Do you think your girlfriend expects too much?

[mizkisses]

my friend is always depressed because her boyfriend gets upset with her because he thinks she's way too overprotective and demanding and expects way too much from him.

but from my point of view, i think most girlfriends are like that (because we care, damnit, we CARE!!!). like, she gets upset because he has pictures of other girls in his wallet and there's one girl that gets a special pocket and that one girl ain't his girlfriend. hmmm!? and she got upset because he said he couldn't hang out with her on halloween because of basketball practice but it was canceled and he went to some other girl's house instead of his girlfriend's.

do girls expect too much from you? are we too demanding sometimes? or is it just my friend who's like one super possessive girlfriend? :rolleyes:

[AznYam]

sounds like he doesn't like her.

[mizkisses]

Originally posted by AznYam@Jan 24 2003, 05:10 PM
sounds like he doesn't like her.
LOL that would suck. but i've asked her to dump him so many times.

she doesn't want to.

apparently, he writes her a lot of poems and visits her a lot. some "romantic" crap like that.

honestly though, she gets really upset when he doesn't call or when he's hanging out with other girls instead of her. does that bug guys?

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 25 2003, 01:12 AM
honestly though, she gets really upset when he doesn't call or when he's hanging out with other girls instead of her. does that bug guys?
jesus christ on a pogo stick, yes!

[Adaon]

Originally posted by himura-dono@Jan 24 2003, 05:38 PM
jesus christ on a pogo stick, yes!
-blinks- Man, those Jesus Christ comments bug me.....sorry, just my two cents.....

Yeah tho....look, because a guy has feelings for a girl, and treats her totally different from the rest of his female friends, certainly does NOT entitle her to think that he is gonna drop his female friends.....I mean if he's out with them all the time sure, but it sounds like he does spend time with her.....I mean PLEASE....you're in a RELATIONSHIP with someone.....you're not ATTACHED at the HIP (well soemtime syou can be, but that's none of my business).....I mean people have separate lives for a reason...I mean he had a life before her, and she had one before him...I'm not sure why some people all of a sudden think they're existence is in jeopardy when someone they supposedly trust and care about takes some time to themselves....

[moschikat]

:unsure:

hmm, interestingly enough -i've only had my ex's complain that i don't show enough affection . . . . that i'm the one who doesn't call, or i'm the one out with my friends, keeping other boys pictures in my photo albums . . . .

*sigh*

what's a girl gonna do!? :lol:

maybe your friend really likes this boy? i mean, why would she be so worried and posessive if she didn't care?

with that being said, no wonder why i'm still single :P

[Saiko]

I'm really lenient with my boyfriends. They can hang with girls all they want, and I wouldn't care. I mean, sometimes I do get upset at things. Who doesn't? But if they aren't anything big, I just keep it inside. If it's something I want him to know about and change, then I just mention it to him casually but I don't nag (really, nagging doesn't do any good; it just annoys people). If it's big, I talk it through. No point in getting angry unless they really piss you off deliberately. Plus, my rule is that my boyfriends can do light flirting with other girls(much preferably not in front of me though) but they cannot act upon their fantasies. It's normal to flirt and fantasize. But it doesn't mean you can be stupid and do what your dick tells you to.
Besides, if chicks expect guys to let them hang out with their guy friends, why not give the guy the same privelage with his female friends? I hate that excuse where it's like, "Oh, but girls aren't horny bastards. Guys are so horny and they can't control themselves. Blah blah." Yeah, okay. Tasty bullshit you've got there. I know more chicks that have or are willing to cheat than guys.

[ism]

Hrmm, has he explained his relationships with these other girls? I mean, something as minimum as "just a friend" would be sufficient.

[AznYam]

is he one of those guys that hangs out with only girls? if no, then she should dump him b/c sounds like he's cheating or something fishy. if yes, then should dump him b/c that's kinda weird.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by AznYam@Jan 24 2003, 09:45 PM
if yes, then should dump him b/c that's kinda weird.
nah, sounds like you're jealous...nothing wrong with a lotta female friends....

[mizkisses]

the thing is...they always get into stupid arguments.

he started ignoring her because she wouldn't tell him why she was upset. they were out together and he was playing video games (arcade) and she asked him to take her home and he didn't say anything to her.

sometimes i think he's just a big meanie.

but anyway, she still thinks she's expecting too much from him and she keeps saying how she doesn't think she's good enough for him (when honestly i think she's too good for him) and how she should stop being so demanding.

but then again, her boyfriend has a tennis picture of a girl that used to like him in his wallet in a special pocket because ...have you guys seen tennis poses? all on the ground, one leg out, short short tennis skirt. and this girl is a hottie!

personally, i expect too much from guys. which might explain why i'm lonely and single and unloved...

[himura-dono]

crap....you can't edit after a while? holy fooz. i usually use jeebus yoon instead of JC. sorry adaon.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by himura-dono@Jan 25 2003, 02:38 PM
crap....you can't edit after a while? holy fooz. i usually use jeebus yoon instead of JC. sorry adaon.
all good, thanks man ;)

[Hanuman]

Girls are crazy, always making things so complicated. If he's pissing you off, leave, if you're happy stay. So much easier for guys.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by Tawee@Jan 25 2003, 03:48 PM
If he's pissing you off, leave, if you're happy stay. So much easier for guys.
:huh: :o :blink: clearify that last statement? That sounded a lil off......

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 25 2003, 06:54 PM
:huh: :o :blink: clearify that last statement? That sounded a lil off......
Just saying, guys don't seem to make as big an issue as girls do. We just say what's on our mind, so if something is pissing us off, we'll let em know. If it's something that's not changing, we'll go elsewhere.

[angel nympho]

I don't have that difficult to meet expectations. I expect a guy to keep whatever promises he makes (why else would you make them?!?), call when he's running late, and recognize the fact that his girlfriend (me!) is a fucking angel. *Grin*

[Adaon]

Originally posted by Tawee@Jan 25 2003, 04:04 PM
Just saying, guys don't seem to make as big an issue as girls do. We just say what's on our mind, so if something is pissing us off, we'll let em know. If it's something that's not changing, we'll go elsewhere.
k, my bad, my poor reading skills misread something in there....:)

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Jan 25 2003, 07:04 PM
I don't have that difficult to meet expectations.  I expect a guy to keep whatever promises he makes (why else would you make them?!?), call when he's running late, and recognize the fact that his girlfriend (me!) is a fucking angel.  *Grin*
Ah see, this isn't always true. You are an angel, but you're an diamond in the ruff, not many like you out there!
*cheesy grin right back*

[mizkisses]

my friend's boyfriend is so immature though. why ignore your girlfriend just because she won't tell you why she's upset? doesn't that just make her MORE upset?!

[sandra]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 25 2003, 05:13 PM
my friend's boyfriend is so immature though. why ignore your girlfriend just because she won't tell you why she's upset? doesn't that just make her MORE upset?!
tough love?

you can't always baby babies.

but, in your friend's case - as you have described - i can't really say that she was being a baby...

[mizkisses]

maybe i just don't like him because he's very arrogant.

you know, he once said, "there's probably a hate club at my school since i reject so many girls.."

bleh.

but yah, sometimes i feel like she's getting way too upset over this stupid boy and that she should just dump him.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 25 2003, 05:18 PM
maybe i just don't like him because he's very arrogant.

you know, he once said, "there's probably a hate club at my school since i reject so many girls.."

bleh.

but yah, sometimes i feel like she's getting way too upset over this stupid boy and that she should just dump him.
how'd she meet the guy anyways?

[mizkisses]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 25 2003, 09:35 PM
Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 25 2003, 05:18 PM
maybe i just don't like him because he's very arrogant.

you know, he once said, "there's probably a hate club at my school since i reject so many girls.."

bleh.

but yah, sometimes i feel like she's getting way too upset over this stupid boy and that she should just dump him.
how'd she meet the guy anyways?
hahaha here's the funny part...

her boyfriend is friends with my ex and when i went to the movies with him (while i was still going out with him) he brought along my friend's boyfriend and i brought along my friend and so they met because of me.

[Adaon]

oh great....one of THOSE meeting stories....-chuckles- those get complicated....

[Fireblade]

Well I've heard both sides of coin before, and my guess is just to leave them alone with their bickering. There's always some sort of information that's left out or skewed. Personally I think both guys and chicks are demanding. Guys demand time left alone. Girls demand time being alone together. *shrug* But both sexes can be equally jealous, but as long as each other understands the needs of the other, and meet halfway to each problem, it'll work out. When one doesn't want to give the other, then you got problems.

So girls, leave ya guy alone if he needs it. Guys, give your girl some time if she needs it.

Oh yea, and the whole too many girls/guys friends is just B.S. Just say you're damn jealous, and be done with it. If I met them before you, why should it matter if they are just friends? Sheesh.

;)

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Tawee@Jan 26 2003, 12:14 AM
Ah see, this isn't always true. You are an angel, but you're an diamond in the ruff, not many like you out there!
*cheesy grin right back*
*Dreamy sigh* I am an angel, aren't I...? ...If I wasn't me, I'd totally do me.

[Aznsixian]

or perhaps she's really one of those girls that goes out and finds guys that they can "fix" so to say... change them and wrap them around their little fingers despite his facial expression that says " i'd rather drop dead then have that happen to me... but you're kind of cute, maybe i'll do the same to you". a struggle between two stubborn and what sounds like oddly matched (personalitywise) people.

[Mr T]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 25 2003, 01:04 AM
do girls expect too much from you? are we too demanding sometimes? or is it just my friend who's like one super possessive girlfriend? :rolleyes:
Nah - A ho should never be possessive

[amietron]

Sometimes I wonder if I'm mean to my boyfriend. I write him cards and I pay half of the time we go out, but I really wonder about when we're on the phone and stuff. I think sometimes I say mean things. Other times, if he does things that annoy me, I get hissy fitty and just pull "fine, then. Bye." things. Am I expecting too much of him? Er something? :unsure:

[applehead]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 24 2003, 05:04 PM
my friend is always depressed because her boyfriend gets upset with her because he thinks she's way too overprotective and demanding and expects way too much from him.

but from my point of view, i think most girlfriends are like that (because we care, damnit, we CARE!!!). like, she gets upset because he has pictures of other girls in his wallet and there's one girl that gets a special pocket and that one girl ain't his girlfriend. hmmm!? and she got upset because he said he couldn't hang out with her on halloween because of basketball practice but it was canceled and he went to some other girl's house instead of his girlfriend's.

do girls expect too much from you? are we too demanding sometimes? or is it just my friend who's like one super possessive girlfriend? :rolleyes:
your friend seems immature and insecure.
and your friend's boyfriend doesn't even seem like he likes her.

tell her to dump the loser!

[Adaon]

Originally posted by amietron@Jan 28 2003, 12:36 PM
Sometimes I wonder if I'm mean to my boyfriend. I write him cards and I pay half of the time we go out, but I really wonder about when we're on the phone and stuff. I think sometimes I say mean things. Other times, if he does things that annoy me, I get hissy fitty and just pull "fine, then. Bye." things. Am I expecting too much of him? Er something? :unsure:
:blink: :huh: :nerd:

[Fireblade]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 28 2003, 02:31 PM
:blink: :huh: :nerd:
ami. in all honesty. Yes. you do expect too much from him. :nerd:

[amietron]

Originally posted by Fireblade@Jan 30 2003, 02:51 AM
ami. in all honesty. Yes. you do expect too much from him. :nerd:
how am i supposed to know where to draw the line?

[Adaon]

Originally posted by amietron@Jan 30 2003, 11:26 AM
how am i supposed to know where to draw the line?
You could ask. -blinks at nick-

[mizkisses]

don't mind the boys, amy. nick wuvs you and that's all that matters. BOOYAAAHHH boys suck.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 30 2003, 06:39 PM
don't mind the boys, amy. nick wuvs you and that's all that matters. BOOYAAAHHH boys suck.
but but but, she asked a legit question and and and.....oh bother.....girls of any age are too much of a bother....I wish my 4 yr old niece would stay 4 yr old so she can stay sweet and cute and unconfusing than all her older female counter parts......she gets my attention by tell me what she wants.....it's gonna make me sad when she gets old enough to notice boys and starts to confuse them...... :cry:

[mizkisses]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 30 2003, 08:11 PM
but but but, she asked a legit question and and and.....oh bother.....girls of any age are too much of a bother....I wish my 4 yr old niece would stay 4 yr old so she can stay sweet and cute and unconfusing than all her older female counter parts......she gets my attention by tell me what she wants.....it's gonna make me sad when she gets old enough to notice boys and starts to confuse them...... :cry:
hey hey hey, BOYS are confusing as well!

girls are actually LESS confusing than boys because we like to express ourselves when we're unhappy. boys...grrr aiohsdikascbuasgyrkausygckajdhkasdj

hmph. :pissed:

[Adaon]

Originally posted by mizkisses@Jan 30 2003, 09:30 PM
hey hey hey, BOYS are confusing as well!

girls are actually LESS confusing than boys because we like to express ourselves when we're unhappy. boys...grrr aiohsdikascbuasgyrkausygckajdhkasdj

hmph. :pissed:
Hey Pegs, since you girls communicate so well, mind translating this for me please? "aiohsdikascbuasgyrkausygckajdhkasdj" What's that mean?

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by amietron@Jan 30 2003, 07:26 PM
how am i supposed to know where to draw the line?
Figure out what HIS limits are. Figure out what you're capable of living without.

[Azn Retribution]

girls communicate what they want
but they don't really know what they want
they change their minds every minute.

So I conclude

Confusing Girls > Confusing Guys

[amietron]

maybe he should lay it down straight up, like i lay things down for him. hmmmph. <_<

seriously, i'm like this -> :confused:

[Commando_turned_MD]

Females are demanding in nature.........
When they become too demanding, just dump them.........problem solve :lol:
They best know their role........after all this is a male dominant society. :lol:

[Fireblade]

Girls and Boys are not hard to figure out. But they can if they WANT to be. Seriously, it's how they present the information. Guys can be demanding. Girls can be demanding. Almost everything we say can be taken out of context. And sometimes information can be changed due to forgetful minds who patch in blank areas.

In other words... :confused:

[achtungbaby]

Persistently unsatisfied girlfriends or boyfriends should be forced to move in with their persistently unsatisfied mothers.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Girls and guys are the same, and they want the same thing. They want to be appreciated, loved, seen as significant, and they want to fuck often. The difference is that society tells guys and girls that they have to act and take on different facades in order to achieve what they want. Girls and guys grow up conditioned to dress, talk, and exhibit certain features, emotions, and aura in order to achieve the ideal life and co-existence with a partner that makes them feel like they are the shit.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by achtungbaby@Feb 5 2003, 11:55 AM
Persistently unsatisfied girlfriends or boyfriends should be forced to move in with their persistently unsatisfied mothers.
or move in with sibs who won't spoil them at all and totally rip on them to get back into the real world.... <_<