have you ever cheated?

[sandra]

so have you?

[krissy]

[color=red:8e0046732b]No.

Do you think that once someone cheats, that s/he is always a cheater?[/color:8e0046732b]

[SunWuKong]

almost everytime i hear about a guy cheating on a girl, the guy always ends up cheating on the girl more than once.

[PnaiAqui]

[quote:6b93102828="kasia"]so have you?[/quote:6b93102828]

In quizzes... yea, i've even done that with my whole class. haha. but relationship wise... NO, and never will I be cheating. I know what it feels to get hurt, and I don't want the person I care for to feel the same way I've felt before. And, besides I believe in Karma.

[karizma]

>> cheatin's baaaad never done it never will....oh yea and do you think"talking" with more than one person at a time is cheating? or a lesser form of it? if so than maybe i have cheated =/

[PnaiAqui]

[quote:5435f6c643="karizma"]>> cheatin's baaaad never done it never will....oh yea and do you think"talking" with more than one person at a time is cheating? or a lesser form of it? if so than maybe i have cheated =/[/quote:5435f6c643]

well, what exactly do u mean about "talking." if it's just chit chatting with a guy with nothing else attached, then that wouldn't be cheating. but, if it goes beyond that... then it would be. people that i talk to are mostly guys..coz most of my friends are guys, including one of my best friends. and also... i think there is no such thing as a lesser form of cheating. if u cheat, that's that.

[princess]

nope

[deez nuts]

I have when I was younger in my high school and college days. But I've been good in the relationships I've had in the last 4-5 years.

[krissy]

[quote:2f6ad6ac29="Chasiubao_Boy"]I have when I was younger in my high school and college days. But I've been good in the relationships I've had in the last 4-5 years.[/quote:2f6ad6ac29]

[color=red:2f6ad6ac29]Did something change that caused you to be better?

It seems that "cheating" might just mean physical stuff for many boys, but emotional/relationship stuff (with or without the physical) to other people (would tend to include girls & considerate people here). I think that "talking" depends on the intent and how the prospective cheater views his/her relationship with that person. But I don't really know. Maybe it's anything that might hurt your partner. I personally would probably be hurt if my guy started viewing another person in the same capacity as he viewed me (even if to a lesser degree).

At any rate, I would think it'd be important to be open about it - as many people say that it indicates a problem with the relationship (if you want to fix it - cheating does not necessarily signal the end of the relationship if both people think it's worth it - but a bit of a challenge, I suspect). Hmm.....I say that, but if I had a guy and he were cheating on me (and I knew, of course), I'd probably kick him to the curb b/c I don't think anyone deserves that disrespect. [/color:2f6ad6ac29]

[deez nuts]

[quote:38a05ca136="Krissy"][quote:38a05ca136="Chasiubao_Boy"]I have when I was younger in my high school and college days. But I've been good in the relationships I've had in the last 4-5 years.[/quote:38a05ca136]

[color=red:38a05ca136]Did something change that caused you to be better?

It seems that "cheating" might just mean physical stuff for many boys, but emotional/relationship stuff (with or without the physical) to other people (would tend to include girls & considerate people here). I think that "talking" depends on the intent and how the prospective cheater views his/her relationship with that person. But I don't really know. Maybe it's anything that might hurt your partner. I personally would probably be hurt if my guy started viewing another person in the same capacity as he viewed me (even if to a lesser degree).

At any rate, I would think it'd be important to be open about it - as many people say that it indicates a problem with the relationship (if you want to fix it - cheating does not necessarily signal the end of the relationship if both people think it's worth it - but a bit of a challenge, I suspect). Hmm.....I say that, but if I had a guy and he were cheating on me (and I knew, of course), I'd probably kick him to the curb b/c I don't think anyone deserves that disrespect. [/color:38a05ca136][/quote:38a05ca136]

Actually it's hard to say but I suspect age, the dating pool around me (the woman I date now are generally looking for a long term relationship) and a the decline in testosterone. I also don't put myself in situations and places where I would be tempted to cheat when I am in a serious long term relationship, anymore.

[CrX3183]

Well i was going out with this one girl for a while, but things started to get tough so we didn't really talk anymore and i started talking to another girl. We soon enough broke up... Is that cheating???? Well it doesn't matter anymore, i'm lonely now :cry:

[artsfartsyjanet]

I've never cheated on anyone. I DEFINITELY know what it's like to be cheated on, but as Lauryn Hill sings, "Karma karma karma will come back to you star." Truth hurts if your relationship's dwindling or you don't feel the same with another person anymore, but you guys/gals out there have to communicate that even if you're scared. It's better to be hurt by the truth than to be misled by a lie. If you really want to leave, do it in a respectful and timely manner regardless of the consequences. Also take into account the other person's feelings. Be supportive after a break-up instead of leaving the other person stranded to pick up the pieces.



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