Do women go after "exotic" guys?

[stunninglyAsian]

Do women go after "exotic" guys?

I've noticed that a lot of guys or the maxim type magazines will praise a girl for her exotic looks. Being exotic tends to be a plus for most guys. But is it the same with women? From what I've seen, most women tend to go after the guys with status, like the coolest kid in class or the quarterback of the varsity football team, rather than the exotic, left-field choice. I've never heard a woman say something like, "That guy in Biology is so cute, I love his exotic looks!"

[hooligan]

i've got a big penis and relatively brown skin. i'm exotic, do me!

[Tao]

i've got a big penis and relatively brown skin. i'm exotic, do me!TMI

[ChairmanMah]

love me long time.

[hooligan]

love me long time.
2 dollah make me hollah!?

[mr. x]

so if a gorgeous white girl sad "you love me long time?" u would like that? i mean maybe if she meant it ironically it'd be cute but if she kept doing it...

[Tao]

so if a gorgeous white girl sad "you love me long time?" u would like that? i mean maybe if she meant it ironically it'd be cute but if she kept doing it...
don't give a shit.....as long as she's hot....and no it's not a double standard if you know what kind of relationship you're getting yourself into to begin with.

[ChairmanMah]

i was kidn

[teaz0r]

remember the big hit?
when lance tried to fuck china chow.
and he said "me love you long time"

i just saw it on hbo.

[mr. x]

remember the big hit?
when lance tried to fuck china chow.
and he said "me love you long time"

i just saw it on hbo.

that wasnt the question. thats "do white guys like asian girls" which has been done to death. and i found that guy irritating, and i know that was the point and i know your not sposed to ask questions of a movie with little logic but what was she doing with him? if your gonna date a white guy who's not so great looking and a total ass then, wait wait he aint got much left besides money. you should date a white guy who's got a great heart. thats it

[teaz0r]

well china chow must have like him a teensy bit in the movie!
china chow likes marky mark in real life!

liked?

[Emperor_Mike]

I'm exotic. I like pineapples.

[Kuchana]

I sell deelites. Or sold rather.

[rice cracker]

There was a thread in the hapa forum about ethnic ambiguity as a trend now. So exotic looks for men and women are being marketed now. I see it in ads for products like Sketchers. I'm not sure how it affects women in general, but seeing more minority (or "exotic") faces in media must surely influence dating patterns. Maybe define what you mean by "exotic?" A face that's different than your own? Or the whole culture, for example Asiaphiles are known for their attraction to "exotic" Asian women for more qualities than just the physical.

[sandra]

kinda. i used to go after really uneducated guys because i thought that they were exotic (when compared to the guys in my circle of friends). then i'd try to force to go to school and see what i can make of them. like a project! i'm over that now. and, as one of my exes told me, it can be very demeaning to them. :(

[Tao]

wait....so what's considered exotic?

[ism]

An ex said she dated me cos she never dated an Asian before and wanted to find out what it was like. Sort of when I first tried anchovies on a pizza.

Another thought it was neat that an "All-American Girl" and Asian guy were a couple. I'm not sure if she was talking about how America's diversity is becoming more common or... something else. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

So... I'm not sure if it's really the exotic thing, or more like some kind of curious novelty. I tend to think it's the latter, as male asiaphiles generally would be willing to do lifetime commitments while women seem to treat it like this season's fashion.

[hooligan]

An ex said she dated me cos she never dated an Asian before and wanted to find out what it was like. Sort of when I first tried anchovies on a pizza.

Another thought it was neat that an "All-American Girl" and Asian guy were a couple. I'm not sure if she was talking about how America's diversity is becoming more common or... something else. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

So... I'm not sure if it's really the exotic thing, or more like some kind of curious novelty. I tend to think it's the latter, as male asiaphiles generally would be willing to do lifetime commitments while women seem to treat it like this season's fashion.
meaning: women are more fashionable than men.

haha, i hate anchovies, i guess we're just different from your average white guy?

[mr. x]

gosh id hate that though. cuz a flavor of the week goes away in a week u know?

course if u watch da movies the white womens have always had a thing for swarthy italians and frenchman

[Arex]

kinda. i used to go after really uneducated guys because i thought that they were exotic (when compared to the guys in my circle of friends). then i'd try to force to go to school and see what i can make of them. like a project! i'm over that now. and, as one of my exes told me, it can be very demeaning to them. :(
That's not going after someone "exotic!" That's just the tendency for women to go after "bad" guys in the hopes that they can be the one to change or "tame" the guys. (I've seen many a girl try and fail to tame some of my more rambunctious friends)

But I suppose that situation might be something analogous to a person seeing something "foreign" (and therefore intriguing or beautiful) and wanting to assert one's control over it to make it "theirs."

RX

[Green_Circle]

I think more women would open up to 'exotic' guys if they weren't chastised and made to feel that they are going against White male dominant society. Which of course is set up to allow themselves(WM) to cross into 'exotic' territory but not 'their' White women.
Without these constructs, there would indeed be a lot more crossing of lines. Antimiscegenation laws, lynchings(of old) and general ostracizing still have much impact and influence upon White females and by extension, all females who have bought into this White dominant system.

[stunninglyAsian]

I think more women would open up to 'exotic' guys if they weren't chastised and made to feel that they are going against White male dominant society. Which of course is set up to allow themselves(WM) to cross into 'exotic' territory but not 'their' White women.
Without these constructs, there would indeed be a lot more crossing of lines. Antimiscegenation laws, lynchings(of old) and general ostracizing still have much impact and influence upon White females and by extension, all females who have bought into this White dominant system.

I think it's more general than race, to me it seems like women have to act in a certain behaviour that is set by society. Any deviation from this mainstream behavior and the woman is seen as a freak. So they tend to be more conservative, whereas a guy is allowed to try out new things.

I still think this push for exoticness is still driven by men, women to me want more mainstream status in their man, they don't want people to question their "lack" of taste in men.

[tapestrybabe]

I think it's more general than race, to me it seems like women have to act in a certain behaviour that is set by society. Any deviation from this mainstream behavior and the woman is seen as a freak. So they tend to be more conservative, whereas a guy is allowed to try out new things.

I still think this push for exoticness is still driven by men, women to me want more mainstream status in their man, they don't want people to question their "lack" of taste in men.

i guess i can be labled as a freak than...
someone who has deviated from the norm...
whatever the norm maybe...
i mean, when it comes to men...
i dont think i've had the average experience...
than most ppl...

and what exactly is mainstream status...
good looks, good job, good car, etc??
for me... i'm SO INexperienced in the dating scene...
i feel i cant even answer half the questions on this board...
like what do you look for in a man, is a guy's style that important to you, or does his weight really matter... i mean... i think one can only answer those questions if one has experience... but without it... i feel i'm quite naive... about what exactly i want... what i go after, and look for, etc...

but seriously... if i were to ever experience the dating scene, being in a relationship... i truly believe i would be in it for myself... and not for wanting to gain acceptance from others...

[stunninglyAsian]

Tapestrybabe,

Well I mean mainstream like the all-American, blue-eyed, blonde haired guy that played football in high school or college, belonged to a frat, and is now a VP of a Fortune 500 company who goes out for drinks at a bar with his work buddies after getting off work at 5pm in his Acura and tries to look "hip" with his Oakley sunglasses, his slicked back hair, and his dept. store bought suit. He calls everybody his "buddy" at the bar while knocking back a Bud Light and has that endlessly optimistic business persona with all the charm of a used car salesman that is mistaken for a personality. Behind his vague MBA trained, pep-talk vernacular and his business swagger, he is afraid to put himself out there or to bear any risk of being labeled an outsider. Sorry, that kinda turned into a mini-rant.

That's good that you don't have the avg. experiences, who wants that- to be typical? And dont' let inexperience hinder you. You don't have to worry if you don't know what you want in a guy, you'll know what it is when you run into it. It's all about feeling and passion, not a checklist of characteristics. What I want in a girl changes a little each time and I try to keep an open mind, so really, even though I say I want a particular type of girl, who knows? Maybe I'll end up with something totally different. Good for you if you're in it for yourself.

[Bhodi_Li]

wait....so what's considered exotic?
Being stationed in Iraq.

[Kuchana]

Being stationed in Iraq.

For you or for others?? :smile:

[Bhodi_Li]

For you or for others?? :smile:
For others.... I hope.:biggrin:

[Kuchana]

For others.... I hope.:biggrin:

The others being the Iraqi women or women in general??? Sorry to be diggin hehe :biggrin:

[Bhodi_Li]

The others being the Iraqi women or women in general??? Sorry to be diggin hehe :biggrin:
Well, I thought it was "Exotic Guys," so thus the my comment. Now if the question is what do men find exotic....

[Kuchana]

Well, I thought it was "Exotic Guys," so thus the my comment. Now if the question is what do men find exotic....

Spare me the details please :biggrin:

[Bhodi_Li]

Spare me the details please :biggrin:
LMAO. We'll save that for another forum.

Dear Penthouse Letters,

You're not going to believe this......

[kimpossible]

Are fobby computer science roleplaying geek businessmen exotic? I like those. Especially if they read slashdot, kuro5hin and the register. Even more so if they have a collection of 3E books and 3.5 but really want to play Warhammer instead but it won't go D20. It makes me want to hug them and squeeze them and call them Fred.

[tapestrybabe]

Tapestrybabe,

Well I mean mainstream like the all-American, blue-eyed, blonde haired guy that played football in high school or college, belonged to a frat, and is now a VP of a Fortune 500 company who goes out for drinks at a bar with his work buddies after getting off work at 5pm in his Acura and tries to look "hip" with his Oakley sunglasses, his slicked back hair, and his dept. store bought suit. He calls everybody his "buddy" at the bar while knocking back a Bud Light and has that endlessly optimistic business persona with all the charm of a used car salesman that is mistaken for a personality. Behind his vague MBA trained, pep-talk vernacular and his business swagger, he is afraid to put himself out there or to bear any risk of being labeled an outsider. Sorry, that kinda turned into a mini-rant.

wow, it sounds like you know what the typical mainstream guy is... more than i do... cuz according to your way of thinking... i seem not to have mainstream taste... i honestly do have a preference... its not a better or worse preference... but it just is... and in the long run... i would prefer an asian over a white, blonde hair, blue eyed boy any day... and frat boys in college... they were so not my type of crowd i associated with... and i dont drink... so that knocking back a bud light doesnt do anything for me... and i'm an artist... so i'm not sure if i could deal with a business man who wore a suit all the time...

so i'm wondering... where have you gotten this concept of what the typical mainstream guy is?? media, i suppose...

[Craig]

Are fobby computer science roleplaying geek businessmen exotic? I like those. Especially if they read slashdot, kuro5hin and the register. Even more so if they have a collection of 3E books and 3.5 but really want to play Warhammer instead but it won't go D20. It makes me want to hug them and squeeze them and call them Fred.No, those are mainstream guys from my perspective. I've gone to work and school with plenty of those mainstream guys. I have also hung out after work and on the weekends with these good decent folk.

[stunninglyAsian]

so i'm wondering... where have you gotten this concept of what the typical mainstream guy is?? media, i suppose...

I came up with this primarily from my experiences in college and work. I really didn't come up with this until after I had some job experience in an office setting.

[Fireblade]

No. No one wants to date a Martian. :frown:

But seriously, I think it's becoming more accepted for women in America to date minorities. There's still room for improvement, but at least with people around 18 in Nor. Cal, it seems to be ok. I've been asked out (not other way around surprisingly) by girls [white if you must ask] to go on a date with them.

It's just weird when you think to yourself "they only want me, cuz I'm asian." Oh well, whatever works I guess. :confused:

[mz iCe coLd]

i dont usually see guys around that look "exotic" or maybe i just dont notice or they downplay their exotic-ness. but then again what do u consider exotic? im just thinking really dark and noticeably not from this country?

[hooligan]

i dont usually see guys around that look "exotic" or maybe i just dont notice or they downplay their exotic-ness. but then again what do u consider exotic? im just thinking really dark and noticeably not from this country?
tony and i are really exotic. we look like we're straight from the mainland.

[stunninglyAsian]

i dont usually see guys around that look "exotic" or maybe i just dont notice or they downplay their exotic-ness. but then again what do u consider exotic? im just thinking really dark and noticeably not from this country?

I guess for us Asians, we don't see anybody as exotic because we are the most exotic and mystical creatures that walk the face of the earth for most people. Exotic can be anything that's very different from the norm, from race, fashion, to even personality like a different way of thinking.

What I was trying to ask was, "Do feel more comfortable with socially acceptable, conservative guys? Or are you more interested in the left-field choices?"

If a girl dates a guy on the football team who wears A&F or BR, is part of a frat, and has blonde hair and blue eyes, it's a socially acceptable choice for a mate. Nobody will question you. It's a safe bet. On the other hand, if a girl were to date say, an AM who really isn't into the clubbing scene and is an artist, that would be the left-field choice that society would disapprove of.

[DragonKnight]

Bah!

<--Wallflower

[Tao]

tony and i are really exotic. we look like we're straight from the mainland.

i need my green card too

[tapestrybabe]

I guess for us Asians, we don't see anybody as exotic because we are the most exotic and mystical creatures that walk the face of the earth for most people. Exotic can be anything that's very different from the norm, from race, fashion, to even personality like a different way of thinking.

What I was trying to ask was, "Do feel more comfortable with socially acceptable, conservative guys? Or are you more interested in the left-field choices?"

If a girl dates a guy on the football team who wears A&F or BR, is part of a frat, and has blonde hair and blue eyes, it's a socially acceptable choice for a mate. Nobody will question you. It's a safe bet. On the other hand, if a girl were to date say, an AM who really isn't into the clubbing scene and is an artist, that would be the left-field choice that society would disapprove of.

what are you implying here?? that asian males are not seen as the mainstream type of choice... or are you talking about character, personality... that football, frat boys are far more a socially acceptable choice to choose, than... lets say an artist... either way... i think your way of thinking is skewed... i can see, if were talking about the media... and discussing whats mainstream and not mainstream... but if were talking about personal choice... is there really a mainstream choice??

[tapestrybabe]

i mean, the way i see things is... this world is a big place... more diverse than what one sees on tv, in the movies, or even what one experiences in their own inner circle of social network... theres more out there than what meets the eye...

[Deadpool]

Ive also noticed that guys tend to be more open to dating X race of women simply for the "exotic" Factor. It's something different from the mainstream cornbread caucasian women. I hear this a lot from guys anyways. "WHite women? *yawn* Been there done that." Don't really get this kinda attitude vice cersa though. Seem the closest thing to Exotic and dateable, like Mr. X said, are Anglo Europeans.
Anything else and you are climbing down the social ladder.

[sinisterpanda]

Someone once told me, that she's really into asian guys, and that if she was just 20 years younger, she would jump me. I was thoroughly freaked out, and kind of happy that i'm someone's fetish.

[kimpossible]

Someone once told me, that she's really into asian guys, and that if she was just 20 years younger, she would jump me.


nice.

An ex said she dated me cos she never dated an Asian before and wanted to find out what it was like. Sort of when I first tried anchovies on a pizza.

Another thought it was neat that an "All-American Girl" and Asian guy were a couple.

what the hell is wrong with people?