Does she have to be Asian?

[achtungbaby]

We hear a lot of talk about whether Asian females should or should not go for non-Asians, but about us guys...? Would any of you guys out there go for non-Asian females?

[thaite]

I don't care what color she is. I'm equal opportunity.

[IKPakI]

not to be mean, but i prefer asian women, especially korean women. Because you have similiar backgrounds and parents would be able to communicate with each other and the child doesn't worry about which background to choose if he/she had interracial parents.

[Arex]

So long as it has tits, an *ahem*, and a heartbeat...preferably of the homosapien persuasion...I'm all good. Hahaha! Just kidding. I've often pondered this very question. Back in elemetary school and most of the way through high school, I was primarily attracted to caucasian girls (and actually got play from 'em...at least in elementary...WTF happened?!). But now I'm attracted mostly to Asian women.

My question is whether the desire to be with an Asian American woman developed out of the fact that, generally speaking, non-Asians haven't ever given me the time of day or whether it developed after realizing that common ancestry, customs, values, experiences, and interests are more likely to be found in an Asian American woman. I'd like to say the latter but I wonder if that's just not what I tell myself to feel better about the former...? Either way, my current preference is for Asian American, but I like to think that I wouldn't discount anyone who really fit the bill solely on account of race. And I don't think girls (Asian or otherwise) should either. Unfortunately, it just so happens that Asian/Asian American women have many more such opportunities to date outside the circle than us guys. Oh well...

Alex

[IKPakI]

Well, since im korean, you know that most korean parents disagree with their son/daughter going out with outside their race, unless the parent marries interracially, they don't mind. But, being korean, im forced to date korean girls.. nothing wrong with that. But, i wonder why many koreans , especially the parents are xenophobic? Must be the images of korean females were once used as comfort women or as a mail order brides to enter the US. Anyhow, i used to date a girl was who chinese & japanese.

Any more thoughts?

[sandra]

i was told korean parents prefer us chinese girls. just cause we're better. :wink:

[thaite]

I think I've said this here before, but I've dated only two Asian girls: One in high school, one last fall. That last one was so wrong, she was just a mean-spirited person and I'm glad to be rid of her.

That doesn't spoil me at all on Asian girls. I give everybody a good look, but I think it's becoming apparent to me now that I'm slowly and slowly becoming a Hispanicphile, 'cuz buoywonder looooves Telemundo. :twisted:

[Mowgli_Wolf_Boy]

:?

I can safely say that it doesn't really matter to me one way or the other, asian or nonasian.

The issue that sometimes gets in the way with nonasians is that I sometimes wonder if she also genuinely doesn't care, or if she's a female asiaphile. There might not be many of them, but they exist, believe it or not, usually with a Bruce Lee fetish, or a self-righteous "I took a class in asian culture, so I'm going to tell YOU how to act" complex. It's like they expect you to break boards with your head, write calligraphy, and walk on the rice paper without tearing it.

As for the preferences with Korean mothers: my mother was actually trying really hard to set me up with a caucasian woman she knows.

[IKPakI]

I guess the main reason why most asians date outside their race is to fit into american society, which is not true.

[Mowgli_Wolf_Boy]

[quote:c69ddf97c1="IKPakI"]I guess the main reason why most asians date outside their race is to fit into american society, which is not true.[/quote:c69ddf97c1]


:) Nah, definitely not. It's just that if I got picky about race along with the zillions of other things I'm picky about, there wouldn't be anyone left!

[IKPakI]

I remember one time , this korean kid brought a white girl into our christmas play last year and every korean parent were looking at them like a big disgrace.

[NotAsian]

Must I comment? :)

Well, I'll just say that there are no absolutes, only tendencies. Maybe someday I'll actually met someone I like who isn't otherwise involved and seems at least slightly likely to be interested in me, but the more I think about it the more I think "naah"

Anyway I'll stop polluting this topic with my presence now and let you get back to your... whatever.

[achtungbaby]

[quote:2c47a46ac3="NotAsian"]Anyway I'll stop polluting this topic with my presence now and let you get back to your... whatever.[/quote:2c47a46ac3]

You're not polluting the topic. It's important that you learn also :D

[IKPakI]

I'd still go for a asian chick. Korean, chinese, japanese...whatever.

[kboy75]

i am open to anyone, and any background.

my best friend (japanese guy) from HS married a white girl. Doing great. Another childhood friend (korean guy) married a hispanic girl. they just had a baby this past year. still goin strong. The KOrean parents were against it in the beginning, but they love her now. Both couples have been married over two years.

True is is easier (familiy-wise) if you are same ethnicity, but sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with.

[wylin]

i prefer anything not larger then me or taller then me. I tho would most like to date taiwanese girls. i guess cuz i want my kids to have the same background education in mandrin and taiwanese languages and taiwanese culture...

[ImrkevinpakI]

Its strange how korean parents act after the baby is born when its interracially mixed.

[mrazntre]

i have found that it is much easier to have someone who has the same background as you do. the main reason being, i am not going to translate every little thing that is said when she and i are at a family gathering. and basically, since i am a racist, she'd HAVE to be asian. and since i'm also an ethnist, she'd HAVE to be Vietnamese. and since i'm a heightist, she'd have to be shorter or the same height as me, and since i'm an obesist she can't be fat. and since i'm a toyotaist, she'd have to drive either a toyota or lexus. *scratches head, what else am i?* uhmmmm.... oh since i'm a homophobicist, she would have to definitely be a she.


DONE.

[NotAsian]

[quote:6fa6ea8486="ImrkevinpakI"]Its strange how korean parents act after the baby is born when its interracially mixed.[/quote:6fa6ea8486]

Do they set it on fire, get out the Christmas decorations and dance the Gay Gordon?

[sandra]

[quote:e531147583="NotAsian"][quote:e531147583="ImrkevinpakI"]Its strange how korean parents act after the baby is born when its interracially mixed.[/quote:e531147583]

Do they set it on fire, get out the Christmas decorations and dance the Gay Gordon?[/quote:e531147583]

no. they kinda react in the way that linda lee's white parents did in dragon.

[NotAsian]

Ok then, I'll watch dragon. :)

[achtungbaby]

[quote:7b22807c92="NotAsian"]
Do they set it on fire, get out the Christmas decorations and dance the Gay Gordon?[/quote:7b22807c92]

What the hell is the Gay Gordon?!? 8O

[NotAsian]

[quote:11331e39bc="achtungbaby"][quote:11331e39bc="NotAsian"]
Do they set it on fire, get out the Christmas decorations and dance the Gay Gordon?[/quote:11331e39bc]
What the hell is the Gay Gordon?!? 8O[/quote:11331e39bc]

It's just a dance with an interesting name :)

[phism]

don' matta none

however, i've found that sometimes i have a lot in common w/ hapa girls, myself being samoan/german/chinese. but that's neither here nor there. my longest relationship was w/ a girl who was black/mexican. although if i was smart, at the time i should have gone after a hapa palauan girl, but i'm dumb. ::sigh::

[DaBestSpooner]

as long as she's hollah, its all good nah mean

[princess]

[quote:3e2f2ca654="phism"]don' matta none

however, i've found that sometimes i have a lot in common w/ hapa girls, myself being samoan/german/chinese. but that's neither here nor there. my longest relationship was w/ a girl who was black/mexican. although if i was smart, at the time i should have gone after a hapa palauan girl, but i'm dumb. ::sigh::[/quote:3e2f2ca654]

wait i dont get it...if it was ur longest relationship it couldnt have been that bad being with her. so why r u dumb? im lost...

[mrazntre]

princess: i bet it was cuz she gave him good head

[deez nuts]

I don't care whom I date. But to be real, in theory I would like to marry a Chinese woman. But hey if I don't, I'm not gonna sweat it.

[jizza]

not to say that i'm not attracted to non-asian girls, but in terms of settling down i would have to pick an asian girl.

Reasons:

1. communication with me and my family
2. asians have a common vibe (i don't know how else to explain it)
3. so she doesn't freak out when she opens the frig.. :oops:

for me, dating a white girl would be like going to the zoo. its cool to look and maybe even pet, but i wouldn't want to bring any of those animals home. (btw its just an analogy, i'm not inferring that white girls are animals) :D

[SunWuKong]

[quote:5562a8aa55="NotAsian"]Anyway I'll stop polluting this topic with my presence now and let you get back to your... whatever.[/quote:5562a8aa55]


hahhah where did you get that asian humility??? that's more than can be said of alot of asian kids growing up in the states today! (i know asian kids in the uk usually aren't as prideful as they are in the states.) of course you're not "polluting" the topic. we'd like to hear if your girl has to be white. or maybe you've got a thing for asian girls, does she have to be asian?

anyway, for me, i'd date a girl of any race. i have to say that the most beautiful girl i've dated so far was a persian girl. but i think i'm almost certain that i only want to marry a chinese girl. i want my family to have a very chinese lifestyle. of course there are exceptions. i know some white people (most of them brits) in HK who grew up there and are more chinese than some chinese americans. hell they definitely speak better cantonese than alot of ABCs. if i were to settle down in HK, i would be open to marrying a non-chinese girl who grew up there and know the culture and language well.

[achtungbaby]

We hear a lot of talk about whether Asian females should or should not go for non-Asians, but about us guys...? Would any of you guys out there go for non-Asian females?

[SunWuKong]

for marriage - chinese very preferable
for dating - any



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[Arex]

My personal preference is for Asian but I'd be open to almost any ethnicity.

Alex

[AliBabaIncorporated]

for dating, yeah, just about anyone's good. but for a serious relationship or marriage, i gotta look for another american-born asian who speaks/reads their language. other kinds of people, couldn't really have an intuitive understanding of how i live my life ...

[LT25]

My first "serious" relationship with a non-asian. but every relationship since has been asian. And it's not like it's that way for a lack or trying. :lol:

[igcognito]

well I will take this as a does she have to be black question. Answer: No. Reasoning. Women are women. Yes some cultrual aspects come into play, but no girl should be subjected to automatic rejection do to their race. This kind of thought can lead to many things, such as ghettos, large populations of a single race in a small area. What does that lead to, a complete lack of diversity in which this country is found. I am for anyone dating anyone, as long as it is not on the basis of <ignorant impersonation>"woah he is black, he must have a large penis" or "she is asian, she will be so easy to handle"</ignorant impersonation>, or any other stereotypes. If I played by this rule I would not have had my first and only seriosu relationship.


And like I said before. It is all pink on the inside.

[MellowDrama]

To be short and to the point, yes.

[Hanuman]

I could care less. For me, it's about who they are, not where they came from. Admittedly, dating someone from the same background and culture is always a plus, but it's just one of many factors, just like having someone that has a generous heart.

[nonamerasian]

Is there a double standard between men and women?

[thaite]

:confused:

[yoMAMA]

The answer is:

Nope :D

[Tao]

it's all good

[ChinaLama]

NA, please be more specific. :-) Kind of a play off NA's question:

why does it seem less ok for an Asian guy to marry a non-Asian woman than for an Asian woman to marry a non-Asian man? (fr a parent's perspective?)

[amietron]

NA, please be more specific. :-) Kind of a play off NA's question:

why does it seem less ok for an Asian guy to marry a non-Asian woman than for an Asian woman to marry a non-Asian man? (fr a parent's perspective?)
gots to carry on the family name to more asian babies? i dunno.

my brother is the last full japanese male in our family. my parents have said that they'd prefer he marry a japanese girl, but in case that doesn't happen, "marry asian." and you know, when they say asian, they mean chinese or korean. i think it's because they're acquainted with people of those backgrounds and it's similar enough to ours that they'd still be comfortable. i know that growing up, it was really important to my mother that my brother and i go to japanese school and know how to speak, read and write japanese.

[sdcheung]

Asian Ok
Non-asian OK

[amietron]

Asian Ok
Non-asian OK
an equal opportunity employer, eh?

[sdcheung]

yeah
<---Free to a Good Home, Housebroken, Needs love, will love back, cooks.

[Ogumo]

I prefer japanese. But any asian it doesnt matter.

[steakandrice]

Yeah,

Not fobby, but asian-american.

(Asian girls are way hotter)

[TTChino]

Girlfriend, I guess anything.

Marriage, definitely asian. Though I think I'd have to say Chinese, Korean, Japanese most likely.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

I prefer Chinese but when it all comes down to it I don't care because who knows who I will meet and what will happen in the future.

[kimpossible]

For those of you [Asian guys] targetting Asian women for marriage - would a partial Asian woman fit the bill or no? Just curious. No need for SWK to answer this.

[TTChino]

For those of you [Asian guys] targetting Asian women for marriage - would a partial Asian woman fit the bill or no? Just curious. No need for SWK to answer this.

As long as she has a strong asian identity culture wise. It's not the looks really, its the culture and similar background that would make me primarily look for an asian or possibly partial asian woman.

[Emperor_Mike]

Doesn't matter. The family believes in marrying out anyway.

[kimpossible]

Doesn't matter. The family believes in marrying out anyway.

Do you mean your family? If that is what you mean, do they think marrying out is better or that it's not a big deal to them? Sorry if I'm misinterpreting.

[Emperor_Mike]

Do you mean your family? If that is what you mean, do they think marrying out is better or that it's not a big deal to them? Sorry if I'm misinterpreting.

Oh, it's not a big deal to them. I'm an amalgamation of God know's what anyway so if there were conscious objections I wouldn't be what I am today. My parents are half chinese and a quarter/sixth/half something else which makes me...something. Ah hell.

They don't mind if I marry out. That'll do. :blush:

[kimpossible]

*nods* You don't have a race to 'stick' with. Funny, I kind of understand that one. :)

[thaite]

I think a partial Asian women fits the bill perfectly.

[Chester]

For those of you [Asian guys] targetting Asian women for marriage - would a partial Asian woman fit the bill or no?
If we're talking hypothetical, in terms of satisfying "cultural prerequisites," there's nothing culturally less Asian about hapas, considering the wide range of "Asianness" in Asian Americans. So, yeah, a "partial Asian woman" could certainly fit "the bill."

But I don't really "target" anything -- it's more like a hopeful preference for me. In the end, there are a lot of factors -- aside from race -- to consider, and it's not like I'm dealing with a tremendous surplus of options.

[SunWuKong]

For those of you [Asian guys] targetting Asian women for marriage - would a partial Asian woman fit the bill or no? Just curious. No need for SWK to answer this.

hey! :laugh:

it's all about culture and language for me, not race. or more specifically, for any future kids/family i might have. that being said, if i were to raise a family in Asia, i wouldn't even care if the woman is unfamiliar with Chinese culture, because the family and kids would already be immersed in it.

[kimpossible]

if i were to raise a family in Asia, i wouldn't even care if the woman is unfamiliar with Chinese culture, because the family and kids would already be immersed in it.

That's a good point.

[Deadpool]

Seeing as both my sisters are in IR relationships I don't want my future clan to be a bunch of half-breed mutts.
So I'll have to say prefer Alizee.

[kimpossible]

What's Alizee?

edit: anyone? Alizee? Bueller... Bueller... Bueller...

[deez nuts]

What's Alizee?

edit: anyone? Alizee? Bueller... Bueller... Bueller...

fruit flavored liquor sorta like remy red.

[Chester]

What's Alizee?

edit: anyone? Alizee?
"Alizé"

A fruit-flavor-diluted cognac, essentially. Remy Red, I believe, would be Remy-Martin's attempt to co-opt Alizé's market...with Hypnotiq as an even more recent contestant to the throne, I think.

Here's a Hypnotiq drink that I immodestly call "The Chester Cooler":

1/4 Hypnotiq
1/4 Apple-Flavored Vodka
1/2 7-Up or Sprite Soda

1. Serve in a highball/Collins glass, on the rocks.
2. Watch your vagina grow to immense proportions.

[kimpossible]

So Chester's Cooler will make a vagina grow to immense proportions? Will it do anything for male genitalia?

[stunninglyAsian]

Yeah,

Not fobby, but asian-american.

(Asian girls are way hotter)

What's wrong with fobby? Some of 'em are cool- I think they dress better than AA

For those of you [Asian guys] targetting Asian women for marriage - would a partial Asian woman fit the bill or no? Just curious. No need for SWK to answer this.

Yes. But she has to be at least 65% Asian. After DNA testing, I would ask her to marry me. :laugh:
Sure, why not...

[Chester]

So Chester's Cooler will make a vagina grow to immense proportions? Will it do anything for male genitalia?
I think one's actual penis remains the same, but one's testicles are lost, forever, along with one's sense of shame and dignity.

Ah, but it's a crisp, refreshing drink.

[steakandrice]

[QUOTE=stunninglyAsian]What's wrong with fobby? Some of 'em are cool- I think they dress better than AA

[QUOTE]


I'm not talking shit about fobs...and I bet some are cool...hell I'm friends with some. Wait a second..., they dress better than AAs??? I guess if you're into that "Taiwan/HK" style, then go for it.

I like AAs because they're more americanized. So, as a hapa...I feel that I would be able to click better with AAs. Also...this comes from my personal experiences with each of the 2 groups as well.

[stunninglyAsian]

Nah... not the taiwan/HK style. Hell, I don't even know what that is. I like the funky Japanese style.

[Cipherous]

For those of you [Asian guys] targetting Asian women for marriage - would a partial Asian woman fit the bill or no? Just curious. No need for SWK to answer this.

yes

will you marry me?

all jokes aside, I can only speak for myself and I can honestly say that I don't give two shits about race. Granted, that there is a more likely chance that I may relate better to an Asian American due to similiar experiences. However, thats about it.

what matters most is that we make each other happy and thats about it.

Just because she is also of Asian decent does not imply that I would be happy with her.

[coagulated fat]

Hmm..interesting discussion here...for me, a Caucasian male, I prefer Asian girls strongly, although not because of all the negative stereotypes and other uncivilised reasons but because I've found out that we are very compatible personality-wise.
There is no standard Asian girl personality, so it is impossible for you to get along with one race better "personality-wise" over another race.

[SunWuKong]

There is no standard Asian girl personality, so it is impossible for you to get along with one race better "personality-wise" over another race.

it's ok. i think many of us already rolled our collective eyes at what he said.

[deez nuts]

Hmm..interesting discussion here...for me, a Caucasian male, I prefer Asian girls strongly, although not because of all the negative stereotypes and other uncivilised reasons but because I've found out that we are very compatible personality-wise. Tis true that there may be language/cultural barriers but this is not something that can't be worked on. I try to learn her language and her culture. When my girlfriend and I are together we see each other as people first and there's been many a time that she and I forgot which race we were.

**wipes away a tear**

don't front. you like asian chicks cuz your big white cock in their small dainty asian hands would look like a squirrel hugging a telephone pole.

[applehead]

nice image.

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

**wipes away a tear**

don't front. you like asian chicks cuz your big white cock in their small dainty asian hands would look like a squirrel hugging a telephone pole.
Behave CSB, give him a chance.

Just_Some_Guy is your girlfriend registered here? We'd love to hear from her too.

[deez nuts]

nice image.


http://www.gottshall.com/squirrels/ovalsq1.gif

[deez nuts]

Behave CSB, give him a chance.

Just_Some_Guy is your girlfriend registered here? We'd love to hear from her too.


calm down, i was fucking around.

[ChinaLama]

dang, that guy's got a big cock, then.

[TTChino]

Or, a really small squirrel

[applehead]

aaaaaaaaaw. squirrel.
RIP

[deez nuts]

Or, a really small squirrel


squirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrel!

motherfucker wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[Chris]

squirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrel!

motherfucker wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


Dude bro you been smokin too much weed have you ;)

[deez nuts]

Dude bro you been smokin too much weed have you ;)




http://www.threebrain.com/weeeeee.shtml


edit: weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

[deez nuts]

Off topic: Why is it that when a White guy comes on to an AA forum AA men are ready and willing to try and slit my throat?




because we hate you!

[TTChino]

He was kidding! =P

[Chris]

CSB - I've read your posts before and you seem a very mature and intelligent guy. I even commended you (indirectly) for being your own man and going out there just playing the dating game, so I don't get it how you insult me, unless of course, you're joking.


Actually it how you presented yourself in the beginning that we have a problem with. We have plenty of nonasian on here and we don't have a problem with. Even a few that is respected here but if you bring up the race card and flaunt it around. How does that make us feel.

Use me as an example. I don't go around say "I'm Asian, I'm Gay, I love cock yadda, yadda, I want some ass* Im just chris around here. who by chance run the GLBT forum. Read your post again and tell me you're not doing that.

[moJo]

Off topic: Why is it that when a White guy comes on to an AA forum AA men are ready and willing to try and slit my throat?


I'm generally a lurker, but i had to respond. Are you really that oblivious? And it's not just Asian guys who are quick to respond. I'm an Asian chick as are a lot of the others who've questioned you.

here's your answer, but coagulated fat already told you earlier:
Because you, specifically YOU, are generalizing Asian women by implying we all have similar personalities. :rolleyes:

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

To answer your question Proud: No, I do not have my girlfriend on here but I'm sure there are Asian women on here who have White boyfriends/husbands (I may be wrong) so I suggest you can get their perspective on White boyfriends/husbands.
Just_Some_Guy you are on quite a serious stereotyping roll aren't you? Since when did I mention I was interested in hearing about white boyfriends and husbands??? You mentioned you had an Asian girlfriend and I merely invited her to join this forum as I invite other Asians and non-Asians interested.
I'm sure there is'nt a bad or negative experience that many AA men make it out to be. If they do give their perspective then I'm more than willing to contribute to the discussion.
Well, I was giving you slack but after these comments I agree with the others. Since you've come here with preconceived notions of how AA men and women think already.

Interesting you post here but you do not encourage your girlfriend to. You have an Asian girlfriend yet you do not simply state that you like your girlfriend but instead say how you like all Asian girls.

[AngryABCGirl]

Off topic: Why is it that when a White guy comes on to an AA forum AA men are ready and willing to try and slit my throat?


It's not White guys, it's White guys like you who stereotype people. You might have to worry about teh Asian women like me who'll slit things off other than your throat.

[Ogumo]

Wow the asian women on this site have taken charge of this situation. *Arousing* haha.

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

It's not White guys, it's White guys like you who stereotype people. You might have to worry about teh Asian women like me who'll slit things off other than your throat.
Maybe that's why he won't let his Asian gf post here.

[sdcheung]

we should rename him as Just_some_white_Idiot.

Touvlo, Nothing but Touvlo from him.

Touvlo=Stupidities, In Greek

[ChinaLama]

i'm coming back here after another 2 pages. If it's still nothing but flaming JSG, I think we've had enough. Thanks.

It's greatto question someone's assumptions and preferences, but is it really constructive to threaten to cut his balls off or call him a cracker? Does anyone honestly think he or she is educating someone when he or she says that?

[Tao]

i'm coming back here after another 2 pages. If it's still nothing but flaming JSG, I think we've had enough. Thanks.

It's greatto question someone's assumptions and preferences, but is it really constructive to threaten to cut his balls off or call him a cracker? Does anyone honestly think he or she is educating someone when he or she says that?
yeah even i was suprised at how quickly that went south.


but seriously Just Some Guy, making such blanket statements right off the bat isn't such a good idea. Especially if we don't know who you are yet, since all the information we have on you is that "you like asian girls." What other kind of response were you expecting?

[ChinaLama]

Chinalama - Again, you are the voice of reason on this board. I applaud your patience and your tolerance. For the others, well, I guess I did'nt know how much hostility I would get by just posting on an AA forum, bar the exception of a few more "radical" sites where I've been called, of all things, "Kkkracker" and an "Amerikkkan", even though I have no political affiliation to any Neo-nazi group.

JSG , the reason people got pissed off at you is cuz you started generalizing how all Asian girls are shy, or Asian girls are more likely to by shy than not. There are a few other things, too, but you'll need to sift through the comments.

[Tao]

tell me something Just Some Guy, do you do anything else besides talk about your relationships? If so I'd like to hear about it, that way I won't think that all you do each day is fool around with members of the opposite sex. It'll provide me with a complete picture of who you are, and will prevent me from stereotyping you. thanks

PS: examples of stuff you can mention is your major, occupation, where you live, your family's background? anything that'll make me think you focus on more important things than just girls.

[Martinkou]

My parent's don't mind IR at all - for one, Asians are quite a rarity where I live, and for the most part, only white girls have found me attractive in the past. :(

[applehead]

i'm coming back here after another 2 pages. If it's still nothing but flaming JSG, I think we've had enough. Thanks.

It's greatto question someone's assumptions and preferences, but is it really constructive to threaten to cut his balls off or call him a cracker? Does anyone honestly think he or she is educating someone when he or she says that?

why is it flaming?
he asked a question.
and they're answering that question.

[coagulated fat]

Excuse me then. I thought you wanted to hear what an Asian girl's experience was like in dating White men.

In anycase I'm still inviting the Asian female posters on here to talk about their relationships with their White boyfriends and partners. Any takers?

Oh, I do not control my girlfriend Proud. She's got a free mind and believe me when I say she does whatever she wants to do.

Why not go for all shy women, instead of all Asian women, if shy is your type?

I don't have a problem with you because you are white, in fact I often find myself defending white male/asian female relationships because my father is white. However the reason you gave for dating exclusively asians reveals your ignorance because of your insistence on the existence of a "standard" asian woman who conveniently molds into the stereotypes that society has set in place portraying asian females as meek, shy, submissive, etc. White boys can date whomever they want, of course, but if you don't want to be attacked for having racist motivations then you should probably study up a little further on why you're dating solely asian chicks instead of dating solely shy chicks. The two are not one and the same.

[kimpossible]

tell me something Just Some Guy, do you do anything else besides talk about your relationships? If so I'd like to hear about it, that way I won't think that all you do each day is fool around with members of the opposite sex. It'll provide me with a complete picture of who you are, and will prevent me from stereotyping you. thanks

PS: examples of stuff you can mention is your major, occupation, where you live, your family's background? anything that'll make me think you focus on more important things than just girls.

Tao -- Do you mean to say there's something more important than girls in life? :eek: lol

Right now, all I can think about is relationships and the Asian girl I'm with just gives me goosebumps right now.

I guess that would be a big negatory to your question there Tao. I'm just tripping on how he needs to write 'Asian girl' everytime instead of girl.

CF> some solid posts getting to the heart of the issue. *salutes* better than i could have done.

[sandra]

In anycase I'm still inviting the Asian female posters on here to talk about their relationships with their White boyfriends and partners. Any takers?

no thanks. i never go for white guys b/c most tend to be interested in us asian girls b/c they are socially inept (or, to to put it in a nicer way - shy) and are hoping for us to be as well.

[SunWuKong]

CF> some solid posts getting to the heart of the issue. *salutes* better than i could have done.

yup. i don't care enough to enlighten him out of his pretentiousness. i'm sure his girlfriend really appreciates that he thinks all the Asian women he's ever met are shy Asian girls with personalities that are so compatible with his own.

see her as a person first, indeed.
forget her race, indeed.

[>:^|]

Whenever I see somebody posting on a single note (like in another thread that was closed), I think troll.

What's the point in feeding trolls?

[Irezumi Kiss]

no thanks. i never go for white guys b/c most tend to be interested in us asian girls b/c they are socially inept (or, to to put it in a nicer way - shy) and are hoping for us to be as well.

Didn't you once say that Johnny Depp was hot, tho?

:boldred:

[AngryABCGirl]

no thanks. i never go for white guys b/c most tend to be interested in us asian girls b/c they are socially inept (or, to to put it in a nicer way - shy) and are hoping for us to be as well.

Same here, that and I think Asian guys are higher.

[Tao]

Same here, that and I think Asian guys are higher.
higher? you mean taller? on higher moral ground? i'm confused:confused:

[Irezumi Kiss]

higher? you mean taller? on higher moral ground? i'm confused:confused:

well, most of my Asian guy friends always wanna smoke weed with me...that's a crazy high right there...

[mr. x]

Just Some Guy, your welcome to donate to the yw fund to gain some trust

[Fireblade]

Woo... anyway, back to the question...

Don't care to give a carebear.

Hey, if she's interested in me, and vice-versa, do I need to play the ol' race card to evaluate how much I want to be with a person? Screw that. I'll all for IR dating, if it's not developed on the grounds of race-affinity.

Marriage, dating, it's all the same. You end up with the person you choose to be with. I don't see race as being an issue.

[ChinaLama]

higher? you mean taller? on higher moral ground? i'm confused:confused:

she has yellow fever. :licka:

[ChinaLama]

higher? you mean taller? on higher moral ground? i'm confused:confused:

she has yellow fever. :licka:

Anyway, I would probably prefer to marry Chinese American, but I'd hope her Chinese is better than mine so she can communicate w/ my parents and probably to better teach our kids Chinese (there's no way I can do that since my Chinese is significantly worse than when I was 6 and just arrived in the country :-P). Most preferably Shanghainese American of course. :-) As for dating, I would more likely date an Asian American woman is just because I know more Asian American women than I know women of other races. Wouldn't really mind dating or even marrying white. In fact, on a purely sexual basis, I interact with more white women; it's just that a computer screen usually separates us. That and copyrights. duduududu

My one criterion for at least one of my gfs is she has to be good looking enough to make my friends jealous. Specifically all my friends who thought I'd never get laid. Objectification? Perhaps. But Kant's categorical imperative only states that one must never treat people as solely means but always as ends. So according to Judeo-Christian-twisted-philosophy-morals, I'm in the clear as long as I treat her as a person in the end, even if I do treat her as an object somewhat. ;)

Or according to Bob Seger morals, it's all good as long as she uses me, and i use her, and neithr of us care. :)

[nonamerasian]

NA, please be more specific. :-)

There seems to be more talk about Asian woman and non-Asian man (Caucasian) relationships than Asian man and non-Asian woman relationships. I was wondering if that is indicative of a double standard.

Asian guys who haven’t dated anyone who wasn’t White. Would they cause as much a stir as an Asian woman who has only went out with non-Asians?

I’m not talking about whether in theory the should be held to the same standard, but rather if in real-life, are Asian men and Asian women ruled by the same measuring stick.

[ChinaLama]

I think, if a double standard exists, it's because there are far fewer AM/WF relationships. I think stereotyping does have something to do w/ it-- that Asian guys are seen as "geeky" and "small-dicked" while Asian women are seen as "exotic" and "sexy" plays a role in that. Also, dating a white girl is kind of like social status climbing, since white people are the most privileged group in the country. So bagging a white chick becomes a fuck you to all the stereotypes that keeps an Asian man down. I hope that made some sense.

In other words-- when society no longer has a double standard of how AMs and AFs are seen as attractive, then I think AMs and AFs should come under the same scrutiny. Actually, if that were the case, that AMs and AFs were to be seen as equally attractive, without this whole exoticizing baggage, then the whole discussion of IR relationships, particularly the Asian-white relationship, becomes moot.

[nonamerasian]

If men are allowed to inflate their egos with a status blonde, why aren't women allowed to climb, too?

That's not fair.

(*I'm not saying all relationships are status-relationships.*)

[ChinaLama]

Maybe I shouldn't have used that status thing. oops i guess i opened a whole can of worms there. maybe that's what the next 7 pages will be. ;)

Sure women can status climb-- that's what gold diggers are for. :) But why is it that automatically, an Asian man's "status" is lower than a white man's? Actually, w/ the way the stereotypes work, an Asian woman is higher "status" than a white woman, so white guys hunting after Asian women are engaging in their own status play. Asian men doing the opposite are just counterbalancing and asserting their manhood.

Keep digging, CL. You'll hit 6 feet soon.

[coagulated fat]

Like I said earlier I can only speak from my own experience. Besides, is "shy" really derogatory? I thought loud, obnoxious and superficial were alot more harmful stereotypes. Also, I did not mention any physical attributes associated with Asian women which are alot more harmful than "shy".
It is not yours to say which stereotypes are harmful and which are not.

[applehead]

GOD he sounds like morientes
droning on and on and repeating
the samething over and over again.

[TTChino]

This one time...in asia? I met this asian chick........zzzzzzz <snkt> huh? wha?

[deez nuts]

let's not use the asians diss me and piss on me, for whatever reason, approach. cuz for every asian fella that disses and pisses on a white fella for whatever reason. there's a white fella out there that does the same to an asian fella.

my game is like........whoa....

my thoinga thoinga thoing thoing is like...whoa.

**ooooh look at me...i get teased by asians...poor meee...i'm shy.......feel sorry for me....i am such a victim. heeeeelp meeeeeeee. waaaaaaaah waaaaaaaah**

there there buttercups it'll be ok.

[kimpossible]

My girlfriend ( How was that, HH? ;) )

To be real for a sec, it's a good start. Your experience here and with Asians or Asian Americans is going to be what you make it. Don't pull a race card as an excuse for your faux pas and take a good hard look at how your interactions with people dictate their responses to you. You've offended enough Asian females to bring one out of lurkerdom just to respond to you.

You say you've had negative run-ins elsewhere; I can believe it. You made an entrance of a passive aggressive ass, naming your motivation to come here based on racial and gender generalizations and racially motivated sexual preferences. We know nothing of you other than what you've said. You're not the only white guy here (or non-Asian guy for that matter) with an Asian significant other, so obviously if those guys find a way to become part of the community, maybe you should observe the differences and examine what it is you are doing that is so offensive.

Either you're currently clueless or you're a troll. If there is any part of you that would like to settle down in an online Asian American community for once and truly learn and contribute, then you're going to re-examine your interaction and purpose here (and the other sites you were at) in order to relate to people. I can tell you both as a primarily white person with some Asian blood, and spouse of an Asian, you will need to learn to look towards Asian males and females as both a strength and resource because they could one day be your family members, or you may have hapa children.

Now for more of a traditionally HH response, time to shit or get off the pot. You're of majority age, can vote or die fighting for the country, I expect you're old enough to be able to socialize with other people. I suggest completely starting over. Post a new intro, PM tapestrybabe to close the other and present a more balanced representation of yourself. Should you continue to dance around words, play the victim and continually single out Asian American women as dating material and Asian American men as asshole haters who are jealous of you as the basis of your posts, you get The Finger and The Cold Shoulder from me (stolen somewhat from thaite). Otherwise, I think most people here will be willing to overlook a rough start.

Your choice.

[ChinaLama]

i agree with HH.

[TTChino]

let's not use the asians diss me and piss on me, for whatever reason, approach. cuz for every asian fella that disses and pisses on a white fella for whatever reason. there's a white fella out there that does the same to an asian fella.

my game is like........whoa....

my thoinga thoinga thoing thoing is like...whoa.

**ooooh look at me...i get teased by asians...poor meee...i'm shy.......feel sorry for me....i am such a victim. heeeeelp meeeeeeee. waaaaaaaah waaaaaaaah**

there there buttercups it'll be ok.

Can I be your buttercup? :retard:

[deez nuts]

Can I be your buttercup? :retard:

no you're not a shy oriental boy

[ChinaLama]

no you're not a shy oriental boy

I'm a shy Oriental boy. pick me!

[deez nuts]

you had me at "i'm"

[Tao]

I'm a shy Oriental boy. pick me!

you ain't no dainty lotus blossom!

[ChinaLama]

everyone needs a little bit of the xiang xia ren.

[nonamerasian]

HH, at least I was honest when I introduced myself as opposed to the other White and Black and possibly Hispanic posters who may well be into Asian women but hide it under something else. Let's admit it and face the music - why would other non-Asian posters post on a site where the issues are AA? There must be a specific reason why they would want to post and for the life of me I would'nt really understand otherwise it is because they like Asian interests which invariably means liking Asian women. Again no offence - I thought I was just being honest.

I'm not a guy, but I'll answer none of the less.

I found my way here through a series of links on various ethnic-specific sites. The original site with a link being a Black, in particular, African-American-centered site.

I didn't like the other boards I found myself on while following the series of links. I'd lurk for a while, perhaps post once or twice, but didn't stay mostly because the others had really crappy formats.

So I guess the first draw to this site over those others was the format. It caught my eye.

I did my lurking thing, particularly in the rant room, and then began to appreciate the site due to its content.

I still wasn't planning on staying although I became interested in posting my opinions on some things discussed. I went through my couple of posts phase, didn't think I needed to even bother with an introduction thread, but then got hooked.

I ended up making my intro and I have been here since.

I didn't care what race this site catered to. It's not the first site I've joined that didn't cater to my race. If this site were Blackworld, Brownworld, or whatnot, I'd still be here.

This is a good site and to think the only reason a non-Asian would want to take part in it is some infatuation over their races' women or men rather than the issues discussed is selling it short.

So speak for yourself.

[Ogumo]

To be real for a sec, it's a good start. Your experience here and with Asians or Asian Americans is going to be what you make it. Don't pull a race card as an excuse for your faux pas and take a good hard look at how your interactions with people dictate their responses to you. You've offended enough Asian females to bring one out of lurkerdom just to respond to you.

You say you've had negative run-ins elsewhere; I can believe it. You made an entrance of a passive aggressive ass, naming your motivation to come here based on racial and gender generalizations and racially motivated sexual preferences. We know nothing of you other than what you've said. You're not the only white guy here (or non-Asian guy for that matter) with an Asian significant other, so obviously if those guys find a way to become part of the community, maybe you should observe the differences and examine what it is you are doing that is so offensive.

Either you're currently clueless or you're a troll. If there is any part of you that would like to settle down in an online Asian American community for once and truly learn and contribute, then you're going to re-examine your interaction and purpose here (and the other sites you were at) in order to relate to people. I can tell you both as a primarily white person with some Asian blood, and spouse of an Asian, you will need to learn to look towards Asian males and females as both a strength and resource because they could one day be your family members, or you may have hapa children.

Now for more of a traditionally HH response, time to shit or get off the pot. You're of majority age, can vote or die fighting for the country, I expect you're old enough to be able to socialize with other people. I suggest completely starting over. Post a new intro, PM tapestrybabe to close the other and present a more balanced representation of yourself. Should you continue to dance around words, play the victim and continually single out Asian American women as dating material and Asian American men as asshole haters who are jealous of you as the basis of your posts, you get The Finger and The Cold Shoulder from me (stolen somewhat from thaite). Otherwise, I think most people here will be willing to overlook a rough start.

Your choice.

Damn girl that was terrific *tear*.

[Ogumo]

I'm not a guy, but I'll answer none of the less.

I found my way here through a series of links on various ethnic-specific sites. The original site with a link being a Black, in particular, African-American-centered site.

I didn't like the other boards I found myself on while following the series of links. I'd lurk for a while, perhaps post once or twice, but didn't stay mostly because the others had really crappy formats.

So I guess the first draw to this site over those others was the format. It caught my eye.

I did my lurking thing, particularly in the rant room, and then began to appreciate the site due to its content.

I still wasn't planning on staying although I became interested in posting my opinions on some things discussed. I went through my couple of posts phase, didn't think I needed to even bother with an introduction thread, but then got hooked.

I ended up making my intro and I have been here since.

I didn't care what race this site catered to. It's not the first site I've joined that didn't cater to my race. If this site were Blackworld, Brownworld, or whatnot, I'd still be here.

This is a good site and to think the only reason a non-Asian would want to take part in it is some infatuation over their races' women or men rather than the issues discussed is selling it short.

So speak for yourself.


This one was terrific also. So terrific that you are now a sellout.

[nonamerasian]

This one was terrific also. So terrific that you are now a sellout.

Tell me what's new.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

HH, at least I was honest when I introduced myself as opposed to the other White and Black and possibly Hispanic posters who may well be into Asian women but hide it under something else. Let's admit it and face the music - why would other non-Asian posters post on a site where the issues are AA? There must be a specific reason why they would want to post and for the life of me I would'nt really understand otherwise it is because they like Asian interests which invariably means liking Asian women. Again no offence - I thought I was just being honest.

Uh as far as I know, you DID hide it. You said you were interested in Asian culture or the Asian American experience or whatever. You didn't start fessing up or becoming honest until other people revealed the truth for you.

[Tao]

This one was terrific also. So terrific that you are now a sellout.
LOL, yeah Non Am, that was truely beautiful:cry:

[Tao]

Uh as far as I know, you DID hide it. You said you were interested in Asian culture or the Asian American experience or whatever. You didn't start fessing up or becoming honest until other people revealed the truth for you.
Don't worry just some guy, unlike gumby here, I appreciate white men. I'm willing to learn about white-american culture and foods too! Maybe you can teach me english? No? I find everything about americans to be wonderful and want to spend more time getting to know you. May I call you white lightning? I can be your lotus blossom.:wub:

[Spikey_Hair]

I'm attracted to women of all colors. But I see more hot white girls than asians. Maybe I'm living in the wrong place.

[Ogumo]

Don't worry just some guy, unlike gumby here, I appreciate white men. I'm willing to learn about white-american culture and foods too! Maybe you can teach me english? No? I find everything about americans to be wonderful and want to spend more time getting to know you. May I call you white lightning? I can be your lotus blossom.:wub:

Do not forget to ask him to buy your eye surgeries. You will be a sellout if you do not and you dont really want me to call you a sellout..do you?

[Tao]

Do not forget to ask him to buy your eye surgeries. You will be a sellout if you do not and you dont really want me to call you a sellout..do you?
you're right, what was I thinking! dear white lightning please gimme eye lid folds and a nose job please! thanks

-sincerely yours,
lotus blossom-chan

[Ogumo]

Asking for a nose job was just greed. haha

[ChinaLama]

and a b00b job. I mean small chested is fine but tao, that's just ridiculous.

[deez nuts]

a man's identity and form of acceptance should not be through his significant other, regardless of race issues. you shouldn't be wearing it like some sort of all access badge 24/7.

that just makes you whipped and being whipped annoys us. this doesn't make us racist cuz we hate you. we hate you cuz you're a whipped little boy that annoys us.

please be a man and don't be p00say whipped. just say no to being p00say whipped, mmmmmmmm'kay?

don't be p00say whipped. whip dat p00say.

[applehead]

aaaaaahahahaha.
p00say.

[Adaon]

I would dear like to know what makes some guys, like Ras and JSG, think that since they got with/married an Asian woman, that all of a sudden, they were enlightened or some junk. Or that somehow,now, they are different because that got an Asian girl to say okay to them. Sheesh. And what makes them (these guys) think that though their girl(s) might be Asian, that somehow the rest of us (Asian folk) would agree with their girls that they might be the best thing to happen since the electronic ricecooker? :angry:

Oh and btw, she doesn't have to be Asian. :happy:

[rice cracker]

I don't know who Ras is but I know for sure that what my gal thinks of me is what matters to me most of all. I don't really care what other people think of me although there are a few exceptions to this.

Oh, did I say that my gal did say that I was the best thing in her life since sliced bread and not the electric ricecooker? She told me this because, regardless of race, I was funny, sensitive, listened to her, was not sexist ala patriarchal and I did not try to control her.

When I read the second paragraph, I felt like Dac.

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

Oh, did I say that my gal did say that I was the best thing in her life since sliced bread and not the electric ricecooker? She told me this because, regardless of race, I was funny, sensitive, listened to her, was not sexist ala patriarchal and I did not try to control her.
I guess your GF is too shy to post this stuff herself on this website. Hmmm, have you even told her about this site or are you keeping her in ignorance worried she might learn something about you she won't like?

[Chester]

When I read the second paragraph, I felt like Dac.
Feh. Don't.

This has degenerated into obvious trolling. Don't feed the trolls...

[mr. x]

Please enlighten me.

actually you're dac's polar opposite

you are a white guy (supposedly) with a asian girl and dac hates white guys with asian girls

[rice cracker]

Feh. Don't.

This has degenerated into obvious trolling. Don't feed the trolls...

You're probably right. Besides, if even I can feel this way, the sentiment I'm trying to avoid expressing will be made without me.

[SunWuKong]

oh - p.s - i'm not trolling. as soon as i posted on here different members put me on trial but i never resorted to a tirade of verbal abuse.

no. people "put you on trial" after you made the implication that all Asian girls have one personality type by saying that your personality and the personality of Asian girls are very compatible. your attempts to defend yourself only led to you making comments that are increasingly asinine.

[Chester]

You're probably right. Besides, if even I can feel this way, the sentiment I'm trying to avoid expressing will be made without me.
Seriously. Too bad the ignore list doesn't cover quoting by third parties.

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

no. people "put you on trial" after you made the implication that all Asian girls have one personality type by saying that your personality and the personality of Asian girls are very compatible. your attempts to defend yourself only led to you making comments that are increasingly asinine.
He just doesn't get it and is trying to write it off as a witchhunt.

[Ogumo]

IOh, did I say that my gal did say that I was the best thing in her life since sliced bread and not the electric ricecooker?

This statement was ridiculous. You have begun to test my patience more than yahngbahn...

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

This statement was ridiculous. You have begun to test my patience more than yahngbahn...
Even more than MIC?! :D

[Ogumo]

Please enlighten me.

I don't think you want her to but with continueing comments like the "you are better than the rice cooker" I will treat you worse than DAC ever could...

[Ogumo]

Proud_Jook_Sing:

Not that much but close...

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

She knows about this site but did you ever wonder she's got a social life (plus she's alot smarter than me so she can finish her study assignments alot easier) Plus, I think that that is a good thing. Me? well i'm stuck on my computer (writing assignments and stuff) but i will be free.

oh - p.s - i'm not trolling. as soon as i posted on here different members put me on trial but i never resorted to a tirade of verbal abuse.
Bullshit! I don't think you even have a GF.

[Ogumo]

Hahaha. Why do think he doesnt have a girlfriend? What would he have to gain by lieing to strangers?

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

Hahaha. Why do think he doesnt have a girlfriend? What would he have to gain by lieing to strangers?
I think you can tell why by how evasive he is and never referring to his GF as his GF but instead as Asian girls. He's enjoying the trolling obviously.

[Ogumo]

Yes you are probably correct with your assumption.

[Ogumo]

This is correct. Haha what now? A conversation in japanese?

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

Someone please ban him. I think we've fed the troll enough.

[Ogumo]

you know what? you've made these sniping comments. i really don't want to offend you. if you're japanese just look at how your fellow countrymen and women treat fellow asians as opposed to whites like david beckham. and tell me how you could be so upset with me?

Let me explaine something to you right now. I havent lived in japan for a very long time... living in america for so long has had a small effect on the way I think. I dont agree with japanese sexism. If I don't agree with it from them do you think that I would agree with it from you? You must be insane if you think that I would. The racism part is for another thread. But yes I am upset with you and mostly upset with your ridiculous comment about the damn rice cooker.

[Ogumo]

Someone please ban him. I think we've fed the troll enough.

He hasnt done enough to be banned yet. Unless being a ass qualifies for a ban.

[John0101]

hey Just_Some_Guy, post a pic of you and your girl. I wanna see

[Ogumo]

:d

[SunWuKong]

closing.