The big break up

[BeTheReds]

This must be the first time that I have ever broken up with someone and felt utterly devastated afterwards. We were planning to get married, but I don't know my career situation very well, and we have religious differences, and we were keeping it a secret from our parents for the whole time. As soon as she got brave and decided to tell them, the wheels went in motion and I cut it off, so that we can both avoid the grief. But the grief has encompassed us both.

I truly did love her.

I think I am gonna take a break from women for a while.

Wah wah wah I want your pity.. yeah i know some of you are gonna bitch like that about what i said..

So anyway, lets hear some advice...

[Hanuman]

Sorry to hear that man. Best way to get over a girl is to get into a girl. It's crappy but true, rebounds work.

[BeTheReds]

Rebounds don't eliminate the pain.. they only temporarily hold it off for a while.

[wylin]

anyone ever notice be the reds looks like screetch from Saved by the bell? are u screetch?

[mrazntre]

if you have enough rebounds, time will displace your pain.

[BeTheReds]

Originally posted by wylin@Jan 17 2003, 04:14 AM
anyone ever notice be the reds looks like screetch from Saved by the bell? are u screetch?
Screech? Man if I was screech I'd have loot and I would just marry her like I wanted to.

[AznYam]

that sucks. sorry man.

he does look like screech.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

i think it's just in that pic tho.

all I gotta say is ... single life is the way to go. get back into it. go out with the boys, drink, and do stupid shit.

[teaz0r]

when my fiance and i broke up.
i took a lot of tranquilizers.
i had countless rebound flings.

it's been a year n' a half?
my heart still shakes a bit thinking of him.

i hope you find a better way coping with your heartache than i did.
and if you do. let me know.

just take care.

[applehead]

oh. no.
i'm sorry to hear this eugene.

i always thought you get one true love during a lifetime.
the kind that changes who you are. forever.
but i think i'm wrong... i think you can have..serveral. ;)
or maybe a couple.

i think the worst break ups are the kind... where, outside
influences are the ones causing it.
when you don't want it to end but it's the best thing to do.

i say take a vacation. get out of the country.
that worked for me.
and um.. a shrink. if it's bad.
or just tell your story to anyone and everyone who'll listen.
and to..let yourself wallow in the sadness and pain.
it's more painful to try to fight it.

[wylin]

i say make saved by the bell 3 the lost years! maybe u can score w/ sum new girls.

[AznYam]

you'll find ur lisa in no time!

is it lisa? i don't remember.

[artsfartsyjanet]

sorry to hear about your situation. Well, I was going to marry a guy til he cheated on me with another woman and had a baby with her. messed up i know. anyway, we were together for four years. So, yes, it was devastating for a week or so, but i knew life goes on.

All I have to say is that it takes time. Try to engage in things you like to do, and find people to see to make for the "gaps" when you used to see her. Of course, it's a process you'll need to pass... and a painful process it is, but remember, when one door closes..another one opens.

[SunWuKong]

get drunk
get laid
get high

[applehead]

you men are giving some fuuuuuuucked up advice.
shut up.
all of you.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 12:50 PM
you men are giving some fuuuuuuucked up advice.
shut up.
all of you.
I didn't say shit. Don't yell at me! :(

[applehead]

:lol: :lol:

[teaz0r]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Jan 18 2003, 12:29 AM
sorry to hear about your situation. Well, I was going to marry a guy til he cheated on me with another woman and had a baby with her. messed up i know. anyway, we were together for four years. So, yes, it was devastating for a week or so, but i knew life goes on.


damn. when my fiance and i broke up.
it took me like 349857239058 days
before i could actually function properly again.

you are one strong cookie.
i like that.

[applehead]

i think it helped that he was a complete and royal ASS.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Jan 17 2003, 09:52 AM
Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 12:50 PM
you men are giving some fuuuuuuucked up advice.
shut up.
all of you.
I didn't say shit. Don't yell at me! :(
:blink: :unsure: :( :nerd: :frown: :cry: :cry:

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 12:50 PM
you men are giving some fuuuuuuucked up advice.
shut up.
all of you.
oh... ok well he doesn't have to do those three things in the order i mentioned. for example, instead of:

get drunk
get laid
get high


he can:

get high
get laid
get drunk


or:

get laid
get drunk
get high


but personally i like doing it in the order i first mentioned.

[sandra]

what is sadness? in neurobiological terms?

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 03:15 PM
what is sadness? in neurobiological terms?
:confused:

[SunWuKong]

oh yeah
i also like hours of mindless tv
makes you comfortably numb
i like being comfortably numb when i feel like shit

[applehead]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 17 2003, 12:24 PM
oh yeah
i also like hours of mindless tv
makes you comfortably numb
i like being comfortably numb when i feel like shit
i like hours of mindless tv, regardless.
kekeke

[deez nuts]

Post break up sex is the best part!

There I said something....you can yell at me now, Apple.

Seriously. You're young. You'll love again. And not to sound callous, but if you break it down it's just a girl, plenty more out there.

From the time between now till when you're ready to get serious again....bang as many of them gee jee baes as you can!

Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Bundy!

[Adaon]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 12:35 PM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 17 2003, 12:24 PM
oh yeah
i also like hours of mindless tv
makes you comfortably numb
i like being comfortably numb when i feel like shit
i like hours of mindless tv, regardless.
kekeke
I'd second that motion............but I'm thinking BTR is needing more interaction to keep his mind going that TV/cheap porn that might go with it....:P

[sandra]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 17 2003, 12:18 PM
:confused:
well, if you think of it only in those terms (e.g., "oh, i only feel this way because i have low levels of serotonin" or whatever), then puts things in perspective and makes it easier to cope.

[applehead]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 01:20 PM
well, if you think of it only in those terms (e.g., "oh, i only feel this way because i have low levels of serotonin" or whatever), then puts things in perspective and makes it easier to cope.
that would make me want to take prozac or zoloft then.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 04:20 PM
well, if you think of it only in those terms (e.g., "oh, i only feel this way because i have low levels of serotonin" or whatever), then puts things in perspective and makes it easier to cope.
Eat lots of chocolate, I think I read somewhere that chocolate raises your serotonin levels, giving you a temporary feeling of joy or contentment. Hallmark wasn't all that stupid after all.

[sandra]

singing --> releases endorphins --> happiness

running --> releases endorphins --> happiness

are these correct?


anyhow, if you think of it strategically, bethereds, i.e., "i am sad due to a chemical imbalance and therefore i have to engage in this activity to get myself out of this state of sadness," it makes it easier. in part because you won't be focusing on the real problem <_<

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 04:38 PM
Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 01:20 PM

well, if you think of it only in those terms (e.g., "oh, i only feel this way because i have low levels of serotonin" or whatever), then puts things in perspective and makes it easier to cope.
that would make me want to take prozac or zoloft then.
yeah but you have to be regularly taking SSRI drugs for a while before they start working. for prozac it's at least 2 or 3 months, for zoloft i think it could be as short as one month.

thinking about sadness in biological terms would make me want to drop lots of e

[princess]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 01:45 PM
singing --> releases endorphins --> happiness

running --> releases endorphins --> happiness

are these correct?


anyhow, if you think of it strategically, bethereds, i.e., "i am sad due to a chemical imbalance and therefore i have to engage in this activity to get myself out of this state of sadness," it makes it easier. &nbsp;in part because you won't be focusing on the real problem &nbsp;<_<
haha reminds me of legally blonde. "wait, exercise produces endorphins. endorphins make you happy. happy people dont kill their husbands -- they just dont!"

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 04:45 PM
singing --> releases endorphins --> happiness

running --> releases endorphins --> happiness

are these correct?


anyhow, if you think of it strategically, bethereds, i.e., "i am sad due to a chemical imbalance and therefore i have to engage in this activity to get myself out of this state of sadness," it makes it easier. in part because you won't be focusing on the real problem <_<
don't know about endorphins, but i know exercising facilitates serotonin release.


and you know kasie, in the same token, you could think about happiness in the biological sense.

[deez nuts]

You two forgot the most important hormone release of them all, testesterone and whatever comes after!

[sandra]

Originally posted by princess@Jan 17 2003, 02:22 PM
Originally posted by kasia@Jan 17 2003, 01:45 PM
singing --> releases endorphins --> happiness

running --> releases endorphins --> happiness

are these correct?


anyhow, if you think of it strategically, bethereds, i.e., "i am sad due to a chemical imbalance and therefore i have to engage in this activity to get myself out of this state of sadness," it makes it easier. in part because you won't be focusing on the real problem <_<
haha reminds me of legally blonde. "wait, exercise produces endorphins. endorphins make you happy. happy people dont kill their husbands -- they just dont!"
wait! i think that's where i got it from :lol: i love that movie!!

[wylin]

my advice in all maters of love are "Put it in!"

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Jan 18 2003, 12:57 AM
my advice in all maters of love are "Put it in!"
this coming from a self-proclaimed virgin.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by Tawee@Jan 17 2003, 01:43 PM
Eat lots of chocolate, I think I read somewhere that chocolate raises your serotonin levels, giving you a temporary feeling of joy or contentment. Hallmark wasn't all that stupid after all.
I remember reading in a random Time or Newsweek, not 100% sure which it was.....50/50 it was one of them...a while back....that chocolate has a chemical in that similar to that of I forgot, either Marijuana or crack cocaine....but it raises the level of a chemical in you brain, and if you eat enough chocolate you can actually get high......of course no one has actually eaten that amount yet mainly because the amount of that chemical in choclate is so low, you'd have to eat like over 50 lbs of chocolate.....my biology and my physics teachers both showed it to our classes.....I'm just not sure which magazine had it tho......

[wylin]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Jan 17 2003, 05:27 PM
this coming from a self-proclaimed virgin.
only anally, since i must state the theorem of male virginity, men who have not been anally penatrated are virgins because virginity can only be lost via pentration via the anus.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 18 2003, 02:19 AM
I remember reading in a random Time or Newsweek, not 100% sure which it was.....50/50 it was one of them...a while back....that chocolate has a chemical in that similar to that of I forgot, either Marijuana or crack cocaine....but it raises the level of a chemical in you brain, and if you eat enough chocolate you can actually get high......of course no one has actually eaten that amount yet mainly because the amount of that chemical in choclate is so low, you'd have to eat like over 50 lbs of chocolate.....my biology and my physics teachers both showed it to our classes.....I'm just not sure which magazine had it tho......
Really? I'll have to test this out.

*Opens first bag of snickers mini candy bars. 25 snickers down, and 435 to go!*

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by wylin@Jan 18 2003, 03:16 AM
only anally, since i must state the theorem of male virginity, men who have not been anally penatrated are virgins because virginity can only be lost via pentration via the anus.
That means some fellas that never ever even have had straight up sex are SUPA DUPA MEGA VIRGINS since they've never been penetrated or done the penetrating!

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by wylin@Jan 18 2003, 03:16 AM
only anally, since i must state the theorem of male virginity, men who have not been anally penatrated are virgins because virginity can only be lost via pentration via the anus.
Wait! You mean sticking your own finger in your own ass while pounding away at your girl don't count?

[wylin]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Jan 18 2003, 09:04 AM
That means some fellas that never ever even have had straight up sex are SUPA DUPA MEGA VIRGINS since they've never been penetrated or done the penetrating!
yes sir! so Bun Boy u are a virgin! no penatration no loss of virginity!

[mrazntre]

is that liz?

if it is, she has extremely long fingers, and there's a really good reason why her hand is blocking most of her face.


Hey BTR, just keep on looking at princess' avatar pic, that'll make you forget about your ex. That'll also make you forget about women altogether, but... you just gotta do what you gotta do.

[applehead]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 17 2003, 11:19 PM
you'd have to eat like over 50 lbs of chocolate.....
i can totally do that.

[princess]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Jan 18 2003, 09:49 AM
is that liz?

if it is, she has extremely long fingers, and there's a really good reason why her hand is blocking most of her face.


Hey BTR, just keep on looking at princess' avatar pic, that'll make you forget about your ex. That'll also make you forget about women altogether, but... you just gotta do what you gotta do.
sy i hate you and thats not me anyway, moron.

[Chris]

Originally posted by wylin@Jan 18 2003, 12:16 AM
only anally, since i must state the theorem of male virginity, men who have not been anally penatrated are virgins because virginity can only be lost via pentration via the anus.
:rolleyes: I have a sudden sense of laughing out loud. But I am drinnking my coffee right now haha

[Napoleon Chynamite]

BTR,

Shit I am sorry to hear that...u can always MSN me if you wanna vent, you kno..........

Kinda goin on a tangent here....
Regarding love, I wish I could say that I've been in love before but in the end when I finally recover and I see what makes me feel better (i.e. whether it be other girls, other pleasures, pastimes, distractions, time, whatever), it makes me question what I truly felt in the first place and exactly what I wanted and why I was so sad. A lotta people can say that they feel devastated after a break-up because they long to be with that other person, but for me it's not that simple. A lotta times I think I want that other person but it's really something else (i.e. perhaps feelings of fulfillment or feelings of significance or simply the feeling that somebody else wants me as their boyfriend or whatever)...I guess that's the problem is that I have never truly figured out what i really want or need. I'm also weird in that the more i get to know someone (i.e. the closer I get), the less likely I will ever become romantically interested in them, which tells you something about my readiness for anything serious and what being with a girl actually means to me even at this ripe old age of 23. I think I've been sprung before but I dunno if i've ever truly loved anyone yet.

Sorry for the weird take on this thread, and btw everyone no I do not plan on going into bedroom wallpaper decor or flower arrangement.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 18 2003, 10:20 AM
i can totally do that.
At one sitting, Bo, at one sitting....ya give up and take breaks and stuff you have to start all over again . . . .

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by princess@Jan 18 2003, 06:50 PM
Originally posted by mrazntre@Jan 18 2003, 09:49 AM
is that liz?

if it is, she has extremely long fingers, and there's a really good reason why her hand is blocking most of her face.


Hey BTR, just keep on looking at princess' avatar pic, that'll make you forget about your ex. That'll also make you forget about women altogether, but... you just gotta do what you gotta do.
sy i hate you and thats not me anyway, moron.
I KNOW that isn't you. No way you could ever look that good.

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 18 2003, 06:20 PM
i can totally do that.
yikes!

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 19 2003, 02:40 AM
At one sitting, Bo, at one sitting....ya give up and take breaks and stuff you have to start all over again . . . .
imma go ahead and vouch for her, how about cigarette breaks tho? i think that'd kill her....

[applehead]

dude. 50lbs. i can totally do that.
man.
it's gotta be the cheap kind though.
the expensive ones are WAY too filling.
and creamy and all that good stuff.

and no nuts. just plain.
oh and dark. yeah dark.
totally.

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 19 2003, 07:34 AM
and no nuts. just plain.
oh and dark. yeah dark.
totally.
someone has a fetish for darrrrkk chocolate!!!!

[applehead]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Jan 18 2003, 11:40 PM
Originally posted by applehead@Jan 19 2003, 07:34 AM
and no nuts. &nbsp;just plain. &nbsp;
oh and dark. &nbsp;yeah dark. &nbsp;
totally.
someone has a fetish for darrrrkk chocolate!!!!
i don't get that.

but then that's nothing new.
was that like a, sexual reference?

[mrazntre]

no, dark chocolate as in black men.

[applehead]

so why isn't that a sexual reference?

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 19 2003, 02:34 AM
and no nuts. just plain.
oh and dark. yeah dark.
totally.
so... black dudes with no nuts?

meena that's disgusting

[applehead]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 19 2003, 12:28 AM
Originally posted by applehead@Jan 19 2003, 02:34 AM
and no nuts. &nbsp;just plain. &nbsp;
oh and dark. &nbsp;yeah dark. &nbsp;
totally.
so... black dudes with no nuts?

meena that's disgusting
get yo ass back to esl class. :lol: :lol:
i said. black choco with no nuts.

sy said you have a fetish for black guys.
and i'm saying


IDIOT!!!!

[Adaon]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Jan 18 2003, 11:25 PM
imma go ahead and vouch for her, how about cigarette breaks tho? i think that'd kill her....
that'd only prolly kill her sooner than the fact she's got 50lbs of choclate clogging her digestive system.....kinda makes me sick to think about it......chocolate in one way......a totally different type of chocolate OUT another ...... :ph34r:

[applehead]

Originally posted by Adaon@Jan 19 2003, 03:11 AM
chocolate in one way......a totally different type of chocolate OUT another ...... :ph34r:
EW

pat, that's grossie.
:gross: :gross:

swk's avatar rocks, by the way.
what a cutie patootie.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 19 2003, 11:34 AM

swk's avatar rocks, by the way.
what a cutie patootie.
Unleash!

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 19 2003, 11:34 AM
swk's avatar rocks, by the way.
what a cutie patootie.
"you don't love me, you just love my doggy style" - snoop dog

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 19 2003, 12:47 PM
"you don't love me, you just love my doggy style" - snoop dog
*shudders*

I like the "get drunk, get laid, get high" maxim. There's no exact science to this, but that comes close.