don't date Asian because of significant others' parents?

[Tao]

Originally Posted by ChinaLama

i just wanna date non-Asian so i could fuck her on her parents' bed. ;)

woah....too much info

[missmeow]

Originally Posted by ChinaLama

i just wanna date non-Asian so i could fuck her on her parents' bed. ;)

That's kinda creepy. Would you wanna have sex on your parents bed? Yech :sick:

Anyway, would anyone's parents care? Mine wouldn't.

[Fireblade]

Err... I don't care if she's asian or what-not. Sure I'd give regards to her parents, but ultimately if her parents, regardless of race, are overbearing, I'd hate to make her choose, so I'd just leave the relationship. I can't stress enough how much problems can arise if you do not get along with your significant other's parents. If they play a large role in their lives, say goodbye.

This is probably why I don't expect to get married at all in my life. I push away my parents from my life, but I know if they met ANYONE that I was interested in, they'd start to nitpick. And it's just unfair for any woman to go through that sort of pain.

Yeech.. darn traditional parents.

[ChinaLama]

Originally Posted by missmeow

That's kinda creepy. Would you wanna have sex on your parents bed? Yech :sick:

Anyway, would anyone's parents care? Mine wouldn't.

i was just kidding. yeesh!

[deez nuts]

Originally Posted by SunWuKong

i guess i never thought Chinese parents were annoying or had high demands, etc etc. i mean obviously they're different from non-Chinese/non-Asian parents, but i just take it as the same thing as when you're dealing with Chinese elders, you have to have the Chinese etiquette.

it's not the etiquette, but the demands.

in my eyes, there's a fine line between respect and reverance for your signifcant other's parents and being sequacious and obsequious towards them.

from my experience, at times they'll push you towards or demand of you the obsequious and sequacious end of the spectrum.

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

Originally Posted by Fireblade

This is probably why I don't expect to get married at all in my life. I push away my parents from my life, but I know if they met ANYONE that I was interested in, they'd start to nitpick. And it's just unfair for any woman to go through that sort of pain.

Yeech.. darn traditional parents.

Argh, you just reminded me of the nitpicking when I brought my future wife home. After all the harassment to date Chinese, I finally bring home a Chinese girl and my mother started nitpicking on her the day after.

It's like if she is not Asian well that was enough of a criticism, but if she is Asian they all of a sudden find other things they can relate to and therefore nitpick like crazy.

You know what helped? She was probably embarrassed that her mother was nitpicking on me so she was OK that my my mother was nitpicking on her.

Fortunately, both mothers stopped the nagging quickly. I think the fathers pretty much assumed we were getting married and that was that with them.

[Emperor_Mike]

Originally Posted by Fireblade

Err... I don't care if she's asian or what-not. Sure I'd give regards to her parents, but ultimately if her parents, regardless of race, are overbearing, I'd hate to make her choose, so I'd just leave the relationship. I can't stress enough how much problems can arise if you do not get along with your significant other's parents. If they play a large role in their lives, say goodbye.

This is probably why I don't expect to get married at all in my life. I push away my parents from my life, but I know if they met ANYONE that I was interested in, they'd start to nitpick. And it's just unfair for any woman to go through that sort of pain.

Yeech.. darn traditional parents.

My friend's parents are very traditional people too. Her then-boyfriend (who is Spanish) was usually in knots whenever he had to do the dinner thing with the parental units. Eventually when they got married Mum and Dad lightened up a bit and my friend's husband is much more comfortable around his in-laws.

Moral of the story? Give it time. :happy:

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Ideally I would marry a Chinese girl...but that's only if I ever get married, which I don't plan on doing. But that might(probably) change 10 years from now.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

taiwanese parents are fucking insane trying to micromanage everyone's lives. especially when they've never met you but are being fed a bunch of bullshit misinformation by the self-absorbed older siblings of your girlfriend who and as a result are trying to convince her to break up with you.

[Icepak]

I've learned to be pretty firm with wife's parents and, in turn, earned their respect. My wife was pretty nervous about meeting my parents because I had been warning her about my parents for a while (all the stuff you guys are talking about regarding Asian parent stereotypes - those are my parents). But I figured my wife's great, friendly personality would win them over. And it did! She basically melted their hearts (awww).

[ChairmanMah]

Originally Posted by SunWuKong

now, those of you who know me would know that i'm one of the last guys to rant about interracial relationships, but here's something interesting i've recently heard.

so i thought i've heard of all the excuses/reasons for Asian people exclusively dating non-Asians, but here's a new one: they don't want to deal with the Asian parents of their significant others. i've recently heard this twice. one from a girl, and one from a guy. the guy is a slightly different case. he's Korean and he doesn't want a Korean girl, because he doesn't want to deal with Korean parents. he has no problems with dating non-Korean Asian girls. but the girl doesn't want to date Asian guys because she doesn't want to deal with the guys' Asian parents.

i really must raise a curious eyebrow at this excuse/reason. exactly how much time do they expect to be spending with their significant others' parents that they're going to exclude an entire race/ethnicity in their dating pool? or maybe their attitude is that everybody they date are possible marriage material?

anyway, i'm just not sure i buy this as a valid reason. it sounds more like an excuse that's easily justifiable. that guy i know, there's a lot about Korean culture that he doesn't like. he told me that i can assume the typical Korean people to be racist until proven otherwise. and the girl, i don't know her that well.

as i suspectd, some asian girls are even more racist against asians than any other race could ever be.

[shy]

Originally Posted by ChairmanMah

as i suspectd, some asian girls are even more racist against asians than any other race could ever be.

yeah. sure chairmanmah. you're right. said asian women are the most RACIST people against asians on this earth... even though they may not have any history of hate crimes such as the KKK or true neo-nazis.

my god... will the whining and bitter 'i told you so that i'm right' never cease to exist???

your view on the truth is warped. the truth is that there are extreme levels of racism from every race, w/in AND out.

[ChairmanMah]

Originally Posted by SunWuKong

it just almost seems to me like you think you're dating the person's parents when you use that as a reason to not date someone. i mean of course some parents can be very annoying, but do you ever refuse to date someone because s/he has annoying parents? i guess personally, i can't imagine myself thinking "she's a great girl, and she's attractive, but her parents are annoying as hell so i'm not going to ask her out." that just doesn't even remotely make sense to me.

that doesn't even have anything to do with whether or not the parents are Asian - we haven't even began discussing the generalisation of Asian parents. i guess i don't know about anybody else, but my parents are pretty cool and relaxed about the little things.

i mean, does it say something about what you think of Asian parents, or does it really say something about how you think of yourself, when you're Asian, and you don't want to deal with the Asian parents of a significant other?

well, when i was at my white ex-gf's house for christmas, i didn't feel that welcome. i dunno, maybe i shut myself out on my own but i don't feel like i belong.

With an asian girl, i can see that maybe she may worry about the expectations but in the end, who cares? Just avoid the parents at all cost.

i only see them 2-3 times a year max

[ChairmanMah]

Originally Posted by shy

yeah. sure chairmanmah. you're right. said asian women are the most RACIST people against asians on this earth... even though they may not have any history of hate crimes such as the KKK or true neo-nazis.

my god... will the whining and bitter 'i told you so that i'm right' never cease to exist???

your view on the truth is warped. the truth is that there are extreme levels of racism from every race, w/in AND out.

take frigin chill pill, it's not that serious. i just throw stuff out there all the time to start trouble. once you get used to me you'll just get used to it.

[shy]

Originally Posted by ChairmanMah

take frigin chill pill, it's not that serious. i just throw stuff out there all the time to start trouble. once you get used to me you'll just get used to it.

so you admit to liking to cause trouble? to the point where you get people to debate with you for pages upon pages?

real mature.

no. i don't think i need a chill pill. but you could take something for your maturity level.