Gay Spouse

[TidaMaria]

What would you do if you found out that your husband is gay and he's been cheating on you with another man?? How should a wife react and should she just accept it??

[nonamerasian]

I don’t see how someone is supposed to just take their husband freaky-deaking someone else.

[ChinaLama]

I'd agree w/ DW that you two should seek counseling. Even if he doesn't love you and he was marrying because he was lying to himself, I still think you two should work things out, because it's not your fault he lived a lie to himself. Whether a person is heterosexual, homosexual, or bestialist, one shouldn't cheat on one's life partner, which is what I think marriage is meant to be.

[shy]

cheating is cheating... whether with some one of the opposite sex or not.

and people like such a husband also put their spouses at risk for STD's, including hep B and HIV.

[Emperor_Mike]

Well, if my husband was gay I'd have a real problem.

But if my wife was and she cheated on me, I'd still have a real problem. Like what Shy said, "cheating is cheating" no matter how you look at it.

[TidaMaria]

What if he doesn't know that I know and he's trying to hide it from me? How should someone approach something like that. He'll definitely deny it. How could it be proven?

[Tao]

Originally Posted by TidaMaria

What if he doesn't know that I know and he's trying to hide it from me? How should someone approach something like that. He'll definitely deny it. How could it be proven?

umm..i'm sure if you tell him what you saw and when and where you saw him, he'll know that there's no point in trying to lie....i mean it's only logical

[kimpossible]

You know I've read this post a few times and I still don't have any good recommendation other than find a good divorce lawyer and try to negotiate an amicable separation. It's neither of your faults but this isn't a marital problem for a counselor; this is about your husband coming to terms with who he really is.

I highly recommend you see a doctor ASAP and be tested for STDs. Your spouse did not give you the opportunity to protect yourself from the other person(s) he had sexual contact with. Very unfair to you, but at this point you're going to have to start thinking of your welfare first.

[shy]

i agree with HH... talk to your doctor about getting some STD tests. think of your welfare first. in fact, you don't need to wait on this... do it as soon as possible. even if you have not confronted your husband yet.

and yeah... do confront him. it's not just because he's cheated on you. but if he's gay, there's nothing you nor him can do about that. and it's not fair for you to stay in the marriage.