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///The wedding was a lavish feast, the rings are replaced, "You may kiss the bride", guests cheered up, and actually should and wanted the two lovers "together old". You. Because more and more is about why today so many marriages fail and in Germany almost every second in the cities and a total of approximately every third is divorced. Some on the same day even, some after a couple of weeks, some after a few years and some even after three or four decades.

Formerly there was the "supply"marriage often, because women rarely, if ever, had learned a profession and had no own assets. The man was the "breadwinners" of the family and had the say. Since made the man what he wanted, the woman had to shut because otherwise, their physical and financial life was no longer secure. But since so many women in active professional life are and for themselves and for their children, even alone can ensure the child benefit flows, day mothers ready stand, Yes, because it has become easier to separate. Perhaps these couples would have to talk even to each other more!

And yet: there they still exist, the long marriages, the beautiful Silberhochzeiten, the gold times which are lovingly described and celebrated in daily newspapers. How do these couples only, that they remain together as long as, although an inviolability is also here not uncommon to quarrel, with spirited debates, even the dishes against the wall cracks? But with them pieces seem to like on the stag night, where also dishes breaking, because happiness is to bring good luck. A reminder of this day?

But how does this happiness for two, although it can also be set to a hard test? To do this, the writer and caricaturist Wilhelm Busch wrote: "Happiness often arises from attention in many small things, disaster often through neglect small things". You should think through again thoroughly. Is he right? Trust and familiarity among a good partnership, but also tolerance and openness, to link the other not too much, not to suppress. There are not only the macho, there is also the Macha. Attention, since it can be dangerous.

The French writer Henry de Montherlant thinks at all: "The marriage is a hell for common bedroom." In separate bedrooms, it is only a purgatory. "Without cohabitation she would perhaps paradise". Well, these tips are adult probably from personal experiences. If one snores, the other can not sleep. But that would be too easy. For a loving together hug can be also very nice and pleasant. Still, to lead the freedom apart from the spouse an own life with his own friends, to realize, with his own interests is important, even if the partner is not always like that. Tolerance is very important for a happy marriage. Everyone should keep its independence, then it is free also for <b>yellow bridesmaid dresses </b> the partner, the partner. Then also happiness can grow, since everyone must feel with the other in his own skin. Who must be addressed only after the other, since you can be sure that here somewhere something must go wrong.

Gold newlywed advise because like the press, why they as long as happy and satisfied with each other "old become are": everyone must live his life, take account to the other, also his wishes allow apply many things in common at the beginning of a marriage find and they realize, for example travel or work in the garden, and you should talk with each other a lot. Those who in divorce "we had my to say nothing to us," which can be regrets only. Since nobody has bothered is probably, to respond to the other. Since they're often cuter than to the partner, the partner friends and even foreign people. It may not be so. Because the Jubelpaare in the later years are mostly also with views, with small characters that only they understand and love. It is important: immediately at the beginning of a marriage, both partners need to know, that their common happiness not alone comes from somewhere, they must be the trouble give, to look happiness and finding. It is important: to love must be built every day, over years and years. Small and large problems must be given together. Discussions in everyday life are not to be forgotten, who tinker has left often. If you looking together forward in a marriage, if one laughs together, then the connection is fixed. Who is glad too often alone, who outside is above the other, which loosens it. Logical?

Come we to the essayist back, as here on the French Michel <b><a href="http://www.forherandforhim.com/blue-bridesmaid-dresses-c-3090.html">blue bridesmaid dresses</a></b> de Montaigne in his Essai 3.5: "A good marriage, if there is such, needs love not." They seeks out the friendship. "It's a sweet community full of stability, confidence and an infinite amount of more useful and durable services and mutual obligation". Well, it may not be as dry, love is certainly one of them to a good marriage, because eventually it was closed normally Yes out of love. Or? Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach is as comforting: "Each brave marital relationship ends with friendship".

Friedrich Nietzsche brings a major core set: "man will submit themselves when entering a marriage the question: do you believe into good to entertain you with this woman (this man) until age?" "Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time of transport belongs to the talks". Because he certainly not wrong has. Jubelpaare stress it again: "We have everything well planned and discussed, then we had also the fewest hassles". And divorce? "That is not our vocabulary!" Na please. Da Yes still hope for the many German yet couples. Basically, the question arises: is there a universal formula at all?
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