Mind your own business? or not?

[Azn Retribution]

Ok.. I have this old friend from high school that I don't talk to much anymore but recently I hear she's getting married to her HS sweetheart.

I have a problem with this because I know her fiancee is a two-faced asshole. He acts all christian and good in front of her. but in reality he's the most perverted, sick and potentially unfaithful white guy with a asian fetish possible. I know this because I've overheard him talking with his friends about it all the time and the things he plans to do to her. or how he has it set because she's a nurse.. and she'll do whatever he wants.. in bed.. and otherwise (In his own fucking words)

also know the unfaithful part because I went to that church univ to go pick up parts from a friend and he was hardcore hitting on my korean friends(there really aren't any pretty asian girls anywhere near that univ) asking for their numbers and all that.
and he was ENGAGED.

Doesn't help that he's a loser communications major and he's gonna depend on her for money.. or that she's completely whooped and can't see past the relationship to how he really is(he's her first and only).

Naturally her family doesnt approve.. they can sense his insincerity or fakeness but she doesnt listen to her family.
and the other few people who know how her fiancee is are like me.. not sure if we should say anything or not.

So far I'm of the opinion that I should mind my own business but it still bothers me.

[BigLew]

Do you realy think saying anything to her will change her mind?

[Azn Retribution]

Not entirely sure. because none of her friends have ever said anything
especially the kind of proof i'd have with the girls he hit on.
but I dont know either way.. love is blinding..
it'd probably save me the most trouble just to mind my own business and just let it play out.. but i hate to see people get hurt when there's something i might be able to do about it.

Maybe it can't be helped. I don't know.

[A.R.A.M.]

Sounds like she already has people (her family) warning her about this guy. If she is not going to listen to them, why would she listen to an old high school friend who didn't really keep in contact? I think that if you told her, you would come across as more of a trouble maker than a friend.

You can probably warn her in an indirect fashion. Maybe you can call her up and congratulate her on her engagement, telling her that you are glad that the two of them are finally settling down. And mention how special she must be and how much her fiance must love her to settle down with her considering the last time you saw him, he was hitting on all your friends. Say that last part like it is a joke, not an accusation. Let her do the math to determine that you saw him last was while he was already engaged.

But I don't really know anything about this situation. If I were you, I would keep my mouth shut. She's going to need a friend in the future.

[Tao]

down. And mention how special she must be and how much her fiance must love her to settle down with her considering the last time you saw him, he was hitting on all your friends. Say that last part like it is a joke, not an accusation. Let her do the math to determine that you saw him last was while he was already engaged.

uh that's a really bad idea. she'll just get offended

But I don't really know anything about this situation. If I were you, I would keep my mouth shut. She's going to need a friend in the future.

yeah that's my suggestion too. some people have to learn the hard way...so let her. from what you've said, she's had plenty of warning from her own family. and usually a guy that's two faced and is as uncareful about the way he acts in public like you said, will deifently have caused her friends to say something already. it seems she is blinded by her infatuation, so just let her be.

[kimpossible]

She's got problems any way you slice it. She's either in complete denial or she's pumped up on some romantic version of the situation like she's got to make a jerk see the error of his ways or maybe she thinks her interracial relationship is more special. You'll never really know.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, so consider it more accepting a potential reality. I'd be willing to bet she's more excited about the wedding than the marriage and plans on making a bee-line to pregnancy because we all know if the guy's an asshole and your relationship is dysfunctional, a baby will make him settle down and realize how much he really loves you.

Let her call the shots. She knows what's up, I'm sure of it. She's not willing to accept it for whatever her reasons are. I agree with what the guys said above.

[Azn Retribution]

thanks.. Ill do what i originally planned... which is nothing.
just keep my mouth shut.

[deez nuts]

easily rectified.

you should sleep with her in an altruistic attempt to thwart the marriage and save her from the grasps of this astucious, knavish and serpentine fellow.

what any good man would do.

[truMp]

There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
- Louis L'Amour