are gays more promiscuous?

[kasia]

you guys are familiar with the stereotype, right? why does it exist? i.e., what is its origin? how has this stereotype affected how others deal with you?

[Faithless]

That stereotype may have changed over the years.

[shy]

it's probably changed now...

but i have a couple of thoughts as to how this stereotype came about...

first of all, i think when the gay community strengthened to promote gay awarenes, there might have been this level of sexual outwardness. almost like another sexual revolution.

no, i don't mean all gay men at this period were like this, but the media, obviously, focused more on the sex part then the relationship part.

in fact, if this stereotype still holds true, i honestly think that the media is to be blamed. it's getting better, of course.. more movies and shows honing in on gay relationships then just the sex. but some media still portrays it to be a certain way... sometimes even lumping it together with 'alternative sex' in which s&m and other fantasy-like, role-playing are involved where the actuall sex or the psychology of sex is focused on.

[angel nympho]

I do not think this stereotype has changed.

Isn't it disgusting how they don't let gays donate blood because they think they'll have HIV? Umm... it's not like they don't screen every single drop of blood that gets donated anyway...

[shy]

I do not think this stereotype has changed.

Isn't it disgusting how they don't let gays donate blood because they think they'll have HIV? Umm... it's not like they don't screen every single drop of blood that gets donated anyway...

you're right... i guess this stereotype hasn't changed. i forgotten about the donating of blood thing.

[Faithless]

it's probably changed now...

but i have a couple of thoughts as to how this stereotype came about...

first of all, i think when the gay community strengthened to promote gay awarenes, there might have been this level of sexual outwardness. almost like another sexual revolution.

I think there are anecdotal stories to support that belief.

That there was probably a time where gay awareness lead to an excitement, in a general sense, of experiencing a lot of different relationships. But this could have followed a general sexual revolution for all to experience a lot of different relationships.

But as attitudes changed in general toward promiscuity, then monogomy became a centerpiece for straights, as well as, gays.

How's that for bullshitology?

[Pookie_gal]

This is what my gay friend says, alright, so don't shoot me!

"Guys generally have a high sex drive - get 2 guys together, and taa-daa! You get double the sex drive...hence leading to more sex."

He says that not all gays are promiscuous - but they are more open to *ahem - excuse the pun* open relationships just 'cos they want the sex. That is why he is really open about meeting fubu's over the internet, in chatrooms, complete strangers - or is he just mad?

[shy]

This is what my gay friend says, alright, so don't shoot me!

"Guys generally have a high sex drive - get 2 guys together, and taa-daa! You get double the sex drive...hence leading to more sex."

He says that not all gays are promiscuous - but they are more open to *ahem - excuse the pun* open relationships just 'cos they want the sex. That is why he is really open about meeting fubu's over the internet, in chatrooms, complete strangers - or is he just mad?

well, i have to disagree w/ your friend's theory.

women can be just as horny as men. it's taken longer for us to be allowed to admit to this.

your friend might be horny... but is it fair for him to speak for other men?

i think not.

[Pookie_gal]

well, i have to disagree w/ your friend's theory.

women can be just as horny as men. it's taken longer for us to be allowed to admit to this.

your friend might be horny... but is it fair for him to speak for other men?

i think not.

He wasn't speaking for other men - he was speaking for himself and the guys he had met, and explaining that yes, he is promiscuous and why.

[shy]

He wasn't speaking for other men - he was speaking for himself and the guys he had met, and explaining that yes, he is promiscuous and why.

pookie_gal, no offence, but when you read something like this:

"Guys generally have a high sex drive - get 2 guys together, and taa-daa! You get double the sex drive...hence leading to more sex."

... it's really easy to read into a statement like that being a generalization.

and if he is speaking for himself, then i think his statement is a moot point in this discussion.

we're trying to understand where this stereotype came from and why it possibly still exists.

so don't take it personally just because i didn't agree w/ your friend. ;)

[Pookie_gal]

pookie_gal, no offence, but when you read something like this:



... it's really easy to read into a statement like that being a generalization.

and if he is speaking for himself, then i think his statement is a moot point in this discussion.

we're trying to understand where this stereotype came from and why it possibly still exists.

so don't take it personally just because i didn't agree w/ your friend. ;)

Hi Shy,
Sorry to get all defensive (I can be sensitive at times!) and I promise that I didn't take it personally. :)

[shy]

Hi Shy,
Sorry to get all defensive (I can be sensitive at times!) and I promise that I didn't take it personally. :)

eh... no probs. just didn't want you to take it personally...
on certain days, i can get sensitive too. so i understand. :)

[SunWuKong]

posts unrelated to the particular subject at hand have been deleted.

fellas, i implore you to not make me have to wade through so many threads to play mr. admin.

[frcegrl]

we are not. guys in general may be more sexual but that doens't make gay men more promiscuous. as for lesbians, we are not anymore than the straight girl next door. i think this was more of a stereotype fueled by homophobic folks.

promiscuity has many causes. being gay is not necessarily one of them. sad all the stereotypes we need to fight on a daily basis.

[Danny]

I think that the stereotype still exists today. You hear it all of the time, especially since the supreme court ruling striking down the sodomy law in Texas. You consistenetly heard the following: Gay sex is immoral. Gay people do nothing but have sex. Then there are of course the ideas that gays brought HIV/AIDS to the forefront of the nation because they all had sex with each other in the gay bathhouses. They try (the anti homosexual coalition out there) to create this facade of Gay's being nothing more than a bunch of horny men, wanting to have sex with your children, molesting them and then going home to their luxurious lofts to have gay sex all night long.

Believe me, the stereotype exists and is prevalent within the society.

[kuanyin]

hi
as one of the two..maybe three. i forget, lesbos, on the sight, i can speak from personal experience that people still hold the stereotype. people in and out of the LGBTQ community.

so what happens to me because of this? how does it impact my life? i get angry and i shut down. when i go out to places where people assume you're gonna give it up or you're gonna go get you some a*s, people think its ok to then behave innapropriately - be more outright in their sexism. people give me attitude when i thank them for dancing with me but don't head on over to the bathroom to get it on. people get crazy!.

it makes me not want to go anywhere. then i just do volunteer work and go after politically conscious people who are just as boring as me.

and that's for the women. men?? who are trying the same shit thinkits funny to tell me that "i just like to get licked...really...its makes men more vulgar when speaking to me. now i don't think all men are like this. but my experience tells me i should not tell people i'm gay unless i've assessed that they are not going to turn it into some excuse to talk about sex. that's how this sh*t affects me.

so i think in our little puritan based society sex is so repressed that people look for ways to talk about/do the do/whatever, whenever they can. not that it makes one group more sexual than others. people just need to sexualize everything because we've all been taught that its bad.

[etcj]

and that's for the women. men?? who are trying the same shit thinkits funny to tell me that "i just like to get licked...really...its makes men more vulgar when speaking to me. now i don't think all men are like this. but my experience tells me i should not tell people i'm gay unless i've assessed that they are not going to turn it into some excuse to talk about sex. that's how this sh*t affects me.

Well I find it quite hard (no pun intended) to talk about gay sex with heterosexual folks at all. In general, you will not be finding the average straight person who is willing to even use vocabulary outside of the hetero-norm. Promiscuity? Well straight people just use euphemisms that hardly make them any nicer than being promiscuous, such as player. That contrasts with the more common word in the gay venacular, i.e. tricking. However, I agree that addressing the issue of promiscuity is difficult, in that it is assumed that all gay people are so. That is, unless you're closeted...in that situation, sex seems (on the surface, anyways) to be non-existant - which, by the way, ain't much better than being called promiscuous. Hmm...prudish or promiscuous? Which would you rather be called?

[victorvien]

If society hates and tries to hinder you from having your kind of sex, you'd be so damn happy when you get it and you'd be trying get as much as possible. People should just go out get some!!! Protect yourself btway b4 you wreck yourself.