hapaphiles

[kasia]

kinda like how asian women are annoyed by asiaphiles...what do you guys think of hapaphiles?

[SunWuKong]

i lust hapa girls :)

ok seriously. i'm only kidding. i lust all girls that look bootilicious.

[kimpossible]

Honestly, to me it's about the same with Asiaphiles having slightly more creep factor than hapaphiles. I'm not Asian enough for most Asiaphiles, thankfully. But I think Asian hapaphiles are more in number than non-Asian ones. Though I did lurk on this one board where this one black guy went on and on about Eurasian girls being his little angels of the Orient.

Haha... I once actually pretended to not understand any Japanese to ditch this prick in a club. Now that's a twist; having to pretend I know less Japanese than I do.

Though in all reality, I think I married a hapaphile. Once my husband asked me if guys in Japan know what I am by looking at me. A lot of Japanese guys do, so I told him so. He was really proud of that. He's going to kill me for telling you guys. :)

[kasia]

btw, i think my question can apply to guys, too. a lot of my friends are in love with hapa guys - not any specifically, just hapa guys in general.

[thaite]

If there are, I'd sure love to meet them.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by thaite@Apr 16 2003, 04:12 PM
If there are, I'd sure love to meet them.
me too. i'm hapa too.

bring on the chickies!

[YuheiCarreau]

Jeez, where have you been hidin' them?

[kasia]

is it a cali thing or something? it seems like every asian girl i know is into hapa guys.

[BeTheReds]

Milk tea with a twist of lemon, what more could you ask for?

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by kasia@Apr 16 2003, 06:00 PM
is it a cali thing or something? it seems like every asian girl i know is into hapa guys.
California Asians are off in their own little universe, just like pretty much everyone else I know from the west coast.

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by BeTheReds@Apr 16 2003, 06:07 PM
Milk tea with a twist of lemon, what more could you ask for?
More food euphamisms! Will they never stop?

[thaite]

California, eh? Must be in SoCal, cuz I get nuthin' but hassle up north.

:: plans another trip to LA ::

[maldito]

Originally posted by kasia@Apr 16 2003, 04:00 PM
is it a cali thing or something? it seems like every asian girl i know is into hapa guys.
:D That's what I thought...it HAS to be a cali thing. Esp. since it is the west coast people who use the term "hapa" more so.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

actually the first time I heard the term "hapa" was on the east coast ... but maybe that's cuz outside my university I don't know so many ...

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by kasia@Apr 16 2003, 07:00 PM
is it a cali thing or something?  it seems like every asian girl i know is into hapa guys.
the chicks i know and have known tend not to wanna date hapa guys cuz they told me that hapa guys got mad issues with identity and seem bitter. don't hate the messenger. hate the message.

must be a cali, thing.

[moschikat]

okay okay . . my justification for going ga-ga over hapa boys is because there are somethings that you just can't express in either one language or another . . .

i used to go out with mainly half Thai/ half caucasian guys because we were able to have less problems communicating our feelings *blah! girly mode!*

that and cuz' they were pretty damn good looking models too :lol:

i don't quite comprehend the girls who like any mix of hapa just because they are mixed . . . there sure be a better reason than that . . .

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Apr 16 2003, 09:39 PM
the chicks i know and have known tend not to wanna date hapa guys cuz they told me that hapa guys got mad issues with identity and seem bitter. don't hate the messenger. hate the message.

must be a cali, thing.
bwahahahahahahaha ... the same reason I stopped dating ABCs and only date 1.5 generation girls now :lol:

Seriously, it's the truth. Guys got more problems than girls too, it seems. It took all my life up until last week before I have met one single hapa who could hold a conversation with me without once bringing up the issue of race. May be an unfair generalization but hey, what can ya do. Just don't wanna hear those bitches complaining when someone generalizes them in return.

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by AliBabaIncorporated@Apr 16 2003, 09:10 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Apr 16 2003, 09:39 PM
the chicks i know and have known tend not to wanna date hapa guys cuz they told me that hapa guys got mad issues with identity and seem bitter.  don't hate the messenger.  hate the message.

must be a cali, thing.
bwahahahahahahaha ... the same reason I stopped dating ABCs and only date 1.5 generation girls now :lol:

Seriously, it's the truth. Guys got more problems than girls too, it seems. It took all my life up until last week before I have met one single hapa who could hold a conversation with me without once bringing up the issue of race. May be an unfair generalization but hey, what can ya do. Just don't wanna hear those bitches complaining when someone generalizes them in return.
But, uh... Don't you bring up race a whole lot too?

How do they work it into the conversation, anyway; are you like "Hey, wanna go get a burger at Denny's?" and they're like "Whitey runs Denny's!"?

All the Hapas I have met in person led very sheltered lives where being biracial was never an issue. I've had a Hapa (who was male) make fun of me because he thought I was making up stories about racism so I could feel persecuted. Weird kid.

[thaite]

Hey, aren't you supposed to be hookin' me up with your sisters?

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by YuheiCarreau@Apr 16 2003, 10:37 PM
But, uh... Don't you bring up race a whole lot too?

How do they work it into the conversation, anyway; are you like "Hey, wanna go get a burger at Denny's?" and they're like "Whitey runs Denny's!"?
In real life, I have no particular reason to bring it up beyond "my mother is chinese but can't speak it; i learned chinese from my uncle and my friends." But every damn hapa I meet always thinks I wanna hear about their personal crisis of how white society doesn't allow them to express "both of their cultural identities" or some other nonsense, then you dig a little deeper and find out they're just English monolinguals from the 'burbs who think fitting into an Asian-American clique is the epitome of Asianness.

ABC girls are even worse, they're always obsessed with finding some deeper reason for why I study Chinese and Japanese besides "my friends taught me," they think it's me trying to "outasian" them and take it as a personal offense when I see a friend and call out to him in Cantonese.

Then there was that hapa girl who accused me of denying my cultural heritage cuz I have no clue or desire to find out how much Filipino and Malay admixture my Chinese ancestors have from having lived in those countries for 6+ generations. Damn that was a fun date.

[Xishi]

Originally posted by maldito@Apr 16 2003, 05:54 PM
:D That's what I thought...it HAS to be a cali thing. Esp. since it is the west coast people who use the term "hapa" more so.
Haha oh my GOD...

That picture of you and your dog was sooooo adorable...
Hahah...

!!!!

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by AliBabaIncorporated@Apr 16 2003, 11:03 PM
Originally posted by YuheiCarreau@Apr 16 2003, 10:37 PM
But, uh... Don't you bring up race a whole lot too?

How do they work it into the conversation, anyway; are you like "Hey, wanna go get a burger at Denny's?" and they're like "Whitey runs Denny's!"?
In real life, I have no particular reason to bring it up beyond "my mother is chinese but can't speak it; i learned chinese from my uncle and my friends." But every damn hapa I meet always thinks I wanna hear about their personal crisis of how white society doesn't allow them to express "both of their cultural identities" or some other nonsense, then you dig a little deeper and find out they're just English monolinguals from the 'burbs who think fitting into an Asian-American clique is the epitome of Asianness.

ABC girls are even worse, they're always obsessed with finding some deeper reason for why I study Chinese and Japanese besides "my friends taught me," they think it's me trying to "outasian" them and take it as a personal offense when I see a friend and call out to him in Cantonese.

Then there was that hapa girl who accused me of denying my cultural heritage cuz I have no clue or desire to find out how much Filipino and Malay admixture my Chinese ancestors have from having lived in those countries for 6+ generations. Damn that was a fun date.
duuuuude
that's scary
what's wrong with them
the overseas chinese girls in HK are so much cooler
but then again, i don't know how they treat hapa guys

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Xishi@Apr 16 2003, 11:40 PM
Haha oh my GOD...

That picture of you and your dog was sooooo adorable...
Hahah...

!!!!
and you young lady, need to give me more pics pronto

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by Xishi@Apr 16 2003, 08:40 PM
Haha oh my GOD...

That picture of you and your dog was sooooo adorable...
Hahah...

!!!!
dog? I thought it was a deer. Maldito ALWAYS has the coolest animals. It's so Disney.



<--- is jealous

[Craig]

I think these girls just want to date hapas that look like White guys, because it would be more socially acceptable to their parents (because they could make twisted claims that they're Asian) and there would be more of a perceived cultural background. Wasn't this mentioned in an older thread in this forum ?

[Rogmok]

i thought the term hapa orginated in Hawaii?

[maldito]

Originally posted by Xishi@Apr 16 2003, 08:40 PM
Haha oh my GOD...

That picture of you and your dog was sooooo adorable...
Hahah...

!!!!
oh, thanks. But it's a fawn (deer).

[maldito]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Apr 17 2003, 06:56 AM

dog? I thought it was a deer. Maldito ALWAYS has the coolest animals. It's so Disney.



<--- is jealous
:D @disney comment.

[maldito]

Originally posted by Rogmok@Apr 17 2003, 08:12 AM
i thought the term hapa orginated in Hawaii?
The word "hapa" did, but not used like it is today. That was started on the west coast. People in HI (at least in my experience) don't actually call themselves "hapa", but hapa something. Hapa Pake (Chinese), hapa Haole (caucasian) is the one you hear more. It started w/ Hapa Hawai'i for a part Hawaiian person..

[golden_buns]

I don't really get what's the big deal about hapas. That doesn't guaranty that somone will be neither good nor bad looking, or that he/she will/won't have a great personality.

[kimpossible]

My last word on the actual title subject is that everyone is a phile of something.

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Apr 17 2003, 05:17 PM
My last word on the actual title subject is that everyone is a phile of something.
True... And at the end of the day, Asiaphiles and Hapaphiles are still a lot better than Necrophiles and Pedophiles.

[maldito]

Originally posted by golden_buns@Apr 17 2003, 03:11 PM
I don't really get what's the big deal about hapas. That doesn't guaranty that somone will be neither good nor bad looking, or that he/she will/won't have a great personality.
so true.

[kasia]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Apr 17 2003, 03:17 PM
My last word on the actual title subject is that everyone is a phile of something.
but i think one can draw a distinction between a hapaphile and a ...nice-guy-phile...or something to like that.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by maldito@Apr 17 2003, 05:59 PM
Originally posted by Xishi@Apr 16 2003, 08:40 PM
Haha oh my GOD...

That picture of you and your dog was sooooo adorable...
Hahah...

!!!!
oh, thanks. But it's a fawn (deer).
see, i thought that dog looked awfully strange.

[golden_buns]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Apr 17 2003, 08:30 PM
see, i thought that dog looked awfully strange.
is it me or is he biting that poor creature's ear?

[BeTheReds]

That's a dog? It looks like Bambi.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Originally posted by BeTheReds@Apr 17 2003, 11:38 PM
That's a dog? It looks like Bambi.
:lol: :lol:

[teaz0r]

i'm an ex hapaphile.
i was inlove with a half thai half british bloke.
and then i saw his penis.

and that destroyed my perception of hapa boys.

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by pipSy@Apr 18 2003, 06:43 AM
i'm an ex hapaphile.
i was inlove with a half thai half british bloke.
and then i saw his penis.

and that destroyed my perception of hapa boys.
:lol: :lol: :lol:

The forbidden secret of the Hapa male has been revealed...

[thaite]

It had to have been becuase he's Brit.

It could have been worse -- he could have been half-French and had no balls, too.

[maldito]

Originally posted by golden_buns@Apr 17 2003, 08:32 PM
is it me or is he biting that poor creature's ear?
:lol: Have you had venison before? it's delicious...provided you know how to prepare it. :rolleyes:

I'm SURE that little creature was not eaten. I would've known about that...I think.

[Nightworlder]

The dealio in Chicag'o is that most of the Asian gurlies are kinda shy & timid if you step to them, even though I look more Asian than whiteboy (my pops is the Asian one in my familia). Most of the Asian hunnies are either into 100% Asian or 100% whiteboys. They just look at me and go 'Uhhh, which one are you?' :confused:

[BeTheReds]

Originally posted by Nightworlder@Apr 30 2003, 12:28 PM
The dealio in Chicag'o is that most of the Asian gurlies are kinda shy & timid if you step to them, even though I look more Asian than whiteboy (my pops is the Asian one in my familia). Most of the Asian hunnies are either into 100% Asian or 100% whiteboys. They just look at me and go 'Uhhh, which one are you?' :confused:
That's pretty much the way they are everywhere.

Tho I tend to not like the ones who like 100% whitebois, tho those are the ones who end up liking me.

Sigh dilemas dilemas.


Oh, hapas with asian pops rule!

hifive

[Nightworlder]

Hmmm whats it matter pops vs mum being asian? lol.
Someone somewhere at sometime at somepoint in the past told me that it wasn't that rare. I think they were just hatin on me haha.

[BeTheReds]

Well no, i'ts not that rare, but you have to admit that it is certainly MORE rare than WM AF or BM AF.

In fact, other than on the net, I have never met anyone who is AM WF.

So yea it is rare, tho nothing to seriously take pride in.

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by BeTheReds@Apr 30 2003, 05:47 PM
Well no, i'ts not that rare, but you have to admit that it is certainly MORE rare than WM AF or BM AF.

In fact, other than on the net, I have never met anyone who is AM WF.

So yea it is rare, tho nothing to seriously take pride in.
Really? Out of the twenty or so or so hapas I've met, only four had non-Asian dads. I know that having an Asian mother is far more common, but I guess I just haven't met those people yet.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by BeTheReds@Apr 30 2003, 06:47 PM
Well no, i'ts not that rare, but you have to admit that it is certainly MORE rare than WM AF or BM AF.
AM/WF should be far more common than BM/AF. At the time of the 2000 census, there were 123,644 AM/WF married couples recorded, but only 27,520 BM/AF married couples.

[Nightworlder]

Hell, I don't give a damn, I love being objectified as a slab of prime rib in the meatmarkets of society.

[deez nuts]

nuthing wrong with being objectified...we all got something (a fetish) that gets our juices flowing.

[ChinaLama]

before i came to yw, i was an unabashed hapaphile. nothin' like a Lasian to get me going. :) but now that i've discovered hapas are as ugly as the rest of us (except for HH-- she's uglier), i no longer feel the need to put them on a pedestal.

[maldito]

I guess since people are mentioining "objectify"...I don't like it b/c my people(s) have been nothing but objectified for decades if not centuries. Must be my upbringing...not being want to be the center of attention. I'd definitely say it's my cultural upbringing.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by maldito@May 9 2003, 10:58 AM
I guess since people are mentioining "objectify"...I don't like it b/c my people(s) have been nothing but objectified for decades if not centuries.


fine......... lusted after.

[Fireblade]

If I'm the object of lust by an attractive, non-asian woman... Sure... why the hell not? I'm all for making hapa babies. :D

[coagulated fat]

Is no one else from cali? Weird.

Yeah, being hapa is not considered a bad thing here, generally. The stereotype is that all are good looking, guys and girls. The new, emerging stereotype, though, seems to be that we're either gorgeous or something goes awry and we're hideous. All or nothin.

I can think of a lot of hapas that aren't model beautiful yet aren't gargolyles, but since when are these things rational.

[Fireblade]

Originally posted by coagulated fat@May 21 2003, 10:07 PM
Is no one else from cali? Weird.

Yeah, being hapa is not considered a bad thing here, generally. The stereotype is that all are good looking, guys and girls. The new, emerging stereotype, though, seems to be that we're either gorgeous or something goes awry and we're hideous. All or nothin.

I can think of a lot of hapas that aren't model beautiful yet aren't gargolyles, but since when are these things rational.
a lot of ppl are from kali... btw...welcome to the boards.

[Deadpool]

You know whats weird. I keep hearing that AF/WF relationships overwhelmingy moere frequent than AM/WF couples. Its pretty rare if all I ever see AM/WF couple on the streets. Ive definetly seen more AF/WM copuples. But the thing is of all the Hapas I know personally, all their dads are Asian. Weird.

And whats with this "all hapas are beautiful and shit" Someone told me they were superior. WTF. Thats just creepy. A little bit Nazi-ish if you ask me. I have some cousins who are Hapas, this is kinda mean but, they some fugly mofos.

[coagulated fat]

fireblade - i love oscar wilde. "Looking good and dressing well is a necessity. Having a purpose in life is not." heh. also, "Time is a waste of money." It is, though.

k back on topic. i've noticed a rise in the AM/WF couples over the past few years. It seems almost equal now, at least at my school. Drat, more competition.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by coagulated fat@May 22 2003, 03:21 AM
k back on topic.&nbsp; i've noticed a rise in the AM/WF couples over the past few years.&nbsp; It seems almost equal now, at least at my school.&nbsp; Drat, more competition.
waitaminute... who would you be competing with? would you be competing with asian women or white women?

[coagulated fat]

Well, normally I compete with Asian women, but if white women suddenly come to the realization that Asian guys are hot, I must compete with them as well. Of course I'm mostly kidding, it's great that white women are seeing the light regarding Asian guys. Bout time.

edited to add: yay! i'm a fetus now at 5 posts.

[Deadpool]

Originally posted by coagulated fat@May 21 2003, 11:21 PM
i've noticed a rise in the AM/WF couples over the past few years. It seems almost equal now, at least at my school. Drat, more competition.
Wow where do you live? I haven't seen this at all. Oh well.
Location might be a factor.

[coagulated fat]

I'm at UC San Diego.

[Deadpool]

*buys a ticket to San Diego*

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by coagulated fat@May 22 2003, 03:49 AM
Well, normally I compete with Asian women, but if white women suddenly come to the realization that Asian guys are hot, I must compete with them as well. Of course I'm mostly kidding, it's great that white women are seeing the light regarding Asian guys. Bout time.

edited to add: yay! i'm a fetus now at 5 posts.

maybe it's just that more asian men are giving non-asian women a try. honestly, i know maybe one or two asian guys in real life that would actually date non-asian women, and currently i'd say about 95% of my friends are asian. i know a lot more asian women that date asian men exclusively than asian women that date non-asian men exclusively, but in my opinion, if you meet the random white woman in the US, she's more likely to have less hang-ups about dating asian guys than the random asian woman in the US.

[Deadpool]

Same here. Most of my friends are Asian and I only know one guy that has a white girl fetish. The rest would prefer Asian. I personally don't know any Asian women that only prefer only white doods but people tell me this is common? Actually I knew 2 girls in HS that said they only date white. One of them ended up dating a fob from HK. :D

[YuheiCarreau]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@May 23 2003, 09:34 AM
Originally posted by coagulated fat@May 22 2003, 03:49 AM
Well, normally I compete with Asian women, but if white women suddenly come to the realization that Asian guys are hot, I must compete with them as well. Of course I'm mostly kidding, it's great that white women are seeing the light regarding Asian guys. Bout time.

edited to add: yay! i'm a fetus now at 5 posts.

maybe it's just that more asian men are giving non-asian women a try. honestly, i know maybe one or two asian guys in real life that would actually date non-asian women, and currently i'd say about 95% of my friends are asian. i know a lot more asian women that date asian men exclusively than asian women that date non-asian men exclusively, but in my opinion, if you meet the random white woman in the US, she's more likely to have less hang-ups about dating asian guys than the random asian woman in the US.
That's funny, all the AA guys I hang out with are constantly chasing White girls. My observation has been that Asian-from-Asia guys prefer Asians of their ethnicity, but would rather date a White woman than an AA woman. <_<

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by YuheiCarreau@May 24 2003, 08:08 PM
My observation has been that Asian-from-Asia guys prefer Asians of their ethnicity, but would rather date a White woman than an AA woman.
As my FOB friend from Malaysia put it, "If I wanted a Chinese girl, I'd find one who's sure she's Chinese, and if I wanted an American girl, I'd find one who's sure she's American. Last thing I need is some American girl who thinks she's Chinese."

Girls seem to have the same thinking, among the people I know. But statistically speaking, it's more common to find US-born Asian guys marrying or cohabiting with foreign-born Asian girls than the other way around, which was something of a shock to my intuition when I first found it out.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

But statistically speaking, it's more common to find US-born Asian guys marrying or cohabiting with foreign-born Asian girls than the other way around, which was something of a shock to my intuition when I first found it out.

That's b/c Asian Americans can be Asiaphiles too :) :lol:

[BeTheReds]

Originally posted by FrozenPizza@May 26 2003, 07:44 AM

That's b/c Asian Americans can be Asiaphiles too :) :lol:
WORD!

Thank you!

Although it is not very recognizable visibly, this has truth written all over it.