Do women want a virgin? [Archive]

Hiroshi2

09-17-2005, 07:09 PM

This came up in a conversation with some of my homeboys........................some girls actually want a dude who's a virgin (good luck)...................how true is this? Obviously it's known that dudes want virgins, whether it's a girl they're just fuckin or a girl that want a relationship with......................hell, most men would prefer that their girl never spoke to another man in her life, except for her father, lol.

So I'm just curious.............this is new to me. Do women seek virgin men? Does it make a difference if you're just looking for 1-night stand, or a man to be in a relationship with?

moJo

09-17-2005, 07:45 PM

are these girls who want virgin men virgins themselves or have had a few partners (as opposed to many)? that would make sense to me.

Hiroshi2

09-17-2005, 07:49 PM

Well just to make it interesting, let's say experienced women. Or even straight hoes.

Napoleon Chynamite

09-17-2005, 08:23 PM

I never understood why guys wanted virgin women, you'd think they'd prefer a girl with experience and confidence in what she's doing.

Hiroshi2

09-17-2005, 08:27 PM

Cause you want her to be yours, you don't want to have to compete with other dudes.

Tao

09-17-2005, 09:01 PM

Cause you want her to be yours, you don't want to have to compete with other dudes.
that and the possibility she has a std

moser

09-18-2005, 10:26 AM

More religious ones, yeah. More experienced ones, virginity may be a turnoff (like there's something wrong with them if they haven't had sex yet) but I don't think they care as much.

John0101

09-18-2005, 10:49 AM

nonamerasian

09-18-2005, 11:31 AM

More religious ones, yeah. More experienced ones, virginity may be a turnoff (like there's something wrong with them if they haven't had sex yet) but I don't think they care as much.

A friend of a friend doesn't see it as a turnoff, but as an opportunity to teach the guy right.

Something like that.

She said some guys think they are all of that and it's too crippling to the ego to tell them what they are doing wrong.

She could have been joking, though.

As much as she praised virgins, I don't remember her weeding out non-virgins from her frisks.

She's definitely in the experienced category.

To each her own.

Anaestacia

09-18-2005, 01:46 PM

Not really.. if I had a choice. There's no mutual potluck at the dining table. I agree with moJo and it would make sense if the girls are virgin too.

Yet the way this question was phrased, it sounds like I'm trying to make a purchase for a sack of potatoes rather than actually caring about a person. I don't think it would matter if it came to that point in the relationship. To be honest I might be wary though.. if things didn't work out in the long run. Harder to let go?

Sexual prowess seems to be synonymous with alpha male status, assertiveness and other male attributes that are attractive to women. I don't think this holds true all the time even though it's a bit obvious - without knowing women, how do you handle them? Perhaps their powers of observation are impeccable. And they read a lot.

returntosender

09-18-2005, 05:42 PM

Arex

09-19-2005, 01:13 AM

I remember I told a girl I was a virgin. She got really turned on and was about to jump me.Hmmm... I'll hafta try that angle should I ever find myself single again. "Yo, who wants to deflower me? Any takers??"

yuuteya

09-19-2005, 06:00 PM

with no experience is not a good thing if the women want experience for the best reaction. this is the usual case so its better to say non-virgin as a lie, if you can lie. but if its for a steady then it doesnt matter. i think if theyre just hinting for the best reaction then a non-virgin is a must. so if you are a virgin and want to get sex quickly you should say non-virgin, but you must work hard after that! if she would discover your lie she might bite! :eek:

Pookie_gal

09-21-2005, 01:32 AM

It's double standards if you expect a girl/guy to be a virgin if you're not...but obviously no one wants someone who sleeps around.
Has anyone met/knows of a 40-year-old virgin? :wink:

jongeh

09-21-2005, 08:20 AM

for me, yeah, i don't want a guy that's done every girl , but at the same time, what if you deflower some guy and he's like "wow, this sex stuff is great. i should try it with more people.."?

i think the thing about virgin guys is that they seem to be more rare (than virgin girls) and it makes you think that maybe this guy isn't just always thinking about sex, titties, and ass. and that is sexy.

TB4000

09-21-2005, 09:24 AM

Every guy is thinking about that. Whether they get sex or not. If you're getting it, you want more, and if you're not getting it, you're wondering when you're gonna get some.

jongeh

09-21-2005, 05:02 PM

well thanks for clearing that up!

TB4000

09-21-2005, 05:38 PM

well thanks for clearing that up!

Of course. That's why we're here.

DragonKnight

09-21-2005, 09:08 PM

It's double standards if you expect a girl/guy to be a virgin if you're not...but obviously no one wants someone who sleeps around.
Has anyone met/knows of a 40-year-old virgin? :wink:
I have a friend who was getting close to that (well, not that close...but he was approaching it). Luckily his current gf...corrected that situation. :biggrin:

moJo

09-21-2005, 09:16 PM

Has anyone met/knows of a 40-year-old virgin? :wink:
A.C. Green, retired NBA player. A religious man, he was like 38 or 39 before he got hitched.

thaite

09-22-2005, 08:43 AM

I think people, guys especially but I'd bet women do too, just want the experience of being someone else's first. It's a nice thing.

TB4000

09-22-2005, 09:34 AM

I think people, guys especially but I'd bet women do too, just want the experience of being someone else's first. It's a nice thing.
I never told the girl that was my first that I was a virgin. Either she figured it out or she just assumed I really sucked at it. Sigh.

Hiroshi2

09-22-2005, 03:49 PM

A.C. Green, retired NBA player. A religious man, he was like 38 or 39 before he got hitched.

A lot of people wonder how folks can do that, but then again.....................I guess it's true that you can't miss what you've never had.

I remember A.C. Green though, he made up for that lack of sex on the court. Too bad he got injured though, maybe that's when he started having more free time away from b-ball and decided damn I gotta get me some pussy :wink:

No seriously though, this is still something that I'm curious about, I've never given it any thought before.

Paradox

09-22-2005, 06:21 PM

A lot of people wonder how folks can do that, but then again.....................I guess it's true that you can't miss what you've never had.

I don't think this is true though heh. Back in high school I was preoccupied with trying to lose it as soon as possible. When I finally did I realized that it was really no big deal.

I remember A.C. Green though, he made up for that lack of sex on the court. Too bad he got injured though, maybe that's when he started having more free time away from b-ball and decided damn I gotta get me some pussy :wink:

Going into your late 30's without sex must have taken an incredible amount of willpower. I suppose being deeply religious helped transcend that but still..damn. I respect him for his willpower though not every man can do something like that, especially a highly paid sports star who could have literally just about any woman he comes across. Then again there are monks out there who go their entire lives without ever touching a woman.

Pookie_gal

09-23-2005, 01:25 AM

Some of my friends (both guys and girls) are still virgins, and they're in their late 20s and heading into the 30s. Like you, Paradox, I admire them for their sheer willpower and discipline.

Napoleon Chynamite

09-23-2005, 11:38 AM

Every guy is thinking about that. Whether they get sex or not. If you're getting it, you want more, and if you're not getting it, you're wondering when you're gonna get some.

Speak for yourself :biggrin:

Hiroshi2

09-23-2005, 12:23 PM

^ Yeah like right now, I honestly don't want sex. I'm so serious. I will turn a girl down, and have done so a couple of times since i"ve been up here in college. That's part of the reason why I posed the question.

applehead

09-23-2005, 11:25 PM

i'll have a hard time believing
a guy my age saying he's a virgin.
i'll pretend to believe him
just to amuse myself.
and then i'll make fun of him
with my girlfriends.

Hiroshi2

09-24-2005, 10:59 AM

What if he was a nerd, lame, etc.?

applehead

09-25-2005, 12:45 AM

What if he was a nerd, lame, etc.?

they have their own fan clubs.
:biggrin:

Paradox

09-25-2005, 01:01 AM

they have their own fan clubs.
:biggrin:
Haha I don't know any fan clubs for nerdy lame asian guys..unless it's something I missed out on early in high school.

XXXSHIMSTARXXX

11-02-2005, 11:26 PM

applehead

11-03-2005, 06:59 PM

XXXSHIMSTARXXX

11-03-2005, 07:25 PM

yes teh sexorz :wink: online terminology

Stevo

11-15-2005, 07:54 PM

I remember I told a girl I was a virgin. She got really turned on and was about to jump me.

I think it depends on the girl. For her I think she just been with experienced guys and she just wanted to try something new.

Definitely. Im guessin that experienced guys to some girls may come off as players, cause they'v been with more than one girl.
"So whatever happened with all the other girls he's been with. Am i gonna end up just another number in his black book?" or sumthen like that.

p.s.
I'm high, dont listen to what i say.

luv

11-26-2005, 03:54 PM

i don't think there's anything wrong with a girl wanting a virgin, just think that would be incredibly rare for a guy around my age....i guess she likes the young 'uns

pseudohmong

12-13-2005, 07:48 AM

I prefer a nonvirgin because experience usually helps your sex life. I don't have time to teach someone everything. I agree with jongeh. What if you deflower a virgin and he wants to see what else is out there? Sometimes people grow curious and want to experiment more when it's all they ever had. It's better to be with someone who has experienced it all and know you're the best out there for him. I don't want a manwhore but I don't want a virgin.

Anaestacia

12-13-2005, 12:48 PM

It's better to be with someone who has experienced it all

There are some things that would be nice if he were still a virgin. Without getting too graphic.

It's not a priority but if I were faced with it, I would prefer someone who has not done it all. Even if he has, there's still a first for everything with you.

Azn Retribution

12-13-2005, 09:25 PM

I'm a virgin. (really)
I think its a case-by-case basis with most girls.

diving_cats

01-11-2006, 02:26 PM

personally i dont prefer virgin men. be a MAN! women should not have to show u how to have good sex! but also i do not like manwhores, so something in between is always good.

TB4000

01-11-2006, 04:27 PM

So you basically don't want to have to tell him, "it goes in here."

Hiroshi2

01-11-2006, 05:28 PM

LOL like that Dave Chappelle skit where the woman's sitting there with a disgusted look on her face like, "wrong hole, fool."

Keke

01-12-2006, 11:23 AM

I never understood why guys wanted virgin women, you'd think they'd prefer a girl with experience and confidence in what she's doing.
Take it from me...

Yes, virginity in a girl is attractive to guys... but if she doesn't know what she's doin' it can be very awkward, clumsy, and short.

Truth is, making love to an experienced girl (or woman), can be very smooth, a little ambitious, comfortable and a lot of fun.

Remember fellas, explore and discover... make it all about pleasing her and you'll be investing in future sex for a long time to come.

nameless

01-13-2006, 03:11 AM

Remember fellas, explore and discover... make it all about pleasing her and you'll be investing in future sex for a long time to come.

So...no donkey punch?

sandra

01-13-2006, 07:24 AM

dude.
im a virgin.
and like whenever so and so have sex were all like OMG!!!!11!!111 THEY HAD TEH SEXORZ VIRGINITY LOST SHAME ON THEM. whats going on here
whatever happened to sex after marriage? flame me at will.
yeh, but you're 17. it's normal to be a virgin.

if he's 30 and a virgin, i'd be weirded out.

if he's 30 and hasn't had a long-term relationship, i'd be weirded out.

tapestrybabe

01-13-2006, 11:20 AM

wow, that doesnt weird me out at all...
i guess i think totally differently...
while i agree 17 and still a virgin
is normal... or i feel it SHOUld be normal...
what weirds me out than is when a 17...
or even as young as 15 year olds arent virgins anymore...
i swear, i cant believe how young
ppl start out sometimes...

Anaestacia

01-13-2006, 07:31 PM

They have reconstructive surgery (cosmetic, if you ask me) for hymens for women and born-again virgins. What if it was possible to simply go through some lazer zapping of the brain to erase memories of previous sex? (think Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind).

Applicable also to men.

Virginity will be a superficial label. Do you like cotton or polyester?