Moving out...

[mrcfo]

I'm interested in what sort of viewpoint/pratice you take with regards to moving out. Traditionally, Asians do not move out until married (some sole sons/daughters also live with the folks after marriage) but being an abc/asian raised in a Western society - Australia, US, Canada, UK etc...it's interesting to note how people deal with this issue.

[AngryABCGirl]

My family wants me to live with them if I moved back permanently in the same city. I'd rather not, I'm use to living alone or with a roommate I hardly see now, which is good, and enjoy the peace and quiet and ability to do what I want.

A LOT of my friends have actually moved backed in with their parents upon graduation from college, but I think primarily for financial reasons considering rent is so expensive in a large city and entry level pay so not decent in proportion. When they suddenly move out its primarily because of a relationship.

I remember my some of my relatives in Taiwan were really unhappy I didn't want to leave with any of them, despite the obvious practical reasons (they lived far from where I went to school and later where I worked and I have very different values).

I think it's a personal choice. I personally like that I can live outside of my family's house and be self-sufficient and not have to answer to anything. It depends on the parents too, I know my family doesn't really approve of my lifestyle and it puts a damper on things when I visit so it's better for both of us if I don't live at home.

[mrcfo]

My family wants me to live with them if I moved back permanently in the same city. I'd rather not, I'm use to living alone or with a roommate I hardly see now, which is good, and enjoy the peace and quiet and ability to do what I want.

A LOT of my friends have actually moved backed in with their parents upon graduation from college, but I think primarily for financial reasons considering rent is so expensive in a large city and entry level pay so not decent in proportion. When they suddenly move out its primarily because of a relationship.

I remember my some of my relatives in Taiwan were really unhappy I didn't want to leave with any of them, despite the obvious practical reasons (they lived far from where I went to school and later where I worked and I have very different values).

I think it's a personal choice. I personally like that I can live outside of my family's house and be self-sufficient and not have to answer to anything. It depends on the parents too, I know my family doesn't really approve of my lifestyle and it puts a damper on things when I visit so it's better for both of us if I don't live at home.

Interesting, you're sort of similar in thinking on this with one of my ex girlfriends. She moved out at a very young age (17) whilst still in high school....but not due to any problems at home or with her folks more or less because she was uber mature and she had guts to actually move out.

She basically liked the same thing you did about moving out, the whole independence, time alone...strangely enough she has similar comments about enjoying the peace and quiet whilst her housemate was absent...

My own thoughts on this subject? I still enjoy living at home. Call me whatever, but it's far too comfortable and financially advantageous even when you consider the rent or whatever bills you repay your folks.

I have a few friends that moved out and with that particular ex, quite an insight as to what is involved and the +s and -s. True, you get total independence and liberty...something I guess none really has if living at home with the folks, no matter how cool or liberal your parents are.

Then again, I look at the darn costs associated, having to give up on a lot of life's little luxuries and sometimes the fact that everything needs to be done/handled by yourself really puts the whole idea of moving out a bad idea. Although I'd hate to admit it, there are sometimes you'd like to laze around after a rough day or something and either mummy or daddy has fixed that household problem. Move out and you're on your own. Not that to suggest I'm dependent, but sometimes it's something called laziness.

I'd agree with you about not living with relos in an overseas stint situation. I see their warmth and generosity but I think years of abode in Western country and instilled with Western thinking, you tend to value your own privacy and discovering things more. My paternal aunts/uncle back in Vietnam were starled as to why I would choose to explore the country via bikes, scooters and doing it all by myself when they could have provided everything. I was at the time there to discover Vietnam, not be pampered by them.

[AngryABCGirl]

Then again, I look at the darn costs associated, having to give up on a lot of life's little luxuries and sometimes the fact that everything needs to be done/handled by yourself really puts the whole idea of moving out a bad idea. Although I'd hate to admit it, there are sometimes you'd like to laze around after a rough day or something and either mummy or daddy has fixed that household problem. Move out and you're on your own. Not that to suggest I'm dependent, but sometimes it's something called laziness.

I'd agree with you about not living with relos in an overseas stint situation. I see their warmth and generosity but I think years of abode in Western country and instilled with Western thinking, you tend to value your own privacy and discovering things more. My paternal aunts/uncle back in Vietnam were starled as to why I would choose to explore the country via bikes, scooters and doing it all by myself when they could have provided everything. I was at the time there to discover Vietnam, not be pampered by them.

I actually I have to say I picked my career relative to a wage that could afford me to live alone and in style. Moving back with my parents would not only be cramping my style, they've really taken over the house since I moved away and there's no place for my stuff and it's all cramped.

Another thing in Asia too is that some of my relatives are considered conservative even in Taiwanese society, and had ideas of what a woman should and should not do and had overwhelming nationalist sentiments on both political spectrums in Taiwan, and tried to instill those values of middle-aged and older people there, and I just wasn't into dealing with that all the time. I know my parents want to do the say thing, or rather tried, but they know who I am and respect it.

[KenTsui]

when its financially viable

[yoMAMA]

I'd love to move out, but right now it's just not financially possible.

[Yeahman]

There no difference between Asians in Asia and Asians abroad in this regard. We'd all love to have our own place but we must all live within our means. In Asia, it's much harder for young people to afford to live on their own. Dunno if it's because more people live with their parents or if living with parents is a consequence or both, but in Korea there are lots of cheap motels designed for those nights you just can't go home.