Meeting people at Asian parties

[noname]

I'm just curious - at Asian parties, do you meet new people (of either same or opposite gender) more often or less often than at other kinds of parties (mainly with mixed crowds, but can be any kind) ?
Have you gone on to date or go into a relationship with someone that you met at one of these events?

From what I've seen, and what my friends have told me, it seems to be harder, unless it's through friends (i.e. friends-of-friends). Is it a similar experience for you?
If so, I wonder what the main reasons are. Are most people just too shy to approach others? Or do people here more tight-knit, and simply want to socialize with only their group of friends?

[BeTheReds]

Depends on how many people you know at the party...

If you know few, I find that it's difficult to weasel your way into conversation with total strangers there...

Then again, I look like I am White... so...

[Flow to Live]

Or you can just drink a few andyou'll be socializing in no time.

[urbia]

It's peculiar. If I go in energetically starting conversations and pretty much act all excited and dynamic, that seems to put people off at Asian parties. If I purposely act shy, introduce myself, and then clam up for almost the entirety of the night while merely standing near the new group, eventually someone will come along, notice that I'm 'new' and start the conversation. I get more phone numbers and e-mail addresses doing the latter. (And then I always seem to lose them and go to new parties. Cycle continues.)

[Kennyb]

I'm just curious - at Asian parties, do you meet new people (of either same or opposite gender) more often or less often than at other kinds of parties (mainly with mixed crowds, but can be any kind) ?
Have you gone on to date or go into a relationship with someone that you met at one of these events?

From what I've seen, and what my friends have told me, it seems to be harder, unless it's through friends (i.e. friends-of-friends). Is it a similar experience for you?
If so, I wonder what the main reasons are. Are most people just too shy to approach others? Or do people here more tight-knit, and simply want to socialize with only their group of friends?

Over in UK, depending where you are, it can get abit stale. Most of the Chinese party that I have been to, i always happen to see the same faces over and over again. My Indian friend also says the same with the indian nights that he has been to.

For me, it hasn't been much of a problem in going out on a date from people i have met at these kind of parties. It's just a social event that is taylored to a specific ethnic really. Yes there are the cliquey groups that goes and I wonder why they do when they don't put the effort in meeting new people. However you can spot the people that are new. I would agree that most of those people are shy aswell but you just need to know how to break the ice and make them feel comfortable around you.

[noname]

"clique" was the word I was trying to think of, in describing the crowds, in my original post... how could I forget? :tongue:

[Azn Retribution]

its pretty easy
your almost always connected to everyone at a asian party (if your asian) in some weird strange convuluted way. ie. your cousin dated my bestfriend's younger sister.

the hardest problem. for me anyway
is remembering names.
I'm horrible.

[Kennyb]

its pretty easy
your almost always connected to everyone at a asian party (if your asian) in some weird strange convuluted way. ie. your cousin dated my bestfriend's younger sister.

the hardest problem. for me anyway
is remembering names.
I'm horrible.


Oh tell me about it mate. Whilst I was living in London, most of the people that I met knew my aunt and it came quite annoying in not getting a date but then again, it did help break the ice with the conversation.

Ditto what you said about remembering names.

[Azn Retribution]

Yeah nothing is worse than a cute girl coming up to you and saying hi... remember me?

and you remember the face... and the uh.. body

but not the name.

[Kennyb]

Yeah nothing is worse than a cute girl coming up to you and saying hi... remember me?

and you remember the face... and the uh.. body

but not the name.

Oh definately. And when you ask them what is their name again, that's 3 months of sex gone down the drain.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Back when I went in college, I ended up mostly drinking heavily and talking with other guys. Actually I made lots of male friends at parties, but didn't meet too many girls. Save that for other times when there's less tension in the atmosphere.

Once I moved back to California, I kinda lost touch with that whole scene. Then I came to Hong Kong, where every party is an Asian party! (But obviously not like in the US. Except for Indian parties, which are pretty much the same in either place).

[noname]

the hardest problem. for me anyway
is remembering names.
I'm horrible.

yeah, that can be tough, especially when the music is so loud that you can't really catch the name in the first place

reminds me of that Bacardi commercial, where these two guys see a girl, but forgot her name, so they just ran off a whole bunch of names until getting it right, then the girl says "Oh, you remembered!" :biggrin:

[zero]

It has been a long time since I was clubbing with my Asian friends. I remember back then people just walk up to you and start to dance. Then after a couple of songs they politely gesture bye and walk away. If this is your idea of meeting people ...

[john418]

go to bars

[Azn Retribution]

go to bars

yeah but you don't get to dance with girls there
or get lapdances from hot girls.

I don't know about you

I like lapdances from hot girls.