Do other Asian guys give you attitude?

[snow ninja]

never did yet become friends with an Asian guy outside of my family for some reason. even i'm not that close to my family.

I know i can, i just didn't find one like me that didn't act either nerdy or weird or give me too much attitude

i dunno. anyone else get attitude?

maybe it's just me.

could it be they don't like either i'm too westernized or because i will ghettoize them if they hang around other asians?

kind of like a phobia of looking too threatening in a group where suspicions of plotting or scheming or ganging.

could it be similar to how females may disassociate from their heritage and traditional culture?

i think so but the issue is complex and i'm sure there are many reasons.

could maybe be to do with my personality a bit but i don't think i'm overly abrasive. in fact i think i can call myself a pretty nice guy.

could also be asians are driven and spend more time on trying to make money than friends?

are other asian guys hateful towards a guy like me? Tall guy reasonably good looking:biggrin:

[Paradox]

I have met some sellout token asian guys before but I think they are actually pretty rare. They are usually pretty arrogant, have all white friends, and just generally act like insecure douchebags.


I tend to get along with most AA's I meet even if i'm annoyed with small things about them. Mainly because we can connect on some level. This is especially the case if I meet an AA overseas.

[yoMAMA]

I have met some sellout token asian guys before but I think they are actually pretty rare. They are usually pretty arrogant, have all white friends, and just generally act like insecure douchebags.


had a south asian roommate like that in college.

[eos]

Whoa...I'm sorry where have I been? Snow Ninja....BANNED???? wEEeEEEird.

[SunWuKong]

Whoa...I'm sorry where have I been? Snow Ninja....BANNED???? wEEeEEEird.

only for a week.

[eos]

Oh. Well I don't know how to feel about that then.

[J Honcanese]

Whoa...I'm sorry where have I been? Snow Ninja....BANNED???? wEEeEEEird.Yeah that's what I thought as well.

Although to be fair, the OP was potential flamebait in more ways than one.

[Banana]

I've talk to Eos about this and how other Asian guys tend to give me hard stares. Better watch yourself, fool, I'll jam my foot up your ass.

[kimpossible]

Maybe they're cruising you.

[thaite]

yeah, sometimes.

[eos]

Maybe they're cruising you.

That's what I said too but he wouldn't have it.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Can't stand people with that hostile hating/jealousy thing. I don't think I've ever felt jealous of anyone in my life. Sometimes it's not so much outright hostility as it is a cold type of vibe. For the vast majority of things in this world, if you don't have the motivation or drive to work hard to get what the other guy has, whether it be money, trade/industry skills, a hot girlfriend, washboard abs, networking connections, etc. it means you just don't want it badly enough and have no right to give him the stink-eye and need to kindly stfu. Not to mention it makes them look pathetic because their insecurity is out in the open.

[snow ninja]

Can't stand people with that hostile hating/jealousy thing. I don't think I've ever felt jealous of anyone in my life. Sometimes it's not so much outright hostility as it is a cold type of vibe. For the vast majority of things in this world, if you don't have the motivation or drive to work hard to get what the other guy has, whether it be money, trade/industry skills, a hot girlfriend, washboard abs, networking connections, etc. it means you just don't want it badly enough and have no right to give him the stink-eye and need to kindly stfu. Not to mention it makes them look pathetic because their insecurity is out in the open.

werd!

[Azn Retribution]

never did yet become friends with an Asian guy outside of my family for some reason. even i'm not that close to my family.

I know i can, i just didn't find one like me that didn't act either nerdy or weird or give me too much attitude

i dunno. anyone else get attitude?

maybe it's just me.

could it be they don't like either i'm too westernized or because i will ghettoize them if they hang around other asians?

kind of like a phobia of looking too threatening in a group where suspicions of plotting or scheming or ganging.

could it be similar to how females may disassociate from their heritage and traditional culture?

i think so but the issue is complex and i'm sure there are many reasons.

could maybe be to do with my personality a bit but i don't think i'm overly abrasive. in fact i think i can call myself a pretty nice guy.

could also be asians are driven and spend more time on trying to make money than friends?

are other asian guys hateful towards a guy like me? Tall guy reasonably good looking:biggrin:


narcissism much?

[Adaon]

narcissism much?

Nah, just a lot.

But it's ok. It's only the asians he meets. :rolleyes:

[sageb1]

OP needs to join a sake-drinking meetup in his 'hood and stop thinking like a girl.

[SunWuKong]

man, somebody just got pwned by uncle sageb1.

[eos]

Really? His statement completely nullifies his other thread about why guys are bigger girls than girls.

[snow ninja]

don't get me wrong guys. or take offense.

growing up rarely did i meet asian guys that were like good wingmen.

you could go out and mack women together with as a team.

all the guys i knew who did that were white guys.

reality is it would have been better for me to have an asian wingman.

[J Honcanese]

It's not about "macking" women dude...

In fact, most women (well the ones I know anyway) like it much more if you actually get to know them in person rather than pull them in a club someplace just because you find them hot.


But nevermind that, it's your choice and we can agree to disagree.

[j&j2]

don't get me wrong guys. or take offense.

growing up rarely did i meet asian guys that were like good wingmen.

all the guys i knew who did that were white guys.

reality is it would have been better for me to have an asian wingman.

If "macking" is your thing - the type of race of your wingman really depends on whether your objective is an AF or WF.

Generally, for AFs - it would be an AM. (If she is an insecure "whitewashed" AF - then, a WM wingman may be better, b/c too many Asian faces may make her uncomfortable).

For WFs - it WFs, it generally a WM or maybe a mixed group (tho, too many guys isn't good).

The best bet would be a female wing-man.

Granted, these are generalities.

never did yet become friends with an Asian guy outside of my family for some reason. even i'm not that close to my family.

I know i can, i just didn't find one like me that didn't act either nerdy or weird or give me too much attitude

could it be they don't like either i'm too westernized or because i will ghettoize them if they hang around other asians?

kind of like a phobia of looking too threatening in a group where suspicions of plotting or scheming or ganging.

could it be similar to how females may disassociate from their heritage and traditional culture?

LOL!! You certainly are not alone.

One thing I and others have noticed is how certain Asians (well, the insecure, "whitewashed" ones) avoid other Asians (esp. the clicky FOB types) on campus at all costs or, if there are other whitewashed, insecure Asian - see them as an acquaintance - w/ both parties spending the vast majority of their time w/ their white friends.

Your post reminds me of this tongue-in-cheek (or maybe not) essay.

THANK ME FOR SELLING OUT

People think it's easy being a banana sellout. Just ditch the identity and suddenly you're greeted with cold suds at every kegger. Dream on. It's a lot harder than just putting on a smirk and spouting cheesy pickup lines and insider tips on micro-breweries. The bitchslap of truth: to become an all-star sellout, you must lay down major league sacrifices. I know. I was a standout frat rat at an elite college.

Hey, but inside I'm no different from you. I have Asian parents who worked like Siberian Huskies to give me a nice American home, Italian clothes, German wheels and a Latin sheepskin from a name college. They wanted to spare me that whole hardship trip and set me down the road to a life of brie on brioche and walnut burl on English leather. They laid down major league sacrifices for me. Was it easy for me to forget that and make a total jackass out of myself day in and day out throughout my college career? Chyeah right!

I couldn't have done it without pickling my frontal and parietal lobes in alcohol, herbs and quality pharmaceuticals. Yeah, I became just like the sons of the people my folks spent their days steam-cleaning. Are you seeing the letterbox version here?

There's this whole lost identity bull. Get real. Think I couldn't see that I don't have blue eyes, wispy blonde hair and pink freckly fuzz-covered arms? But what would it have accomplished for me to go around tripping on the race thing and become a total downer to my frat brothers. That would have been like peeing on our herb garden out back. If I hadn't chilled out the race thing, people would have been left off invite lists for keggers, raves and roadtrips down to Ensenada. I look at it this way: as long as my frat brothers were busy getting sloppy, they weren't taking honor roll slots from you all grinding away on the med/engineering/law-school trip. Capiche? I did it for you, my Asian brothers.

There are so many small sacrifices I made every day that nobody will ever appreciate. Like scarfing grilled burgers and hot dogs every meal. Don't you think I worried about getting colon polyps that could turn me into a prematurely old fat fart? Why didn't I push for Asian nights? And teach three dozen frat rats how to use chopsticks and mix the little horse radish packets in soy sauce? If I did that, they might have started thinking I'm like those Chinese delivery guys and those sushi chefs with the bad accents. My folks didn't lay down those sacrifices so I could be lumped with delivery guys and sushi chefs. You'll never get me to break their aging Asian hearts that way.

I even sacrificed my love life. Why didn't I date Asian chicks who could help me with calc and be taken home to meet the folks? Chyeah right! Why didn't I just go up on the sundeck and announce to frat row that I'm an Asian supremicist? How would it look if the only Asian brother at the frat hooks up with some Asian chick from the other side of campus? I had to date inside the Greek system -- and trust me, that's like bungee-jumping without a cord. Sorority girls date frat rats who spend spring breaks in places where hookers don't require protection. Do the math. Why didn't I just hold at first or second? Get real. You're talking about the Yeastmeister here and he sacrificed to uphold the Asian male image! When you get down to it, I risked my life to represent. But do I get so much as a thanks dude and a high five?

Just be grateful for sellouts like me so you can sit around in your little Asian groups being smug and judgemental. The next time you see me, don't look at me like a steaming barf bag. Give me knuckles for the sacrifices I've laid down for my family, my culture, my brothers, my race. But do me a favor -- wait until my frat brothers aren't looking.

[Sunflare]

In fact, most women (well the ones I know anyway) like it much more if you actually get to know them in person rather than pull them in a club someplace just because you find them hot.

I agree. I rather have a lover who I can also talk to and confide my innermost thoughts with as a person and I know there are many women who are looking for the same thing in a man.

Nothing wrong with taking your lady to a club or a fancy lounge or something though. Or to the beach, maybe an amusement park, or just simply romantic walks in the city ...

If "macking" is your thing - the type of race of your wingman really depends on whether your objective is an AF or WF.

Generally, for AFs - it would be an AM. (If she is an insecure "whitewashed" AF - then, a WM wingman may be better, b/c too many Asian faces may make her uncomfortable).

For WFs - it WFs, it generally a WM or maybe a mixed group (tho, too many guys isn't good).

The best bet would be a female wing-man.

Granted, these are generalities.

Almost all of my girlfriends I got hooked up with were actually through other females. But that's just my unique experience.

[snow ninja]

It's not about "macking" women dude...

In fact, most women (well the ones I know anyway) like it much more if you actually get to know them in person rather than pull them in a club someplace just because you find them hot.


But nevermind that, it's your choice and we can agree to disagree.

never said life was about macking women. and i know some girls say they don't like being picked up but i think they do like the flattery just from the right guy. Why do you think girls go to clubs? just to dance but some to get hit on too.

i don't necessarily disagree with being hooked up through friends but honestly i don't see this really happening that often to a successful result.

Usually it's a blind date nightmare.
However this may be just in my circle.

I use to like just meeting new people on my own, my honest, real, down to earth personality usually comes through and people could see that. What i like about meeting women in a club is you can see what you are getting in real life.

and also, i like to meet girls that don't know anyone in my circle.

i don't want to know any history or past really. I was looking for a fresh start and new experience and relationship and need no gossip from acquantances.

i prefer to have a gf that doesn't know anyone i know previously.

[Sunflare]

and also, i like to meet girls that don't know anyone in my circle.

i don't want to know any history or past really. I was looking for a fresh start and new experience and relationship and need no gossip from acquantances.

i prefer to have a gf that doesn't know anyone i know previously.

True. That makes sense. I got myself into alot of problems before because I did'nt date outside my groups of friends or aquaintances. I had to learn that the hard way.

[snow ninja]

i might trust a girl to play matchmaker but i would be skeptical of a guy because why would he not save them for himself. :)

[SunWuKong]

i might trust a girl to play matchmaker but i would be skeptical of a guy because why would he not save them for himself. :)

maybe because he's already got a girl?

[cloudzero]

bros before hoes

i see more girls doing this:

girl: you like "that" girl? she aint good enough for you!
you: then....how bout we go out?
girl: what are you kidding me? you aint good enough for me

[Sunflare]

^ Yes. Indeed. Fundamental rule of the brother code of honor.

[tommyhtown]

i might trust a girl to play matchmaker but i would be skeptical of a guy because why would he not save them for himself. :)

Or he wants to get rid of her and finds a taker.

[Sunflare]

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girl: you like "that" girl? she aint good enough for you!
you: then....how bout we go out?
girl: what are you kidding me? you aint good enough for me

I had to deal with tricky situations where I had conflicts with female friends ; one got real got jealous and evil because I ended up dating her friend instead of her.

That's exactly why I don't want to date within my circle of friends. Too much drama.

[tommyhtown]

never said life was about macking women. and i know some girls say they don't like being picked up but i think they do like the flattery just from the right guy. Why do you think girls go to clubs? just to dance but some to get hit on too.

i don't necessarily disagree with being hooked up through friends but honestly i don't see this really happening that often to a successful result.


It's as good percentage as picking up chics anywhere else. However, the percentage gets higher when you pick up streetwalkers.


Usually it's a blind date nightmare.
However this may be just in my circle.


Blind date sucks, but sometimes it could be fun, the unknown factor.


I use to like just meeting new people on my own, my honest, real, down to earth personality usually comes through and people could see that. What i like about meeting women in a club is you can see what you are getting in real life.

and also, i like to meet girls that don't know anyone in my circle.

i don't want to know any history or past really. I was looking for a fresh start and new experience and relationship and need no gossip from acquantances.

i prefer to have a gf that doesn't know anyone i know previously.

Word! No too long ago, I hung out with this girl and we didn't even really go out. She thought I like her like that or something. Anyhow, turned out she knew my ex'. Not fun ... I haven't really talked to her since. From what I know , they became best buddies really fast.

[eos]

Before you trust a girl to matchmake for you, check around for her success rate. I put 2 couples together...one couple ended it very bitterly and the other got married, but the husband is always gone on "trips....to get away from it all." I tried to matchmake other couples but the guys always like me more. I don't do it anymore.

[cloudzero]

^reminds me of homer when he tried to mate the cat with the dog

"create a super pet with the cleanliness of a dog and the loyalty of a cat"

[snow ninja]

It's as good percentage as picking up chics anywhere else. However, the percentage gets higher when you pick up streetwalkers.



Blind date sucks, but sometimes it could be fun, the unknown factor.


the more sht you throw, the more it sticks..