Can't Stop Crying

[amietron]

what do i do to make myself stop crying? i'm crying at everything, and making myself have raccoon eyes. anytime my mom or dad screams at me, and anytime i think about HIM. what do i do?

i seriously feel like i'm bi-polar or something.



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[kimpossible]

i don't know what to tell you other than i'm sorry to see you so hurt.

i can cry with you... :(

[amietron]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Aug 27 2002, 10:46 AM
i can cry with you... :(

Nah, don't do that. Puffy, swollen eyes aren't pretty. Your husband would think you're allergic to something.

[johnny]

WHat does bi-polar mean? CAN SOME PLZ EXPLAIN? THANKS!


Also, Amietron, I offer to be your rebound guy :P

ok j/k, on a serious note,
it just takes time to heal and get it over him....it took me 2 years to get over my first love.

[kimpossible]

he's used to it. i'm like everyone's older sister. even to my friends that are older than me. what's up if you want to share?

[amietron]

1) Got dumped by Spencer on Wednesday night. Didn't really start this "crying-at-anything" phase until Sunday night. I'm not 100% sure WHY I got thrown away, but the point is, I did, like the candy wrappers and potato chip bags on garbage day. I want him back more than anything. It's not that it'd change things for me all that much. Just the fact that I knew I had someone to tell me "I love you" or whatever, made things better for me.

• He moved to Hawaii from NYC, on Saturday, Aug 24.

• i think he's juss very untrusting b/c he's been hurt and he doesnt think he has enough heart to give u what u deserve

• i talked to him, forgot when, but he was telling me that he always think that girls will leave &nbsp;him so i guess he built a shield around him and you just seem too good to be true ... from what i know, he doesn't seem like he talks to anyone about his problems. he just thinks that he's always alone huh. met too many ppl who betrayed him i guess. ... he needs to get slap so he'll start trusting more. that's the only thing i can think of. ... the only thing i can think of is patience. it's really up to you, do you think it's worth it. don't mind me, my parents don't approve of my bf, so everytime something happens, i ask myself that question. &nbsp;i seriously thinks that spence gotta be crazy to want to dump you. give him time to settle down and i'm sure he'll turn around. he always tell me how great u are.

  Those are both from AOL conversations I had with his friends. I had to copy-paste the convo part to make it into a body paragraph-type thing. It's not hard to make your pride go away if you want something badly enough.

2) My parents keep yelling at me about school and where I'm going this coming year. The public school that I would go to started yesterday and the private one that I went to last year starts on the 9th. (my education=me) My parents don't think my education (I) am worth their $17k.

• At the private school, both my GPA and class rank would be higher. I'd get more one-on-one time with teachers and extensions on projects, as needed.
• At the public school, I'd have to take another year of P.E., the councilors and admin. suck ballz (they're the original reason I switched schools), and a lot of the teachers could just care less. No college help here. On the plus side, I'd be with my friends, I can sing in choir, and overall, I'd just be happier because of it.
• Socially and economically, public school is better, but if all I want is college, then private school is the way for me to go.

What should I do?

[amietron]

Originally posted by johnny@Aug 27 2002, 10:48 AM
WHat does bi-polar mean? CAN SOME PLZ EXPLAIN? THANKS!

Go to this site to read a little bit about it.



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[johnny]

Amietron,
you sound kinda like the dependent type so maybe you need to find a dependent kinda guy. I'm Independent but when it comes to relationships I'm very Dependent on the other person. I hate my luck of meeting all these Independent women who are all better off single than making a guy miserable.

Okay I didn't answer your question, sorry.

[amietron]

If you don't mind, could you describe the two types?

[johnny]

Originally posted by amietron@Aug 27 2002, 07:18 PM

Go to this site to read a little bit about it.

Okay thanks.

To add to that bi-polar fancy smancy terminology, I feel that is wrong and does not describe it well. Some dumb ASS created that term and diagnosed that term so they canmake money and make it seem it's a problem. I would agree people suffer from maniac depression, but that bi-polar stuff is extreme.

My point to all this, some people(like myself) are very sensitive and moody (thus, I am a cancer) - at times I feel very outgoing and then other times I block myself from everyone else.

Two of the same kind do not match in a way, so I take back what I said about you needing a dependent guy - maybe you need a Independent guy that just loves you for who you are?? maybe...

Just re-thinking, 2 sensitive people who are a couple might understand each other but I think in the long-term will drive each other nuts in the long run.


SO I guess I'm bless/CURSED to have to get with a strong Independent woman who is sorta insensitive? Okay I digressed too much on this one...

[kimpossible]

What I would say is: You're going to need some time to grieve over this relationship. I know you're trying to piece together what happened. Suddenly getting dumped sucks, the relationship ends but the feelings don't. You may never truly understand why, and I can tell you that from personal experience.

As for school, are your parents unwilling or just unable to pay for private school? Not sure.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by johnny@Aug 27 2002, 02:29 PM
To add to that bi-polar fancy smancy terminology, I feel that is wrong and does not describe it well. Some dumb ASS created that term and diagnosed that term so they canmake money and make it seem it's a problem. I would agree people suffer from maniac depression, but that bi-polar stuff is extreme.

there is a big difference between simply having mood swings and being bi-polar. bi-polar people can have difficulties functioning normally in society. but the bottom line is that no certain situation happened in one's life to cause the condition. it's a chemical imbalance.

amie i really doubt you are bi-polar, since this started because of your break-up. if you are bi-polar, then you would always have been swinging on emotional extremes, and definitively you would not be able to place the cause of your condition. that would mean that for no reason at all, you can be extremely happy one moment and then go on to extremely sad the next. it sounds to me that you're just simply sad right now because of what happened. a common trait in depression-related mental conditions is that no single event caused the condition. patients do not know why they are that way. they just are.

i am the last one to be giving relationship advice, but just give it time, and you'll be over him. there are plenty of people on this site that have gone through these situations, so feel free to talk about it.



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[amietron]

Originally posted by johnny@Aug 27 2002, 11:29 AM
My point to all this, some people(like myself) are very sensitive and moody (thus, I am a cancer) - at times I feel very outgoing and then other times I block myself from everyone else.

Two of the same kind do not match in a way, so I take back what I said about you needing a dependent guy - maybe you need a Independent guy that just loves you for who you are?? maybe...

Just re-thinking, 2 sensitive people who are a couple might understand each other but I think in the long-term will drive each other nuts in the long run.

SO I guess I'm bless/CURSED to have to get with a strong Independent woman who is sorta insensitive? Okay I digressed too much on this one...

In the feng-shui thing from the Chinese horoscope site that MK or someone linked into the signs post, it said that two people who share a habitat/living space should have the same lucky areas or something. (Here's a link to that site.) So they can't be opposites, I don't think.

I'm confused, still.

[johnny]

This is OT but to just say from my own experience I never dumped a girl - I always wait to let her dump me. I guess I rather be with someone and be unhappy than single and unhappy. :blink: Whatever that means...

[amietron]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Aug 27 2002, 11:44 AM
As for school, are your parents unwilling or just unable to pay for private school? Not sure.

Unwilling. They don't think I deserve it.