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Old 11-09-2002, 11:54 AM
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And here, by "asian" guys, i mean those who either come from very traditional AA familes, or actually live in asia.

How do you go about flirting with a guy you like? do you just wait for him to make the first move, or do you feel that most asian guys (not AA guys, i mean) are intimidated by "american" women (even asian women) and will probably not hit on you even if they really like you?

this has been my experience. on several occasions i've waited and waited for a certain guy to talk to me or ask for my #, or something, and he never does. So finally i just started figuring, ok maybe i have to make the first move. And when i did, i often found that the guy was just holding back b/c he wasn't sure if *i* was interested.

and one final bit of hilarity: there's a guy at my school who i really like. he is not only a pleasant guy, but is also really intelligent. i got to talk to him one night, and we had a great conversation....and he did tell me his name, but it completely went in one ear and out the other. So now i really need to find out what his name is, or i can't talk to him, in japanese at least! well unless i want to either be really rude and adress him as "hey you", or just speak in little-kid sentences ("food good? go movie?")

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Old 11-09-2002, 01:03 PM
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go for it, make the first move. why not? if you want to get what you want, you're gonna have to give a little, too.

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Old 11-09-2002, 03:35 PM
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You could bust out the keigo and ask for his name.

I've always had a really weird split reaction from AAs and fobs. AA guys disdain me but I attract fob guys like moths to a flame. Maybe I'm nothing but a big green card to them. :lol:

Sometimes the guys get a little too slimey for me in Japan -- kind of the Asian version of Asiaphiles. Some are like Americaphiles. Or hapaphiles.
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Old 11-09-2002, 05:26 PM
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I've gotten hit on (in the gross creepy way) by a lot more Asian guys than white guys. But from my experience, white guys have had the better approaches to me. 'Cuz I don't dig the whole "hey baby, you lookin' fiinnnne" type comments. Err, I dig them, I just don't usually take those guys seriously and actually give them my number or something. The white guys I've encountered (for the...most...part...) have been a little more conversational as opposed to... one-liner types.

Ok, that totally didn't answer the question in the post.

I'd probably not hit on a guy first, unless he was way TOO cute to let slip away. But sometimes I make eyes and stuff to catch his attention. Then let things happen. ...But I'm MUCH more likely to approach an Asian guy than a white guy... if I'm approaching anybody at all. I don't think it matters though. I usually won't approach a guy unless he's GORGEOUS and I don't wanna lose the chance. More times than not, the guy I find totally gorgeous isn't Asian. =T But I think that has more to do with WHERE I hang out than my... err... what some of you will refer to as my *subconscious mind wishing I was white*? *Shrug*
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Old 11-09-2002, 05:58 PM
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heres a hint, sound intelligent and laugh a lot
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Old 11-09-2002, 06:11 PM
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hey, if a girl hits on me, i wouldn't mind. But i'd hope it's serious cuz if she's just playing w/ me...wellll....i'm a borderline 8-)
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Old 11-09-2002, 08:10 PM
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by loserbutt@Nov 9 2002, 05:58 PM
heres a hint, sound intelligent and laugh a lot
i think that's the basic stereotype for Asian guys. i've had a friend telling me that intelligent is sexy.

the asian guys who have approached me before will always start of with something lame like " errr...hi" *smile* *blush* *starts staring at his feet* or in worse cases, starts launching a interogation session or even start talking about just himself.
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Old 11-10-2002, 09:00 AM
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Be yourself. If you are intelligent, it will show naturally. Oh well, Noriko. Tell us how it went last night!
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I actually fit the Asian male stereotype of being shy and reluctant to apporach girls. Ugh. It's frustrating, I never have the balls to really approach a girl I like first.
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Take a class on flirting.
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Old 11-11-2002, 01:04 PM
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Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Nov 9 2002, 06:35 PM
I attract fob guys like moths to a flame.
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Originally posted by noriko@Nov 9 2002, 02:54 PM
And here, by "asian" guys, i mean those who either come from very traditional AA familes, or actually live in asia.

How do you go about flirting with a guy you like? do you just wait for him to make the first move, or do you feel that most asian guys (not AA guys, i mean) are intimidated by "american" women (even asian women) and will probably not hit on you even if they really like you?

this has been my experience. on several occasions i've waited and waited for a certain guy to talk to me or ask for my #, or something, and he never does. So finally i just started figuring, ok maybe i have to make the first move. And when i did, i often found that the guy was just holding back b/c he wasn't sure if *i* was interested.

and one final bit of hilarity: there's a guy at my school who i really like. he is not only a pleasant guy, but is also really intelligent. i got to talk to him one night, and we had a great conversation....and he did tell me his name, but it completely went in one ear and out the other. So now i really need to find out what his name is, or i can't talk to him, in japanese at least! well unless i want to either be really rude and adress him as "hey you", or just speak in little-kid sentences ("food good? go movie?")

lol:)
many guys in asia or fob guys can be intimidated by very westernized women. they think that these women, by virtue of being westernizes, wouldn't really be interested in them.

take the plunge and start the conversation!
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Old 11-11-2002, 01:16 PM
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I know what you mean. The guys I like I just don't have the nerves to go up and start a conversation. However, the ones that I don't intend to have anything more than just being friends I feel very comfortable chatting with them. The it ends up with the guy I like has no idea that I like him and the guy I dont like thinks that I dig him...... ;) and the vicious cycle continues.
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Old 11-11-2002, 05:19 PM
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If you're wondering, I just edited a spelling in your post. conversion --> conversation. :D Ah, the power of moderating.
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Old 11-11-2002, 09:44 PM
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Hehehe, thanks Janet!

I didn't even take a look back to make sure everything makes sense...or in this case spells correctly. hehehe shouldn't rush next time to finish an entry.
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