Sons vs. daughters

[TB4000]

If you have both, or one or the other, is there a particular gender you feel is "easier" to raise as opposed to the other, or if you don't have kids, regardless of never being able to choose, would you rather have a son or a daughter? We were discussing it at work today and two dudes were like, I ain't never having a daughter, because I know she'll fall victim to the same thing I do to females. At least they're honest.

[LaiSteve66]

I suppose sons and daughters are difficult in their own ways and I'm not sure one's more difficult than the other. Personally, I would like a mix of boys and girls as opposed to all my kids being the same gender.

[Hiroshi2]

Actually i'd prefer daughters....................not saying having a little sister is the same thing, but it's similar. I'd have a better idea on what to do. Raising a son................don't know. Might be too much like me.

[Faithless]

Girls easier to raise than boys, when they're younger.

But as they get closer or into their teens, I think it's a damn toss up.

You can hammer-in the point of having them listen to you, but as god gave them freewill, they will rebel to some degree. :frown:

I never hit the daughter. But a little whack on the noggin of the boy feels soooooooooooooooo gooooooooooood sometimes. I also call him out as a little mother fucker, and put him outside if he sasses. (One or more of these statements is not true.) And yet he still asks me "What's for dinner?"

[Napoleon Chynamite]

If you have both, or one or the other, is there a particular gender you feel is "easier" to raise as opposed to the other, or if you don't have kids, regardless of never being able to choose, would you rather have a son or a daughter? We were discussing it at work today and two dudes were like, I ain't never having a daughter, because I know she'll fall victim to the same thing I do to females. At least they're honest.

I've mentioned this more than a few times and take pleasure in it. When some guys were asked whether or not they would allow a cherished daughter to date a boy with the exact same personality and motives as them, many of them said no and a couple said they'd go out of their way to personally beat the guy's ass.

[eos]

bf wants 5 sons. wants to start a basketball team. don't think it's in me cuz my family, both sides, are mostly girls.

me....i only want 2 kids, 3 tops. a boy has to be first though. i guess i'm a little old-fashioned in this regard cuz i want the boy to look over and take care of the little sister or brother. i think it's cuz i was the oldest and i always wanted an older sibling. instead, i was the one to pave the way for my sister.

[SunWuKong]

bf wants 5 sons. wants to start a basketball team. don't think it's in me cuz my family, both sides, are mostly girls.

i think the gender of children is usually determined by the male, because he is the one that has to contribute the Y chromosome to produce a son.

[Flow to Live]

^^^yep, but we can always blame it on the woman :).

Anyways, I would rather have boys because girls are too expensive.

[DragonKnight]

I prefer all daughters. I'd raise them to break stereotypes and gender roles.

[Seraphfire]

i think the gender of children is usually determined by the male, because he is the one that has to contribute the Y chromosome to produce a son.
Not exactly. Male sperm is produced to almost exactly 50/50 X/Y sperm. Once the sperm is inside the woman certain conditions of the woman's birth canal can favor male vs. female sperm, i.e. acidity, ovulation timing, etc. Seems male vs. female sperm have different characteristics. Then it appears Hepatitis B has a tendency to miscarry female fetuses more than male fetuses.

Same can apply to males, too much heat in the testicles kills off one sperm type more than the other.

We wanted a daughter very much so we read literature on sex selection, even bought one of the books too. (Guess it worked that one time we tried it.) Some of it could be bunk but among us fathers we've gotten tired of the saying the gender is determined just by the male when many other factors come into play.

I'm also glad our first was a male so my grandparents would be happy and less pressure put on us to produce a male heir. We also wanted a boy first so he would need to learn how to take care of his siblings, a role a boy might not feel the need to do if a girl was born first and thus took care of him and his later siblings. We had 2 boys first and both will make very good caring fathers one day.

[eos]

all i know is when my kids are old enough, they're going back to hong kong to get toughened up and live the hard life, sons or daughters. none of this crappy american education, sitting in front of the tv all day, and thinking they're entitled to extravagant birthday parties or luxury cars. they'll learn discipline and work ethic.

[lethal]

all i know is when my kids are old enough, they're going back to hong kong to get toughened up and live the hard life, sons or daughters. none of this crappy american education, sitting in front of the tv all day, and thinking they're entitled to extravagant birthday parties or luxury cars. they'll learn discipline and work ethic.

Why don't you just beat them with a stick?

[Adaon]

Why don't you just beat them with a stick?

That'd be my dad's philosophy. Ergh.

I don't particularly think one is any easier to raise than the other. Going off my family's non-sequitar style of raising kids, my sister, being as tightly "controlled and monitored" as she felt she was, and myself that basically got away with murder, have now reversed roles.

I mean....honestly, as soon as puberty hits, all bets are off anyways.

Personally, I'd just be trippin' that I'd have a kid or more to begin with. Always wanted to be a dad, just not wanting to rush headlong into it.

[Takashi]

I want 6, 3 of each. No preference.

[Faithless]

all i know is when my kids are old enough, they're going back to hong kong to get toughened up and live the hard life, sons or daughters. none of this crappy american education, sitting in front of the tv all day, and thinking they're entitled to extravagant birthday parties or luxury cars. they'll learn discipline and work ethic.
I had a friend who did that to his kid -- sent him back. Didn't get to bond with the kid for like two years. :frown:

[Tao]

i'm gonna name my kid optimus prime

[applehead]

i think boys would be more fun to raise when they're younger

but as a woman, a daughter would be nice to have if she's older.
then we can go shopping together and gossip. like my mom and i do.

overall, i don't particularly like people under the age of 12. spending
time with them is just a chore.

[applehead]

i'm gonna name my kid optimus prime

you should totally. i'm all for unique names.

[Adaon]

you should totally. i'm all for unique names.

That mean you're volunteering to have his kid? o.O

[BeTheReds]

Wouldn't know what to do with daughters...

[Seraphfire]

My daughter is alot of fun. I always wanted 2 (got 1) and I want her to be a strong person inside but also warm and affectionate. Well, she has affectionate in spades but being a strong person is tough for either gender but I think it's more challenging for girls in our society.

As it turns out, she happens to be very attractive for a 5 yr old. And when I mean attractive I don't mean oh she's cute cuz she's 5 yrs old, she is objectively quite attractive and I've noticed many nuances among kids interacting with her.

They say girls can be catty. Well, lemme tell you it begins at 5. My daughter gets to play with older girls whereas less attractive younger girls get left out. It makes me very sad to see this but it is what it is.

With boys, being cool or good in sports seems to make up for alot. The girls seem to lean more to socializing with attractive girls.

My wife decided her approach is to teach her that it is important to be beautiful inside too. I think that is a great idea but I wonder if she needs a bit of sassiness (even bitchiness) too. :( I decided it's a reality that attractive girls also attract alot of shit from guys who won't take no for an answer (no matter what) and bitchiness sometimes is a survival instinct for attractive girls. Would be an understatement to say that teaching a girl to pretend to be bitchy to get rid of guys vs. really being bitchy is a tough balancing act. Is this what strong is for attractive girls?

So yes, daughters are more challenging but my wife and I really enjoy em. Her brothers like her alot too.

P.S. I find it funny that among guys who really have the most angst about having daughters are the same ones who have treated women in not so many kind ways when it turns around a guy might do the same to their daughter ;)

[Faithless]

Wouldn't know what to do with daughters...
They're fun to knock down in basketball or round houses. :frown:

Not sure but I think some like fishing. And if they're really good, they'll ride bikes witcha. :wink:

[applehead]

That mean you're volunteering to have his kid? o.O

HAH.omg. that totally sounded like that. didn't it?
hehehehehe

no offense. seraph. i understand this is a thread about children.
but this is why i dread my friends having babies.
is it going to be non stop baby talk.
my baby this. my baby that. wah wah wah wah wah. blahblah blah
i hope you're not like that with your friends.
oh. and i sometimes feel this way with my friends who have dogs.
but i actually like dogs. so i don't mind so much.

[Seraphfire]

HAH.omg. that totally sounded like that. didn't it?
hehehehehe

no offense. seraph. i understand this is a thread about children.
but this is why i dread my friends having babies.
is it going to be non stop baby talk.
my baby this. my baby that. wah wah wah wah wah. blahblah blah
i hope you're not like that with your friends.
oh. and i sometimes feel this way with my friends who have dogs.
but i actually like dogs. so i don't mind so much.
Well, when all your friends have kids at the same time you do then you will be talking about your kids and your friend's kids. :wink:

But I don't talk that way to single friends unless they are family and have an interest in the children. Kids sports on the other hand seems to be interesting to guys regardless of marital/parental status. :biggrin:

[Napoleon Chynamite]

I want to adopt my own baby someday. I will teach it everything I know and I will put Oreos into its mouth when he cries to shut it up.

[eos]

^ and then he can wash it down with his tears or whatever it is that's in his bottle.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

^ He will use the milk that I breastfeed him with.

[Tao]

i can't wait for you to have that baby hube....i just can't wait.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

My friend said he'd pay me 20 bucks if I named my kid Dr. Doom. I told him hell no. I'd need at least 30 or 40 just to pick up one of the future add-ons for the Wii.

[Tao]

My friend said he'd pay me 20 bucks if I named my kid Dr. Doom. I told him hell no. I'd need at least 30 or 40 just to pick up one of the future add-ons for the Wii.

speaking of the wii, i just bought one off ebay...it's gonna be sweet

[TB4000]

Name your child Apple.

[sageb1]

When I was a naive man of 19, i once planned out my kid's names, despite not having anyone in mind as the wife.

It's been almost 30 years now.

I can't remember the names, and feel that whoever will choose me may not want kids, or if she did, might object to trippy names like Yuenbo and Musashi or even Ieyasu.

Heck, if I wanted to call a son Rama and a daughter Gita, then I am sure the wife would be annoyed -- unless we were both Hare Krshnas.

Also too, I'm convinced most women who are Asian and Canadian are really picky about their men, are putting off marriage until later, and want their men to be more successful etc etc.

Can't say I blame 'em? They're smart enough to expect the best of men to make babies with.

Nobody wants a child to suffer in poverty, mainly because it takes a stronger person to consciously choose to be poor and to grow because of it.

Also, the odds are greater that your kids will grow up able to survive a middle-class life rather than the life of poverty or the life of riches.

Or, even better yet: to grow up so rich one has no clue what it means to be poor.

Even so, in some areas of the big city, all that remains are the rich and the poor. Guess who the women are dating in my 'hood?

That guy over there, Mr. "notme".

[applehead]

Well, when all your friends have kids at the same time you do then you will be talking about your kids and your friend's kids. :wink:

But I don't talk that way to single friends unless they are family and have an interest in the children. Kids sports on the other hand seems to be interesting to guys regardless of marital/parental status. :biggrin:

oh good you didn't get offended.
i realized later that maybe i could have offended you
when it was just me complaining, yet again.

[applehead]

Name your child Apple.

no no no. hube should name is adopted baby Oreo.
kekekekekeek

[Adaon]

Name your child Apple.

I would name my daughter Apple so that I could name my next kid PC.

And if I had a son, he'd be Mac. Either way, whichever kid gets born after Apple/Mac would be named PC, no matter what. At least his/her initials will be PC. And they'll both be good at different things, and screw up different things. Ahh, the family memories to be had with that....

[hannle]

personally i think girls are easier to raise than boys.
boys past their 7 birthdays or so can be little rascals (specially when you have 2 or 3 of them, i would dread to be that woman on desperate housewifes), and in their teens, they can be hard to control too.
girls on the other hand, they may start acting up not til their teens.

[hannle]

would you think it's easier to raise kids in your own ethnic community?
my nephew and nieces seem to turn out fine, they are raised in the san gabriel valley area. but i would be afraid to say my kids would turn out good raised down here in south orange county, viewing 12 year old girls down here wearing prada purse to the malls.

[CBC guy]

Hmmm... its a real toss-up.... but I would think girls are supposedly easier to raise when they're little, but ya never know.

[mrazntre]

i'd have to say boys cuz i was adorable as a child and my parents never had problems with me..until later.

[Adaon]

would you think it's easier to raise kids in your own ethnic community?
my nephew and nieces seem to turn out fine, they are raised in the san gabriel valley area. but i would be afraid to say my kids would turn out good raised down here in south orange county, viewing 12 year old girls down here wearing prada purse to the malls.

Yeh, I would think it would be EASIER to raise my kids in my own ethnic community, but that would also stunt their growth to a certain degree with more direct contact to other ethnicities/culture. I know that I was pretty much raised in a Chinese community and that kept me out of trouble until I met and hung out with kids from a different ethnic background with different beliefs that clashed with mine, and it was messy for me for a couple of years to find "me". I wouldn't want my kids to grow up like I did. A lot of wasted time on confusion. I'd rather have my kids know where their ROOTS came from, but I don't want to hold them back too. Unless contact with other ethnicities/cultures originate from below the waist. Then it's time to go clean my gun.

[artsfartsyjanet]

it doesn't matter what gender I want first. no preference.

[robotic]

girls! because i would love to dress them up in little outfits and accessories.

XD jkjk, but i don't really think it matters =)

[Faithless]

girls! because i would love to dress them up in little outfits and accessories.

XD jkjk, but i don't really think it matters =)
You don't know how much people really do this. :frown:

[ru a banana?]

Parents had 4 of us. 2 of each. They said girls easier early childhood, worse in adolescence. And opposite w/boys.

Both boys and girls are good. Personally, I wouldn't baby either one too much, so they could both be able to stand on their own 2 feet, change tires, etc, but raising a son has made me realize the typical stereotype of closed, or non-emotional guys is completely false. They feel as much as women, but maybe carry more burden to hide it, and act matcho.

[mrazntre]

You don't know how much people really do this. :frown:

^-- guilty as charged? :wink:



Even so, in some areas of the big city, all that remains are the rich and the poor. Guess who the women are dating in my 'hood?

That white guy over there, Mr. "notme".

there ya go, fixxored.

[Faithless]

^-- guilty as charged? :wink:
...
Not me. 'Course I don't have a clue of what to buy because I don't keep track of sizes.

But it's not just the parents, it's like all the other family members who buy clothes for a birthday.

[Adaon]

Parents had 4 of us. 2 of each. They said girls easier early childhood, worse in adolescence. And opposite w/boys.

Both boys and girls are good. Personally, I wouldn't baby either one too much, so they could both be able to stand on their own 2 feet, change tires, etc, but raising a son has made me realize the typical stereotype of closed, or non-emotional guys is completely false. They feel as much as women, but maybe carry more burden to hide it, and act matcho.

**Emphasis added in bold by Adaon**

So you're raising a lil boy?