"I Love You"

[karizma]

>> can you put into words what love feels like? have you ever been in love? have you ever said it and not meant it? do you think people today say it too freely which in turn lessens the value of the four letter word? cmon i want some answers!!! :wub:

[deez nuts]

Answer to 1st question: I guess love feels like what Jerry Mcguire said best "You complete me."

Answer to 2nd question: Yes was engaged once too. Yes, there was a potential Mrs. Bunboy in my life.

Answer to 3rd question: Surprisingly no. In my lame attempts to get a woman in bed, I've never said those three words. It doesn't feel right, for me anyways, to toss around those words freely. And it'll get you in situations you're not ready for.

Answer to 4th question: See answer to question #3. I only said it once, in all my years dating.

[karizma]

>> wow! engaged? what happened? haha sorry for being so nosy =X.

>> me being a cynical bitch about love...i think its a tad overrated. i mean its nice to have and im sure can be totally rewarding. but to spend every waking moment in search of it like some people do is well... a waste of time. i mean i thought love was supposed to come when you least expect it or something like that.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 19 2002, 03:01 AM
>> wow! engaged? what happened? haha sorry for being so nosy =X.


It was 2nd year in med school. We were going through some problems, we decided to see other people. Long story short, we both started seeing other people. A couple of months go by, we patch things up, everything was going smoothly. She was pregnant and she had an abortion without me knowing. I was wondering if the baby was even mine, since we both slept with someone else, during the time apart. Shit hit the fan, We started drifting apart. Bunboy became single, again.

And you're young, its ok to be cynical about love. Then again....heh nevermind.



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[karizma]

>> then again??? what?? lol...you're only like 10 years older than me...ok thats a lot nevermind =X your story sounds a tad bit soap opera-ey to me. mustve been rough. sorry you had to go through it. but maybe you learned from your experience?

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 19 2002, 03:21 AM
>> then again??? what?? lol...you're only like 10 years older than me...ok thats a lot nevermind =X your story sounds a tad bit soap opera-ey to me. mustve been rough. sorry you had to go through it. but maybe you learned from your experience?
Yeah when it comes to my love life, I need less drama. As to what I learned from that whole experience? *Shrug* we'll see when I get engaged again. But I'm definitely prescribing my next fiancee the pill.

[karizma]

>> hey neat you can prescribe stuff? can you prescribe me like vicatin :D or like medicinal marijuana?

>> you guys think love is something you have to wait to come to you or should you go out and find it?

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 18 2002, 10:56 PM
>> you guys think love is something you have to wait to come to you or should you go out and find it?
my take - if you put too much effort into looking for it, you risk ending up with the wrong person.

[tapestrybabe]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 18 2002, 10:56 PM
>> you guys think love is something you have to wait to come to you or should you go out and find it?
Naah.. i dont think love is something you go looking and searching for. You can go looking for sex.. but when it comes to love... i feel thats an event that will develop and happen when its meant to be...

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 18 2002, 09:48 PM
>> can you put into words what love feels like? have you ever been in love? have you ever said it and not meant it? do you think people today say it too freely which in turn lessens the value of the four letter word? cmon i want some answers!!! :wub:
1. What love feels like...

Answer: Love to me is an infinite term. It can never be completely defined by human beings... but putting myself back down to earth here, I think love can be between family members, friends, or a significant other in a similar way but also different. That statement sounds like an oxymoron. Anyway, when I mean the same... people in general love each other because people mutually are concerned, accepting, nurturing, responsible to each other's needs, maintain integrity in the bond they have for each other, and giving emotionally and physically (e.g. hugs, etc). When it comes to a significant other, it's all of these things above but with all intimacy that goes on between two individuals. That's my opinion.

Anyway, I believe I know what "love" feels like but I can never describe it completely.

2.) I never say I love you unless I mean it.

3.) Well, I've been in a relationship when those words have been used sparingly. ANd, I've been in a relationship when those words were used a lot. It's hard to say if the value of the words are lessened. It's the quality of the relationship that really tells us how much those words mean, at least in my opinion. I never underestimated those words, but I can see how people just see them ast JUST WORDS rather than the meaning behind it.

[princess]

never been in love so i cant help u *shrugs* im kind of scared of falling in love, actually. i hate being vulnerable.

this passage from 1 Corinthians is read a lot at weddings:
love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is slow to anger, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always hopes, always trusts, always perserveres. love never fails.

[karizma]

>> princess: thanks that was enlightening :D...

>> i know there are different forms of love but are there different levels too? like can you measure how much you love someone? can you love someone enough to die for them and love another just enough to call them and wish them a happy birthday every year?

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 19 2002, 09:30 PM
>> princess: thanks that was enlightening :D...

>> i know there are different forms of love but are there different levels too? like can you measure how much you love someone? can you love someone enough to die for them and love another just enough to call them and wish them a happy birthday every year?
I can't measure love, but I guess with anything tangible, I know just wishing happy birthday to someone I barely know is different from spending the number of times I go out with a close friend. I think that no matter what the quantity is, the quality is by far immeasurable. There are people who just perform random acts of kindness. That's an act of love. There are people who will actually die for you whether it's their duty to protect or their immense love to save your life by donating a vital organ. All are acts of love. Whether someone's a stranger, a relative, a friend, or a coworker, there are different acts of love but I think that whatever form or level that love is manifested.... (as cliche as it sounds), they're all in the name of love. Didn't someone make a song with that title? heheh.... ;)

[sandra]

i don't think love is something you can put into words. the idea of it is kinda elusive like that. it's not 'great caring' or 'deep infatuation' or anything like that...and i personally think that very few people experience true love. relationships aren't bad just b/c they aren't based on love. they can be based on mutual care, etc.

[mrazntre]

i lup you guh!

[angel nympho]

if you aren't sure.. you're not in love. simple as that. no point in trying to explain it... it transcends words.

[Arex]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 27 2002, 11:49 PM
if you aren't sure.. you're not in love. simple as that. no point in trying to explain it... it transcends words.
Very well said.


Alex

[Ayers]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 19 2002, 06:30 PM
>> princess: thanks that was enlightening :D...

>> i know there are different forms of love but are there different levels too? like can you measure how much you love someone? can you love someone enough to die for them and love another just enough to call them and wish them a happy birthday every year?
I think the Greeks had different words for the different types of love:

Agape - the kind of 'true love' that the Princess Bride has; self-giving
Philia - brotherly, casual affection
Eros - sexual/physical kind of love
Storge - family or natural affection e.g. parent to child



I'm sure there are many more types; maybe one for every permutation with every person in the world.

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Angel_nympho: didn't the oracle say that in the Matrix? :)

[amietron]

Originally posted by princess@Aug 19 2002, 05:17 PM
this passage from 1 Corinthians is read a lot at weddings:
love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is slow to anger, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always hopes, always trusts, always perserveres. love never fails.
they quote that passage in A Walk To Remember.

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by Ayers@Aug 28 2002, 01:53 AM
Agape - the kind of 'true love' that the Princess Bride has; self-giving

"Rove...twue rove..."

Doesn't agape have a religious connotation?

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 19 2002, 08:30 PM
...they're all in the name of love. Didn't someone make a song with that title? heheh.... ;)
Only the greatest band on the face of this earth, *ahem*...

[Ayers]

Originally posted by achtungbaby@Aug 29 2002, 03:43 AM
"Rove...twue rove..."

Doesn't agape have a religious connotation?
kinda. I think it's a ultimate unconditional love. To love without having to be loved in return and to commit to that person without regard for personal cost. Christians use it to describe God's love for us, but even in 1 Corinthians the use of 'love' is translated from 'agape.' So maybe it's kind of a guide for us to use when we use the four-letter-word.

'Agape is patient. Agape is kind. Agape is not envious. Agape is not self-serving...'

[boycott]

Often young ppl don't understand what is other than f..king another person's brain out. Young ppl esp. girls should not f..k for love, they waste their purity for withered body parts and possible std's, not worth it. Save your curiosity and virginity for when you're way into college and actually know how to achieve love, don't buy it with your body.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by boycott@Aug 31 2002, 08:53 AM
Save your curiosity and virginity for when you're way into college and actually know how to achieve love, don't buy it with your body.
sorry... this isn't supposed to offend you... but...


PWUHAHHAHHAHHAHHAHAH

[sandra]

Originally posted by boycott@Aug 31 2002, 01:53 PM
Often young ppl don't understand what is other than f..king another person's brain out. Young ppl esp. girls should not f..k for love, they waste their purity for withered body parts and possible std's, not worth it. Save your curiosity and virginity for when you're way into college and actually know how to achieve love, don't buy it with your body.
this is coming from a guy who followed a strange girl he met on the streets to her apartment expecting an easy fuck (and not getting it). this happened when he was at the young and naive age of...21--college age.

[karizma]

>> *laughs*...haha i aint got nothing else to say but...MODED!!!

[mrazntre]

karizma Posted on Sep 1 2002, 12:35 AM
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>> *laughs*...haha i aint got nothing else to say but...MODED!!! &nbsp;


MODED? what are you.... 6?

ooh you got FACED!

duma!

This is what my friend told me about "love."

If a girl tells you that she loves you, tell her you 'wuv' her. So then, after you break up with her and she says, "you said that you love me," you can just say, "NO, i said 'i wuv you', not 'i love you'."

Does anyone remember telling me that? <_<

[sandra]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Sep 1 2002, 08:28 PM
karizma Posted on Sep 1 2002, 12:35 AM
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>> *laughs*...haha i aint got nothing else to say but...MODED!!!


MODED? what are you.... 6?

ooh you got FACED!

duma!

This is what my friend told me about "love."

If a girl tells you that she loves you, tell her you 'wuv' her. So then, after you break up with her and she says, "you said that you love me," you can just say, "NO, i said 'i wuv you', not 'i love you'."

Does anyone remember telling me that? <_<
did i tell you that?

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Sep 1 2002, 03:28 PM
karizma Posted on Sep 1 2002, 12:35 AM
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>> *laughs*...haha i aint got nothing else to say but...MODED!!!


MODED? what are you.... 6?

ooh you got FACED!

duma!

This is what my friend told me about "love."

If a girl tells you that she loves you, tell her you 'wuv' her. So then, after you break up with her and she says, "you said that you love me," you can just say, "NO, i said 'i wuv you', not 'i love you'."

Does anyone remember telling me that? <_<
see this is exactly why the word should not be thrown around so easily. at some point in the history of humankind, the words "i love you" became a declaration of commitment.

[mrazntre]

YUP

[sandra]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Sep 1 2002, 11:33 PM
YUP
i wuv you. :)

but i don't even say that anymore.

[mrazntre]

well, you DID

[Saiko]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 31 2002, 12:21 PM
Originally posted by boycott@Aug 31 2002, 08:53 AM
Save your curiosity and virginity for when you're way into college and actually know how to achieve love, don't buy it with your body.
sorry... this isn't supposed to offend you... but...


PWUHAHHAHHAHHAHHAHAH
Well said! :D

[Chris]

Originally posted by Saiko@Sep 1 2002, 07:57 PM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 31 2002, 12:21 PM
Originally posted by boycott@Aug 31 2002, 08:53 AM
Save your curiosity and virginity for when you're way into college and actually know how to achieve love, don't buy it with your body.
sorry... this isn't supposed to offend you... but...


PWUHAHHAHHAHHAHHAHAH
Well said! :D
hahha that was funny.

To the rest of you guys. I wub all you guys, All you guys are the coolest. :)

[Saiko]

...

You don't love us? :( I'm hurt.

[Chris]

Originally posted by Saiko@Sep 1 2002, 08:18 PM
...

You don't love us? :( I'm hurt.
guys as in all of you the fione ladies of YW and the cool guys of YW. :)

[Saiko]

We've got your wub, but no love?

[Chris]

Originally posted by Saiko@Sep 1 2002, 08:34 PM
We've got your wub, but no love?
You fione ladies got my unconditiional love. But then again I am harmless to you guys. Yups you guys got my love!

[Saiko]

No wuv?! D=
Naw, I'll just stop being stupid now.

[SunWuKong]

i think i'm confused now...

[Chris]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Sep 1 2002, 08:40 PM
i think i'm confused now...
we're being silly. Trying to put my mack on Saiko hehhhe. LOL

[CrX3183]

What would you say if you couldn't say "I LOVE YOU"????

Have any of you ever thought about that??? :huh:

[sandra]

Originally posted by CrX3183@Sep 2 2002, 08:42 AM
What would you say if you couldn't say "I LOVE YOU"????

Have any of you ever thought about that??? :huh:
i care deeply about you. you are important to me. you are special. i like you a lot a lot.

or, if the other person has said it already and you feel pressured to say it back--don't. a mere 'thank you' or 'i am touched' will be fine.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by CrX3183@Sep 2 2002, 03:42 AM
What would you say if you couldn't say "I LOVE YOU"????

Have any of you ever thought about that??? :huh:
then don't say anything

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by kasia@Sep 2 2002, 04:05 AM
or, if the other person has said it already and you feel pressured to say it back--don't. a mere 'thank you' or 'i am touched' will be fine.
hahhah that's so dry!
how about "me too"? hahhah as in yeah i love me too.

i think if i was ever placed in that position, i'd just smile and kiss the girl and then go about doing whatever the hell i was doing.

[deez nuts]

Or do what I do just don't say anything and smile.

Once you reciprocate and say it back, you're at the point of no return <cringe>. It's not like one of those things you say and can take it back.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Sep 2 2002, 01:09 PM
Or do what I do just don't say anything and smile.

Once you reciprocate and say it back, you're at the point of no return <cringe>. It's not like one of those things you say and can take it back.
that's what i hate about those words. it's a form of commitment.

[mrazntre]

or u can always say " i love u, but i'm not IN love with you"

[thaite]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Sep 2 2002, 03:59 PM
or u can always say " i love u, but i'm not IN love with you"
Tried that, you just get a whole different kind of grief when you do that. :angry:

[sandra]

Originally posted by buoywonder@Sep 3 2002, 12:06 AM
Originally posted by mrazntre@Sep 2 2002, 03:59 PM
or u &nbsp;can always say " i love u, but i'm not IN love with you"
Tried that, you just get a whole different kind of grief when you do that. :angry:
haha. that's worse than not saying anything at all.

[thaite]

And don't even think of saying "Ditto." I tried that, too. Works okay in the movies, but in real life... :blink:

[LT25]

I can say "I love you" in Vietnamese, Cantonese, and Spanish. I probably used it to much, but that's the way I felt at the time. :luv:

[LilCPChik]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 19 2002, 12:48 PM
>> can you put into words what love feels like? have you ever been in love? have you ever said it and not meant it? do you think people today say it too freely which in turn lessens the value of the four letter word? cmon i want some answers!!! :wub:
warm and cuddles inside and ur heart is beating wildly wen u see them

yea

yea

yea.... they say they love u but do they reallie mean it??? nope!! never evr they dunno want it means... ergh!!

[LilCPChik]

Originally posted by LT25@Nov 3 2002, 09:49 AM
I can say "I love you" in Vietnamese, Cantonese, and Spanish. I probably used it to much, but that's the way I felt at the time. &nbsp;:luv:
i can 2 also krn and cambodian and thai!! oOo i'm soo kool!!=P keke ...... me so hella bored!!! ahhhhh!!!!!^-^ oh yea i 4got and jap. <~ hate jap tho.. ewww!! jap teacher was a bitch!!

[angel nympho]

*Plugs ears* Those 3 words can KILL a relationship... :gross: