Fag Hags

[AngryABCGirl]

We talk a lot about how we find Asian culture-fetishers annoying and we don't want to be around them, how do gay men feel about 'fag hags' or straight women who like to hang out almost exclusively with gay men?

Here's my slant, I think I'd feel a little weird about fag hags if I were a gay man, just like I feel uncomfortable about weird men who want to get to know my 'culture.' But I'm being very hypothetical there. The reason I ask is most people who say they 'want to take to know your culture' aren't getting to know you really for you. Some women I know that could be considered fag hags are women who have trouble developing relationships themselves and sometimes I think they may be just hanging out with gay men because it feels safe. How would you feel about that if you were the guy?

[Chris]

"fag hags" are my favorite people. They know that I am harmless and have good fashion sense. But most of all, they don't prejudge me. They take me as is. :) That's all I need.

[moschikat]

<!--QuoteBegin-Chris+Jul 13 2003, 07:23 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Chris @ Jul 13 2003, 07:23 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> "fag hags" are my favorite people. They know that I am harmless and have good fashion sense. But most of all, they don't prejudge me. They take me as is. :) That's all I need. [/b][/quote]
i love you i love you i love you !!!!!

[angel nympho]

Being one... I can't really say anything.

I just like hanging out with my gay guy friends because they know how to have a good time and they take me to all the funnest places in Weho! :D

[Fireblade]

At times I wonder about Fag Hags. A friend of mine recently told me that she wants a "gay" best friend. I asked her why, and she said it'd be fun, and neat to be around a gay buddy all the time. I again inquired why, and she didn't have any real justification to it, aside from the fact that it'd probably amuse her.

Why oh why do people find other people's identities AMUSING?

It's not like I hang around my non-asian friends because I find that their culture amusing to my taste. It's about the person, rather than the "interesting" things about them.

So I often wonder about people who do things like that. So in a sense, I'm wary of those who act that way.

[angel nympho]

<!--QuoteBegin-Fireblade+Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Fireblade @ Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> At times I wonder about Fag Hags. A friend of mine recently told me that she wants a "gay" best friend. I asked her why, and she said it'd be fun, and neat to be around a gay buddy all the time. I again inquired why, and she didn't have any real justification to it, aside from the fact that it'd probably amuse her.

Why oh why do people find other people's identities AMUSING?

It's not like I hang around my non-asian friends because I find that their culture amusing to my taste. It's about the person, rather than the "interesting" things about them.

So I often wonder about people who do things like that. So in a sense, I'm wary of those who act that way. [/b][/quote]
Doesn't everyone want a gay best friend? Let's face it, they're just better friends.

[moschikat]

<!--QuoteBegin-angel nympho+Jul 14 2003, 11:55 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (angel nympho @ Jul 14 2003, 11:55 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Doesn't everyone want a gay best friend? Let's face it, they're just better friends. [/b][/quote]
*screw that!*

I want a gay husband!

[blue hoodie]

<!--QuoteBegin-moschikat+Jul 14 2003, 11:57 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (moschikat @ Jul 14 2003, 11:57 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> *screw that!*

I want a gay husband! [/b][/quote]
:o

[Chris]

<!--QuoteBegin-moschikat+Jul 14 2003, 12:57 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (moschikat @ Jul 14 2003, 12:57 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> *screw that!*

I want a gay husband! [/b][/quote]
want to marry me then??? ;)

[Fireblade]

<!--QuoteBegin-angel nympho+Jul 14 2003, 12:55 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (angel nympho @ Jul 14 2003, 12:55 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin-Fireblade+Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Fireblade @ Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> At times I wonder about Fag Hags. A friend of mine recently told me that she wants a "gay" best friend. I asked her why, and she said it'd be fun, and neat to be around a gay buddy all the time. I again inquired why, and she didn't have any real justification to it, aside from the fact that it'd probably amuse her.

Why oh why do people find other people's identities AMUSING?

It's not like I hang around my non-asian friends because I find that their culture amusing to my taste. It's about the person, rather than the "interesting" things about them.

So I often wonder about people who do things like that. So in a sense, I'm wary of those who act that way. [/b][/quote]
Doesn't everyone want a gay best friend? Let's face it, they're just better friends. [/b][/quote]
Wow. To use that as a basis for friends... :confused:
I just thought that people were made the same and friends can be straight, gay, transgender, whatever. I just don't have a gay best friend, because there is no way I could relate to them on that mental basis.

[myself808]

I would say most (but not all) gay men don't have a problem with fag hags, as long as their motivation is genuine friendship, and they are not looking for a "fashion accessory" because its the "in" thing. We can pretty much tell the difference.

[angel nympho]

<!--QuoteBegin-Fireblade+Jul 15 2003, 01:53 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Fireblade @ Jul 15 2003, 01:53 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin-angel nympho+Jul 14 2003, 12:55 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (angel nympho @ Jul 14 2003, 12:55 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin-Fireblade+Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Fireblade @ Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> At times I wonder about Fag Hags. A friend of mine recently told me that she wants a "gay" best friend. I asked her why, and she said it'd be fun, and neat to be around a gay buddy all the time. I again inquired why, and she didn't have any real justification to it, aside from the fact that it'd probably amuse her.

Why oh why do people find other people's identities AMUSING?

It's not like I hang around my non-asian friends because I find that their culture amusing to my taste. It's about the person, rather than the "interesting" things about them.

So I often wonder about people who do things like that. So in a sense, I'm wary of those who act that way. [/b][/quote]
Doesn't everyone want a gay best friend? Let's face it, they're just better friends. [/b][/quote]
Wow. To use that as a basis for friends... :confused:
I just thought that people were made the same and friends can be straight, gay, transgender, whatever. I just don't have a gay best friend, because there is no way I could relate to them on that mental basis. [/b][/quote]
Oh. My. God. Recognize sarcasm when you see it.

Here's a hint... If I posted it, it's probably sarcasm.

[angel nympho]

<!--QuoteBegin-Fireblade+Jul 15 2003, 01:53 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Fireblade @ Jul 15 2003, 01:53 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin-angel nympho+Jul 14 2003, 12:55 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (angel nympho @ Jul 14 2003, 12:55 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin-Fireblade+Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Fireblade @ Jul 14 2003, 11:25 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> At times I wonder about Fag Hags. A friend of mine recently told me that she wants a "gay" best friend. I asked her why, and she said it'd be fun, and neat to be around a gay buddy all the time. I again inquired why, and she didn't have any real justification to it, aside from the fact that it'd probably amuse her.

Why oh why do people find other people's identities AMUSING?

It's not like I hang around my non-asian friends because I find that their culture amusing to my taste. It's about the person, rather than the "interesting" things about them.

So I often wonder about people who do things like that. So in a sense, I'm wary of those who act that way. [/b][/quote]
Doesn't everyone want a gay best friend? Let's face it, they're just better friends. [/b][/quote]
Wow. To use that as a basis for friends... :confused:
I just thought that people were made the same and friends can be straight, gay, transgender, whatever. I just don't have a gay best friend, because there is no way I could relate to them on that mental basis. [/b][/quote]
Besides, you don't think it's a wonderful thing when a close friend is a completely different person than you? Maybe a little bit of different mindsets can be helpful to you as an individual. Ya know, it broadens your horizons a little.

[teaz0r]

i want more gay guy friends.

i want ones that will go skinny dipping with me.

[Faithless]

Are fag hags a little more out going? Or is that a stereotype that I see on TV?

[Eros]

I don't think they're really that much more out going. I'd say true fag hags (not that "I think it'd be cool to be one" type) generally have some interest in the gay community, be it from social and political things or just like the bar scene and pride events. Because they enjoy this and are used to being around it, they have gay friends have something in common with them.

[Faithless]

Can it be that fag hags are just more comfortable with gay men because they don't have to worry about the intimacy?

[kimpossible]

What's the lesbian equivalent? I think I used to qualify as a fag hag but now I'm up to my ears in lesbians. I'm like the crazy PFLAG mom Debbie on Queer as Folk.

[rice cracker]

I don't like the term "fag hag." It makes me sound like I'm ugly. I prefer "fag hottie." :P

[teaz0r]

i want to be one.

[YuheiCarreau]

<!--QuoteBegin-Hello_Hapa+Aug 5 2003, 05:44 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Hello_Hapa @ Aug 5 2003, 05:44 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> What's the lesbian equivalent? I think I used to qualify as a fag hag but now I'm up to my ears in lesbians. I'm like the crazy PFLAG mom Debbie on Queer as Folk. [/b][/quote]
Wouldn't they be guys, though? I think a straight woman hanging out with a lesbian is just a friend.

[Chris]

<!--QuoteBegin-teaz0r+Aug 5 2003, 03:06 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (teaz0r @ Aug 5 2003, 03:06 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> i want to be one. [/b][/quote]
you are babes. ;)

[Eros]

<!--QuoteBegin-ChottoMatte+Aug 5 2003, 01:30 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (ChottoMatte @ Aug 5 2003, 01:30 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Can it be that fag hags are just more comfortable with gay men because they don't have to worry about the intimacy? [/b][/quote]
Perhaps. Or because intamacy won't lead somewhere. Many fag hags and gay men have interesting ways of flirting with each other for fun, at least from what I've seen.