Being 'whole'

[kimpossible]

If you could alter your ethnicity, would you opt for being a single race?

[Craig]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Oct 12 2002, 07:02 PM
If you could alter your ethnicity, would you opt for being a single race?

From a biological perspective being mixed is probably slightly better off in general.

Isn't the issue whether or not you would rather have the different opportunities in life that come with being an accepted part of a particular community ?

[kimpossible]

Yes, but no. I'm just interested in hearing what kind of thoughts other mixed Asians have given this, if at all. Plus, I need to get some new dialogue going in here.

:)

So, if you're Asian - have you ever wanted to be mixed?

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Oct 12 2002, 02:38 PM


So, if you're Asian - have you ever wanted to be mixed?
Hehe, to be honest I never given this any thought.

I suppose at the risk of sounding cheesy and trite, that I'm just happy being myself and I had no say on my race/ethnicity.

As for me wanting to be mixed, I kinda wonder what it'll be like to be a Russell Wong or Tyson Beckford, now that you bought it up :D



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[thaite]

Nope. I like me.

It's other people's attempts to define me that I don't like.

[digiaks]

I like me for who I am. It does not matter to me if I am mixed or not.

[kimpossible]

At times I'm jealous of someone else's ability to never really have to consider their identity. But if you look the sentence I just wrote, I automatically assumed that it's easier for someone to be of just one race and that they never have identitiy issues.

Interesting that I thought that.

[BeTheReds]

This is an interesting question.

I dont know how to answer.

But given the way I think right now I'd have to say yes. I would change. I'd be 100% Korean if I could.

Perhaps I am the only one who says they would change, but the fact of the matter is I want out.

I'm tired of being labled an Asiaphile when I am not.

Honestly I feel comfortable around Asians and Koreans in particular, but I hate the wall that some of them put up upon meeting me.

Sorry if this goes against anyone's views.

[tapestrybabe]

Me, i just dont understand this confusion. I'm Korean. I CAN'T change that. I am what I am. And the same thing goes for a Hapa... If your black and half asian... well than... your BOTH... You can't change that. If your a mix of white, black and asian... AGAIN, you're ALL those things... you CAN'T change that... you are what you are... So just accept the whole part of you that make who you are and just deal...

Me, i just dont understand the confusion when it comes to ones identity if you're a mix...

[Green_Circle]

"Honestly I feel comfortable around Asians and Koreans in particular, but I hate the wall that some of them put up upon meeting me."

Just for the record, there's a lot of Koreans that put up a wall if you're not Korean from their neck of the woods. I'm 100% Asian but not Korean. They won't fully accept me either, if at all. My Chinese American buddies tell me the same thing about Korean clannishness when they try to date Korean women. Many Korean fobs don't accept Koreans not born in Korea either, or if their adopted by non Koreans or if they don't speak Korean. I'm not even Korean but this stuff is kinda well known around Asian circles.
:cry:

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Oct 22 2002, 09:08 AM
Me, i just dont understand this confusion. I'm Korean. I CAN'T change that. I am what I am. And the same thing goes for a Hapa... If your black and half asian... well than... your BOTH... You can't change that.
yeah but the annoying thing is, I'm NOT both. There is no possible stretch of the drunken, stoned imagination by which could someone consider me as a German. I just have the genes, not the family upbringing or cultural background appropriate to it. regardless on my genes, I'm overseas Chinese. and it gets annoying as hell when:

A. people assume that either I am both, or tell me that I should be.
B. people claim they are "both" (of their parents ethnicities) just due to virtue of their genes, when considering on the basis of their family upbringing, cultural background/habits, etc., they are clearly only one or the other.

so to get back to the original topic: yeah, maybe it would make my life more convenient, cuz I wouldn't have to deal with this stupid wannabe-sensitive image that the media puts up of mixed race people that we're "both" and we all just sit around "celebrating" our diversity and heritage (that phrase always cracks me up. "Hey guys, I'm Armenian!" "For real? Let's have a party, man! You're Armenian, man! That's some good shit!"). but then, there's lots of things I can't have that would make my life more convenient.

though, if i were of one race, maybe I'd have parents who could relate to me better, and who could help me in speaking Chinese ... that might be the one advantage.



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[BeTheReds]

Originally posted by AliBabaIncorporated@Oct 22 2002, 03:40 PM
Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Oct 22 2002, 09:08 AM
Me, i just dont understand this confusion. I'm Korean. I CAN'T change that. I am what I am. And the same thing goes for a Hapa... If your black and half asian... well than... your BOTH... You can't change that.
yeah but the annoying thing is, I'm NOT both. There is no possible stretch of the drunken, stoned imagination by which could someone consider me as a German. I just have the genes, not the family upbringing or cultural background appropriate to it. regardless on my genes, I'm overseas Chinese. and it gets annoying as hell when:

A. people assume that either I am both, or tell me that I should be.
B. people claim they are "both" (of their parents ethnicities) just due to virtue of their genes, when considering on the basis of their family upbringing, cultural background/habits, etc., they are clearly only one or the other.

so to get back to the original topic: yeah, maybe it would make my life more convenient, cuz I wouldn't have to deal with this stupid wannabe-sensitive image that the media puts up of mixed race people that we're "both" and we all just sit around "celebrating" our diversity and heritage (that phrase always cracks me up. "Hey guys, I'm Armenian!" "For real? Let's have a party, man! You're Armenian, man! That's some good shit!"). but then, there's lots of things I can't have that would make my life more convenient.

though, if i were of one race, maybe I'd have parents who could relate to me better, and who could help me in speaking Chinese ... that might be the one advantage.
Amen!

Sadly people will continually tell you you are both or that you should be.

Or in my case they will tell me I'm White, because I look like I am.

[BeTheReds]

Originally posted by Green_Circle@Oct 22 2002, 02:33 PM

Just for the record, there's a lot of Koreans that put up a wall if you're not Korean from their neck of the woods. I'm 100% Asian but not Korean. They won't fully accept me either, if at all. My Chinese American buddies tell me the same thing about Korean clannishness when they try to date Korean women. Many Korean fobs don't accept Koreans not born in Korea either, or if their adopted by non Koreans or if they don't speak Korean. I'm not even Korean but this stuff is kinda well known around Asian circles.
:cry:
Yes, I have experienced all of the things which you speak of when dealing with some Xenophobic Korean people.

Unfortunately, the truth of the matter is that I've had far worse a time being accepted by Korean-Americans who grew up in the USA and don't use Korean at all except at their house.

Koreans from Korea that I have met usually accept me right away.

[Grass Monkey]

Heh, well, I am 100% Chinese. But really, I don't really care what I am, or what I could be. You can change where I live, what I eat, the whole lot, but I'm still me, ya know?

Well, at least I don't look like :retard: huh?