Will you take your husband's last name if you get married?

[fossilfuel]

if so why? custom? commitment to marriage?

if not? feminism? the idea that married women remain individuals and equal partners?

I have no idea what the thought process is like when someone has to figure this out. Lucky guys (as usual) don't have to do anything

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[Mr.Lum]

When I get married there will be no hyphen nonsense. She will be Mrs. Lum and I will be Mr. Lum. The Lum line must continue. I'm the only one left! LOL.

[Kris]

david-kris-ahveet-pann. i'll be damned if i have to add hyphenate my name even more. but knowing women nowadays, i'll be forced to do it

[so_fee_ahh]

I don't want my last name. I don't want his last name...maybe the hyphenated thing? No, fuck that. I don't want that either. (Wow, I don't want a lot of things here.)

Maybe I'll be cool like that...I'll just go by my first name.

[truMp]

it's my lineage!

[yoMAMA]

I always wondered what happend to non asian women when they take on their asian husband's name..........

Must be a little weird.....

[haru908]

my mom didn't, and i don't plan on it. my bf's last name is "Wang" =/

[mrazntre]

Let's modify this question:

Culturally, has there ever been any time in your life that your mom or female motherly figure instilled any type of notion to 1)take your future husbands name or 2) not take your future husbands name.

Is there any bearing to either due to cultural reasons? And of course, whatever your answer... WHY?

Originally Posted by yoMAMA

I always wondered what happend to non asian women when they take on their asian husband's name..........

Must be a little weird.....

I had a political science teacher that specialized in chinese studies.

Her name was Mrs. Wang and she was WHITE.

Originally Posted by so_fee_ahh

I don't want my last name. I don't want his last name...maybe the hyphenated thing? No, fuck that. I don't want that either. (Wow, I don't want a lot of things here.)

Maybe I'll be cool like that...I'll just go by my first name.

like Madonna ?

[Kuchana]

Did it, done.

Funny thing is people give me weird looks when they see my last name and then see my face. Doesn't seem to match up it seems.

[TB4000]

Originally Posted by Kuchana

Did it, done.

Funny thing is people give me weird looks when they see my last name and then see my face. Doesn't seem to match up it seems.

Latina chicks be like, "girl, you got some asian in you or what?"

[Kuchana]

Originally Posted by TB4000

Latina chicks be like, "girl, you got some asian in you or what?"

LOL no I haven't gotten that yet although people do look at me funny when I'm with my mother-in-law hehe. And the UPS man the other day took a second look while I was signing for a package. He asked me what my last name was and as I told him, he laughed a little. Go figure:)

[deez nuts]

a couple of my asian friends that married non-asian women, the wife only uses her maiden name professionally.

[SunWuKong]

ok fellas, i think the question was addressed to the ladies. let's let them answer first before we weigh in our opinions.

[BigLew]

Originally Posted by Kuchana

Did it, done.

Funny thing is people give me weird looks when they see my last name and then see my face. Doesn't seem to match up it seems.

HAHA But didn't that happen before though? I know it happens to me.

[kimpossible]

Originally Posted by yoMAMA

I always wondered what happend to non asian women when they take on their asian husband's name..........

Must be a little weird.....

you rang? no, being one quarter Asian doesn't give me exemption from being non-Asian in this case.

I think I've said this before in other places, so forgive if I'm repeating. For anything joint related and official where we will be looked at as a couple or family I use my married name. It's my legal name. Part of taking his last name was tradition (mine since I'm an American but most 1.5ers or ABAs I know have done so as well). Part of it you could chalk it up to a bit of girliness. The efficient reason is that many institutions get confused if they see Asian last name and Western last name in same household.

I still use my maiden name in key areas. Education: all my degrees/certificates are in my maiden name. Professionally: it not only confuses the hell out of people if I use my married name, but I've found that I'm actually treated differently if I use my maiden name. Internationally: I keep my maiden name on my passport.

Technically, I have a Chinese name as well. I didn't see the importance of having one at the time because I figured, hey, Kim is a pretty good name for anyone to say or write but I actually have been in a situation where they couldn't process my name in anything other than written Chinese. It doesn't have any real meaning to me, it's about the same as someone referring to me by my YW handle.

Not a fan of hyphenation. For my lifestyle I've found it's more convenient to flexibly rotate names most useful to the situation at hand. Though if I ever make it to phD, I want to use my maiden name. That belongs to me. Oh, I would also use my maiden name if I want to make it obvious I'm a foreigner, like on my luggage tags.