Sunflare
02-02-2008, 05:32 PM
no, tell us how you *really* feel. ~pulls up chair~
Okay. ~pulls up chair~
This is how I *really* feel. This is going to be very wordy. . . .
I have nothing against IR relationships in itself, truthfully. Whether it may be WM/BM, WM/AF, or an AM/BF relationship or whatever the case may be. I think the variety in IR relationships are truly a beautiful thing.
Futhermore, really, everybody, including AF's, has the right to date whoever they choose to date, we are all humans with the same aspirations, hopes, and desires to be genuinely happy, to want to be loved.
What annoys me however is this: The fact that there is a major IR disparity problem between WM's and AF's to the point it's almost impossible to ignore or bear.
Speaking for myself, everytime I walk out the door to hang out, or turn on the TV, or crack open a magazine or scan through a newspaper, I'm bombarded with this perception or bad vibe that all women needs to date or marry white to be successful in life, when that is not so and a fucking straight up lie.
:sigh: Many of my AF friends warned me about letting stuff like this get to me. They know that I try hard but sometimes I fail miserably not to let myself fall to the same level that some of these *true* racists are on.
I am close with a number of AF's that I personally know. They dated white guys before - - - but I don't hold it against them particularly. We had discussions where things like this was touched upon, but I really don't scorn them for it. As hard as it is, I really do try to listen to their concerns. I love them all even still, and they all care about me still, even though I spill negative vibes sometimes. (You all know who you are ! :blows kisses: :luv: :luv:)
Why the only place that I really talk about this is on this site. (This is a race relations forum, after all, so I take advantage of it to vent when I need to before I let my anger get the better of me.)
But any female who truely meets me in person really likes me because I treat them like sweethearts. They see that I'm not just trying to get between their legs, but that I am concerned about them as individuals. I am not lying. this is true about me.
I met many AF's who tried to date BM's with bad results. No, not because of their boyfriends - - these black men really treated them with lots of love, dignity and respect --- but becase they are treated so badly by their extended families and by the public in general. Many of these couples break up and can't maintain their relationships because the racism they experience as Blasian couples is usually too intense. The relationships fail since they were unprepared for it.
I dated AF's in the past myself with bad results. Same reasons. We didnt know how to cope with the negative stigma that we recieved from these dumbfucks out there. It was heartbreaking.
Dirty looks, insolent remarks, rejection from family, etc.
So how do I *really* feel ? Esaperated and divided upon two opposing views. One part of me wants to be cool with this IR dating disparity problem and live with it on a positive note, but another part of me is still bitter, negative and resentful over the IR dating disparity problem that exists and continues to get worse, and not better.
I guess you might not be able to relate fully as an AF. I respect that, I can't blame you for it. Many of my AF friends can't understand it too well themselves, and I try not to hold it against them. I've been rather successful.
Enough of my ramblings. This is truely a beaten to death subject. I really enjoy the comments given by you guys on this forum. Which is why I am here and not with the losers on ModelMinority.com.
Any positive/negative feedback well appreciated my me.
Okay. ~pulls up chair~
This is how I *really* feel. This is going to be very wordy. . . .
I have nothing against IR relationships in itself, truthfully. Whether it may be WM/BM, WM/AF, or an AM/BF relationship or whatever the case may be. I think the variety in IR relationships are truly a beautiful thing.
Futhermore, really, everybody, including AF's, has the right to date whoever they choose to date, we are all humans with the same aspirations, hopes, and desires to be genuinely happy, to want to be loved.
What annoys me however is this: The fact that there is a major IR disparity problem between WM's and AF's to the point it's almost impossible to ignore or bear.
Speaking for myself, everytime I walk out the door to hang out, or turn on the TV, or crack open a magazine or scan through a newspaper, I'm bombarded with this perception or bad vibe that all women needs to date or marry white to be successful in life, when that is not so and a fucking straight up lie.
:sigh: Many of my AF friends warned me about letting stuff like this get to me. They know that I try hard but sometimes I fail miserably not to let myself fall to the same level that some of these *true* racists are on.
I am close with a number of AF's that I personally know. They dated white guys before - - - but I don't hold it against them particularly. We had discussions where things like this was touched upon, but I really don't scorn them for it. As hard as it is, I really do try to listen to their concerns. I love them all even still, and they all care about me still, even though I spill negative vibes sometimes. (You all know who you are ! :blows kisses: :luv: :luv:)
Why the only place that I really talk about this is on this site. (This is a race relations forum, after all, so I take advantage of it to vent when I need to before I let my anger get the better of me.)
But any female who truely meets me in person really likes me because I treat them like sweethearts. They see that I'm not just trying to get between their legs, but that I am concerned about them as individuals. I am not lying. this is true about me.
I met many AF's who tried to date BM's with bad results. No, not because of their boyfriends - - these black men really treated them with lots of love, dignity and respect --- but becase they are treated so badly by their extended families and by the public in general. Many of these couples break up and can't maintain their relationships because the racism they experience as Blasian couples is usually too intense. The relationships fail since they were unprepared for it.
I dated AF's in the past myself with bad results. Same reasons. We didnt know how to cope with the negative stigma that we recieved from these dumbfucks out there. It was heartbreaking.
Dirty looks, insolent remarks, rejection from family, etc.
So how do I *really* feel ? Esaperated and divided upon two opposing views. One part of me wants to be cool with this IR dating disparity problem and live with it on a positive note, but another part of me is still bitter, negative and resentful over the IR dating disparity problem that exists and continues to get worse, and not better.
I guess you might not be able to relate fully as an AF. I respect that, I can't blame you for it. Many of my AF friends can't understand it too well themselves, and I try not to hold it against them. I've been rather successful.
Enough of my ramblings. This is truely a beaten to death subject. I really enjoy the comments given by you guys on this forum. Which is why I am here and not with the losers on ModelMinority.com.
Any positive/negative feedback well appreciated my me.