Asking out - U or Her?

[ru a banana?]

Just curious what you guys think of ladies asking you out vs. the guys doing the asking. Put you off or turn you on?

Hope you don't mind me posting in your hallowed section, saw other ladies doing it...:redface:

[Tao]

i think it's great, saves me the trouble

[deez nuts]

i usually just slip a roofie in her drink and bypass the small talk and get straight to the action.

[LaiSteve66]

i usually just slip a roofie in her drink and bypass the small talk and get straight to the action.

That's a pretty disgusting thing to say, joking or not.

[lethal]

I got no problem with a girl asking me out.

[lethal]

That's a pretty disgusting thing to say, joking or not.

If you've taken even one post by nutz seriously, then that's one too many.

[eos]

I got no problem with a girl asking me out.

LAZY ass.


anyway, asking guys out is part of my code of conduct.

why wait? participate.

[LaiSteve66]

If you've taken even one post by nutz seriously, then that's one too many.

I don't take him seriously.

[ru a banana?]

i usually just slip a roofie in her drink and bypass the small talk and get straight to the action.

I guess that would be U? Dominatrix?:wink:

[deez nuts]

lol since people got sticks up their asses.

no, i don't mind women asking me out. a woman asking me out happens quite often.

[deez nuts]

I guess that would be U? Dominatrix?:wink:

are you asking me out?

[ru a banana?]

are you asking me out?

lol. I have to give it to you, you got the overboard sense of humor that I like in a man...

[deez nuts]

lol. I have to give it to you, you got the overboard sense of humor that I like in a man...

what you're experiencing currently is an i.p.r. moment short for an instant panty removal moment.

[ru a banana?]

Does it work often for u?

[deez nuts]

Does it work often for u?

you tell me. are your panties down at your ankles right now?

[ru a banana?]

you tell me. are your panties down at your ankles right now?

Naaaah, I prefer pics. You got no pics. Your loss.:wink: :wink: :wink: Besides, how do you know it's panties. Please see in thread on thongs vs. panties.

I better get back to topic here, or else... Not everyone can get away with tangential offcolor humor like you.:rolleyes: :smile:

[SunWuKong]

i think it's a huge turn-off for a girl to ask a guy out. it's a clear sign that she doesn't know her place.

[eos]

guys who don't ask girls out are pussies and are probably (fill in the blank).

[pikachupacabra]

There's nothing wrong with it, but there seem to be some weird societal customs associated with it, sort of an odd double-standard where it's accept for guys to do it but when girls do it it's ultra bad (like sleeping around is the shit for guys but the shits for girls)

[DragonKnight]

I ask her, she asks me...whatevers clever. Just don't play no fuckin games and we're set.

[ru a banana?]

i think it's a huge turn-off for a girl to ask a guy out. it's a clear sign that she doesn't know her place.

ahermmmm. Her place? :confused:

[deez nuts]

ahermmmm. Her place? :confused:

don't you worry about what that mean sunwukong says, here i made u a drink to help you relax.

[SunWuKong]

ahermmmm. Her place? :confused:

i'm just kidding.

rule of thumb around here - expect a lot of non-serious replies to topics that are not that serious. like topics on dating, for example.

and if you want to confirm i'm not a misogynist, my girlfriend can assure you that i actually spend more time in the kitchen than she does.

[ru a banana?]

few relieved... I got so turned on by what deez nuts was saying, then it was like, cold water. I thought you might be joking, had to make sure. I wish I could take that drink, allergic to alcohol. You'd have to put that rfie in some punch dear...

[deez nuts]

I got so turned on by what deez nuts was saying, then it was like, cold water. I thought you might be joking, had to make sure. I wish I could take that drink, allergic to alcohol. You'd have to put that rfie in some punch dear...

i don't need to drug you if i got you so turned on. we can just go straight to the bang your head against the headboard of the bed in an angry yet loving fuck session. but, i will make you breakfast of your choosing the next morning before calling you a cab.

[Adaon]

Either way is preferable, as long as a good time is had.

[ru a banana?]

i don't need to drug you if i got you so turned on. we can just go straight to the bang your head against the headboard of the bed in an angry yet loving fuck session. but, i will make you breakfast of your choosing the next morning before calling you a cab.

I dunno, no pics...I may need that rfie should I meet u... :biggrin:

[deez nuts]

I dunno, no pics...I may need that rfie should I meet u... :biggrin:

whatever works for you, sweetheart.

[mrazntre]

i'm hot. girl should ask me out.

[ru a banana?]

i'm hot. girl should ask me out.

yuss, I would if I were a hot blonde teacher, but I'm not and ur only 5. :frown: I would like a looooot more experience please. :smile:

[DragonKnight]

yuss, I would if I were a hot blonde teacher, but I'm not and ur only 5. :frown: I would like a looooot more experience please. :smile:
I'm older and experienced. Now the question is, are you? :cool:

[ru a banana?]

Enough to know when to answer and not. :wink:

[ru a banana?]

ok, so if you guys like it, have there been 1-5, 10 how many hve asked you out, and have you turned any/many girls down that ask you out?

[Adaon]

Of the times I got asked out by a girl, I turned down a few girls because of the looming "DRAMA QUEEN" sign that floated over their heads, or they were much too dear to me as a friend to try and see in a romantic aspect.

Otherwise, I gave everyone a chance. Some of the dates were fun, others just fell flat on their face. (Quite literally once.)

[mrazntre]

yuss, I would if I were a hot blonde teacher, but I'm not and ur only 5. :frown: I would like a looooot more experience please. :smile:

1) dye your hair
2) change your profession (if it is the case)
3) good little asian girls don't have any "experience" so why would you need anymore "experience" ??

I'm older and experienced. Now the question is, are you? :cool:

skeeet skeeet!

FYI:
I turned down a girl or two cuz they were ugly.

[ru a banana?]

1) dye your hair
2) change your profession (if it is the case)
3) good little asian girls don't have any "experience" so why would you need anymore "experience"


:smile: ^

mmmmmm... chooosy! :smile: Are you saying good little asian guys don't have experience? :eek:

[mrazntre]

:smile: ^

mmmmmm... chooosy! :smile: Are you saying good little asian guys don't have experience? :eek:

The vast depth and extent of my experience lies within "Google," assorted VS catalogs, Vaseline Intensive Care Lotion AND the passionate wrath and fury of my left and right hands.

:cool:

holla!

[ru a banana?]

sooooo, since we are on the topic, or not, If a gal asks you out on the date, does that mean she decides everything that happens after? Pays, carries the condoms, etc. ? Joke on last one btw just in case there are some extremely horny guys here!!!

[mrazntre]

sooooo, since we are on the topic, or not, If a gal asks you out on the date, does that mean she decides everything that happens after? Pays, carries the condoms, etc. ? Joke on last one btw just in case there are some extremely horny guys here!!!

hmm...

if she asked me out, i'm not really sure. I don't go around carrying condoms in my wallet hoping to get some ass. I'm way too good to do that. She can decide whatever she wants, but ultimately I choose.

are you controlling? always taking charge and dictating the after party?

[ru a banana?]

naaaah, just curious. I've never asked a guy out before. Don't know that I ever will either...

I assume that if a guy likes you they would/should ask you out themself, or they don't really like you.

Correct?

[mrazntre]

naaaah, just curious. I've never asked a guy out before. Don't know that I ever will either...

I assume that if a guy likes you they would/should ask you out themself, or they don't really like you.

Correct?

Not necessarily. They might be a bit intimidated or whatever. A lot of guys hold back because they don't want to be humiliated, get rejected or whatever. Sometimes females don't understand the HUGE undertaking that is asking a girl out.

Try asking a guy out and see how that goes for you and that might give you newfound respect for even the most fumbling/moronic attempt at cold-hitting on someone and asking them out. women holding back from asking a man out? doesn't that sound like entitlement or is it women conforming to societal pressures and traditions?

[ru a banana?]

Not necessarily. They might be a bit intimidated or whatever. A lot of guys hold back because they don't want to be humiliated, get rejected or whatever. Sometimes females don't understand the HUGE undertaking that is asking a girl out.

Try asking a guy out and see how that goes for you and that might give you newfound respect for even the most fumbling/moronic attempt at cold-hitting on someone and asking them out. women holding back from asking a man out? doesn't that sound like entitlement or is it women conforming to societal pressures and traditions?

I don't know, call me dense, but I can't read signs very well on guys, so wouldn't know if they liked me or not. Logically: Why ask someone out if you don't know if they like you or not? If I would suspect someone liked me, I'd usually justify that they are just friends and that's just the way some guy friends are...

I do appreciate the very difficult thing it is for a guy to ask a gal out. :smile: I would do my best not to hurt their pride if I had to turn them down. (unless they got rude or overly pushy)

[deez nuts]

look at what i started. i flirt with ru a banana? and now she's in the middle of a gangbang.

[deez nuts]

ok, so if you guys like it, have there been 1-5, 10 how many hve asked you out

i've lost count. like i said before, it happens quite often because i am quite a good looking guy and quite charming.


and have you turned any/many girls down that ask you out?

i have turned down a few cuz they were hideously grotesque. they don't have to be fucking hot. but, they can't look like the swamp thing either.

i've gone out on a first date with almost every woman when they asked me out first. so you, ru a banana?, have a pretty good shot at scoring a first date with yours truly cuz i know that's what you're hinting at in this thread of yours.

[ru a banana?]

Aaaahhhh, troublemaker. ^ :rolleyes:

In your dreams flyboy.

What is it with ego-maniac guys always taking things so personal? You would think they were desperate or something...

What no takers? :smile:

I think you ask more personal/direct ?'s you get a better idea of where, who is on forums and their perspectives. I like to learn about people, how traditional/unconventional they are, background etc. In above scenario, Who pays for the date, who chooses the places, etc. Ultimately speaking, Who would wear the pants in the relationship? Aren't you guys afraid it would be the woman?

I'm choosey, don't know if any of you guys are good enough! :eek: Ahhhh shit did I just start WWIII? oooops. my bad.

Besides, I'm sooooo sooo ugly, I dont even want to post a pic. :redface: Go find a desperate cutie to play with. :smile:

[Adaon]

sooooo, since we are on the topic, or not, If a gal asks you out on the date, does that mean she decides everything that happens after? Pays, carries the condoms, etc. ? Joke on last one btw just in case there are some extremely horny guys here!!!

Heck no, some of my dates are spent "haggling" over the bill, when I had already chucked my card at the waiter when she went to the restroom. (Ok fine, not ALWAYS, but still I've been convinced to go "Dutch" or split the bill.)

But it depends on the read I have on the girl, usually, I'd have had enough time before to talk to her and figure out what we both liked and went something along those lines, or try something different that we both never tried before (rock climbing is awesome fun for a first date).

But what you're asking is purely situational, and can't be answered as each girl/date is different and react differently.

[ru a banana?]

interesting answer. (ahhhh a breath of fresh air)

[deez nuts]

Aaaahhhh, troublemaker. ^ :rolleyes:

In your dreams flyboy.

balls that sucks.

What is it with ego-maniac guys always taking things so personal? You would think they were desperate or something...

What no takers? :smile:

if you're talking about me, i'm not taking anything personally. if you're speaking about in general, guys always want what they can't have.

I'm choosey, don't know if any of you guys are good enough! :eek: Ahhhh shit did I just start WWIII? oooops. my bad.

i don't think you're my type. my type nowadays is married.

Besides, I'm sooooo sooo ugly, I dont even want to post a pic. :redface:

don't be so hard on yourself. i'm sure you look fine. even if you are as ugly as you say, there are times when spunk overcomes funk and you got a lot of spunk.

Go find a desperate cutie to play with.

i already have. aren't you having fun?

[Adaon]

balls that sucks.



if you're talking about me, i'm not taking anything personally. if you're speaking about in general, guys always want what they can't have.



i don't think you're my type. my type nowadays is married.



don't be so hard on yourself. i'm sure you look fine. even if you are as ugly as you say, there are times when spunk overcomes funk and you got a lot of spunk.



i already have. aren't you having fun?

It's always fun watching CSB aka Deez_nuts play with folk.

Makes me wanna practice spinning wicked word games like him and Tre. :biggrin:

[ru a banana?]

^ Eahh let them have their fun, you know an old adage my grandmother used to say

Guy wid big truk, big mout, and big ego, hab vedy vedy small..... (o:

[eos]

once in a while i would ask my bf out on a date. i mean, instead of our regular "dinner, tv, then sex or sleep, pick one" nights, we go to a nice restaurant, drink some wine, and enjoy each other's company.

[ru a banana?]

that's a good idea, never thought about it in context of w/in an existing relationship. I'll remember for next time. ^

[mrazntre]

*knock, knock*


yeahh... i'm uhhh, here for the gangbang.

[deez nuts]

Guy wid big truk, big mout, and big ego, hab vedy vedy small..... (o:

i tried to start up a small penis club here on yw. but, me and kimpossible were the only members.

[ru a banana?]

^ Eahh let them have their fun, you know an old adage my grandmother used to say

Guy wid big truk, big mout, and big ego, hab vedy vedy small..... (o:

How do u know that was what I was thinking? You guys have very very Dirty minds. Dirty dirty. :eek: :smile:

Maybe I was thinking brain? But no, that wouldn't work either...Seem intelligent enough to keep me somewhat occupied.

All in good humour guys, I'm sure u all are ... well most of you are fine. :wink:

[mrazntre]

either way.... i'm hot. it's plain and simple, i'm hot. i don't think i need to go beneath my level to hit a girl up.

[ru a banana?]

you keep telling yourself that baby... ;oD

Joke just a joke!!!

[mrazntre]

you keep telling yourself that baby... ;oD

Joke just a joke!!!

you're just a hater.

[ru a banana?]

you're just a hater.

:confused:

[ru a banana?]

i'm not a hater!

[mrazntre]

Ok guys.. we need stories of girls trying to ask you out on a date. Anyone care to share?

[Adaon]

So I had been friends with this girl for a couple years since junior high, and it was now our sophomore year in high school. Even though we went to different schools, we kept in pretty regular contact via phone calls, and hanging out with/without our group of friends from junior high.

Friends from said group would make fun of us, as the rest of them were hooking up and breaking up inside and out of the group, while the both of us didn't.

I mean, I knew I didn't at the time because I didn't make the time, floating from group of friends to group of friends, playing b-ball, running around at nite, video games, etc.

Her reasoning, as it turned out, was to wait for me to notice her. (as was the running gag of our group of friends at the time) So, by the time I did notice, I didn't feel comfortable dating someone as close as she was to me (friendship vs dating was still pretty alien to me). Once, when we went to the movies, I just stopped and asked, "So this isn't a date, right?" (Give me a break, I was 14 at the time). She just stammered, and said, "Not if you don't want it to be." I laughed it off at the time, and said "Good, don't want to mess a good thing up."

She's engaged now, but we're still pretty close. One of my rare female friends that can keep in contact while engaged. I didn't usually hear from my female friends from when they become engaged to when they get hitched. Oh well.

[Hiroshi2]

The man should definitely ask the girl out. I mean seriously, men need to stop being pussies about some things. Just ask the girl out! Worse thing that can happen is she'll say no. And so what, you just charge that shit to the game and move on................


These are the same men who'll be lying up under the covers scared and crying right alongside their wives/girlfriends when they hear a strange noise in the middle of the night.

[hkRT]

Two real stories of people I know of:

The girl is very aggressive. Guy is interested but shy. Guy did not ask the girl out. Girl asked the guy out. They hooked up, now are happily married.

The girl is very aggressive. Guy is not interested, not particularly shy but not aggressive either. Girl keeps asking the guy out. Guy keeps avoiding the girl. Guy at one point tells girl he's not interested. Girl keeps pursuing and sending guy messages even when guy moves out of town.

[eos]

^that last one is called "obsession" and borderline stalker.

[DragonKnight]

The man should definitely ask the girl out. I mean seriously, men need to stop being pussies about some things. Just ask the girl out! Worse thing that can happen is she'll say no. And so what, you just charge that shit to the game and move on................


These are the same men who'll be lying up under the covers scared and crying right alongside their wives/girlfriends when they hear a strange noise in the middle of the night.
Now isn't that a very sexist statement right there. :rolleyes: Sorry to say, but the last girl to ask *me* out had no problem going out with me brandishing weapons to find out who the fuck made that noise that disturbed our well-deserved rest. Of course, it turned out to be dishes we stacked up on the sink that fell. But hell, she and I were ready to tear it up if it did turn out to be fucker that had the unfortunate luck to be breaking into *our* apartment. :mad:

But yeah, people really need to stop conforming and encouraging to these sexist gender roles. Makes me wanna have daughters more than ever just so I can raise them to be strong, independent, self-confident, non-conforming to social standards, and strong enough to rip a guy's nutsack off if he touches her in a way she didn't want to be touched.

[Banana]

One of my steady girlfriends in high school had an interesting way of asking "me" out.

She had recently broke up with her boyfriend and I asked her out about 2 weeks after. She said no because she wasn't quite ready for it yet. 3 months pass and she walks by my locker saying that she wants me to walk her to a park to talk to me. We sit down and we just talk about friends and classes. Afterwards, she asks me about a "question" I asked her a few months prior and she wants me to ask her the question again. I honestly had no idea what she was talking about but after a bit, I started to play dumb. She kept dropping hints until *I* finally asked her out but constantly made her drop hints for 15 minutes.

So, I pretty much got gyped. All my life, I had to do all the work.

Damn women.

[eos]

^would you rather not have had her do that and just continue walking by your locker?? GOD! after 3 months SHE took that step, and you're like "durrrrr.....what does she want?"

DAMN GUYS.

[Banana]

I'm lazy. What can I say?

[Hiroshi2]

Now isn't that a very sexist statement right there. :rolleyes: Sorry to say, but the last girl to ask *me* out had no problem going out with me brandishing weapons to find out who the fuck made that noise that disturbed our well-deserved rest. Of course, it turned out to be dishes we stacked up on the sink that fell. But hell, she and I were ready to tear it up if it did turn out to be fucker that had the unfortunate luck to be breaking into *our* apartment. :mad:

But yeah, people really need to stop conforming and encouraging to these sexist gender roles. Makes me wanna have daughters more than ever just so I can raise them to be strong, independent, self-confident, non-conforming to social standards, and strong enough to rip a guy's nutsack off if he touches her in a way she didn't want to be touched.




Not saying that women can't be strong and independent - as a matter of fact, I prefer women who are (I don't want a doormat). But at the same time, what I'm saying is that men need to be men. Even if for no other reason than the fact that women appreciate that :wink:

[sageb1]

there should be a revival of arranged marriage.

learning how to love in such a marriage has benefits over love marriage, because both parties are obligated NOT to divorce.

and divorced people should be SHUNNED.

people get married in love marriage because they fell in love not with their partners but with love itself. once they realize that they have responsibilities they suddenly awaken to the dark side of their partners.

however, in arranged marriage, they are obligated to learn to love and to stay together.

odds are, unconditional love is implicit in arranged marriage.

in love marriage, they are allowed to fall out of love and get divorced.

WTF?

why not first learn about unconditional love and practice it before you even think of marriage?????

in order for any relationship to be successful, practise unconditional love without exception. do not see each other with human eyes; see with Buddha eyes.

this means, no jealousy, no petty chicanery.

[deez nuts]

do not see each other with human eyes; see with Buddha eyes.



i prefer to make her see with my one eyed monster. the cyclops!

[DragonKnight]

Not saying that women can't be strong and independent - as a matter of fact, I prefer women who are (I don't want a doormat). But at the same time, what I'm saying is that men need to be men. Even if for no other reason than the fact that women appreciate that :wink:More gender-role bullshit that society likes to reinforce without reading between the lines. This is the same shit that promotes sexism and racism. I still remember when women weren't encourage to join the Million-Man March. In fact, they were DIS-couraged. Why? Cause men had to be men and women needed to be women...in other words, stay the fuck home and mind the kids. :rolleyes:

[Adaon]

in order for any relationship to be successful, practise unconditional love without exception. do not see each other with human eyes; see with Buddha eyes.

Okay....but I'm not Buddhist.

[TB4000]

More gender-role bullshit that society likes to reinforce without reading between the lines. This is the same shit that promotes sexism and racism. I still remember when women weren't encourage to join the Million-Man March. In fact, they were DIS-couraged. Why? Cause men had to be men and women needed to be women...in other words, stay the fuck home and mind the kids. :rolleyes:

I hear you, but even the most feminist of women will say they still want their significant other to step up for them, and yes, even be a protector. Strong women still want their man to take the helm at times. This is what I've heard from other girls, not just me talking.

[DragonKnight]

I hear you, but even the most feminist of women will say they still want their significant other to step up for them, and yes, even be a protector. Strong women still want their man to take the helm at times. This is what I've heard from other girls, not just me talking.
Step up for them...or step up WITH them? Protector? How about protecting each other. Fuck taking the helm...how about sharing it?

Hey, I'm all about stepping up...as a person regardless of my gender, ethnic, and social background. But the more you say that a man has got to be a man, and a woman has got to be a woman by the general definition that this society wants to dictate, then all you are doing is encouraging the inequality that these gender roles tend to impress upon.

[mrazntre]

use a rubber dude, i heard she gets around, LIKE A RECORD.

[Adaon]

I hear you, but even the most feminist of women will say they still want their significant other to step up for them, and yes, even be a protector. Strong women still want their man to take the helm at times. This is what I've heard from other girls, not just me talking.

And the strong women (that I know) also want strong men they can depend on when they have to. It's a two way thing (as so much as I've been told, haven't seen too much down this road yet)

[sageb1]

Once a woman knows my special talent, she should ask me out.

Then I have 48 hours to seduce her, and she can decide if she wants to bed me or introduce me to her family.

Sorry, I can't tell everyone my special talent because then it would not be so special anymore.