How do you feel about open relationships?

[Cipherous]

title says it all.

[sOKaLiBoY]

i'd say if both parties are ok with it...no problem. i for one would not go for it though

[nonamerasian]

I also don't see a problem if both partners are for it.

But I'm selfish.

[DragonKnight]

I also don't see a problem if both partners are for it.

But I'm selfish.
Ditto.

There was a time when I probably would've tried...but nowadays not worth it. I see too much potential for drama.

[nola]

It would be pure hell for me.

[Meki]

Yeah, I think if both parties agree to it then its fine but personally I wouldn't feel comfortable with it nor am I secure enough with myself to do that.

[ism]

I think I am past the age/situation/maturity/experience in which I would have done it. The way I was brought up and my agenda for relationships is no longer compatible with it.

I cannot really imagine someone who wants to stay in that type of relationship in lieu of a lifetime partner, but would love to hear about it, especially if they have successfully done it with the same partner for 10+ years. It's somewhat related to polygamy but different enough to make it unique... maybe closer to a marriage in which a partner knows the other has a revolving mistress or paramour.

[mrazntre]

I wouldn't go for it either because I just wouldn't be able to handle it. Perhaps if I was the only part involved in extracurriculur activities that might be okay, but on some level I'd feel really guilty about it.

"Monogamy is rough....Once you commit, you can't cheat. Wanna cheat. Can't cheat. Dying to cheat. Can't cheat. Can't wait to cheat. Can't cheat. Some folks gotta go to rehab not to cheat. Some folks cheat in rehab"

[ism]

That's the main thing I'd like to know. Society generally considers relationships outside of the main one as "cheating." An open relationship requires both parties to subscribe enough to the idea of monogamy to stay together, but be able to buck it so that the other relationships aren't "cheating." Doesn't seem like there's much wiggle room.

[applehead]

i can't.

emotional issues aside.
it's the health issues that concerns me the most.
i think my fear of catching some disesase is a disease itself.

[thaite]

there's plenty of me to go around.

[A.R.A.M.]

i can't.

emotional issues aside.
it's the health issues that concerns me the most.
i think my fear of catching some disesase is a disease itself.

You can have a condom compact though

[onnihs]

she'd have to really really annoy me or something in order for me to allow other guys to boink her. otherwise, i might get too attached and get hurt. boohoo.

[John0101]

doesn't this mean open relationships are just sex buddies?

[applehead]

You can have a condom compact though


but condoms aren't 100 percent
safe. they're like 99.9999999 percent safe (i think) :biggrin:
but it still scares me.
paranoid anyone?
hehehehehee
and not all STDs can be prevented by
the use of condoms.

she'd have to really really annoy me or something in order for me to allow other guys to boink her. otherwise, i might get too attached and get hurt. boohoo.

boink.
that word makes me laugh.

[nonamerasian]

doesn't this mean open relationships are just sex buddies?

Nah. I think they are partners who are in an emotional and physical relationship with eachother who only bed others for recreation.

The others are their sex buddies, but the person who they have the open relationship agreement with is their true significant other.

At least that's my understanding of it.

[asvenus]

and not all STDs can be prevented by
the use of condoms.

are you serious :eek: euwwwww..


i think my fear of catching disease is a disease in itself

awww..pats applehead reassuringly..no its ok girl i have plastic gloves on..yes yes the protective kind!! heehee :tongue:

as for the open relationship thing...
him = if he likes his willy, as in attached..he wont even go there..if he just likes it, in a case maybe..fine play around as much as ya want :wink:

me = to take the lyrics of Erykah Badu..'i know im alot of woman but not enough to divide the pie' :wink: i dont know how anyone does it..at all

[ism]

are you serious :eek: euwwwww..She's right. Unfortunately, the only real way to not get STDs is to not touch a person. Some STDs can be spread through skin contact that is not necessarily covered by a condom -- genital herpes, syphilis, chancroid, and HPV. Others are spread through discharge that may leak out of a condom, and if there's breakage you're screwed.

[sOKaLiBoY]

She's right. Unfortunately, the only real way to not get STDs is to not touch a person. Some STDs can be spread through skin contact that is not necessarily covered by a condom -- genital herpes, syphilis, chancroid, and HPV. Others are spread through discharge that may leak out of a condom, and if there's breakage you're screwed.


well all the girls that i have slept with were virgins so i don't have to worry about STD's

[BigLew]

As long as both parties agree and there is no room for interpretation. Even still feelings usually get hurt anyway.

[applehead]

well all the girls that i have slept with were virgins so i don't have to worry about STD's

okay. even I'M not that gulliable.

She's right. Unfortunately, the only real way to not get STDs is to not touch a person. Some STDs can be spread through skin contact that is not necessarily covered by a condom -- genital herpes, syphilis, chancroid, and HPV. Others are spread through discharge that may leak out of a condom, and if there's breakage you're screwed.

!!!!!

[ism]

well all the girls that i have slept with were virgins so i don't have to worry about STD'sJust the lovely blood stains on the sheets.

[BigLew]

well all the girls that i have slept with were virgins so i don't have to worry about STD'sYeeeeaaaah... And I also believed it when every woman I ever slept with told me it was thier first time having sex on the 1st/2nd date.

[Meki]

Yeeeeaaaah... And I also believed it when every woman I ever slept with told me it was thier first time having sex on the 1st/2nd date.

Awww, now your just being mean... Let the poor boy have his virgins. :tongue:

[applehead]

Yeeeeaaaah... And I also believed it when every woman I ever slept with told me it was thier first time having sex on the 1st/2nd date.

big lew!
you big ole slut.
have you EVEr waited till the third date?

[BigLew]

big lew!
you big ole slut.
have you EVEr waited till the third date?Not since I was a teenager. I don't think sex is evil or sacred either so I don't have any hang ups about it.

[TB4000]

It's not really a relationship then, is it? They're just someone you're fucking, if that's the case. If I'm seeing a girl seriously, she is the one I want to be with exclusive, and I would hope the feeling is mutual.

[missmeow]

If I am in a serious relationship, hell no.

But seeing other people is just a part of dating. Some people think that if you go on a few dates with them you're an item. I don't think so.

[kimpossible]

Now, no. Ask me again when I'm 55 and menopausal. I might buy him a mistress so he can relieve himself whenever he wants.

[kitty]

i've known a few couples that were in open relationships, a few of my friends were also with a partner who was in an open relationship. it wasn't sex buddies, it was a committed loving relationship, apparently.

it worked for them. i personally wasn't into the idea. too confusing for me, inviting too much drama.

[TB4000]

Nah. I think they are partners who are in an emotional and physical relationship with eachother who only bed others for recreation.

The others are their sex buddies, but the person who they have the open relationship agreement with is their true significant other.

At least that's my understanding of it.
That's pretty much it in a nutshell as far as someone's definition of it. I think it all depends on what you view sex as, something more casual or more intimate.

[Commando_turned_MD]

I dont like sloppy-seconds. Therefore, open relationships are out of the question

[tapestrybabe]

i would never wanna have an open relationship...
i mean, the fact that one wants an open relationship...
is a sign that somethings not fully right...
and not fully happy with each other...

at least thats how i feel...
but perhaps my way of thinking...
is a cultural ingrained thing...
since some cultures...
are into like having more than
one wives or something...

but still, its not for me...

[Irezumi Kiss]

I used to be in one, but it was physically easier because we were bicoastal and only saw each other two or three times a year. Neither one of us wanted to tie the other down because at the time it was unclear where the relationship was headed and we were "living in the moment." But we didn't want to be out of each other's picture absolutely.

I'm not really sure if that was a "true" open relationship because not being around the other person physically is a wholly other condition. Our hearts were thinking something different, though...

Probably benefitted me more since I'm way more social than she...and got into more circles where those Sex and the City moments with a slightly inebriated lady of questionable integrity sparked off unexpectedly...ahhh, but those glory days are behind me, now!

Now, no. Ask me again when I'm 55 and menopausal. I might buy him a mistress so he can relieve himself whenever he wants.
Aren't women supposed to be MORE horny during/after menopause? Or is that just my wishful thinking to be seduced by a Susan Sarandon type before I'm officially taken?

I dont like sloppy-seconds.
No problem. Fresh-scented Wet Ones with aloe. Antibacterial. Travel pack of 15 cloths available at your local Duane Reade!

[pikachupacabra]

I don't think these *ever* really work. Most times, the definition of "open" isn't very hammered out between the two (or more???) parties, and it's my belief that oftenttimes, one person is just going along because they don't want to lose/hurt the other...which of course is exactly what's going to happen when it's built on a foundation like that.

[Emperor_Mike]

I like stability, so no open relationships for me. It's so...secondary school-like.

[Fireblade]

as much as the idea is appealing, I think the idea has too many problems that may arise. Jealousy for example might happen, and I can see how your partner might ask what you did on a certain date, etc, etc. I did date a girl who was in an open relationship with her bf, but after I found that out, I wasn't too keen on seeing her again. So my answer is heck no.

[TB4000]

I'm not even all that cool with the whole friends with benefits angle...it just seems too casual for me, man...and that's saying something.