Do girls "test" guys out?

[stunninglyAsian]

Do any of you girls "test" a guy out to see if they like you by maybe ignoring them, flirting with another guy in front of him, etc. to see how he reacts? Or is that something relegated to teenie-boppers. I remember girls doing this way back in the day, but I wonder if they still do that kind of stuff.

[hooligan]

As much as another "guy" tests "girls" out. I think both genders does a fair share of both.

[Hiroshi2]

I ain't got time for that shit..............I think girls around me be doing that shit though. Cause I eavesdrop. It's scary how much they notice every little detail about what we do..........it's enough to make somebody feel self-conscious like a motherfucker.............

[Tao]

i'm pretty sure everyone regardless of sex or age tests a potential mate out first. hell i do it.

[stunninglyAsian]

Damn, and I thought all of this stuff died out after college...

[Meki]

I think everyone does it because it’s human nature to want attention from your significant other or potential significant other. However, I do believe that some people do it more than others and also at varying degrees. For instance, when a girl asks a guy if she looks fat in a certain outfit, it’s a loaded question. (If you don’t know what to answer then there is no hope for you. :tongue: ) Guys know this is a loaded question but it’s a kind of a test. I don’t really think it’s as bad as you think it is. I think most “tests” that people put each other though are pretty obvious ones. I also think it has a lot to do with the persons self esteem. If they are more confident then they are less likely to test someone as much.

[stunninglyAsian]

For instance, when a girl asks a guy if she looks fat in a certain outfit, it’s a loaded question. (If you don’t know what to answer then there is no hope for you. :tongue: ) Guys know this is a loaded question but it’s a kind of a test.
Well duh... I even know the fat question. So there is hope for me yet.


So then this girl tells me last night that she's going out to this one bar/restaurant that I wanted to take her there. But she didn't invite me, which I thought was odd, but what the hell, maybe it's a girl's night out. And the day before she went out and invited me to this one place everybody goes to but I couldn't get ahold of her and just left a message- then the next day she said that I should have just come over, that I would have seen them. Which is true, but I felt like I would have been more of an annoyance or something, like she invited me to be polite. Then today we go eat dinner after our class- she said she would eat with me if I wanted to eat on campus (and I don't eat on campus, you know how college food is). So we did and it ended up being an hour, nothing special mind you, but when I brought up last night all she said was it was OK. But the last time I asked her to do something over the weekend, she said, "We'll hang out sometime, no problem." It's getting weird- it's like she'll be normal, then shady, then normal again. And she'll bring up this one girl in our class- not in a accusing manner or repeatedly, but it's just this one girl I talk to and ask how she is. I don't understand why her, but I talk to lots of other girls but it's always just her. But then again, I did kind of flirt with another girl in front of her rather blatantly- partly because she was another guy and partly to try to see me as a friend since that's as far as I can take it I think.

Actually, now that I think about it, there is a general pattern emerging here- she'll reject any plan I bring up. But if she wants to do something with me, she'll invite me.

I feel like she's trying to avoid me, that's my instinct. But not cut me out completely. I think she knew that I liked her so she's trying to cool me off- which is fine, friends is all I want now.

[Meki]

Well I would really hate to answer you because I don't know this girl and haven't heard her side but I can pretty much gauge what it seems like... If you want it straight I'll give it to you straight but if you want it sugar coated I can do that too. You let me know... :tongue:

[Chester]

If you want it straight, here you go: either make a move or quit cutting her slack because you hope she's going to give you enough encouraging indication for you to feel comfortable making a move.

[BigLew]

It's just nature they can't help it.

[stunninglyAsian]

If you want it straight, here you go: either make a move or quit cutting her slack because you hope she's going to give you enough encouraging indication for you to feel comfortable making a move.

Now you see my problem. I only want to be friends after thinking it over. So why should I be making a move? And I don't care about her giving me the green light. The only thing I can think of is to pull her aside and just tell her that I think she's a cool person and that she is a friend. Nothing more.

[deez nuts]

unbelievable, another thread? i should merge all of them together and fucking form voltron or some shit.

just forget about her. it's a lost cause.