Bad Breakups

[achtungbaby]

Are there such things as amicable endings anymore?

[tapestrybabe]

Me, if i didn't know what love really felt like... I also wouldn't know the feeling of pain so intimately...

Me, i dont think there really ever is a friendly break up...

[Barbs]

it definitely takes time. it really depends on if you were friends at all with your ex and on the dynamics of your relationship. sometimes the emotions are too deeply enmeshed that you can't draw yourself out of those feelings; not even after the relationship is long over. you can't see yourself as anything other than this person's significant other so you can't be friends. it is true tho, that time dulls feelings but it's also a function of your personality. somet people are just petty and can never let go enough to be friends.

[Arex]

I've had what have turned out to be two pretty good break ups. Granted, all parties involved ('cept maybe my most recent ex) felt like shit at first, but now I'm cool with both of 'em. Of course, my relationships ended 'cause one of the two parties just wasn't feeling it anymore. I imagine things would be much different if other shit was involved like cheating and such. Yeah, it's disappointing to fall out of a relationship, but I don't see why that should necessarily keep the friendship from continuing beyond the relationship once the both of you have come to terms with the fact that it's over. The way I see it, if this person was your best friend for however long (which I considered my significant others to be), that friendship need not end just because you cease to be an item.

Alex

[Barbs]

i've only had one bad break up and that was when i was dumped. the one time and only time i hope. it was years ago, in a galaxy far away but i think everyone needs at least one bad break up that serves as a reality check. i remember being UTTERLY pathetic....crying myself to sleep, awake, having no appetite. being a psychotic pathetic girl. very very sad.

in retrospect, it's very humbling because you realize the depths of patheticness that so-called love can plummet you to. and in the end, it's all nothing.

looking back, i'm glad it happened because i really would never be like that again. so everyone's got one.....

[artsfartsyjanet]

Most of my break ups have been bad, but if you asked me the same question back in June, it would be a bit different. Presently, I don't know anyone else's case worse than mine. I honestly would like to keep the situation to myself. =)

Back in June this year, my fiance wanted to stay friends. It was difficult for me to understand; but considering he was in a family crises, I respected his decision. Although to my dismay, I loved him enough to let him go (as cliche as that sounds). So, we became the best of friends for a month until I found out on my own why he REALLY decided to end the engagement. Thus, if you asked me now, my experiences with break-ups have always ended on a sour note. =) But, I'm sure it's possible for good break-ups to happen.

[Barbs]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 10 2002, 04:14 PM
Most of my break ups have been bad, but if you asked me the same question back in June, it would be a bit different. Presently, I don't know anyone else's case worse than mine. I honestly would like to keep the situation to myself. =)

Back in June this year, my fiance wanted to stay friends. It was difficult for me to understand; but considering he was in a family crises, I respected his decision. Although to my dismay, I loved him enough to let him go (as cliche as that sounds). So, we became the best of friends for a month until I found out on my own why he REALLY decided to end the engagement. Thus, if you asked me now, my experiences with break-ups have always ended on a sour note. =) But, I'm sure it's possible for good break-ups to happen.
that's not cool. :( i hope you're okay now though june was not that long ago. i'm sure you'll work it out in your own time.

[princess]

ive had a few breakups that were decent...no bloodshed or crying...but its not like we stay friends afterwards. its juss too weird.

[deez nuts]

All my break-ups have been surprisingly amicable. I've been told I'm really good at breaking up. Not sure whether that was a compliment or an insult <_<

I like amicable break-ups because you can then wait a bit until things cool down and then maybe become "friends with benefits."



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[karizma]

>> i hate both my exes...does that answer your question? hah..

>> the first was just a major retard and i just couldnt take his insecurities and need to dominate my life so i broke it off before it went any further. he made repeated attempts to get me back and i refused every one.

>> the second one...he found another girl the day we ended it...i suppose it wouldnt be considered cheating but it is rather RUDE.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

well, I'm still on pretty good terms with both my exes. But I think it's more cuz of circumstances beyond my control than anything else. the first, we broke up cuz I was graduating high school and leaving the state. the second was a bit more complex, she was an older girl, but her two best friends looked down on me cuz I was younger than them. at the time I thought our breakup was pretty ugly. but then I guess she got into an even uglier argument with those two friends of hers, cuz next time I ran into her she wanted to talk about them and about us. that talk might have led to us getting back together, but instead I told her amicably the same thing I had told her not-so-amicably when we broke up: I couldn't deal with her insecurity about me being younger. so we're still friends.

i get the sense my future breakups aren't gonna go this well.