traditional weddings in asian countries

[kasia]

what are the practices associated with traditional asian weddings?

from what i know of chinese weddings:
the groom is supposed to pick up the bride at the bride's home.
the groomsmen are supposed to negotiate the amount of the hung bao at the door with the bridesmaids before the bridesmaids turn the bride over.
something having to do with an umbrella - not sure what.
before, the wedding, there's the delivery of the chinese cakes from the groom's family to the bride's family.

what else? are any of these customs still followed in hong kong/taiwan/china?

[tapestrybabe]

i dunno about chinese custom...
but in korean tradition...

a couple that gets married... symbols that they use in the ceremony are geese... geese mate for life and represent faithfulness... altho today... instead of using a live animal... they substitute it by using a wooden one called kirogi

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by kasia@Jun 11 2003, 02:18 AM
the groomsmen are supposed to negotiate the amount of the hung bao at the door with the bridesmaids before the bridesmaids turn the bride over.
actually i think this is a thing that started in HK. but not 100% sure.

[moschikat]

What i've observed at a Thai wedding :

the couple is supposed to kneel down in front of their elders and have water poured onto their hands out of a conch shell type thing . . .

and recieve blessings . . .

i'm not sure what the significance of the shell is for?

other than that, most of them are a mix of chinese and christian traditions . . . (no wonder i'm a confused kid! :blink: )

[kasia]

csb's post about red representing fertility at weddings reminded me of this.

in chinese weddings - very traditional ones - the mother of the groom usually buys a new red blanket for the newlywed. a toddler is then asked to jump on top of the blanket a couple of times ... to bless it? not sure. but to ensure fertility.

someone make sure that a kid jumps on csb's blankets on the night before his wedding :lol:

[Emperor_Mike]

:blink:

Live animals? Red? Umbrellas? Wow.

[Chester]

Are you talking about old, traditional stuff, or new, traditional stuff?

I don't pay much attention and actually haven't gone to many weddings anyway. Here's one I remember: that it's very bad luck to break anything on the day of the wedding. I remember, as a kid, a cousin dropping a soup bowl at an uncle's wedding and she got a royal bitching out for it.

There's always the silly reception games like rolling the egg up the groom's pant leg and all that.

This all reminds me of a dinner at ABC Milpitas a few months ago: they had the partitions up for a wedding and so I was awaiting the eventual band/karaoke cacophony. As I heard the band warming up, I began to cringe, resigning myself to the onslaught that would soon ensue.

And it did, but the tune was weird...but familiar...it was..."Hava Nagila."

I took a peek later and it was a white (presumably Jewish) groom and an Asian bride.

[nonamerasian]

November/December is the traditional wedding season in India (I think) and wedding celebrations can be several days long.

[moJo]

November/December is the traditional wedding season in India (I think) and wedding celebrations can be several days long.
four days! in the case of my friend's friend.

in chinese weddings, there's some kind of tea ceremony that takes place at the groom's house. at least, thats what happened when my brother got married. either both the bride and groom or just the bride gave hot tea to the groom's family while the rest of the wedding party and close family watched.

[DragonKnight]

Hrm, dunno anything special that goes on in Filipino weddings. Seems like your standard Western style weddings. I never paid much attention. I always sneak out from them during the dancing and drive off somewhere.

[experiment888]

four days! in the case of my friend's friend.

in chinese weddings, there's some kind of tea ceremony that takes place at the groom's house. at least, thats what happened when my brother got married. either both the bride and groom or just the bride gave hot tea to the groom's family while the rest of the wedding party and close family watched.The tea ceremony takes place with both bride and groom offering tea to the parents
(both bride and groom parents) in exchange for lai see (red pockets)

[SunWuKong]

four days! in the case of my friend's friend.

in chinese weddings, there's some kind of tea ceremony that takes place at the groom's house. at least, thats what happened when my brother got married. either both the bride and groom or just the bride gave hot tea to the groom's family while the rest of the wedding party and close family watched.

yeah that's pretty traditional. i don't think most young people nowadays do it. i'm not sure if my two married cousins in HK did it. but i'm pretty damn sure my cousin who grew up in NYC didn't do it.

[robotic]

traditional indian weddings (according to different religions and ethnic groups: tamil, bengali, muslim, parsee, telugu etc.): http://www.shaadi.com/wedding/rituals.php

this is what pakistani and (northern) indian brides look on their wedding night (this is a 3 day ritual) Q_Q: http://www.weddingpros.com/ravish/pic-12.jpg

[yoMAMA]

in traditional chinese weddings, the bride has a large red blanket covers her face so she couldn't see anything.

not sure why :tongue:

[tvbdude]

also when the bride arrived to the wedding altar or whatever in a carriage, the groom has to kick the door.

[robotic]

its also a ritual at our weddings to steal the grooms shoes. and then the poor groom has to walk around with no socks or shoes on, trying to look for them when he's really supposed to be sitting with the bride and talking to people.

after the wedding (after the second day, the bride goes to the grooms house to live), the bride and groom feed each other a sweet dish made out of wheat, eggs and milk. i'm not sure what it symbolizes ;_; and then also, you have to wear lots of rose-petals around your neck, and your car gets decorated with stick-on flowers so everyone else in the street will know it's a married couple passing by.

[lena99]

I don't know if this is true in all parts of Japan, because there are so many different sects of shinto but....
I remember that we had to present gifts to my husbands parents and to my husbands eldest brother and then we have to go around to all the guests and serve them sake and bow alot.
Lena99

[robotic]

chinese wedding couple (http://sy.hkcampus.net/~sy-wtl/Chinese%20Wedding%20Thanks.JPG)

japanese shinto wedding (http://nicophotos.delerue.org:9876/japan/20030427_miyajima/dcp_4961.jpg)

[rice cracker]

I think red is an important color in Korean weddings, too, since all the bridal hanboks I see have red skirts.

http://www.e-hanbok.com/HanbokImg/bridge/k107-2.jpg

[robotic]

that is such a pretty wedding dress *_*

[SunWuKong]

chinese wedding couple (http://sy.hkcampus.net/~sy-wtl/Chinese%20Wedding%20Thanks.JPG)

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ok we don't do that anymore. usually the bride just wears a cheung saam (qi pao) and the groom just wears a suit.

but it would have been funny to see kimpossible wear that.

[Faithless]

Does the stuff that goes on at the banquets count?

I've been to a couple where the bride changed her outfit at least a few times.

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*bump*
Back in the day when one could get away with that. :rolleyes:

[kimpossible]

:biggrin: :eek: :biggrin:

ok we don't do that anymore. usually the bride just wears a cheung saam (qi pao) and the groom just wears a suit.

but it would have been funny to see kimpossible wear that.

When you get your pics done in a studio they actually give you a choice to get a set of pics in outfits like that. How do you know I *don't* have them. :smile:

[SunWuKong]

When you get your pics done in a studio they actually give you a choice to get a set of pics in outfits like that. How do you know I *don't* have them. :smile:


ok you should post them up. :biggrin:

[NtshiabLiDej]

Hmong wedding customs are so complicated. Even if I knew how to explain it, I wouldn't know where to begin.