Marriage

[luv]

I guess I already know the answer, it depends on the couple, right? Well, I'm finding that the people around me are marrying and getting engaged at all sorts of ages. I have a friend who got pregnant and married at 19, pretty much giving up college. I have another who is engaged at 23 but both her and her beau are in school and don't have jobs. But then there is the couple that has been going out for 10 years (age around 27, both are working) and both are getting cold feet about marriage. Are people just less likely to get married as they approach 28 and then all of a sudden they want to get married for fear of it being too late?

[thaite]

No, the average age for marriage has been getting progressively older than it was decades ago. More people are delaying marriage for education, career and other goals. Some people don't feel it necessary to get married at all.

How old do you think is 'too old' ?

[lethal]

I've also noticed that my Asian American friends get married at a later age than their white counterparts. Many of my white friedns in college were married right after or shortly after college, both male and female.

Only 2 of my Asian college friends are married, and they're married to each other...and the timing of that was quickened because of the unexpected pregnancy.

I'm 25 and a first year law student. I'll be 28 when I graduate. My girlfriend of 3 years is also 25 and will apply to B-school this fall for the class of 2006. She'll be 29 when she graduates. So we won't get married till we're 29 at the earliest...when we'll have dated for 6 years.

Wow...that's a long time. My cousins all got married around age 29 though, if they're married at all.

[LeahLe]

buoywonder Posted on Nov 13 2002, 05:19 PM
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No, the average age for marriage has been getting progressively older than it was decades ago. More people are delaying marriage for education, career and other goals. Some people don't feel it necessary to get married at all.

How old do you think is 'too old' ?  
I agree on these reasons for the matrimonial delay. Too old would be around 30.

[angel nympho]

Any age you think you're ready.

[mrazntre]

don't do it.




no man is ever ready.

[tapestrybabe]

my dad got married a second time around..
to a woman who was in her late 40's...
and that was her first marraige...

i'm 30... and she gives me hope...

[blue__blood]

mmm, I'd say late twenties is what I guess my big day will be. I don't think any age is too late for marriage until... let's say about seventy. Around that age, I think the bond between two people will be too time-tested and understood to be "officated" by a marraige.

[thaite]

Originally posted by LeahLe@Nov 13 2002, 06:59 PM
Too old would be around 30.
Well, shit. I may as well slit my wrists now.

<_<

[lethal]

Its never too old. Everyone's different. Some people aren't ready to get married by 30, others are ready when they're 18.

I don't think anyone can make that decision for someone else or try to impose their thoughts and values on another. Each person has to make their own decision.

And yeah...if 30's too old, I might as well slit my wrists now since 30 is the earliest I'll be getting married.

[kimpossible]

With the long life expectancy in the U.S. I don't think 30 is at all too old to get married.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Nov 14 2002, 03:04 PM
With the long life expectancy in the U.S. I don't think 30 is at all too old to get married.
hell i won't even start thinking about marriage till after 30

[LeahLe]

buoywonder Posted on Nov 14 2002, 11:47 AM
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(LeahLe @ Nov 13 2002, 06:59 PM)
Too old would be around 30.

Well, shit. I may as well slit my wrists now.


Fine then, too old would be at 35. There;s still hope for you.
:) by the way, just how old are you?

[LeahLe]

mrazntre Posted on Nov 13 2002, 06:26 PM
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don't do it.




no man is ever ready. &nbsp;
Men! "roll eyes"

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by LeahLe@Nov 14 2002, 12:21 PM
mrazntre Posted on Nov 13 2002, 06:26 PM
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don't do it.




no man is ever ready.
Men! "roll eyes"
Ain't no one wanna marry him anyhow.

[thaite]

Originally posted by LeahLe@Nov 14 2002, 01:18 PM
buoywonder Posted on Nov 14 2002, 11:47 AM
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(LeahLe @ Nov 13 2002, 06:59 PM)
Too old would be around 30.

Well, shit. I may as well slit my wrists now.


Fine then, too old would be at 35. There;s still hope for you.
:) by the way, just how old are you?
How old do you want me to be, bebbeh?

[Fireblade]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Nov 14 2002, 12:05 PM
Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Nov 14 2002, 03:04 PM
With the long life expectancy in the U.S. I don't think 30 is at all too old to get married.
hell i won't even start thinking about marriage till after 30
My thoughts exactly. Not gonna get married till I'm at least 30. My dad married at 35, so... yea, I'm in no rush.

[Shuriken]

Why all the talk about marriage? I thought this was a forum about sex!

[amietron]

i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:02 PM
i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)
you're too young to get married. you're just a baby. marriage is alot of compromises.

right, Hapa jie jie?

[amietron]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Nov 14 2002, 08:15 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:02 PM
i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)
you're too young to get married. you're just a baby. marriage is alot of compromises.

right, Hapa jie jie?
isn't that a good thing, then? less experience, lesser demands. i know how to compromise and submit to demands. i want a kiddddddd!

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:33 PM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Nov 14 2002, 08:15 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:02 PM
i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)
you're too young to get married. you're just a baby. marriage is alot of compromises.

right, Hapa jie jie?
isn't that a good thing, then? less experience, lesser demands. i know how to compromise and submit to demands. i want a kiddddddd!
maybe you should wait a little longer so who you are as a person solidifies more. you don't want to get married young just to discover later in life that there are certain things you don't want to compromise.

[SunWuKong]

you know amie, i'm a little concerned about your eagerness to get married. if you want it too much, you really risk ending up with the wrong guy. just let it happen on its own course.

[wylin]

im getting married after

1. i feel sucessful
2. i know im sucessful since i just bout a 911 turbo or R34 skyline GTR
3. i met someone whose my best friend and lover wraped into 1 package!
4. i finish grad skoo

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by wylin@Nov 15 2002, 06:18 AM
im getting married after

1. i feel sucessful
2. i know im sucessful since i just bout a 911 turbo or R34 skyline GTR
3. i met someone whose my best friend and lover wraped into 1 package!
4. i finish grad skoo
in other words, never.

[wylin]

sorry living in the valley driving a car older then my brother isnt my idea of sucess either! :ph34r:

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by wylin@Nov 15 2002, 06:44 AM
sorry living in the valley driving a car older then my brother isnt my idea of sucess either! :ph34r:
but living in torrance with a car bought by your parents is?

[wylin]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Nov 14 2002, 10:45 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Nov 15 2002, 06:44 AM
sorry living in the valley driving a car older then my brother isnt my idea of sucess either! :ph34r:
but living in torrance with a car bought by your parents is?
thats ok least im not an undercover ghetto fab korean gangster wanabe who spins out so bad they need AWD =P

[amietron]

Originally posted by wylin@Nov 14 2002, 11:11 PM
Originally posted by mrazntre@Nov 14 2002, 10:45 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Nov 15 2002, 06:44 AM
sorry living in the valley driving a car older then my brother isnt my idea of sucess either! :ph34r:
but living in torrance with a car bought by your parents is?
thats ok least im not an undercover ghetto fab korean gangster wanabe who spins out so bad they need AWD =P
damn wannabe koreans!


just kidding. =X

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:33 PM

isn't that a good thing, then? less experience, lesser demands. i know how to compromise and submit to demands. i want a kiddddddd!
hahah rrrrrrrrrright. all women change after they get that engagement ring on their finger :cry:

[Arex]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 08:33 PM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Nov 14 2002, 08:15 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:02 PM
i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)
you're too young to get married. you're just a baby. marriage is alot of compromises.

right, Hapa jie jie?
isn't that a good thing, then? less experience, lesser demands. i know how to compromise and submit to demands. i want a kiddddddd!
Dude, I want a kid too...but not just yet. It'd be nice to be married in the next two or three years, with a child to follow two or three years after that, but that doesn't look to be happening given the current state of my love life. Bah!

As for lesser experiences and lesser demands due to your relative young age, it's not like you cease to be aware of things around you and cease to learn new things the second you get hitched! 'less you expect your husband to keep you under house arrest...and that ain't no fun.

Alex

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 11:33 PM
i want a kiddddddd!
Start by donating to feed the chilldren then.

At 17 marriage + kids. Wow that was the furthest thing away from my mind, back in the day. Get your degree first! Oh wait can't really get a degree cuz you is slacking on your college apps. GO DO YOUR COLLEGE APPS!

[purezero]

I just watched this movie called My Wife Is 18. (Critics said it was annoying, I thought it was cute). But pretty much the story went where this 18 year old was arranged to marry this 30 year old guy. They get married to please the guy's grandma. ANYWAY. I thought, "18? Wow. That's young." And the character younger than 18, so that really didn't help, especially because she was still in a school that reminds me of a private high school. (It was set in Hong Kong). So would it matter where your from how old you are when you get married? Kind of like your parent's impression on you, etc.

[amietron]

If you have a baby before I do, can I babysit for you?

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by ti12amisu@Nov 18 2002, 02:51 AM
I just watched this movie called My Wife Is 18. (Critics said it was annoying, I thought it was cute). But pretty much the story went where this 18 year old was arranged to marry this 30 year old guy. They get married to please the guy's grandma. ANYWAY. I thought, "18? Wow. That's young." And the character younger than 18, so that really didn't help, especially because she was still in a school that reminds me of a private high school. (It was set in Hong Kong). So would it matter where your from how old you are when you get married? Kind of like your parent's impression on you, etc.
i read about that movie...

maaaan... i miss HK movies...

[ChinaLama]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 18 2002, 07:59 AM
If you have a baby before I do, can I babysit for you?
hmm there are lots of abandoned babies for whom a mother would be good. :)

[Arex]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 17 2002, 11:59 PM
If you have a baby before I do, can I babysit for you?
Seeing as you want kids so badly, I'd be afraid that you might jack it.

Alex

[luv]

Well, the prospect of marriage is really scary right now. If anyone remembers the original post, the couple who were getting to be in their late twenties and getting "cold feet" about marriage, broke up over the weekend. (Don't know the reasons behind it...)

They have been going out almost 10 years -- think thats why they felt the pressure to get married.

Yes...its the Asian couple I know who seem to get married later. I don't wanna get married till I want kids, but what age is too late for kids? When will sex be less than amazing? (Ok, I brought sex back into the topic....happy?)

[Arex]

Originally posted by luv@Nov 18 2002, 03:48 PM
Yes...its the Asian couple I know who seem to get married later. I don't wanna get married till I want kids, but what age is too late for kids? When will sex be less than amazing? (Ok, I brought sex back into the topic....happy?)
Personally, I'd like to get married and enjoy being hitched for at least a few years prior to having kids. Gotta enjoy being a newlywed before you got new things to stress out over, I say. And I'm sure there's an adjustment period for when things are finally official, even if you'd been living together prior to the marriage.

I'd say its too late for kids when you won't be able to enjoy watching your young ones grow up. I probably wouldn't want to be much older than forty to have my last kid. That'd put me close to my retirement years when my last child reaches his mid twenties. Sounds about right.

Sex will never cease to be amazing for me unless, perhaps, I start getting some regularly.=P But really, sex doesn't ever have to get routine or boring so long as you're open to new things. Food, restraints, locations, toys, props...ahhhh, some day.=/

Alex

[luv]

I don't think I'll be ready to marry until I'm at least 28 with a good job and finished with grad school. Weddings are sooooo expensive. Marriage as an excuse to have legitimate kids? I'm also afraid of an early divorce.

I know this sounds stupid but my man asked me if I would be mad if he spent money to buy me a house instead of a diamond ring [read: you will never see a ring]. The practical side of me wants the assets, but the girlie side is whimpering...

Its years away and things might change, but I answered that its ok. Am I stupid?

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by luv@Nov 19 2002, 12:19 AM
I know this sounds stupid but my man asked me if I would be mad if he spent money to buy me a house instead of a diamond ring &nbsp;[read: you will never see a ring]. &nbsp;The practical side of me wants the assets, but the girlie side is whimpering...
well think about it this way, unless he wants to pay the few thousand dollars up front for the ring, you'll both be paying it off anyway.

when i was helping my buddy shop for an engagement ring, i told him just go for the expensive ones, because he was going to use his credit card so it'll be paid off by the both of them anyway. :P

[Fireblade]

What's more important? A place to live or a ring?
Let's put it into my horribly demented point of view ....

"Shiny Extravagent Ring w/ Shitty Run-Down Cardboard Box"
or...........
"Average Ring w/ House on hill"
???

But I'm a guy, and I doubt I'll pay much for an engagement ring anyway. Cuz yea, sometimes marriages don't last, but then again I'm an extreme pessimeist.

[axi0m]

I think I'm weird. I'm a guy and if I could I'd get married now (I'm 18). I just feel like I'm mature enough to handle it, and that it would be one of the most amazing experiences of my life. I dunno, I think I'm weird.

-Satoshi-

[hormiga]

TWENTY-FIVE ! !

[hormiga]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 08:02 PM
i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)
I don't want to marry you, but I am looking for someone to deposit my sperm (I'm serious).

[hormiga]

Originally posted by wylin@Nov 14 2002, 10:18 PM
im getting married after

1. i feel sucessful
2. i know im sucessful since i just bout a 911 turbo or R34 skyline GTR
3. i met someone whose my best friend and lover wraped into 1 package!
4. i finish grad skoo
And how do you know someone wants to marry you?

[hormiga]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Nov 13 2002, 06:12 PM
Any age you think you're ready.
Any age? What? :huh: You want me to tell your dad so he can give you that long and overdue ass whoopin'? 'Any age'...sheesh!

[hormiga]

Originally posted by hormiga@Nov 23 2002, 10:24 AM
Originally posted by wylin@Nov 14 2002, 10:18 PM
im getting married after

1. i feel sucessful
2. i know im sucessful since i just bout a 911 turbo or R34 skyline GTR
3. i met someone whose my best friend and lover wraped into 1 package!
4. i finish grad skoo
And how do you know someone wants to marry you?
Let me rephrase my question, What if no one wants to marry you? :lol:

[hormiga]

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 14 2002, 08:02 PM
i wanna get married. i do, i do, i do. :)
Want me to track you down and beat you with my Northface jacket? :angry:

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by hormiga@Nov 24 2002, 12:14 AM
Any age? What? :huh: You want me to tell your dad so he can give you that long and overdue ass whoopin'? 'Any age'...sheesh!
Why are you so annoying?

[ChinaLama]

hormiga: I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume a friend is messing around w/ your computer. But if whoever is using your acct continues to harass YW members, then you're gonna find yourself banned.