being attracted to someone who is straight/gay

[SunWuKong]

i'm not talking about just physical attraction. obviously that is probably bound to happen. i'm talking about emotional attraction.

i'm straight, and back in college, i became really good friends with a girl who is a lesbian. we had very similar personalities back then, and eventually i became very emotionally attracted to her. nothing much came out of it though, since she is gay. and then, for some reason i don't remember now, we got pissed at each other and then never spoke to each other again.

have you ever experienced something like this? this question applies also to those who are gay and have been emotionally attracted to straight people.

[Faithless]

Did you ask this woman out? Was she offended? It would be interesting to know how gay/lesbians respond to these sort of advances.

[moschikat]

yes. all the time. i don't know why gay men have to be so damn charming. personality, talent, wit and humor.
*sigh*

(and they salsa/tango/swing dance too!) :dance:

[etcj]

good story:

At an event where there was a dance for GBLTQ young people...so this gay boy kept staring at this friend of mine far away from the dance stage. It was such a deep stare that pretty much all of us noticed it. However, the boy didn't have the guts to come up and say hi to my friend or ask for a dance. Here's the part that you would love.

My friend is transgender and he was born a girl, but expresses his identity (physically and outwardly) as a boy. However, he likes girls, not boys. (Get confused yet?)

So you have this shy boy, who is not willing to ask for a dance, who at the same time perhaps think that my friend is another gay boy too. Obviously, my friend would have turned him down even if he did ask, so there wasn't really a chance. All I got to say assumptions, assumptions, assumptions....

[frcegrl]

Originally posted by ChottoMatte@Jun 11 2003, 08:30 AM
Did you ask this woman out? Was she offended? It would be interesting to know how gay/lesbians respond to these sort of advances.
i don't get offended but i don't understand why the straight guy would still continue to pursue me or hint at things that would never happen. then it makes the situation difficult to handle. it's rather easy, is it not? i like girls, there is no chance with me....let's move on....and no...there is no chance of "changing me"...

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by ChottoMatte@Jun 11 2003, 12:30 PM
Did you ask this woman out? Was she offended? It would be interesting to know how gay/lesbians respond to these sort of advances.
i did not try to pursue her in a romantic sense, however, something sexual but very minor did happen. which was completely surprising to me when it happened. not to mention very confusing.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by frcegrl@Jun 23 2003, 05:05 PM
i don't get offended but i don't understand why the straight guy would still continue to pursue me or hint at things that would never happen. then it makes the situation difficult to handle. it's rather easy, is it not? i like girls, there is no chance with me....let's move on....and no...there is no chance of "changing me"...
hahhah i think it's because it would be an ultimate power-trip for a guy to be able to "turn" a lesbian.