not see it when I was totally socially oblivious. Now it becomes fairly obvious though. :(