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TyTea36

08-06-2003, 10:53 PM

There's a dance at this one camp, today. My date, if i can call it that, brought a guy 'friend' with her. Everywhere we went, he was there. I'm so pathetic, she just ditched me at the dance, not with the guy, but with her group of friends. I was forced to hang out with my friends, who she disliked. I'm not sure if I'm a bad date, or what... i have no experience whatsoever. O well, she was too much for me anyways. I'm a loser. But damn she was fine. Seriously fine...

golden_buns

08-06-2003, 11:04 PM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (TyTea36 @ Aug 6 2003, 09:53 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> .... she was too much for me anyways. I'm a loser. [/b][/quote]
These are Two things you should never say to yourself

Don't be so hard on yourself. Learning how to date is like learning how to ride a bike; you'll fall hard many times, but you'll reach balance at some point

Good luck next time

Deadpool

08-06-2003, 11:06 PM

Don't call yourself a loser becuase you are not. Quit the self depreciation because you know its not true.
You are young and, statistically speaking, you are garuanteed more girls in the future, LoL.
Look at the bright side. you are single. Best thing to do is to move on and not think about it. She doesnt matter to you anymore so why spend any emotional energy on it.
Face it, she aint shit and theres million of other girl out there that are 10X better than her.
Keep your chin up stay confident. Look happy especially if you happen to be around her (Shows her that you are emotionallly strong, confident, and and that you are the shit) Trust me she'll wonder why you are so happy. It might even piss her off. (Like she meant little to you)
Also start hanging out with friends, don't brood about it think about other stuff. And more importantly, TALK TO OTHER GIRLS!!!! (Don't talk to them about your breakup or how sad you feel)
Hell talk to other girls if you see her around.
Act like a stud, feel like a stud.
If you don't feel like you are, fake it.

Emperor_Mike

08-07-2003, 12:05 AM

Yes, don't get too hung up on one girl and don't purposely lower your own self esteem. Works against you, you know. Besides, a single individual is definitely not worth moping over and it may not be the end. She left with a bunch of her friends and not with the guy, as you said. Who knows? She might call you later on or better yet, why don't you give her a ring?

mr. x

08-07-2003, 12:47 AM

one thing u gotta realize buddy is that girls like that, they're bound to get bored eventually, of ANYTHING really (not that your boring) its just their personality u know, so nothing u could do could have helped, it wasnt meant to be

moschikat

08-07-2003, 01:34 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (TyTea36 @ Aug 6 2003, 09:53 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> O well, she was too much for me anyways. I'm a loser. But damn she was fine. Seriously fine... [/b][/quote]
Sweetie, if that's you in your avatar, you're a little hottie.

And no, you're not a loser, you just need to find a girl that suits you more.

(yes you are a hottie . . . :lol: , but a little too young for me I think, plus i'm taken :P )

coagulated fat

08-07-2003, 01:45 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Deadpool @ Aug 6 2003, 10:06 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> Don't call yourself a loser becuase you are not. Quit the self depreciation because you know its not true.
You are young and, statistically speaking, you are garuanteed more girls in the future, LoL.
Look at the bright side. you are single. Best thing to do is to move on and not think about it. She doesnt matter to you anymore so why spend any emotional energy on it.
Face it, she aint shit and theres million of other girl out there that are 10X better than her.
Keep your chin up stay confident. Look happy especially if you happen to be around her (Shows her that you are emotionallly strong, confident, and and that you are the shit) Trust me she'll wonder why you are so happy. It might even piss her off. (Like she meant little to you)
Also start hanging out with friends, don't brood about it think about other stuff. And more importantly, TALK TO OTHER GIRLS!!!! (Don't talk to them about your breakup or how sad you feel)
Hell talk to other girls if you see her around.
Act like a stud, feel like a stud.
If you don't feel like you are, fake it. [/b][/quote]
dude, chill. It's not like they were together or anything, she was just his date.

But yeah aint no thang, it probably has more to do with her not wanting to hang out with your friends than having anything against you.

Deadpool

08-07-2003, 02:31 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (coagulated fat @ Aug 7 2003, 12:45 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
dude, chill. It's not like they were together or anything, she was just his date.
[/b][/quote]
Oh......I thought they were an item before......
Now I feel embarassed....*sniff*.......

teaz0r

08-07-2003, 02:52 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (TyTea36 @ Aug 7 2003, 12:53 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> But damn she was fine. Seriously fine... [/b][/quote]
so are you.

Fireblade

08-07-2003, 04:05 AM

I can understand why you feel burned... but trust me, in another day, you probably will forget it happened. The best to get over it? Go ask one of her friends out who probably won't care about your friends, and invite her to a dance. Or just hit on some random girl. :lol:

ChairmanMah

08-07-2003, 09:02 AM

go to that site

askmen.com

has good articles for guys about dating etc. :)

RasFarengi

08-07-2003, 09:20 AM

Bra:

My attitude with women has always been...It's all her fault...

:D

I mean sometimes you have to make women believe that you think it is your fault, but in reality...naw..it is all her fault.

If she wasn't feelin' you than that is her loss, she was stupid, and don't waste your time.

Like everyone else said don't beat yourself up. Women are like buses...they come ever 15 minutes, just have to know which to take. ;)

Also remember women are often not rational, especially not young women.. So don't try to overanalyze something like that.

537

08-07-2003, 09:27 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (RasFarengi @ Aug 7 2003, 08:20 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> Bra:

My attitude with women has always been...It's all her fault...

:D

I mean sometimes you have to make women believe that you think it is your fault, but in reality...naw..it is all her fault.

If she wasn't feelin' you than that is her loss, she was stupid, and don't waste your time.

Like everyone else said don't beat yourself up. Women are like buses...they come ever 15 minutes, just have to know which to take. ;)

Also remember women are often not rational, especially not young women.. So don't try to overanalyze something like that. [/b][/quote]
Huh? Especially not young women?

Are you trying to say 'Also remember women are often not rational, especially young women..'?

Sorry bro, sounds sexist and chauvenistic to me.

Anyhow, any girl to straight ditch you isn't worth your time. She's a damn chickenhead. It ain't nothing on you, so don't feel like you're a loser.

RasFarengi

08-07-2003, 09:29 AM

Sorry bro, sounds sexist and chauvenistic to me.

:o so it ain't so....

537

08-07-2003, 09:48 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (RasFarengi @ Aug 7 2003, 08:29 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> Sorry bro, sounds sexist and chauvenistic to me.

:o so it ain't so.... [/b][/quote]
At the risk of sounding sexist/chauvenistic myself, to a certain point I agree with you, Ras. A lot of young women are irrational. To take it further, I would even say very many young women are self-centered. The more attractive they are, the more self serving they get. Many very beautiful young ladies get by on their looks alone, manipulating young males wherever they go.

But on the other side of the coin you have quite a few average looking females that are very down to earth and rational. I won't even get into the ones that are hard to look at, but I trust you see where I'm going with this. Slap on those beer goggles and find yourself a down to earth girl! Besides, true beauty is inside.

RasFarengi

08-07-2003, 10:09 AM

The more attractive they are, the more self serving they get. Many very beautiful young ladies get by on their looks alone, manipulating young males wherever they go.

Yeah I think your right, but my theory on that is simple.

Hot women, know they have that going for them, and men will be around them and do stuff for them just because they are hot...they learn this from a young age and it perverts their mind...they grow up with "big heads.."

Plain or especially ugly chicks have to have good personalities, because if they don't they don't have anything going for them at all...who the hell would want to deal with them accept the very bottom of the ladder guys?

This is not always the case, but often...

Eros

08-07-2003, 10:40 AM

Yeah... woman, especially young women aren't that rational. Of course, guys, especially young guys, aren't most of the time either. *shrugs*

As for the girl ditching you, just forget about it. Bad things always happen when you date people but, as someone said, all it really is is practice. Anyway, if she would act like that to you at a dance she obviously isn't someone who would be good to date for a long time. You'll find someone better.

Chester

08-07-2003, 10:55 AM

</div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (537 @ Aug 7 2003, 08:48 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> At the risk of sounding sexist/chauvenistic myself, to a certain point I agree with you, Ras. A lot of young women are irrational. To take it further, I would even say very many young women are self-centered. The more attractive they are, the more self serving they get. Many very beautiful young ladies get by on their looks alone, manipulating young males wherever they go. [/b][/quote]
Yeah...a lot of young women are self-serving and manipulative.

So are a lot of young men -- regardless of their cosmetic grading.

Green_Circle

08-07-2003, 11:01 AM

Look in the mirror and repeat a hundred times; It's her loss. It's her loss. It's her loss. Then repeat as needed long into the night(s). Don't ever call her or try to date her again. The ones that dump you first always have the upper hand. You cannot get her back. Accept life without her. She was a drug that you got hooked on so you need to quit it.

Green_Circle

08-07-2003, 11:02 AM

thaite

08-07-2003, 12:39 PM

Don't sweat it, dude. Everybody has bad dates.

Uncle Tat

08-09-2003, 12:39 PM

You just need a deeper wallet.

Napoleon Chynamite

08-09-2003, 03:14 PM

Hopefully you weren't in love with her or nuthin'....if you really liked her a lot it makes things a bit more difficult and stressful, I know.

If she was just hot, then yeah, no biggie. Find another hot woman. There are plenty.

ChinaLama

08-09-2003, 09:14 PM

all i gotta say is, create an online persona, get her to fall in love w/ him, then set up a meeting w/ her and the online persona, then meet her in person, laugh in her face, and ditch her crying on her knees in the rain. you don't need a fine woman; all you need is the image of a fine woman, some accompanying audio and perhaps video, and a hand.