Prenups and Practicality vs Being Old Fashioned.

[Azn Retribution]

Not that I'm getting married anytime soon.
(Hell when there are so many attractive girls at the club, I can't even decide who to go for first. Marriage is a looong ways away.)

but I had a interesting surprise of late by how my parents demand
that when the time comes. I better get a Pre-Nup.
or i'll lose a good deal of my inheritance.

This is interesting because I generally thought she was conservative and old fashioned...

even more interesting because I kind of feel that pre-nups cheapen marriage into a business deal. If you just want to fuck. then you can juts cohabitate. Marriage is supposedly about something more. feels like the pre-nup kind of takes away from it. or maybe I'm like my mom said.
Thinking stupid.

Opinions on Pre-Nups?

[moJo]

i am all for pre-nups. i have no inheritance to speak of, nor do i have a whole lot of assets, but i still believe in pre-nups because there is NO guarantee that your marriage won't fail.

i just think it's logical to be prepared for anything. why risk it?

[Anaestacia]

This is the bare minimum and I won't marry anyone unless I have these on hand:

1) Pre-nup
2) Car
3) Separate house
4) Neighbouring countries

[Irezumi Kiss]

Gaah! More and more I'm thinking we're all better off just being "boyfriend and girlfriend" for life!

But if I were pushing Trump figures, definitely get a pre-nup. If she were rocking Oprah's changepurse, I have no qualms about signing it. I don't need a million buck alimony per annum, the beach house in the Hamptons will do just fine. Of course, love comes before all this and we will do our very best to make a happy union under The Lord.

*koff koff koff*

[TB4000]

Kanye said it best. "Holla "we want pre-nup!"

It's somethin' that ya need to have
'Cause when she leave yo ass, she gon' leave with half

[Arex]

Under California law (a community property state), inheritances remain separate property so long as you don't comingle the funds.** So basically, your parents are just being dicks. j/k


**This ain't legal advice--I could be wrong on this. Please consult a competent attorney in your jurisdiction to get the real deal.

[ares]

If you want to be old fashion and understand why marriage was invented 2500+ years ago, it wasn't for love. :)

[relus]

Marriage is a business transaction in the West :p Just look at prenups as insurance :p

[tommyhtown]

Money is a difficult topic to bring up in a relationship. I had the word 'Pre-nup' mentioned from my ex' once. It was very awkward to talk about it. Good luck on discussing this topic with someone you're going to get married to.

[kimpossible]

I posted more completely about this a while ago when the topic was brought up before, but I'm a believer in situational pre-nups and I say this as a married woman. I think it all depends on what you're each coming together with because that might speak to motive.

If you're loaded and the other person isn't, well, there's a chance that the other person isn't honest about his or her intentions. If you really don't have squat and want a pre-nup... that's a little weird. You'd be protecting potential future income and that sends a message that your sacrifices together as a couple that yield wealth you're looking to exit with on your own. That's not for better or worse. That comes off as "If you sacrifice I want to make sure I keep the profit from it."

Practical, even honest maybe, but not emotionally intelligent or romantic. Still... probably the right and best decision in some places.

My two pennies.

[hkRT]

Unless you have a lot of money, you don't need a prenup. But bank accounts should be kept separate... It's fine to give a car to your spouse and deposit money into her account as support if she's not working or has to take care of kids, but don't turn your main bank account into a joint account.

[TB4000]

What if both of you are poor? Though that rarely happens. Usually the girl or the guy is financially better off than the other person. Somebody is getting treated more than usual.

[DragonKnight]

I'm down...
...even tho knowing how I am the better half would be making much more than me. :tongue:

[tripostrophe]

I'll admit I'm more of a romantic/idealist, but I think that by getting a prenup, you're saying in a way that you're not willing to give the relationship 100%. I know that it's very practical, but marriage is losing a lot of its meaning/respect for a lot of people faster and faster nowadays (that wasn't aimed at homosexuals or anything by the way). If we're not happy, we're way too eager to give it up -- which is also a problem. Love isn't going to be all happiness, you've gotta stick through the hard times in order to build a stronger bond.

[haplesshobo]

There's also the 10+ year marriage issue even if you have pre-nup. Or, that they can just get child support as a way around the pre-nup .