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mizkisses

08-08-2002, 05:25 PM

oh that was so sexy, aaron...

I'D WANT MY GUY TO BE JUST LIKE AARON!

hahaha. no. just kidding of course you're awesome. a tad old, but you're still coooool..

i want a guy who can give me surprises, i want a guy who will call when he needs to call me, i want a guy to remember anniversaries, i want a guy who knows all my favorite things, i want a guy who can cheer me up when i'm down, i want a guy who can go to church with me, i want a guy who can serenade me, i want a guy who can tell me i'm beautiful, even after we turn 80, i want a guy who knows how to dress, i want a guy who is fit, i want a guy who LOVES kids..

i could go ON and on and on and on with this.. :rolleyes:

CrX3183

08-08-2002, 05:28 PM

yea, that's my problem, i'm always kool <_<

mizkisses

08-08-2002, 05:35 PM

sure, aaron. you continue thinking that.. =)

oh oh right and my guy also has to love doggies and kitties and have animals...and he also needs to be able to SING VERY WELL! and dance. and love cars and...stuff

tapestrybabe

08-08-2002, 05:43 PM

Originally posted by mizkisses@Aug 8 2002, 07:25 PM
i want a guy who can serenade me
OMG.. this has always been my ultimate fantasy..
having a guy serenade me... from outside my window... That is like the ultimate, most romantical thing a guy can do... if your ugly and poor... but if you can sing to me.... that is like such an *irresistible* trait... i'd definitely be a sucker for that...

CrX3183

08-08-2002, 05:45 PM

Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Aug 9 2002, 12:43 AM
Originally posted by mizkisses@Aug 8 2002, 07:25 PM
i want a guy who can serenade me
OMG.. this has always been my ultimate fantasy..
having a guy serenade me... from outside my window... That is like the ultimate, most romantical thing a guy can do... if your ugly and poor... but if you can sing to me.... that is like such an *irresistible* trait... i'd definitely be a sucker for that...
what if he can only sing decently?

uhdictiv1

08-08-2002, 06:00 PM

MY IDEAL FELLA WOULD HAVE GREAT HYGENE... BE OUTGOING BUT AT THE SAME TIME WOULDN'T MIND HAVING A BLOCKBUSTER NIGHT EVER SO OFTEN..HE WOULD LIKE COOKIN AND BAKING ... BE INTERESTED IN MY INTRESTS AS I WILL BE WITH HIS...IS FINANCIALY STABEL!... NOT AFRAID TO TRY NEW THINGS... CAN STAND HIS GROUND FOR HIS LADY OR A RUFF SITUATION.. CAN RELATE TO MY FAMILY AND HAS RESPECT ENUFF TO NOE " THERE IS A TIME AND PLACE FOR CERTAIN THANGS" YOU NOE CAN BEHAVE ! HAHAH ...
HE WOULD HAVE A COMFERTING SMILE WUN THAT PUTS YOU EASE WHEN HE SMILES AT YOU FROM ACROSS THE ROOM ... IT EASLY LETS YOU NOE YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRIE ABOUT .. =] ...GREAT WHITE TEETH WOULD BE IN ORDER OBVIOUSLY ... SMOOTH LITE BROWN SKIN I MEAN LIKE IF HE WAS OUTTA LOTION IT WOULDNT BE A PROLLUM.. YOU FEEL ? HAHAH .. AND HIS HAIR WOULD BE ABLE TO DO ANYTHING I PREFER IT BE STARIT ... I COULD SAY MORE BUT I THINK THIS IS LONG ENUFF .. LAST BUT NOT LEAST HE WOULD HAVE A GREAT TOUCH OF STYLE.. YOU NOE HE WOULD ROCK HIS CLOTHES WHIT ATITUDE... < NICE WUN THOE... PHEW .. K IM OUT ..

HAPPY AARON? ..LOL

mizkisses

08-08-2002, 06:04 PM

tapestrybabe

08-08-2002, 06:10 PM

Originally posted by CrX3183@Aug 8 2002, 07:45 PM
Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Aug 9 2002, 12:43 AM
Originally posted by mizkisses@Aug 8 2002, 07:25 PM
i want a guy who can serenade me
OMG.. this has always been my ultimate fantasy..
having a guy serenade me... from outside my window... That is like the ultimate, most romantical thing a guy can do... if your ugly and poor... but if you can sing to me.... that is like such an *irresistible* trait... i'd definitely be a sucker for that...
what if he can only sing decently?
hehe.. being a pavarotti isn't a requirement...
being decent is good enough... with sincerity...

wylin

08-08-2002, 06:21 PM

Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Aug 9 2002, 01:10 AM

hehe.. being a pavarotti isn't a requirement...
being decent is good enough... with sincerity...
how bout if i sound like a wolf howling at night?

mrazntre

08-08-2002, 06:47 PM

i am friend material.

is that working for any one of you women?

tapestrybabe

08-08-2002, 07:18 PM

Originally posted by wylin@Aug 8 2002, 08:21 PM
Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Aug 9 2002, 01:10 AM

hehe.. being a pavarotti isn't a requirement...
being decent is good enough... with sincerity...
how bout if i sound like a wolf howling at night?
lol... you're funny... ^_^
i find a guy who can make me laugh is another attractive trait...

SunWuKong

08-08-2002, 07:21 PM

hey i can sing in english or cantonese and play my guitar at the same time. :D

but alas, i have no fashion sense. :(

amietron

08-08-2002, 11:24 PM

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 9 2002, 02:21 AM
hey i can sing in english or cantonese and play my guitar at the same time. :D

but alas, i have no fashion sense. :(
An Asian guy who can play guitar AND sing at the same time? You're one of a kind. You have no fashion sense cus you don't need one! Liiike~ in the same way clothes can attract a chick, you have other qualities that take its place. Feel special. ;)

Barbs

08-09-2002, 01:56 AM

he just has to be a MAN.

ie. someone who is intuitively and undeniably a MAN. not those little asian 20/30something "boy-men" that abound. but someone who has a clear focus on where their life is going, a clear sense of responsibility, who respects himself, his family and others.

at my age, i really feel that it's not my job to carry a man. he needs to have his own shit together. i'm tired of seeing 20something men with no purpose or direction in life.

someone who works out regularly and has sufficient skill in the bedroom wouldn't be bad either. hehe.

kasia

08-09-2002, 03:26 PM

Originally posted by mizkisses@Aug 9 2002, 12:35 AM
sure, aaron. you continue thinking that.. =)

oh oh right and my guy also has to love doggies and kitties and have animals...and he also needs to be able to SING VERY WELL! and dance. and love cars and...stuff
aaron has a dog that he loves :lol: jay-jay :)

let's turn this into another classifieds thread.

admit it already, crx and mizkisses--you guys love each other!!

CrX3183

08-09-2002, 05:06 PM

mizkisses

08-09-2002, 05:16 PM

i'll admit that crx loves me, but i'll remain silent.

MWUAHAHAHHAHAHAHAH...kidding aaron, lots of love for ya..ha...yes..

i miss my doggy...

mizkisses

08-09-2002, 05:17 PM

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 9 2002, 10:26 PM
Originally posted by mizkisses@Aug 9 2002, 12:35 AM
sure, aaron. you continue thinking that.. =)

oh oh right and my guy also has to love doggies and kitties and have animals...and he also needs to be able to SING VERY WELL! and dance. and love cars and...stuff
aaron has a dog that he loves :lol: jay-jay :)

let's turn this into another classifieds thread.

admit it already, crx and mizkisses--you guys love each other!!
crx: did u see what kasie put on the forum for "what kind of guy"
crx: what a bully
me: nope i havent been getting notifications
me: lol
crx: nitifications?
me: mafnashsda?
crx: asdfasgdsagasdgasd
crx: huh?
crx: did u read it?
me: wait wait wait reading
crx: it's on the second page
me: hahahahahaha
crx: don't just sit there and laugh
crx: go yell at her

hehehehe. kasie's funny :D

CrX3183

08-09-2002, 05:19 PM

Haha, no she's not! :blink:
Oh, what the hell :lol:

krissy

08-10-2002, 03:35 AM

Since you asked…my ideal guy would be sensitive to how I see the world and experience life – and not make me feel bad about it (i.e. stupid or annoying). He would know how to make me feel better when down and where possible, work together with me to solve problems. He would be open, honest, and direct, loyal and faithful, and amuse & entertain me. He would be kind to and respect himself and other people (including me). He would be at least as smart as I am, and about as pretty (so we'd match :P). He would be cuddly and smell good & would not hit me or make me cry.

That’s my wish list. I think it’s funny how the girls’ answers differ from the boys’ so greatly (appear to be mostly pics so far).

SunWuKong

08-10-2002, 11:26 AM

Originally posted by krissy@Aug 10 2002, 05:35 AM
That’s my wish list. I think it’s funny how the girls’ answers differ from the boys’ so greatly (appear to be mostly pics so far).

hahha yeah i've noticed that. but to be fair, the two women i mentioned were faye wong and maggie cheung. both are women older than me who are very independent and have a kind of sexy that is not superficial. so yeah they exemplify the kind of woman who i think would be "ideal". well she doesn't have to be older, just that faye and maggie both happen to be older.

deez nuts

08-10-2002, 06:24 PM

Originally posted by krissy@Aug 10 2002, 10:35 AM

That’s my wish list.  I think it’s funny how the girls’ answers differ from the boys’ so greatly (appear to be mostly pics so far).  

We're weak. Blame mother nature for hard-wiring us this way.

wylin

08-14-2002, 05:20 PM

im suprised u ladies didnt mention a guy w/ a strong sense of justice and who tries to help others and change the world. I thought women were attracted to those (super) hero types. who has the ability and drive to change what happens around him and do it selflessy and fairly.

http://www.comicon.com/gallery/categories/DC_Comics/media/Batman_lightning.jpg

artsfartsyjanet

08-15-2002, 08:27 AM

Originally posted by wylin@Aug 14 2002, 06:20 PM
im suprised u ladies didnt mention a guy w/ a strong sense of justice and who tries to help others and change the world.
Then, who in their right mind wouldn't want to date someone with a sense of justice and altruism (besides the bitter and vindictive)?
From my dating experience, here's a quick-version of what I want in a guy:

Wants:

A guy who:

is also a great friend
is encouraging
is faithful and trustworthy
has impeccable hygeine
is very empathetic
is secure in silence
can carry an intelligent but not patronizing conversation
has some of the major interests as I do
is patient
is confident
takes initiative
has humor
is confiding when upset
is considerate

I don't want a boyfriend who :
[list]
is opposite from the list above
is consistently jealous and pompous
has a narcissistic personality disorder... I've dated them. Not fun. :blink:
places a higher priority on his materials than individuals around him
doesn't know how to manage his anger
doesn't like to be active
isn't productive with his life
isn't willing to explore new "things"
doesn't enjoy homemade food b/c all I try to do is cook at home
excludes me constantly when his friends are around
isn't thoughtful
isn't too sarcastic... it can get out of hand sometimes.
doesn't respect boundaries

SunWuKong

08-15-2002, 10:10 AM

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 15 2002, 09:27 AM
is confiding when upset

ooh... this is a tough one...

artsfartsyjanet

08-17-2002, 01:06 AM

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 15 2002, 11:10 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 15 2002, 09:27 AM
is confiding when upset

ooh... this is a tough one...
Yes, communication is very important. If someone wants to be alone for a little bit to cool off, that's fine too so as long as the dude's open. The quicker it's out of the system, the quicker the problems can be addressed.

SunWuKong

08-17-2002, 01:42 AM

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 17 2002, 02:06 AM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 15 2002, 11:10 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 15 2002, 09:27 AM
is confiding when upset

ooh... this is a tough one...
Yes, communication is very important. If someone wants to be alone for a little bit to cool off, that's fine too so as long as the dude's open. The quicker it's out of the system, the quicker the problems can be addressed.
what if i think that talking about it won't accomplish anything?

artsfartsyjanet

08-17-2002, 01:52 AM

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 17 2002, 02:42 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 17 2002, 02:06 AM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 15 2002, 11:10 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 15 2002, 09:27 AM
is confiding when upset

ooh... this is a tough one...
Yes, communication is very important. If someone wants to be alone for a little bit to cool off, that's fine too so as long as the dude's open. The quicker it's out of the system, the quicker the problems can be addressed.
what if i think that talking about it won't accomplish anything?
If a situation seems to have no solution, it doesn't mean a guy's problems aren't worth bringing to attention or awareness. What do you have in mind that may be a problem for a guy but may not be worth mentioning b/c talking about it won't accomplish anything? I suppose it depends on the the situation, but what examples do you have in mind? :)

krissy

08-17-2002, 02:10 AM

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 16 2002, 11:52 PM
If a situation seems to have no solution, it doesn't mean a guy's problems aren't worth bringing to attention or awareness. What do you have in mind that may be a problem for a guy but may not be worth mentioning b/c talking about it won't accomplish anything? I suppose it depends on the the situation, but what examples do you have in mind? :)
I agree that talking doesn't always have to result in a solution - although that's clearly my preference. Sometimes talking just helps people feel better - that's accomplishing something IMO. It seems that partners (especially your "ideal" people) should be able to do that for each other even if there isn't a clear-cut solution. How is she supposed to help if you don't let her know what's up? Most women aren't psychic.

SunWuKong

08-17-2002, 02:14 AM

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 17 2002, 02:52 AM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 17 2002, 02:42 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 17 2002, 02:06 AM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 15 2002, 11:10 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 15 2002, 09:27 AM
is confiding when upset

ooh... this is a tough one...
Yes, communication is very important. If someone wants to be alone for a little bit to cool off, that's fine too so as long as the dude's open. The quicker it's out of the system, the quicker the problems can be addressed.
what if i think that talking about it won't accomplish anything?
If a situation seems to have no solution, it doesn't mean a guy's problems aren't worth bringing to attention or awareness. What do you have in mind that may be a problem for a guy but may not be worth mentioning b/c talking about it won't accomplish anything? I suppose it depends on the the situation, but what examples do you have in mind? :)
well, just whatever that's out of the girl's control, you know. i mean sometimes maybe i'm worried enough about a problem as it is, i don't need someone else to be talking about it pointlessly to make me think about it even more than i already am.

artsfartsyjanet

08-17-2002, 02:20 AM

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 17 2002, 03:14 AM

well, just whatever that's out of the girl's control, you know. i mean sometimes maybe i'm worried enough about a problem as it is, i don't need someone else to be talking about it pointlessly to make me think about it even more than i already am.
In that case, true, then a problem not concerning the significant other wouldn't necessarily need to be communicated unless it makes a significant difference in the quality of the relationship. Thanks for your thoughts. :)

krissy

08-17-2002, 02:22 AM

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 17 2002, 12:14 AM
well, just whatever that's out of the girl's control, you know.  i mean sometimes maybe i'm worried enough about a problem as it is, i don't need someone else to be talking about it pointlessly to make me think about it even more than i already am.
Fair enough. Different people need different things. Though I would hope that she wouldn't talk pointlessly. For me personally, other people provide perspective (I'm hyperanalytical so I need that) - but that's just how I work...

achtungbaby

08-17-2002, 03:09 AM

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 17 2002, 12:52 AM
If a situation seems to have no solution, it doesn't mean a guy's problems aren't worth bringing to attention or awareness.  What do you have in mind that may be a problem for a guy but may not be worth mentioning b/c talking about it won't accomplish anything?  I suppose it depends on the the situation, but what examples do you have in mind? :)

I agree with SWK -- if a guy doesn't want to talk about what's ailing him, trust in his maturity and respect his wishes. Not every problem can be solved, and while I totally agree that open communication needs to be practiced, sometimes things are better left unsaid -- for the time being, anyway. I just don't think it's a good idea to pressure a person into talking about what's stressing them.

Sometimes the best thing you can do for a guy is to just let him know you're there and that if he does need to talk, you're available.

kasia

08-17-2002, 10:42 AM

Originally posted by wylin@Aug 14 2002, 11:20 PM
im suprised u ladies didnt mention a guy w/ a strong sense of justice and who tries to help others and change the world. I thought women were attracted to those (super) hero types. who has the ability and drive to change what happens around him and do it selflessy and fairly.

i did. i said daniel wu. he refuses to take stereotypical asian male roles. he's an architect and an actor. and he will altruistic as soon as i meet him b/c i will convince him to design really nice low-income housing projects in hong kong.

SunWuKong

08-17-2002, 11:40 AM

Originally posted by achtungbaby@Aug 17 2002, 04:09 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 17 2002, 12:52 AM
If a situation seems to have no solution, it doesn't mean a guy's problems aren't worth bringing to attention or awareness. What do you have in mind that may be a problem for a guy but may not be worth mentioning b/c talking about it won't accomplish anything? I suppose it depends on the the situation, but what examples do you have in mind? :)

I agree with SWK -- if a guy doesn't want to talk about what's ailing him, trust in his maturity and respect his wishes. Not every problem can be solved, and while I totally agree that open communication needs to be practiced, sometimes things are better left unsaid -- for the time being, anyway. I just don't think it's a good idea to pressure a person into talking about what's stressing them.

Sometimes the best thing you can do for a guy is to just let him know you're there and that if he does need to talk, you're available.
right on.
sometimes words have no redeemable values.

SunWuKong

08-17-2002, 11:51 AM

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 17 2002, 11:42 AM
Originally posted by wylin@Aug 14 2002, 11:20 PM
im suprised u ladies didnt mention a guy w/ a strong sense of justice and who tries to help others and change the world. I thought women were attracted to those (super) hero types.  who has the ability and drive to change what happens around him and do it selflessy and fairly.

i did. i said daniel wu. he refuses to take stereotypical asian male roles. he's an architect and an actor. and he will altruistic as soon as i meet him b/c i will convince him to design really nice low-income housing projects in hong kong.
refuse to take stereotypical asian male roles? there isn't really such a thing as a role that's "stereotypically asian" in hk... all the roles are asian roles... and he does take the pretty boy role alot, which usually means that in the middle of the movie, his shirt will inevitably come off for whatever passable reason. but that's just how the business works. if he refuses these roles, he'll never get any work.

and there are already plenty of government housing for low-income families. my father grew up in one of those "projects". breeding ground for future triad members they are. actually tung chee hwa royally messed up when he had these residential buildings built and sold the flats for a really low price. his plan was to enable more HKers to become home owners. my cousin and her husband own one of those flats. but what happened was that it drove real estate prices way down and it was very detrimental to the economy. everybody ended up being poorer for it. i don't know what tung chee hwa was thinking. HK always depended on a very laissez-faire policy on businesses for the economy to be strong.

kasia

08-17-2002, 07:04 PM

he was speaking with reference to films in the u.s.

what would your suggestion be to help the poor in h.k.?

SunWuKong

08-17-2002, 07:46 PM

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 17 2002, 08:04 PM
what would your suggestion be to help the poor in h.k.?
that's a really loaded question. short of telling them to actually move to mainland, seriously i have no idea. but really the gap between the poor and the middle class in HK is not that big. it's like, you have the mega rich people, and then you have everybody else. one thing's for sure though, HK's economy is doing very poorly. there are probably alot of short-term answers but HK's economy is only going to keep going down as it gets more integrated with mainland China. they've got some of the best financial heads of HK in the government trying to revive the economy, but even they admit that there's no clear solution.

artsfartsyjanet

08-18-2002, 11:48 PM

So what do the other members :) here on YW have to say about what kind of a guy they want or to look like? I know back in some medieval era or whenever, women with big hips and a higher fat content usually won the praise from men. Perhaps, it's because of fertility reasons, but it was probably also socially acceptable to friends and family members (back then). Now that times have changed, do you think that what looks good is a social construct? In other words, is your ideal guy someone that resembles a model in a magazine, someone your friends or family approve of physically?