Weird parameters for dating

[coagulated fat]

Do you have any specific hard and fast rules for who is and is not dateable? I'm not talking about the "funny, intelligent, nice" kind of standards, but the more picky stuff, like what shoes they wear, what kinds of phrases they use, etc. I think this would be fun to hear about.

[Fireblade]

I refuse to be anyone's first boyfriend. I'm just weird like that.

[teaz0r]

i can't date anyone who doesn't have a fulltime job.

[Emperor_Mike]

I can't date anyone with short hair. It must be at least well past shoulder length, but not too long.

[Emperor_Mike]

Oh, yes. If she's Asian, she must be bilingual. If not, she can be monolingual, but must have the ability handle English very well and not resort to annoying slang all the time.

[ism]

Check out the previous related thread about "deal breakers." (http://forums.yellowworld.org/index.php?act=ST&f=38&t=1386&hl=deal,and,breakers)

no (tobacco) smokers, low FOB factor.

[pfc beansprout]

no smokin...that shit is terrible...


*well, i have made a girl quit smokin though after i dated her.... :)

[moschikat]

He/she must have nice hands. :P

[sOKaLiBoY]

she must either smoke or not care that i smoke. simple as that

[coagulated fat]

MUST watch -- and LOVE -- The Simpsons. I'm such a simpsons nerd. If they don't like it, I don't think we're compatible.

MUST NOT hate cats.

Nothing repels me more than non-Simpsonswatching cat haters. I shake my fist at them.

[Tao]

i hate cats

dogs are soooooo much better, like a billion percent better.


my criterion: must not smoke, love dogs, hate cats, respect and admire the genius that is george carlin.

[pfc beansprout]

straight teeth! sorry females, i know u 'jaws' doubles need love too, but nothin beats a good smile.... :D

[Faithless]

Originally posted by teaz0r@Jul 1 2003, 03:55 AM
i can't date anyone who doesn't have a fulltime job.
So, if they're rich and don't need to work -- that counts them out?

[bankuei]

The girl has to be able to open a push/pull door in two tries.

Chris

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by Emperor_Mike@Jul 1 2003, 12:17 PM
Oh, yes. If she's Asian, she must be bilingual. If not, she can be monolingual, but must have the ability handle English very well and not resort to annoying slang all the time.
agreed. Personally I'd prefer a bilingual girl raised in the US with English as her dominant language ... but hey, they're too damn hard to find.

Most people around me don't understand this one at all, and I always feel vaguely stupid articulating it as my reason for not wanting to go out with some girl. Not to mention the girl in question always gets amazingly offended if she found out this was my reason for not going out with her. It's like worse than telling her she's a fat ugly bitch. Maybe cuz at least if I did tell her she's a fat ugly bitch, she would feel more justified slapping me and telling all her friends I'm a complete asshole.

monolingual girls are perfectly good for random hookups, tho :lol:

[angel nympho]

The one you end up with is always an exception to your *rules*...

so i don't bother having any.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Jul 1 2003, 07:24 PM
The one you end up with is always an exception to your *rules*...

so i don't bother having any.
exactly

[mr. x]

Originally posted by Fireblade@Jul 1 2003, 03:09 AM
I refuse to be anyone's first boyfriend. I'm just weird like that.
uh why?

if i had a choice, id wanna be her first husband/boyfriend/sexual partner

[coagulated fat]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Jul 1 2003, 04:24 PM
The one you end up with is always an exception to your *rules*...

so i don't bother having any.
Actually I stick by my rules... err well rule #1 at least. I've gotten rid of boys because of it.

[teaz0r]

Originally posted by ChottoMatte@Jul 2 2003, 05:28 AM
So, if they're rich and don't need to work -- that counts them out?
yeah. can never be serious with them.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by coagulated fat@Jul 2 2003, 06:36 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Jul 1 2003, 04:24 PM
The one you end up with is always an exception to your *rules*...

so i don't bother having any.
Actually I stick by my rules... err well rule #1 at least. I've gotten rid of boys because of it.
Oh, well see I don't have very many to comb through. Beggars can't be choosers!!

[BeTheReds]

My only current standard right now is "Must not be Japanese looking to practice her English."

[Deadpool]

Originally posted by BeTheReds@Jul 1 2003, 11:55 PM
My only current standard right now is "Must not be Japanese looking to practice her English."
ROFL :lol:



Anyways. Girl must be have or currently attended college or some kind of post secondary education with success. Just shows me she has brains or a will to work.

[AngryABCGirl]

Guys who constantly chew gum. People who constantly chew gum in general annoy me. I don't know why but it just pisses me off. I must have had some horrible experience with gum as a child.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by AzNBuffGrL@Jul 2 2003, 06:02 AM
Guys who constantly chew gum. People who constantly chew gum in general annoy me. I don't know why but it just pisses me off. I must have had some horrible experience with gum as a child.
great, now I'll have to take up smoking again to get rid of the habit :P

[deez nuts]

she has to be breathing and anatomically correct.

[thaite]

She must have been born female.

[Chester]

Originally posted by thaite@Jul 2 2003, 02:00 PM
She must have been born female.
And no strap-ons!

A few random notes:
- Taste in books is a big, big thing with me. I'm not sure what's worth: a girl who doesn't really like to read at all or a girl who does read for fun, but reads books I turn my snobby nose up at. What I do know is that, when I talk about favorite books/authors and I respect her taste, there are big points there. And if there's strong commonality...I get kind of weak in the knees.

- Kind of in the same vein, poor e-mail writers lose major points. I've grown progressively less anal over the years, but overuse of abbreviations and cutesyisms earn demerits. So does a reliance on triple-exclamations ("!!!") as if Everything!!! Is!!! So!!! Exciting!!! Heheheheheh!!! The flip side is that literate, witty e-mail induces that weak-kneed reflex. If a girl is a really good conversationalist but isn't so great in text, I consider it a real shame, but it's not a deal-breaker.

- What is perhaps a deal-breaker is picky eating. I despise the trait of picky eating. This can be manifested in various ways:
1. Girls who are on a perpetual diet and can never eat anything fun...the type who won't order fries but who will pick out a few fries from your dish and press them with a napkin. Or the type who is always ordering a plain, grilled fish and/or plain skinless chicken breast. If you can't order anything that I would want to share, your rating's going to take a dive.
2. Girls who have an overabundance of ingredient aversions. I can deal with a cilantro-phobe, but I look down on it. And if there are a slew of meal-killers for you, then that's a deal-killer for me.
3. Girls who are unadventurous eaters. Willingness to try new stuff in the dining room is something I see as a good barometer for willingness to try new stuff throughout one's life. That goes for wink-wink-nudge-nudge stuff as well as more mundane things.

All this applies to friends as well, but if I'm going to share my life with someone, I'm also sharing my plate. So I love girls who know their way around a kitchen/market/menu/wine list and have an open mind about it all.

- I much prefer women who have travelled widely. Not everyone gets the opportunity to do a lot of travelling, so I'm not going to hold it against someone if they don't have a cornucopia of stamps in their passport. But, at least the instinct and desire needs to be there. And the instinct/desire to mainly go to tropical resorts and/or go on cruises doesn't really count.

I've learned that I need to keep all this negotiable -- it's not like I'm an immensely great catch myself. But, so long as we're talking about ideal traits, those are some of my somewhat-quirky personal criteria.

[Uncle Tat]

No ugly girls!

[coagulated fat]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Jul 1 2003, 11:24 PM
Originally posted by coagulated fat@Jul 2 2003, 06:36 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Jul 1 2003, 04:24 PM
The one you end up with is always an exception to your *rules*...

so i don't bother having any.
Actually I stick by my rules... err well rule #1 at least. I've gotten rid of boys because of it.
Oh, well see I don't have very many to comb through. Beggars can't be choosers!!
Heh, me neither... but I am a beggar and a chooser. The result of this strategy is 19 years of singleness.

It's not a very good strategy. :P

[mr. x]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Jul 2 2003, 03:39 PM
No ugly girls!
hey, the female pennetentiary's got plenty of non-ugly women....

[Emperor_Mike]

Originally posted by mr. x@Jul 3 2003, 05:02 PM
hey, the female pennetentiary's got plenty of non-ugly women....
...who murdered their husbands!

Or not. I'm making vague assumptions here.

[blue hoodie]

THeir fave movie cannot be "Black Hawk Down"

One girl said that was her fave movie cuz she felt like she could relate to it.

:blink:

[blue hoodie]

Originally posted by coagulated fat@Jul 1 2003, 12:55 PM
MUST watch -- and LOVE -- The Simpsons. I'm such a simpsons nerd. If they don't like it, I don't think we're compatible.

MUST NOT hate cats.

Nothing repels me more than non-Simpsonswatching cat haters. I shake my fist at them.
Shake your fist harder goddamn it!

*shakes fist*

[mrazntre]

she must accept that my car comes first.

[Deadpool]

Originally posted by blue hoodie@Jul 5 2003, 02:15 AM
THeir fave movie cannot be "Black Hawk Down"

One girl said that was her fave movie cuz she felt like she could relate to it.

:blink:
AHAHAHHAHAAAa.........is she Somali? Was she ever a Ranger or ever a member of Delta Force? Maybe her village got raided once.

[blue hoodie]

Originally posted by Deadpool@Jul 5 2003, 03:23 PM
Originally posted by blue hoodie@Jul 5 2003, 02:15 AM
THeir fave movie cannot be "Black Hawk Down"

One girl said that was her fave movie cuz she felt like she could relate to it.

:blink:
AHAHAHHAHAAAa.........is she Somali? Was she ever a Ranger or ever a member of Delta Force? Maybe her village got raided once.
nope, none of those.

[tommyhtown]

I can't date someone who dresses badly.

[applehead]

i can't stand food snobs.
or music or book snobs.
or movie snobs...

he must...

[deez nuts]

the chick must not have "crazy eyes."

hard to explain. but, i'll know it when i see it.

[Emperor_Mike]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Jul 7 2003, 10:42 AM
the chick must not have "crazy eyes."

hard to explain.  but, i'll know it when i see it.
Crazy eyes? Like, you know, Hannibal Lecter I'm-Gonna-Cut-You-Up-and-Eat-Your-Liver type?

Yeah, I try not to get involved with women who want to kill me. Live and learn.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Jul 7 2003, 01:42 PM
the chick must not have "crazy eyes."

hard to explain. but, i'll know it when i see it.
Oh yeah, them crazy eyes. How can you sleep at night knowing crazy eyes might be staring at you?

[Faithless]

Did anyone mention social views of their dates?

Like dating a bigot whose really cute or something? I know I couldn't stand that sort of thing past a first date.

[Chrysalis]

No smokers
No fobs
No guys who do not believe in personal hygiene
Nobody who can't speak english well
Close minded people
No virgins
No mummy's boys
No wife seekers

My bare minimum....

Good personal hygiene.
Must be educated (uni graduate or in uni).
Must have common decency and manners.
Must not be stingy, frugal is fine though.
Great sense of humor.
Must like sex.

[nonamerasian]

Must be able to laugh at himself.

[hooligan]

big hands.

[missmeow]

I have like mouth related pet peeves so:

No yucky teeth
No chewing with the mouth open
No chewing loud
No snapping gum
No slurping

Basically, bad table manners really get to me. I also do not for guys who excessively touch/adjust their goodies, spit, or snort their snot. Maybe I just like manners.

Like Chester, a picky, boring ass eater is not winning any points for me.

[truMp]

If the girl likes me, theyre usually fine.

cept for the freaks.

Never really had rules cause I'm not as P.I.M.P. as some of these YW members are, but if I had to:

No Bigots
No Hoes

thanks.

[TB4000]

Has to have attractive eyes, none of that Igor one eye staring off into the beyond and the other one rolling around its socket type of stuff.

[DragonKnight]

Nice feet.

[hooligan]

hairy pits and legs.

[PropellerheadCP]

She must be able to at least tolerate the fact that I enjoy watching Spongebob Squarepants. IF she can watch it with me, then we're already halfway towards marriage.

[so_fee_ahh]

I like me someone with nice skate shoes and a good tan. I don't like stingy guys or anal guys ("DON'T touch that in my car! You can't even breathe in my car, this is MY CAR! Goddamnit, did you hear me? I said, don't even fart in my car!") Someone who likes to work it in the buffet with me. I like a guy who's so fucking attractive and intelligent (up to date on current events/politics) but is oblivious to it all when it comes to how awesome he is...*ahhhhh*

HELL NO to the smokers! Not down with guys with dirty, untrimmed fingernails and stanky ass feet...I refuse to date any guy I've ever seen in sandals (don't know what it is with me and hating on sandals...especially if it's socks with sandals *cringe*)

[FrankieY18]

someone shorter than me

[Fireblade]

I refuse to date any guy I've ever seen in sandals (don't know what it is with me and hating on sandals...especially if it's socks with sandals *cringe*)

But it's all the rage in hot weather. Especially in California. :rolleyes:

[applehead]

But it's all the rage in hot weather. Especially in California. :rolleyes:


yeah wearing all those closed up shoes
in that hot weather might be why they're
getting stanky feet.
:biggrin: :biggrin:

[so_fee_ahh]

But it's all the rage in hot weather. Especially in California. :rolleyes:

Why not go with flip-flops instead? No, I understand if it were in some part of the country where it's hot weather...but over here on the East Coast...noo. For example, I have this one guy in my GOVT 132 class who comes in late every day wearing these hideous sandals with his gross toenails (not cut, they're long and jagged-*gag*) just hanging out by the side. These sandals, mind you, are obviously a size or more too small for him. That's what I mean when I say I'm not down with sandals...

Plus, he comes in late every morning so I'm forced to look at them as he walks by me to get a seat behind. :frown: (His dirrty toenails are like a bad traffic accident...you don't wanna stare but you can't help it. It's just there.)

[SunWuKong]

I refuse to date any guy I've ever seen in sandals (don't know what it is with me and hating on sandals...especially if it's socks with sandals *cringe*)

i'm the same with birkenstocks. i took this girl out once and she was wearing birkenstocks, and i just kept staring at them and her feet. i never saw her again after that. i can't stand it when girls (or guys) wear birkenstocks.

I like a guy who's so fucking attractive and intelligent (up to date on current events/politics) but is oblivious to it all when it comes to how awesome he is...*ahhhhh*

you have no idea how easy it is for a guy to pretend to be humble to get a girl, do you?

[sdcheung]

Yeah..
Got to love Cats.
all others things i can probably put up with, but, you can't tell me to get rid of my cat.

[DragonKnight]

Plus, he comes in late every morning so I'm forced to look at them as he walks by me to get a seat behind. :frown: (His dirrty toenails are like a bad traffic accident...you don't wanna stare but you can't help it. It's just there.) Thus my own thing with girls and nice feet. Granted I try my best to keep mine looking halfway decent. :tongue:

[asvenus]

I have like mouth related pet peeves so:

No yucky teeth
No chewing with the mouth open
No chewing loud
No snapping gum
No slurping

Basically, bad table manners really get to me. I also do not for guys who excessively touch/adjust their goodies, spit, or snort their snot. Maybe I just like manners.

Like Chester, a picky, boring ass eater is not winning any points for me.

hell yes...im serious i could be totally in lurve with a guy and then if he eats something annoyingly or displays vulgar habits, my feelings turn off quicker than i dont know what...i think its how we were raised...i have wierd things like certain films and/or books that i adore...i will sometimes test the guy out to see what he thinks and if hes not feeling them then i know its a no-no...

[Fireblade]

Why not go with flip-flops instead? No, I understand if it were in some part of the country where it's hot weather...but over here on the East Coast...noo. For example, I have this one guy in my GOVT 132 class who comes in late every day wearing these hideous sandals with his gross toenails (not cut, they're long and jagged-*gag*) just hanging out by the side. These sandals, mind you, are obviously a size or more too small for him. That's what I mean when I say I'm not down with sandals...

Plus, he comes in late every morning so I'm forced to look at them as he walks by me to get a seat behind. :frown: (His dirrty toenails are like a bad traffic accident...you don't wanna stare but you can't help it. It's just there.)

Oh. Yea... people in Cali wear more Flip-Flops than sandals. But gross toenails are a big no. Foot fungus is not sexy.

[John0101]

I like me someone with nice skate shoes and a good tan. I don't like stingy guys or anal guys ("DON'T touch that in my car! You can't even breathe in my car, this is MY CAR! Goddamnit, did you hear me? I said, don't even fart in my car!") Someone who likes to work it in the buffet with me. I like a guy who's so fucking attractive and intelligent (up to date on current events/politics) but is oblivious to it all when it comes to how awesome he is...*ahhhhh*

HELL NO to the smokers! Not down with guys with dirty, untrimmed fingernails and stanky ass feet...I refuse to date any guy I've ever seen in sandals (don't know what it is with me and hating on sandals...especially if it's socks with sandals *cringe*)

yeah, nasty feet is definally a turn off. Actually I don't like feet period.

I do judge people by their political views also, she has to be progressive, but not too progressive (aka lets go bomb the WTO and try to install a socialist government). If she's a liberal and/or a liberterian its fine also.

[artsfartsyjanet]

the guy should not snore loud... I don't care about occassional snores that are soft, but the kind that wakes others up is the worst for me. Bad breath is not a good thing either. The guy has to know how to strike a conversation..... i know guys who are mute to me, and it's annoying because i feel like i have to pull teeth from them just to get them to utter something.

[PropellerheadCP]

the guy should not snore loud... I don't care about occassional snores that are soft, but the kind that wakes others up is the worst for me. Bad breath is not a good thing either. The guy has to know how to strike a conversation..... i know guys who are mute to me, and it's annoying because i feel like i have to pull teeth from them just to get them to utter something.

I don't think those are "weird" parameters at all, actually. Non-conversational friendly people are terrible in relationships, because they don't know how to communicate. That's the #1 killer of any relationship.
Snoring loudly and bad breathe are pretty common "no-no's" for a lot of people, in general. Men or women.

[TB4000]

Oh my lord yes...the feet are a definite. I've noticed that a lot of very attractive women have hideous feet...go figure.

[artsfartsyjanet]

I don't think those are "weird" parameters at all, actually. Non-conversational friendly people are terrible in relationships, because they don't know how to communicate. That's the #1 killer of any relationship.
Snoring loudly and bad breathe are pretty common "no-no's" for a lot of people, in general. Men or women.

i didn't they were weird either when i typed it. i wasn't really thinking about the topic. sawweee.... *shrug*just rambled about what i don't like in a guy. :smile:

so pertaining to the topic.... to your heart's content...

wierd...hmm...

still thinking....

I won't be with a guy who watches porn around me or goes to strip clubs during our relationship. =) I think that wipes out most of the male population. =) Some how, i'm ok with that.

[sageb1]

I have quite a few qualifications: must not be afraid of me or loathe me.

Also must be able to charm my mother by having a sad childhood: my mom has compassion for a hard life but not for reprobates.

[yulee]

I used to have a height/weight requirement for guys: at least 6' tall and weigh in at 200 lbs.

Now I'll settle for a guy who doesn't chew with his mouth open!