A Happy Issue

[kimpossible]

What do you like, if anything, about being hapa?

[thaite]

Hmmm, difficult to answer, because I gotta say I love being me -- but who doesn't love themselves? I love being multicultural. You shouldn't have to have an excuse to appreciate cultures are not your own, but hapaness makes it easier. I love it that I don't look like other people, but have curious aesthetic hints to my ancestors. It makes it so that I don't have always have to bear the stereotypes of my race, but can stand on my own. I like it that I am an example of how people can overcome their cultural differences to create something out of themselves, similar but entirely different.

[Craig]

Do MK and KC count for this thread ?

[optiontoo]

I suppose a side-benefit to being hapa for me is that my wife (hot little Chinese girlie) has an aversion to Asian guys that was nurtured by her first boyfriend. He was Chinese as well and gave her a bad enough experience so as to be completely turned off by Asian men.

So, I am caucasian enough for her... and Asian enough because we can go to Chinese restaraunts and eat the smelly stuff and sip hot tea afterward. I know the diff between pho and com and ga when we go eat Vietnamese food. (Note: My better half is Vietnamese.) And we can celebrate a mean Chinese New Year together.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by optiontoo@Oct 10 2002, 02:02 AM
I suppose a side-benefit to being hapa for me is that my wife (hot little Chinese girlie) has an aversion to Asian guys that was nurtured by her first boyfriend. He was Chinese as well and gave her a bad enough experience so as to be completely turned off by Asian men.

So, I am caucasian enough for her... and Asian enough because we can go to Chinese restaraunts and eat the smelly stuff and sip hot tea afterward. I know the diff between pho and com and ga when we go eat Vietnamese food. (Note: My better half is Vietnamese.) And we can celebrate a mean Chinese New Year together.
If you were full Viet, your wife wouldn't want you...? :blink:

[optiontoo]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 10 2002, 02:15 AM
If you were full Viet, your wife wouldn't want you...? :blink:
I don't think so. She doesn't really like Asian guys. I think if I were full Vietnamese she wouldn't have considered me when I first asked her out.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by optiontoo@Oct 10 2002, 06:33 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 10 2002, 02:15 AM
If you were full Viet, your wife wouldn't want you...?     :blink:
I don't think so. She doesn't really like Asian guys. I think if I were full Vietnamese she wouldn't have considered me when I first asked her out.
It doesn't bother you that you had to be "white enough" for your wife to consider you? ...Or is it one of those "after we got to know each other, it was okay" type of things?

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 10 2002, 10:34 AM
Originally posted by optiontoo@Oct 10 2002, 06:33 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 10 2002, 02:15 AM
If you were full Viet, your wife wouldn't want you...? :blink:
I don't think so. She doesn't really like Asian guys. I think if I were full Vietnamese she wouldn't have considered me when I first asked her out.
It doesn't bother you that you had to be "white enough" for your wife to consider you? ...Or is it one of those "after we got to know each other, it was okay" type of things?
Actually, my husband wouldn't have wanted me if I was fully Asian either. :blush:

[optiontoo]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 10 2002, 06:34 PM
It doesn't bother you that you had to be "white enough" for your wife to consider you?
I suppose it should bother me, but it doesn't. I wouldn't have considered her unless she was fully Asian either. (Hapa would get a definite "maybe.") Everybody has their preferences.

Now let's just stay away from the yellow feva rants. ;-)

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by optiontoo@Oct 10 2002, 07:07 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 10 2002, 06:34 PM
It doesn't bother you that you had to be "white enough" for your wife to consider you?
I suppose it should bother me, but it doesn't. I wouldn't have considered her unless she was fully Asian either. (Hapa would get a definite "maybe.") Everybody has their preferences.

Now let's just stay away from the yellow feva rants. ;-)
Lol, nah I was just wondering. I mean, I've been in the situation, too, but I was never offended by it because they would always comment later how happy they were that they didn't write me off because of certain things... and they usually realized later that they were wrong to generalize and whatnot. or.. something... *scratches head*

[digiaks]

I have been out with Asian girls that don't date asian guys. Pretty racists to me. Where is the love at? What happened to character first? However, I know Asian girls they stay within their ethnicity. So racism is all over.

[BeTheReds]

Nothing :cry:

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by Bethereds@Oct 22 2002, 07:00 PM
Nothing :cry:
You're here at YW... that's a happy thing? God, am I cheesy or what.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Oct 22 2002, 10:47 PM
Originally posted by Bethereds@Oct 22 2002, 07:00 PM
Nothing  :cry:
You're here at YW... that's a happy thing? God, am I cheesy or what.
Can I have some cheese please? :D

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Craig@Oct 9 2002, 08:31 PM
Do MK and KC count for this thread ?
how come i never saw this post before? does "MK" refer to me here?

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Oct 23 2002, 12:09 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 9 2002, 08:31 PM
Do MK and KC count for this thread ?
how come i never saw this post before? does "MK" refer to me here?
There can be only one MK, bro.

[BeTheReds]

Okay not nothing.


I can honestly say that if I were not mixed then I probably wouldn't be so open minded.

I'd probably have thrived in one of those stupid AA groups and never realized that it was stupid.

In Korea they would think i am a retard when I speak and write Korean because I'm not 100% fluent and my handwriting sucks. But at the level I am now people are freakin amazed! But then again that can be good or bad, the shock factor. Then again if I were full Korean then I'd probably speak Korean better because my parents would have used it at home more.

It's not so bad being mixed. But I certainly don't think its a great wonderful thing I should take pride in.

[kimpossible]

True, but you're have to live as is for the rest of your life. You don't have to subscribe to the whole Doubles ideology - though I know that some people do - but I think it's important to be comfortable in your own skin.

Something buoywonder said had a fundamental affect on me; he doesn't have a problem with being mixed race, it's other people that have the problem.

Gotta run back to work.

[serverpimp]

The only social benefit about being Hapa, IMHO is that you don't get locked into this narrow minded racial clique, and therefore your horizon's are more broadened. It's like, I don't feel the pressing urge or need to validate my existence by seeking the acceptance of Koreans or Caucasians. Hell my bestfriends Puerto Rican for christ sake lol. So I do believe being hapa gives you a unique perspective on how cliquey and segragated society truly is.

[blkazngirl]

If I don't like you, it's not because of your skin color. It's just because you're an ass-hole. Our family reunions looks like the UN Meeting. The only race we're missing is an alien (come to think of it there is cousin.......hehe). :HH:

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by blkazngirl@Nov 1 2002, 09:54 AM
The only race we're missing is an alien (come to think of it there is cousin.......hehe). :HH:
Your poor cousin...trapped somewhere far away, defenseless, helpless -- motionless.

...and about to understand Pig Power.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by achtungbaby@Nov 1 2002, 01:07 PM
Originally posted by blkazngirl@Nov 1 2002, 09:54 AM
The only race we're missing is an alien (come to think of it there is cousin.......hehe). :HH:
Your poor cousin...trapped somewhere far away, defenseless, helpless -- motionless.

...and about to understand Pig Power.
Oink Oink

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by buoywonder@Oct 9 2002, 07:14 PM
You shouldn't have to have an excuse to appreciate cultures are not your own, but hapaness makes it easier.
BAM!

thank you!

[maldito]

Originally posted by blkazngirl@Nov 1 2002, 05:54 PM
Our family reunions looks like the UN Meeting.
The family reunions that we have are on my dad's side. All descendants of my paternal grandparents. I wouldn't say that we look like the UN, but I can tell you that out of all 142 descendants my grandparents produced, only 22 of them are pure Filipinos and only 14 of them are alive today. The other 120 descendants are all mixed, including the step and adopted children/grandchildren.

As for my mom's side, well everyone is at least Chinese and Hawaiian plus other things. So there are no pure Chinese nor pure Hawaiians on my mom's side, at least not since my great-grandmother who was half chinese and half Hawaiian. That was since 1880.

[Chrysalis]

Ummm.... question to you all. What is a hapa? Does that describe a half caucasian half asian background or just a mixed asian background?

I'm half chinese and half filipino and I've mostly spoken english at home. This is not good my chinese relatives look down on me at my inability to speak chinese well or read and write (I'm learning though) and well I can't understand or say anything in Tagalog (except the swear words lol) so theres no acceptance there either.

I often feel that I don't belong in either group/community so I just spend time with my friends (who are mainly caucasian or asian aussies ie: ABC's).

Chrysalis