keeping secrets

[eos]

ok not secrets, per se, but just random information.

here's my query: how much do you tell your bf/gf? i'm mostly curious as to information your friends tell you. because i've actually always operated by a code of silence when it comes to my friends and their personal stuff. i put my bfs on a need-to-know basis, and most of the time, they really don't need to know every single thing about my friends, their relationships, jobs, etc.

i've never felt comfortable revealing these things to my bfs, esp. my current one since he likes to think alot and might use what i said to unfairly judge my friends and act weird toward them.

i'm just curious as to what other people think and do.

[pikachupacabra]

I actually tell my GF a lot of stuff about my friends and she does the same concerning her friends, but that might be because we both know each other's circle of friends pretty well. There are a few things about them I don't mention, usually the more unsavory stuff because I don't want her to be totally grossed out by them.

[eos]

sometimes i tell my bf to stop before he tells me stuff about his friends cuz some of his friends are shady and have questionable characters. he loves to share but sometimes it's really tmi, and i can't look at his friends the same way anymore. it actually makes me a little worried when he hangs out with some guys. i don't need that added stress.
also, he doesn't think too highly of my friends because of some choices they have made and he's always saying bad things about them. this puts me on the defensive. so this is why i'm leery of telling him things.

[pikachupacabra]

Yeesh, doesn't he know the first rule of poontang is to always say good things about your GF's friends, (except for anything related to physical attractiveness...then you can slam them)? Duuuh.

[eos]

he's a very special boy. ordinary rules don't seem to apply to him.

[robotic]

i'm good with secrets.
to a point where it's kind of unhealthy really ;_;

[sageb1]

i would only tell my girlfriends what publicly acceptable info they need to hear.

no woman wants to hear a man whine about his Asian dick size.

[inthesky]

when it comes to gf, i try not to keep much in terms of secrets. if she complains about my friends - its fine, gives u a fresh perspective. if there's points that are defensible, then would explain that way too. if it really bothered me, i'd tell her.. and vice versa for her friends. i personally think it's an asset to have great honesty in a relationship- load off the shoulders.