Being a popular Asian-American

[PiMPADOCiOUS]

What are some common traits among AAs who are popular and have lots of friends, and what traits are common to AAs who are the opposite?

[tripostrophe]

1:

Confident

2:

Insecure

[tripostrophe]

It's possible to be either whether you're culturally conscious/proud of your heritage or not. Though if you're outright ashamed you're probably not all that popular and the friendships you have are subject to FUBARization if you ever start examining your identity as a person of color/minority.

[eos]

^not entirely true. i had school mates who were semi-ashamed and were quite popular....with non-asians. i guess being disgustingly self-deprecating is a plus if you want to "fit in".

[Napoleon Chynamite]

All it ever took to be popular in both high school and college (at least, if you're a guy) was to be an outspoken rebel that got trashed every weekend at weekend parties and keggers. Sad but true. I suppose the whole confidence thing helps for people to fit into that mold.

[tripostrophe]

^not entirely true. i had school mates who were semi-ashamed and were quite popular....with non-asians. i guess being disgustingly self-deprecating is a plus if you want to "fit in".

I know at least one person who's like that. Have known several. I think I see a lot of (minor) self-deprecation with the APIAs around here :( But also a lot of potential! :biggrin:

[grimfan]

No fear.

[AngryABCGirl]

popular on what standards? being friends with white people or asian people or other people of color? or just with people in general? does it matter to you? I don't really care about being popular among White people, hell I hardly see them both in the US and especially now.

I'm guessing you mean white people because otherwise you wouldn't have to use the asian american qualifier.

A confident decent human being tends to win over pretty much everyone, but that's a hard thing to be.

[USCTrojanzNo1]

Confidence and a sense of humor (including self depreciating) can go a long way.

[hooligan]

You know what? Deez nutz probably could tell you.

[mr. x]

Having a fucking tight-sick screen name always helps. Adding a suffix to an already pimp word, like pimp for example, and turning into pimptastic or pimplestiltskin is like a double word score

[BigLew]

Same as being a popular person. You crazy animal.

[Azn Retribution]

Waking up every morning and pissing excellence.

[popculturepooka]

Aren't you too old to worrying about this kinda stuff?

[j&j2]

The same things that apply to any other American (in no particular order):

1. good looks

2. nice physique

3. $$

4. stylish clothing

5. outgoing, fun personality, etc.

Yeah, it's mostly superficial - but most people are, even if it's on a subconscious level.

It's possible to be either whether you're culturally conscious/proud of your heritage or not. Though if you're outright ashamed you're probably not all that popular and the friendships you have are subject to FUBARization if you ever start examining your identity as a person of color/minority.

Hmmm, otoh, many Asians in largely white areas don't want anything to do with being the "typical Asian" and diss on them in order to fit in (and be more popular with their white peers).

[PiMPADOCiOUS]

Are good looks really necessary? I've seen some ugly mofos who were quite popular for some reason.

[Azn Retribution]

Are good looks really necessary? I've seen some ugly mofos who were quite popular for some reason.

....

I see I'll have to break this down for you.

Being Liked or Popularity is a function of aesthetic and personality.

We can express it in algebraic terms

F(p) = (A*P) + M

Where A is aesthetic
P is personality
and M is money.

M is a additive because it's magnitude cannot compare to Looks or Personality. lots of $$$ can help but in the end. it can't make up for low deficiencies of both personality and aesthetic.

Consequently, It may be derived that
If you lack a large amount of aesthetic, a large amount of personality makes up for it and vice versa.

Example: Dating girls who are mindblisteringly hot.. but mindnumbingly.... shallow.. but not being able to stop because of that damn smile.

I'm waiting for the cough syrup to kick in and make me sleep.
Shut up.

[Jin/晋]

Being popular isn't hard. Most people are (really) dumb, like open books with how to please them written on it. You really don't even have to do that.

Screw all the people that listed needed qualities. People want friends, if you appear sociable, they will come knocking.

[2nd yellow]

1:

Confident

2:

Insecure

thread should've ended here.

this can go for any race, not just asian americans

[Jin/晋]

thread should've ended here.

this can go for any race, not just asian americans
Well it's wrong. You can cover up the insecurity with cockyness and do just fine, I've seen it.

[2nd yellow]

Well it's wrong. You can cover up the insecurity with cockyness and do just fine, I've seen it.

yeah, but the people where you can see through their cockyness aren't usually well received to begin with. i think people refer to them as dipshits.

[Jin/晋]

yeah, but the people where you can see through their cockyness aren't usually well received to begin with. i think people refer to them as dipshits.
Seeing through people is difficult for the average joe.

[tripostrophe]

Seeing through people is difficult for the average joe.

but not for the average jane! haa just kidding.

thanks 2nd. I'm pretty sure the original poster is a troll.

[j&j2]

1:

Confident

2:

Insecure

Otoh, confidence (for a guy) is often a by-product of good-looks, height/build, $$, media images, etc. and while confidence is certainly a good quality (just as long as it doesn't veer into arrogance) - a short, ugly, poor minority guy is going to have a harder time being "popular" despite hs having confidence.

[tripostrophe]

Otoh, confidence (for a guy) is often a by-product of good-looks, height/build, $$, media images, etc. and while confidence is certainly a good quality (just as long as it doesn't veer into arrogance) - a short, ugly, poor minority guy is going to have a harder time being "popular" despite hs having confidence.

otoh? wuzzat? good points but yeah this thread was created just to stir shit up obviously. jj u handsome