Why do most women...

[deez nuts]

Why are most women so obsessive about you calling them on the phone? And god forbid you forget to call back when you say you would. Or worse when you don't want to see them anymore after the first date and don't call back...... uhhhm take a hint?

What the hell is that all about? I hate talking on the phone. Forget that. Called just to talk? What the hell is that all about?

And why do they always seem to call during the wrong times. At work or when you're out hanging out with the fellas? It's like they're checking up on you to see if you're creeping. Where's the trust?

My cellie is almost always off nowadays. I have a good excuse...can't have the cell phone on in certain and most areas of the hospital. :D

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 10:18 AM
What the hell is that all about? I hate talking on the phone. Forget that. Called just to talk? What the hell is that all about?
hahhah yeah my phone conversations usually last about 5 minutes or less.

[MellowDrama]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 09:18 AM
Why are most women so obsessive about you calling them on the phone? And god forbid you forget to call back when you say you would. Or worse when you don't want to see them anymore after the first date and don't call back...... uhhhm take a hint?

What the hell is that all about? I hate talking on the phone. Forget that. Called just to talk? What the hell is that all about?

And why do they always seem to call during the wrong times. At work or when you're out hanging out with the fellas? It's like they're checking up on you to see if you're creeping. Where's the trust?

My cellie is almost always off nowadays. I have a good excuse...can't have the cell phone on in certain and most areas of the hospital. :D
There's lots of truth in what you say. :o

[wylin]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Dec 27 2002, 07:31 AM
hahhah yeah my phone conversations usually last about 5 minutes or less.
exactly if she wants to talk 2 me it costs money! im one of those ppl i like to do stuff in person.

[artsfartsyjanet]

My boyfriend and I like to talk on the phone. It's just something we mutually enjoy, but we also find that personal contact is more fulfilling. Now that he's out of town with his family for the holiday, we only talk on the phone once at night time before we go to sleep. When he's in town, we either find each other on IM (since I'm usually online), and we talk briefly (not more than 5-10 minutes) before seeing each other.

[angel nympho]

It's not about the actual phone call. It's about calling when you SAY you would. Like... breaking a promise? Girls like to hear you, and when you say you're going to call, they're going to expect it. Even if it's just a quick call ("Hi, I was just calling to say hello... but I've gotta go blahblahblah *Click*"), girls like to know that you're thinking of them.

[iris]

I had a long distance relationship in college and we used the phone like crazy and we both loved it. He like to talk to me until I feel asleep holding the phone and it was so cute. We'd talk for hours, but it wouldn't seem that way. :wub:

[deez nuts]

Oh god, the last three posts by de women. :gross:

[artsfartsyjanet]

hehe... CSB. Ok.. about breaking promises... let's see, I've told someone I would call and not call because of circumstances. It's quite trivial actually. If a guy doesn't call when he says he would call, I'm pretty good about not misinterpreting the situation. About obsessed women, well, there are a lot of insecure MEN and WOMEN out there who feel the need to know where you are 24/7 it seems. It's just insecurity due to many reasons... insecure attachment, bad past experiences, etc.... It comes down to how people must come to terms with their own level of security. yes, it can be annoying. My last relationship, in fact, was about an insecure dude who had to know where i was 24/7. As the old saying goes, if there's no trust, there's no foundation for a relationship to flourish.

[537]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 07:18 AM
Why are most women so obsessive about you calling them on the phone?  And god forbid you forget to call back when you say you would.   Or worse when you don't want to see them anymore after the first date and don't call back...... uhhhm take a hint?

What the hell is that all about? I hate talking on the phone.  Forget that.  Called just to talk? What the hell is that all about?

And why do they always seem to call during the wrong times.  At work or when you're out hanging out with the fellas? It's like they're checking up on you to see if you're creeping.  Where's the trust?

My cellie is almost always off nowadays.  I have a good excuse...can't have the cell phone on in certain and most areas of the hospital.  :D
I've been told I'm terrible on the phone. So I replied, "I'm just not a phone-type of guy, alright? Hey I don't say shit when you're kissing me like a dead fish, so wtf?"



I don't know, I'm just an up-front-in-person kind of guy. Nobody gives me shit for not calling them when I say I would, because I just don't tell anybody I'll call them.

:lol:

The phone to me is an instrument. Case in point:

*Phone rings*

Me: Yo.

Homey: Sup Les, what u doin'?

Me: Nothin.

Homey: Cool. Wanna roll to Shin Sen Gumi?

Me: Sure, you pickin' me up?

Homey: Yeah, wait outside in 15.

Me: Alright, lates.

Homey: Late.

*click*


That's what the phone is for. :blink:

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 01:33 PM
hehe... CSB.   Ok.. about breaking promises... let's see, I've told someone I would call and not call because of circumstances. It's quite trivial actually.  If a guy doesn't call when he says he would call, I'm pretty good about not misinterpreting the situation.  About obsessed women, well, there are a lot of insecure MEN and WOMEN out there who feel the need to know where you are 24/7 it seems.  It's just insecurity due to many reasons... insecure attachment, bad past experiences, etc.... It comes down to how people must come to terms with their own level of security.  yes, it can be annoying.  My last relationship, in fact, was about an insecure dude who had to know where i was 24/7.  As the old saying goes, if there's no trust, there's no foundation for a relationship to flourish.
Ok you got a point.

I wouldn't know. I haven't dated any guys. That's all you ladies.

I think next time my woman is away on business I'll stay on the phone with her so I can either 1)drool, fart, snore and talk in my sleep on the phone while she listens to me sleep or 2)tape record how she drools, moans and farts when she sleeps! :D

Be very romantic. :D

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by 537@Dec 27 2002, 01:36 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 07:18 AM
Why are most women so obsessive about you calling them on the phone? And god forbid you forget to call back when you say you would. Or worse when you don't want to see them anymore after the first date and don't call back...... uhhhm take a hint?

What the hell is that all about? I hate talking on the phone. Forget that. Called just to talk? What the hell is that all about?

And why do they always seem to call during the wrong times. At work or when you're out hanging out with the fellas? It's like they're checking up on you to see if you're creeping. Where's the trust?

My cellie is almost always off nowadays. I have a good excuse...can't have the cell phone on in certain and most areas of the hospital. :D
I've been told I'm terrible on the phone. So I replied, "I'm just not a phone-type of guy, alright? Hey I don't say shit when you're kissing me like a dead fish, so wtf?"



I don't know, I'm just an up-front-in-person kind of guy. Nobody gives me shit for not calling them when I say I would, because I just don't tell anybody I'll call them.

:lol:

The phone to me is an instrument. Case in point:

*Phone rings*

Me: Yo.

Homey: Sup Les, what u doin'?

Me: Nothin.

Homey: Cool. Wanna roll to Shin Sen Gumi?

Me: Sure, you pickin' me up?

Homey: Yeah, wait outside in 15.

Me: Alright, lates.

Homey: Late.

*click*


That's what the phone is for. :blink:
Werd Les, that's the way it should be.

[iris]

Originally posted by 537@Dec 28 2002, 02:36 AM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 07:18 AM
Why are most women so obsessive about you calling them on the phone? And god forbid you forget to call back when you say you would. Or worse when you don't want to see them anymore after the first date and don't call back...... uhhhm take a hint?

What the hell is that all about? I hate talking on the phone. Forget that. Called just to talk? What the hell is that all about?

And why do they always seem to call during the wrong times. At work or when you're out hanging out with the fellas? It's like they're checking up on you to see if you're creeping. Where's the trust?

My cellie is almost always off nowadays. I have a good excuse...can't have the cell phone on in certain and most areas of the hospital. :D
I've been told I'm terrible on the phone. So I replied, "I'm just not a phone-type of guy, alright? Hey I don't say shit when you're kissing me like a dead fish, so wtf?"



I don't know, I'm just an up-front-in-person kind of guy. Nobody gives me shit for not calling them when I say I would, because I just don't tell anybody I'll call them.

:lol:

The phone to me is an instrument. Case in point:

*Phone rings*

Me: Yo.

Homey: Sup Les, what u doin'?

Me: Nothin.

Homey: Cool. Wanna roll to Shin Sen Gumi?

Me: Sure, you pickin' me up?

Homey: Yeah, wait outside in 15.

Me: Alright, lates.

Homey: Late.

*click*


That's what the phone is for. :blink:
:lol: This is more mine:

Him: Hi, what are you doing [cute endearment]?

Me: Nothin really, what are you doing [other cute endearment]?

Him: Just thinking. How was your day? What [long questions here]?

Me: Oh I [long explanation].

Him: Yeah, I remember [childhood memory].

Me: [Another long story]

Him: What's your favorite [food, movie, plant, person, etc.]?

Me: [Blah blah blah]

Him: [Blah blah blah]

Us: [Sappy goodbyes with "no you hang up first." "No you!" "No you hang up first!"]

HAHAHAHAHA :lol: :D :lol:

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by 537@Dec 27 2002, 01:36 PM
The phone to me is an instrument. Case in point:

*Phone rings*

Me: Yo.

Homey: Sup Les, what u doin'?

Me: Nothin.

Homey: Cool. Wanna roll to Shin Sen Gumi?

Me: Sure, you pickin' me up?

Homey: Yeah, wait outside in 15.

Me: Alright, lates.

Homey: Late.

*click*


That's what the phone is for. :blink:
Funny, I don't even use the phone that much when my s.o's in town b/c i'm online most of the time. So, in a way, it's less personal. We just IM, talk about how each other's day went, and talk about how we're going to meet up. He only lives 15 minutes from my place. And the rest is history.

[artsfartsyjanet]

But now that he's out of town, we try to compensate for the time not spent together by talking longer on the phone. We're pretty good about engaging in a conversation.

[deez nuts]

We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!

[iris]

oh doesie widdle bunny CSB not like da cutesy wutesy talk? :wub: :luv: :wub:

For my birthday, he and his a capella group sang Happy Birthday over the phone to me. Now that's what a phone is for!

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by iris@Dec 27 2002, 01:43 PM


Us: [Sappy goodbyes with "no you hang up first." "No you!" "No you hang up first!"]

HAHAHAHAHA :lol: :D :lol:
I don't hang up first cuz my parents told me it's rude.

Me: So yeah that's it?

Her: Yeah

Me waits for her to hang up first.
She gets the wrong idea.

Her: You Hang up first

Me: Alrite. Bye. **click**


Edit: You're all crazy!

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 01:51 PM
We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!
It's not sappiness. It's a source of strength. It's better to have reciprocity in the smallest chit chat than to talk to a deaf mute who can't hold a decent conversation if his/her life depended on it.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 01:58 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 01:51 PM
We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!
It's not sappiness. It's a source of strength. It's better to have reciprocity in the smallest chit chat than to talk to a deaf mute who can't hold a decent conversation if his/her life depended on it.
If you say so....

Call me Helen Keller of phone conversations then.

For some of us things best said is said in person. Not running up the telephone bill or minutes on a cell phone.

Edit: Can I get a Whoaaaaaaa, Bundy!

[wylin]

Originally posted by iris@Dec 27 2002, 10:24 AM
I had a long distance relationship in college and we used the phone like crazy and we both loved it. He like to talk to me until I feel asleep holding the phone and it was so cute. We'd talk for hours, but it wouldn't seem that way. :wub:
Too Much Work Iris the Taiwanese American Princess!

TMW Iris TAP!

[iris]

Hey! He liked it too!

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by iris@Dec 27 2002, 02:04 PM
Hey! He liked it too!
You whipped him good! :D

[iris]

Wha?? No....doing those things made me like him even more to the point of wanting to do stuff for him.... :dance:

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 02:01 PM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 01:58 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 01:51 PM
We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!
It's not sappiness. It's a source of strength. It's better to have reciprocity in the smallest chit chat than to talk to a deaf mute who can't hold a decent conversation if his/her life depended on it.
If you say so....

Call me Helen Keller of phone conversations then.

For some of us things best said is said in person. Not running up the telephone bill or minutes on a cell phone.

Edit: Can I get a Whoaaaaaaa, Bundy!
Of course, what is said is best said in person, but how can this be done without an arrangement to rendez-vous over the telephone/email/AIM? I don't know many people who talk on the phone like this:

Ring ring...
Person A: hello?
Person B: 5pm. your place.
Person A: Ok.
Person B: Bye.
*both parties hang up.* heh

[iris]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 28 2002, 03:11 AM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 02:01 PM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 01:58 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 01:51 PM
We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!
It's not sappiness. It's a source of strength. It's better to have reciprocity in the smallest chit chat than to talk to a deaf mute who can't hold a decent conversation if his/her life depended on it.
If you say so....

Call me Helen Keller of phone conversations then.

For some of us things best said is said in person. Not running up the telephone bill or minutes on a cell phone.

Edit: Can I get a Whoaaaaaaa, Bundy!
Of course, what is said is best said in person, but how can this be done without an arrangement to rendez-vous over the telephone/email/AIM? I don't know many people who talk on the phone like this:

Ring ring...
Person A: hello?
Person B: 5pm. your place.
Person A: Ok.
Person B: Bye.
*both parties hang up.* heh
haha. I do that with friends, but not boyfriends. :lol:

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 02:11 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 02:01 PM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 01:58 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 01:51 PM
We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!
It's not sappiness. It's a source of strength. It's better to have reciprocity in the smallest chit chat than to talk to a deaf mute who can't hold a decent conversation if his/her life depended on it.
If you say so....

Call me Helen Keller of phone conversations then.

For some of us things best said is said in person. Not running up the telephone bill or minutes on a cell phone.

Edit: Can I get a Whoaaaaaaa, Bundy!
Of course, what is said is best said in person, but how can this be done without an arrangement to rendez-vous over the telephone/email/AIM? I don't know many people who talk on the phone like this:

Ring ring...
Person A: hello?
Person B: 5pm. your place.
Person A: Ok.
Person B: Bye.
*both parties hang up.* heh
What you just described works for me and has for a long time. I throw in an ocassional "How was your day." Brief and to the point. We'll talk when we meet up. I can somewhat see long distance relationships, but when you live together or live close to each other?

I'll just chalk it up as one of those enigmas I'll never figure out and just roll with it.

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 02:15 PM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 02:11 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 02:01 PM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Dec 27 2002, 01:58 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Dec 27 2002, 01:51 PM
We've been taken over!

Killing me with sappiness.....dying....help......especially Iris...melting...

Iris I bet your goodbyes are just as long as the frigging phone conversation!
It's not sappiness. It's a source of strength. It's better to have reciprocity in the smallest chit chat than to talk to a deaf mute who can't hold a decent conversation if his/her life depended on it.
If you say so....

Call me Helen Keller of phone conversations then.

For some of us things best said is said in person. Not running up the telephone bill or minutes on a cell phone.

Edit: Can I get a Whoaaaaaaa, Bundy!
Of course, what is said is best said in person, but how can this be done without an arrangement to rendez-vous over the telephone/email/AIM? I don't know many people who talk on the phone like this:

Ring ring...
Person A: hello?
Person B: 5pm. your place.
Person A: Ok.
Person B: Bye.
*both parties hang up.* heh
What you just described works for me and has for a long time. I throw in an ocassional "How was your day." Brief and to the point. We'll talk when we meet up. I can somewhat see long distance relationships, but when you live together or live close to each other?

I'll just chalk it up as one of those enigmas I'll never figure out and just roll with it.
Ok, we're on the save wavelength now b/c that's basically what I do with my boyfriend when he's in town (15 minutes away). I throw in the *how are you doing* or *how was your day*. Either way, it's a brief answer, and then, we'll find a way to hook up.

[contra_diction]

i'm with iris, and i'm a guy. i talk to my boo for a couple hours every single nite (& she only stays like 2 hours from me), plus, i work a nightshift so she's hella tired by the time i get home, but she calls anyway. & yes, lotsa times, our convos get real 'sappy'. i think this strengthens the relationship, though. "absence makes the heart grow fonder". uh-uh, f that.

[SunWuKong]

in real life, i don't say a lot (versus when i'm online). when i'm talking to the girl, even if it's on the phone, if it's not something meaningful or if it's not something that'll put a smile on her face, then it's bullshit. and i wouldn't say it.

[contra_diction]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Dec 27 2002, 12:28 PM
when i'm talking to the girl, even if it's on the phone, if it's not something meaningful or if it's not something that'll put a smile on her face, then it's bullshit. and i wouldn't say it.
that's true.

[ChairmanMah]

i don't like yakking on the phone.

i'm usually not interested in small talk or b.s.ing.

[teaz0r]

typical convo.
"baby are you free?"
"sorta busy"
"i'm horny babe"
"see you in 15 minutes."

the longest i spent on the phone was while having phone sex. 3 hours?

if i do talk on the phone for a long time. i ALWAYS have ulterior motives. like. phonesex or asking a favor. so i have to be all nice and what not.
yeah.

[giggles81]

If its a first date thing, I don't sweat it if he doesn't call me back. dude, i can take a hint. bedsides sometimes I tell guys that i'll call them back when I really won't. But if its a relationship, then its like a promise. Its a little dissapointing when your expecting a call and you don't get it. What I really hate is when a bf says he would call me to do something that night and he never does. I could have done something fun with my girls, instead of leaving the night open waiting to do something with him and not in the end. I think it totally depends on the situation. besides there are some psycho girls out dere....i thank god am not one of them. i have enough social problems as it is, don't need that to make it worse.

my 2 cents

[karizma]

i seperate people into 2 diff groups...ones i can talk to for hours on the phone...ones i only talk to to set up dates....i realize how fackin annoying it is to get a call who expects you to spark up an interesting convo for hours on end...

when im in a relationship id really prefer the guy not to call too often...my first relationship was a total disaster for many reasons, but the main one was cause his ass was insecure and always worrying about me cheating. he called me...paged me every few hours or so just to see what i was doing...when i didnt answer he'd get all pissy with me...and it was even worse when i was hangin with the boys....geezus...so anyway...a call once a day is fine...i just want to feel like im in a relationship rather than a friendship if he can do that by calling me once a week shit fine with me

[mrazntre]

and then there's people that you complain about not calling you anymore, but when that person does call, you're just so boring and disinterested in talking that the person doesn't ever feel like calling ever again.

[igcognito]

Originally posted by pipSy@Dec 28 2002, 10:45 PM
typical convo.
"baby are you free?"
"sorta busy"
"i'm horny babe"
"see you in 15 minutes."

the longest i spent on the phone was while having phone sex. 3 hours?

if i do talk on the phone for a long time. i ALWAYS have ulterior motives. like. phonesex or asking a favor. so i have to be all nice and what not.
yeah.
pipSy sex drive
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HELP!!!!!!!!!!
I enjoy talking to my g/f on the phone. We usually watch something on the Tele and make fun of it together. We talk for 2-3 hours. We prefer seeing each other, but that is on a limited basis.

[LeahLe]

Oh my gosh...I used to know this one guy. He talks so much on the phone ! I would be on the phone for at least 3 hours every night. Usually him doing most of the talking.
This was the conversation:

Him: Hi, watcha doing?

Me: Nothing watching tv

Him: Oh yeah...You know the show blah blah blah

Me: yeah? O really

Him: yeah! blah blah............

3 hours later:

Him: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah..............................

Me: ZzzzZZzzZzZZzzzzz

[RiceDaddy7]

Ehhhh...look at it this way, relationships are about sacrifices. Think of all the things a chick has to do for you...watch sports with you, bare with your best friend's vulgar jokes, your somewhat lousy hygeine, your impatience...

...it's only fair that you sit there on the phone for hours talking about how she saved .99 cents on this cute blouse at Wal-Mart.

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[KiTTY2babe]

My ex and I weren't big hour-long convo phone fans. We'd chat for like a couple of minutes at night before going to bed, then sometimes during the day when we plan to meet up outside for lunch or dinner, that's about it.

We used to embarrass each other this way: like if he'd call me and I was in the middle of a night out with the girls, he'd make me say "I love you (insert his name) out loud". I'd torture him the same way when he's out with the homies. He'd whisper "I love you Chaz." and I'd be like, "What? Louder. I can't hear you." Until he'd be screaming "I love you Chaz" so loud his neigbors could hear him. His friends were brutal. They'd be snickering and hooting in the background, making kissy noises, saying "Ooohh, I miss you baby". Muwahahaha.

[Hanuman]

Don't like the phone, that's why I only use cell phone. Caller Id is a god send. How many times have you done the "alright before we get started, let me get the mandatory gf call out of the way now" I mean wtf? I was out with the boys on thursday and 4 out of 6 of us hopped on the cell at the same time to clear the way and get em off our backs so we can chill.

[moschikat]

Like Pippa - i have ulterior motives if i'm on the phone (with a straight male, or bi female) - longer than 15 mins.

I like SMS's and voicemail. Its nice to know that the other person is thinking about you - but doesn't want to bother you unless its at YOUR convenience.

*grabs whip*

I agree - caller id is up there next to chocolate. If i'm out with the girls, don't bother, i won't call you - so don't call me.

BUT - when i'm on gab/gossip mode w/ the chickas - oh lord! 2 hours and up!

:lol:

[angel nympho]

I call my boyfriend at work every morning and whisper dirty words to him to get him worked up... just 'cuz I'm mean like that. :dance:

[Azn Retribution]

Originally posted by pipSy@Dec 28 2002, 02:45 PM
typical convo.
"baby are you free?"
"sorta busy"
"i'm horny babe"
"see you in 15 minutes."

the longest i spent on the phone was while having phone sex. 3 hours?

if i do talk on the phone for a long time. i ALWAYS have ulterior motives. like. phonesex or asking a favor. so i have to be all nice and what not.
yeah.
PipsY = official YW nympho :lol:

I can do both.. i can talk for hours on end
and other times ill have ulterior motives..

[AltimaGTR]

Roger that, SWK.
Kinda makes me wonder if women look for that in a guy..."must be skilled and talented telephone conversationist" heh.

[amietron]

Originally posted by AltimaGTR@Jan 29 2003, 11:38 PM
Roger that, SWK.
Kinda makes me wonder if women look for that in a guy..."must be skilled and talented telephone conversationist" heh.
well, good communication skills are important.