Exoticised by non-Asian women?

[SunWuKong]

have you ever been the target of Asian fetish or exoticised by non-Asian women? or have you ever dated/been involved with non-Asian women that specifically like Asian men?

how was it like and how did you feel about that?

i have casually dated one non-Asian woman that had a thing for Asian men. i have to admit part of the reason i did that was because i thought she would be easy to get into bed. on a few occasions random non-Asian women have said "ni hao" to me before at a bar or some social settings. i usually ignored them or just smiled politely if i didn't find them attractive, but i talked to those who i thought looked good.

[tommyhtown]

have you ever been the target of Asian fetish or exoticised by non-Asian women? or have you ever dated/been involved with non-Asian women that specifically like Asian men?


Yes.


how was it like and how did you feel about that?


I didn't know at first but later I saw the signs like her being a buddhist, her love for Asian foods and all things Asian, etc etc.


i have casually dated one non-Asian woman that had a thing for Asian men. i have to admit part of the reason i did that was because i thought she would be easy to get into bed. on a few occasions random non-Asian women have said "ni hao" to me before at a bar or some social settings. i usually ignored them or just smiled politely if i didn't find them attractive, but i talked to those who i thought looked good.

Ditto. That girl was fine. All and all, it wasn't so bad. I mean the fact that I am Asian and she isn't but wannabe had nothing to do with our relationship.

But if a non-Asian girl at a bar says 'ni hao' to me I prolly ignore her no matter how good she looks.

[SunWuKong]

But if a non-Asian girl at a bar says 'ni hao' to me I prolly ignore her no matter how good she looks.


but if she said "sawadeeka"?

(extremely rare that would even happen. i know.)

[tommyhtown]

but if she said "sawadeeka"?

(extremely rare that would even happen. i know.)

then she would have me at 'sawadee' :)

[nola]

Does it piss you off or do you like it?

[stunninglyAsian]

I've never dated one, but why not?

I met one girl at a Starbucks recently who started chatting me up. Constantly talking about dim-sum on Canal St., learning Japanese, interested in Koreans, all the signs. I don't mind talking about that stuff since, honestly, it was like talking to an Asian person sans the interest in Korean culture. She was a bit looney, not in terms of the Asian thing, but more of a general crazy.

If a girl says, "ahnyong", that's like big big bonus points there since I don't look Korean one bit and even my own people hate on me. I'd have to give her a chance just for that.

[hooligan]

i used to have this crush on this white girl back in high school. she was blond, had the surfer curly hair going, with blue eyes. part italian, her dad was in jail. i hear she used to like me too, i'm not sure what happened, but i don't think she exoticized me at all.

i wouldn't date anyone who'd do something like that. maybe i'm being too idealistic.

I've never dated one, but why not?

I met one girl at a Starbucks recently who started chatting me up. Constantly talking about dim-sum on Canal St., learning Japanese, interested in Koreans, all the signs. I don't mind talking about that stuff since, honestly, it was like talking to an Asian person sans the interest in Korean culture. She was a bit looney, not in terms of the Asian thing, but more of a general crazy.

If a girl says, "ahnyong", that's like big big bonus points there since I don't look Korean one bit and even my own people hate on me. I'd have to give her a chance just for that.
pic of the unkorean korean?

[BigLew]

Most of the women I have dated have been non-asian. I can't really say any of them were asiaphiles. Maybe I am just dense though.

[deez nuts]

yes.

they all wanted help with their calc homework in high school and dfq homework in college.

[Tao]

i don't look asian enough for ppl to exoticize :(

[Banana]

If the woman is ugly, I would be disgusted being simplified like that.

If the woman is hot, me rikey rikey.

[SunWuKong]

i don't look asian enough for ppl to exoticize :(

from your pic, you look 100% Asian. except maybe girls would be wondering why you permed your hair into a fro. :tongue:

[kimpossible]

i don't look asian enough for ppl to exoticize :(

go to one of those Asian man fetish forums or webgroups. make sure to tell them The Lover is your favorite movie.

[Tao]

from your pic, you look 100% Asian. except maybe girls would be wondering why you permed your hair into a fro. :tongue:

yeah that throws them off :smile:

go to one of those Asian man fetish forums or webgroups. make sure to tell them The Lover is your favorite movie.

sounds like a plan

[yoMAMA]

go to one of those Asian man fetish forums or webgroups. make sure to tell them The Lover is your favorite movie.

googling Asian man fetish forums immediately
:biggrin:

[SunWuKong]

googling Asian man fetish forums immediately
:biggrin:

i'm not so sure you'd really want to check those forums out......

[yoMAMA]

i'm not so sure you'd really want to check those forums out......

LOL...the result was quite not what I expected.

[kimpossible]

LOL...the result was quite not what I expected.

I'll be your Wingman and ask them out for you, sorting by hotness level first.

[mrazntre]

Never, cuz i'm too big of a player to be limited to race and ethnicity. Most women just exoticize my manliness.

[Cipherous]

Never, cuz i'm too big of a player to be limited to race and ethnicity. Most women just exoticize my manliness.
and your car

[yoMAMA]

I'll be your Wingman and ask them out for you, sorting by hotness level first.

ummm.......let's see.......

[kimpossible]

ummm.......let's see.......

ok, but if any of my efforts results in you getting a piece of ass, you have to give me a small kickback. i can be paid in fine chocolates and itunes.

[yoMAMA]

ok, but if any of my efforts results in you getting a piece of ass, you have to give me a small kickback. i can be paid in fine chocolates and itunes.

DEAL, woman!

:wink:

[Emperor_Mike]

Twice. Both times in England. Students of East Asian descent in Durham are like "ugly-small-town girl" magnets in the North East. The first time I was hit on by this short, pudgy girl with crooked teeth from Northumbria who didn't leave me alone for two months. I joined the "Chinese Society" under the false impression that there would be Chinese students there. Very little luck in that endeavour. Met her there. Quite disturbing.

Second time around involved my ex. She's a international student from Milan. Hotness. Broke up because I wanted to take a year off and it wasn't going to work anyway. Career wise she'll be in Italy (never wants to leave) and I'll either be in New York, San Francisco, or London.

I quite enjoyed being exoticised at first, but then it became really boring.

[golden_buns]

I don't think I was exactly exoticized for being Asian, but for being one of the very few foreigners in my city in Colombia.

The last non-asian girl that I dated was in Costa Rica, she was a lawyer, the high society type of girl, "well-traveled", and always "interested" about cultures.

One fine day, after I finished talking to my mom over the phone, she told me that she wanted to learn chinese from me.

Does it piss you off or do you like it?

It didn't bug me at first cuz I had never been around asians in my hole life, so I was used to being seen as a different thing, but after having dated asian-american girls and being treated just as a normal person I don't think I could go back to date non-asians.

[thewongdan]

It's NEVER happened to me... I didn't really think female asiaphiles actually existed!!

[Emperor_Mike]

It's NEVER happened to me... I didn't really think female asiaphiles actually existed!!

Oh, they do.

Is a/n ___phile always *just* a/n ___phile or do circumstances such as sex create a sort of double standard in relation to how such individuals are perceived by the "exoticised" race in question?

[Hapa Meister]

White chicks with a half Asian fetish?

Definitely much more commonplace in Malaysia & Hawaii.
Very rare in TexSUCK. :mad: :frown:

[yuuteya]

Yes a few times. Although it is definitely a sexual-racial fetish and oriental exoticism, oh well... it can have some pleasurable physical benefits :wink: like if she likes to do it alot o(^-^)o ... One girl even tried to look like east asian and hoped she had some hidden east asian ancestor! In reality she had naturally light brown frizzy hair she was Arab, but she straightened her hair and dyed it pitch black to hopefully attract Asian men! A bizzare, but memorable encounter. :rolleyes:

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Now see if some Asian girl came on here and started saying stuff about the 'physical benefits' of white guys having yellow fever for Asian women, she'd be immediately labeled a sellout whore in need of some serious cultural re-education~

[Banana]

Now see if some Asian girl came on here and started saying stuff about the 'physical benefits' of white guys having yellow fever for Asian women, she'd be immediately labeled a sellout whore in need of some serious cultural re-education~

Yes but since you don't have the ratio imbalance between AF/WM and WF/AM so it's allowed. Until the ratio is balanced, it can be excused as just "cultural ignorance."

:P

[yuuteya]

Yeh the location effects it. Ive met non-Asian women with an Asian-fetish in both in North America and in Asia. The contexts are different. Like over there Asians are the minority so it happens less often. But here its the other way around since everyone is Asian more encounters occurs. I guess for non-Asian people with a racial-sexual fetish for Asians being in Asia is being in heaven! Here its much easier to get a non-Asian woman hook-up imo and theres more of them around, not just "Anglo Westerners" but also of other ethnicities, like theres also Russians, other East Europeans. Also Brazilians, Peruvians and a few Black Western women. Those women come all the way to over to Asia so they are obviously interested in Asian stuff already in most cases. Alot want to get married to a Japanese guy and live here. Most of those women are fine and some are acceptable, even with the fetish. I guess there are degrees of Asian fetish. From mild fetish to wild severe fetish. Like one I met here was an English girl who was really fun, but later she said she wanted to be impregnated by an Asian man and have half-Asian babies :confused: Bizzare. I avoided her after that.

[stunninglyAsian]

^
I don't see why the desire of having mixed babies is so odd. So many Asians think mixed babies are just darling. It's a common thing for Asians and non-Asians to think mixed babies are better.

[yuuteya]

I avoided that girl after her "declaration" since just dont see the appeal of having my sperm intentionally used to fullfill her fetishist dream of interracial "bonding". I just want to be someones human partner, not her racial-sexual guinea pig. :wink:

[jz87]

I've never met an Asian-phile girl, but hey, if I ever meet an one as least we have something in common. I know this sounds weird coming from a Chinese-American such as myself, but ever since my freshman year buddies got me into Anime, I've become a Japan-phile myself. Of course I know in my mind that Japanese people don't really look like anime characters, it's almost impossible not to feel some affinity for Japan and the Japanese language given how much anime I watch.

[mr. x]

unfortunately i would not have a double standard for female philes (if i were to meet one) because i'd want a girl who likes me not what she thinks i symbolize

[stunninglyAsian]

unfortunately i would not have a double standard for female philes (if i were to meet one) because i'd want a girl who likes me not what she thinks i symbolize

Well isn't the fetish usually down to looks? What exactly do we symbolize to them? Are we supposed to be exotic, submissive like how an Asianphile view Asian women?

[asvenus]

^
I don't see why the desire of having mixed babies is so odd. So many Asians think mixed babies are just darling. It's a common thing for Asians and non-Asians to think mixed babies are better.

hmmm all mixed babies..?? i strongly doubt that :rolleyes:

anyway the thought (and of course it is rife) of anyone going out and deliberately wanting a 'mixed race' baby sickens me..people like that should be neutered..yes i am serious...
this reminds of a comedy sketch in the UK where this white woman wanted a 'brown' baby (ie for a black man) 'cos theyre so cute'...pretty scary :eek:

[Napoleon Chynamite]

I've been thinking about this for a while...regarding white people wanting to marry asian or non-white so they can have these cute little mixed kids or whatever. Of course I'm not justifying this type of mentality, but it's not like most people have kids for the most honorable or admirable reasons anyway. I'm sure there are those that just wanna bear children cause they think babies in general are so cute or maybe they want to fit in with the rest of society without being stuck being the only guy/girl without kids to take care of, or they want to have a kid for self-fulfillment or something or have someone/something to love.

[stunninglyAsian]

hmmm all mixed babies..?? i strongly doubt that :rolleyes:

anyway the thought (and of course it is rife) of anyone going out and deliberately wanting a 'mixed race' baby sickens me..people like that should be neutered..yes i am serious...
this reminds of a comedy sketch in the UK where this white woman wanted a 'brown' baby (ie for a black man) 'cos theyre so cute'...pretty scary :eek:

But you have to admit that this sentiment is so common place- Asians and non-Asians want mixed babies.

[Tao]

But you have to admit that this sentiment is so common place- Asians and non-Asians want mixed babies.

eh....it would depend, not all mixed children come out good looking.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

eh....it would depend, not all mixed children come out good looking.

Stop destroying my dreams of marrying a beautiful white woman and helping her bear some super cute little hapa kids.

[Tao]

Stop destroying my dreams of marrying a beautiful white woman and helping her bear some super cute little hapa kids.

i'm sorry...just watch where you stick that penis that's all.

[asvenus]

Stop destroying my dreams of marrying a beautiful white woman and helping her bear some super cute little hapa kids.

this proves my point SA...now i know on this site when discussing inter racial issues, particularly sex + kiddies..people (men mainly)on this site experience some kind of wilfully induced amnesia in which any mixing other than with white is erased from the mind..but beleive it or not folks..it is possible, hence my statement that not all mixed kiddies are seen as desirable or cute..*sigh* you still dont get it?? ok ok, half black ones..get it now?? guud... :rolleyes: :tongue:

[mrazntre]

this proves my point SA...now i know on this site when discussing inter racial issues, particularly sex + kiddies..people (men mainly)on this site experience some kind of wilfully induced amnesia in which any mixing other than with white is erased from the mind..but beleive it or not folks..it is possible, hence my statement that not all mixed kiddies are seen as desirable or cute..*sigh* you still dont get it?? ok ok, half black ones..get it now?? guud... :rolleyes: :tongue:

are you voicing your displeasure aboutyour personal traits and features ?

:wink:

[nola]

She's voicing mens' displeasure with her personal traits and features.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

this proves my point SA...now i know on this site when discussing inter racial issues, particularly sex + kiddies..people (men mainly)on this site experience some kind of wilfully induced amnesia in which any mixing other than with white is erased from the mind..but beleive it or not folks..it is possible, hence my statement that not all mixed kiddies are seen as desirable or cute..*sigh* you still dont get it?? ok ok, half black ones..get it now?? guud... :rolleyes: :tongue:

Hmmm...not really sure what you're trying to say here but...in either case, I was kidding in that post you quoted from me :smile:

[stunninglyAsian]

this proves my point SA...now i know on this site when discussing inter racial issues, particularly sex + kiddies..people (men mainly)on this site experience some kind of wilfully induced amnesia in which any mixing other than with white is erased from the mind..but beleive it or not folks..it is possible, hence my statement that not all mixed kiddies are seen as desirable or cute..*sigh* you still dont get it?? ok ok, half black ones..get it now?? guud... :rolleyes: :tongue:

Personally I don't really see the special beauty of hapa kids, they're like other kids, no different. And to point out an exception to your half-black theory- Amerie, the R&B singer. But yes, hapa usually means White + Asian to most of us.

[Tao]

this proves my point SA...now i know on this site when discussing inter racial issues, particularly sex + kiddies..people (men mainly)on this site experience some kind of wilfully induced amnesia in which any mixing other than with white is erased from the mind..but beleive it or not folks..it is possible, hence my statement that not all mixed kiddies are seen as desirable or cute..*sigh* you still dont get it?? ok ok, half black ones..get it now?? guud... :rolleyes: :tongue:

don't mind gumby, i'll love you long time

[asvenus]

jeez people...to nola and mrazntre i wasnt voicing any particular concern with my looks or any concern i had over men's perception of my looks (until now.. :redface: ) i was actually commenting on SA's suggestion that Asian people think mixed children are 'darling' to look at and there is a trend for having 'mixed' children...i was simply pointing out that this pertains (i assume) to half white children not half black children...SA im with you in that i dont see any particular beauty in hapa kids...but why did you point out Amerie? do you think im suggesting that i personally think think half balck people are not attractive? :confused: im not btw...seriously not...

maybe im just on some mad angst tip today...and if i wasnt before i am now..thanks nola and mrazntre..yeah..

[deez nuts]

jeez people...to nola and mrazntre i wasnt voicing any particular concern with my looks or any concern i had over men's perception of my looks (until now.. :redface: ) i was actually commenting on SA's suggestion that Asian people think mixed children are 'darling' to look at and there is a trend for having 'mixed' children...i was simply pointing out that this pertains (i assume) to half white children not half black children...SA im with you in that i dont see any particular beauty in hapa kids...but why did you point out Amerie? do you think im suggesting that i personally think think half balck people are not attractive? :confused: im not btw...seriously not...

maybe im just on some mad angst tip today...and if i wasnt before i am now..thanks nola and mrazntre..yeah..


let's see those long legs

[kimpossible]

^You know, when I read venus' post I knew it was only a matter of time until this started happening.

[nola]

What's happenin', kim?

[kimpossible]

What's happenin', kim?

the guys hitting on her.

venus: serious post about beauty standards and race

guys interpretation: ooh, is she hot? post pics of yourself!!

[DragonKnight]

the guys hitting on her.

venus: serious post about beauty standards and race

guys interpretation: ooh, is she hot? post pics of yourself!!
Oh the amusement of it all...

Hmm, hooked up with a caucasian girl once. Mostly an Asian fetish on her part. I was cool to a certain extent since I found out after the fact. But I couldn't take her seriously due to the fetish part. We called it quits.

Another girl I knew was very interested in me a long time ago when I first started college. Caucasian. Didn't interested me tho. Probably grouped me in with her anime and X-JAPAN fetish. Kept asking me about Japanese stuff that I had sparse knowledge about at the time.

Overall, I'm pretty picky about how girls view me. The whole fetish thing in the end is a huge turn-off for me.

[stunninglyAsian]

the guys hitting on her.

venus: serious post about beauty standards and race

guys interpretation: ooh, is she hot? post pics of yourself!!

Nah, I'm not hitting on her, it just sounded like she was putting herself down, why do that? Oh well... might as well go down in flames :biggrin: Post a pic! PM me! What's your screen name? Can I get a phone number?

Anyways, I had a friend, well I wanted us to be more than friends but it didn't work out like that, and she raved on and on about mixed babies and how she wanted one so badly. From my experiences, it's the Asians that like the white mixed babies more. But in Asia, it seems like there are more mixed black Asians in the music industry than mixed white Asians.

[mrazntre]

jeez people...to nola and mrazntre i wasnt voicing any particular concern with my looks or any concern i had over men's perception of my looks (until now.. :redface: ) i was actually commenting on SA's suggestion that Asian people think mixed children are 'darling' to look at and there is a trend for having 'mixed' children...i was simply pointing out that this pertains (i assume) to half white children not half black children...SA im with you in that i dont see any particular beauty in hapa kids...but why did you point out Amerie? do you think im suggesting that i personally think think half balck people are not attractive? :confused: im not btw...seriously not...

maybe im just on some mad angst tip today...and if i wasnt before i am now..thanks nola and mrazntre..yeah..

hey,

you're welcome.


Actually, I think you are wrong in your assumption that hapa immediately means half white/half asian. I'm sure there's a strong inclination to feel that way because of the light in which the media has portrayed half white/half anything celebrities and people in general. The main focus of the hapa issue does deal with half white however because in some instances, those hapa's can "pass." This is much less likely if half white was not one of the components of the hapa. (Remember that discussion about America's Top Model?)

There's no underlying condition in OUR SOCIETY that immediately takes away from hapa's of non-white roots. Perhaps there are residual affects of what society in general has placed on lighter skinned peoples, however this is not due to direct forces of the status quo. These are secondary characterisitice that may or may not be taken in the proper sense in minority populations. It's simply the process of racism that has been generated due to popular media's enforcement of white ideals into minorities. Ironically, this not only happens with hapas, but also in the immediate minority populations.

So you see that those not poisoned with the status quo's opinion of beauty are able to take you for who you are and what you physically represent. In short, don't trip cuz we might think you're hot.

:confused: ?

[Tao]

In short, don't trip cuz we might think you're hot.

in other words...post a pic..please? :frown:

[nola]

I just realized your name was Venus!

[Hapa Meister]

But you have to admit that this sentiment is so common place- Asians and non-Asians want mixed babies.

The most common example would be Asian women wanting to hook up with White dudes to have beautiful mixed babies.
There are also those White women who get with Black dudes partly b/c they adore mulatto babies, esp. if these white women are more "inbred" in appearence.
Then you have those red haired white women who like Hispanic and Eurasian men.

As for White women wanting to have mixed kids with Asian guys, it's probably almost unheard of unless you're in say Asia or Hawaii. :confused:

[yuuteya]

As for White women wanting to have mixed kids with Asian guys, it's probably almost unheard of unless you're in say Asia or Hawaii. :confused:

Oh yah, true. In Japan theres like many White women who seem like theyre just dying to have it with some Japanese guy. Many are major Japanophiles. Like most of the White women who go to the trouble of coming here are into this whole samurai warrior thing.. its wierd. Especially after that movie Last Samurai, and there was that interracial movie, Japanese Story, an Australian woman and Japanese guy. A crappy movie. But lots of Aussie and NZ white girls with this, have it with a Japanese guy kind of fetish.

[YuheiCarreau]

The most common example would be Asian women wanting to hook up with White dudes to have beautiful mixed babies.
There are also those White women who get with Black dudes partly b/c they adore mulatto babies, esp. if these white women are more "inbred" in appearence.
Then you have those red haired white women who like Hispanic and Eurasian men.

As for White women wanting to have mixed kids with Asian guys, it's probably almost unheard of unless you're in say Asia or Hawaii. :confused:

Red-haired? What?

Every time I read one of your posts, I get the feeling you're quoting a textbook of random madness. It all seems to make sense to you, but the rest of us are just lost...

[mrazntre]

:biggrin:

[asvenus]

lord i give up...yes i do...LOL though..oh LOL indeedy..i actually have tears in my eyes..
PS:my name is sooo not venus!!

[asvenus]

fuck no...i had to read hapmeisters post again...i am thisclose to pissing myself..BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...inbreds and red heads LOL!!...YuheiCarreau he's a walking talking living Linnaeus/Gobbineau..

[deez nuts]

lord i give up...yes i do...LOL though..oh LOL indeedy..i actually have tears in my eyes..
PS:my name is sooo not venus!!

fuck no...i had to read hapmeisters post again...i am thisclose to pissing myself..BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...inbreds and red heads LOL!!...YuheiCarreau he's a walking talking living Linnaeus/Gobbineau..

you're very easily excitable.

[mrazntre]

wait for it... wait for it.... .... .......





okay, now she's done.

[lethal]

Alright. This is a thread about women having a fetish for Asian men.

If you want to talk about fetishes for Asian women, go find another thread. Preferably in another forum on another site.

[rice cracker]

If you want to talk about fetishes for Asian women, go find another thread.

Or, like, don't.

[lethal]

Stay on topic or I'm going to start deleting posts.

"fetished or exoticised by non-Asian women?"

[lethal]

I'm going to rename this thread and move it to rant.

[SunWuKong]

I'm going to rename this thread and move it to rant.

maybe splitting it is better?

EDIT: Ok i've split it. lethal, i hope it's ok with you.
http://forums.yellowworld.org/showthread.php?t=29232

[lethal]

Works for me.

[thaite]

Yeah, there was this woman... she chatted me up at work and really came after me. I figured she could get her Asian fix, and I could get my chocolate fix, but because she was a co-worker I though better of it and decided not to go that way. Plus, she was always trying to talk to me about tattoos and anime and shit that I really don't care about.

[lethal]

I don't believe I've ever met a female Asiaphile who was into Asian men. Or at least not into me.

[kimpossible]

I think there's one currently after my husband. I call her his girlfriend.

[eos]

i don't see it for myself, but my bf tells me about it every time a non-asian chick hits on him, looks at him "funny", or just gives off a vibe. he is NOT what you call gq at all: he's short, chubby, bald, wears glasses and just plain fobby-looking (i'm sorry but he is). sometimes i think he's just hallucinating and just really into himself cuz i really don't see what the attraction is at all.
currently he hangs out with this one guy, who's chinese, A LOT, and i call that guy his boyfriend.

[thaite]

"short, chubby, bald, wears glasses and just plain fobby-looking"

wow, you picked a real winner there!

[eos]

i didn't pick him. he picked me. he's not my type and vice versa.

and you know how your SO just looks better to you than to other people? yeah, that's how it is with us.

[rice cracker]

I'm half guilty of being a white asiaphile. Now walk on my back, bitches! No eye contact!

[deez nuts]

I'm half guilty of being a white asiaphile. Now walk on my back, bitches! No eye contact!


awesome, more masturbation material for moi!

[Napoleon Chynamite]

One of the hottest girls I ever knew was an asiaphile...granted she was a needle in the haystack b/c let's face it most asiaphiles, male or female, are not exactly lookers...but anyway I guess I wasn't complaining or disgusted because I was only 18 years old and I wasn't informed of all the socio-political implications that come with such a fetish. It's because of her that I even know half the Asian pop stars I know now, and she took me to my first bubble tea place ever...kinda like say...if some white girl were to take Terrence to a soul food place for the first time. Of course now I would be a bit more weirded out...the Asian boyfriend she had later on confided in me that he hated how she dated only Asian guys because it meant that she wouldn't have considered being with him if he was some other race or ethnicity.

I've met some other female asiaphiles too....they were just more outwardly annoying because well...okay they weren't all that great looking and they kept telling me how much they knew about Asian people and bragging about how they could tell different types of Asians apart and shit. Every time I came across one of them in conversation I just wanted to impale myself on a stake.

[DragonKnight]

I'm half guilty of being a white asiaphile. Now walk on my back, bitches! No eye contact!
*looks*

...aww fuck. :eek:

[Azn Retribution]

Hispanic, White and Black Girls at my univ always make snarky comments to me about how i only go for asian girls.

there's almost no asians here at all. (i attend two univs but the primary one i dorm at is a smalllll christian one)

[Deadpool]

Gay guys always make snarky comments to me about how I only go for girls.

[Fireblade]

Gay guys always make snarky comments to me about how I only go for girls.

Girls always make snarky comments to me about how I don't go for fatties and uglies.

[didu]

I've only seen this in movies ... occasionally ....

[pikachupacabra]

There was one chick, but it turned out she was really just a slut.

[SunWuKong]

There was one chick, but it turned out she was really just a slut.

i think that's what they say about bisexual people.

[Hiroshi2]

i don't look asian enough for ppl to exoticize :(


Me neither. The closest thing I have is features (hair, eyes, etc).

[etcj]

Another article about interracial relationships to add to the stack..



Color Line Cuts Through the Heart
In the face of stereotypes, Lee ’08 looks ‘to make the Asian man sexy again’
Published On Wednesday, March 22, 2006 3:08 AM
By LOIS E. BECKETT
Crimson Staff Writer
Jimmy Zhao ’08 says his parents used to joke that if he ever brought a white girl home, at least they could be glad she wasn’t African American.

If Zhao, who is Chinese American, did bring an African-American girlfriend back to his New Jersey home, it wouldn’t only surprise his parents. It would be a statistical anomaly.

According to U.S. Census Bureau data analyzed by a sociologist at University of Massachusetts-Amherst, C.N. Le, just 0.1 percent of Chinese-American men have African-American wives, compared to 5.1 percent who are married to white women.

Zhao’s parents’ joke might be jarring to many, but it underscores the obstacles facing Asian-Americans who date across racial lines.

At Harvard, students say, interracial relationships involving Asian students seem relatively common, and they may not draw as much attention as other interracial pairings.

But even this prevalent form of interracial dating is bound by its own set of rules and expectations, which students say complicate every intersection of romance and race.

THE ASIAN FETISH

Relationships between Asian women and white men seem particularly commonplace, students say. According to Le’s data, a Chinese, Japanese, or Vietnamese woman is more than twice as likely as her male ethnic counterpart to have a white spouse.

Hovering over these relationships is the specter of the “Asian fetish,” Jean Yang ’08 says.

By that, Yang refers to a supposed white-male fantasy based on the stereotype that Asian women are exotic, or delicate, or more passive than females of other races.

Yang, who is Chinese American, says she would not want to date someone who was only attracted to her because of her ethnicity. Although the “Asian fetish,” is a familiar concept to her, she says it is not a concern in her present interracial relationship.

Christopher L. Hartl ’09 is dating a Chinese woman, and he says he doesn’t take the concept of the “Asian fetish” seriously.

But other non-Asian Harvard men have told Hartl that, on average, they are more attracted to Asian women than to women of other races.

Even so, he says, “if somebody says that he’s only attracted to Asian women, it’s not so much a fetish as a preference.”

‘KUNG FU FIGHTER’

Interracial dating is more problematic for Asian men, says Edward Y. Lee ’08, who is Korean American.

Asian men do not typically date outside of their race because they are stereotypically viewed as “very un-masculine,” Lee says.

He points out that few Asian men play for American professional sports teams. And in movies, he says, Asian men still only play two roles: the kung fu fighter and the angry store owner. Asian women, in contrast, are portrayed as having increasingly varied and prominent roles, Lee says.

“It’s my goal to make the Asian man sexy again,” he jokes.

Data on interracial marriage suggests that few Korean-American men cross ethnic lines—at least at the altar.

While 24.3 percent of Korean-American women have white husbands, just 3.9 percent of Korean-American men have white wives, according to Le of UMass-Amherst. Fewer than 0.1 percent have African-American wives, according to Le.

Just as media portrayals in the U.S. may distort Asian-American masculinity, images of African-Americans abroad may make it less socially acceptable for Asian Americans to date African Americans.

In China, Jimmy Zhao says, “the only black people you’re going to see on TV are in rap videos or other negative images.” The result, he says, is that the immigrant parents of some Chinese Americans “make assumptions about [African Americans] as a people in general.”

Other Asian-American students agreed that older generations might be reticent about their children dating African Americans due in part to stereotypes about socioeconomic status.

“I think Asian-American parents more look at economic status, and they see black and Latino Americans as having a lower economic status than whites,” Quinnie Lin ’09 says. “Because a lot of these Asian parents come to this country with the goal of building a better life and getting ahead...they always strive for the best for their kids.”

The expectation can be that “ideally you would marry up, and by marry up, we mean marry white,” says Sherri Y. Geng ’09, who is Chinese American.

BEYOND COLOR

Gayatri S. Datar ‘07, an Indian-American, also says that South Asian students usually face less family resistance if they date East Asians or Caucasians than if they date African Americans.

But, Datar stresses, religious tensions might weigh more heavily than racial stereotypes in their romantic choices.

“I’m sure that several Indian parents would much prefer their daughter to bring home a black guy than an Indian Muslim,” says Datar, who is Hindu.

Nationality can be a crucial issue when two nations have a history of conflict.

Deep tensions still linger between China and Japan, for instance, because of World War II. Geng, who is Chinese, says she might not pursue a serious relationship with a Japanese man because it would upset her grandfather.

“I feel like that would hurt him, so I’m going to refrain from doing it,” Geng says.

Susan Y. Yao ’09 says she understands the benefits of marrying someone who shares her cultural traditions and language—but thinks that is often an impractical goal. For instance, she would have to restrict her romantic options to fluent speakers of both Mandarin Chinese and Shanghainese, she says.

For Hartl, dating a Chinese woman means being one of the few whites at her Chinese Student Association gatherings. Being in the minority can sometimes be “awkward,” he says.

But in his Matthews Hall entryway, interracial relationships are par for the course. Four of his entryway-mates are also dating someone of another race, he says.

Biases about interracial dating can be changed, Jimmy Zhao says. After he told his parents he objected to their joke, they began to adjust the way they talked about interracial dating. Now, he says, they tell him often that it would be fine for him to date a girl of any race.

“Part of their change in attitude is genuine and part of their change is to cater to me, but I think that’s still a step in the right direction,” Zhao writes in an e-mail.

But, despite what they say, Zhao says he knows his parents still have reservations and preferences about his dating choices.

“For example, my parents absolutely expect my child to be able to speak Mandarin,” he writes. “But that’s something I would expect, too.”

Even when students are open to the option of interracial dating, many admit it isn’t easy.

Lee says his past interracial relationship was an “amazing experience.” At the same time, he added, “I think it was really hard to do.”

—Staff writer Lois E. Beckett can be reached at lbeckett@fas.harvard.edu.

[ThatMixedGuy]

I've had people say I had an exotic look before, mostly white girls.

I admit I am guilty of having a latina fetish. (bash me...now)

[European girl]

yes.

they all wanted help with their calc homework in high school and dfq homework in college.
HI deez nuts
would love to chat to you about a very old post of yours ; )

[kimpossible]

Stud!!!

[Irezumi Kiss]

Looks like the Euro is going to rise this year.

[deez nuts]

HI deez nuts
would love to chat to you about a very old post of yours ; )

you're a dirty white slut whore arentcha for wanting deez nuts. private message me.

[TB4000]

^You do know you're going to end up chained to a radiator in Newark with one of your kidneys missing if you pursue this.

[didu]

^ he might not complain if the sex was unbelieveably good.

[deez nuts]

plus you can live perfectly fine with just one kidney.

[kimpossible]

plus you can live perfectly fine with just one kidney.

So what's the story, morning glory? She gonna give you the buttsex or what?

[Irezumi Kiss]

If she's a true European girl, deezy's posterior might be in for more than it bargained for.

http://www.sfmag.net/IMG/jpg/ilsa.jpg

[deez nuts]

So what's the story, morning glory? She gonna give you the buttsex or what?


she never private messaged me. i think my approach was all wrong by calling her a dirty white slut whore and all. gotta work on my approach. it's all about the approach.

[kharma_man]

You know what's funny? I consider certain white girls to be exotic... especially red-heads atm.

[光Tetra]

There usually isn't much male fetish going on here.

[smthomas]

I don't thing it's wrong thing if you are dating with someone who is outside of your race. but It's big problem to make parents understand about that.
One of my friends had interracial dating on internet(okcupid.com) . He has good relationship with this girl till date but his parents against this relationship.
Does Anybody know how to handle this situation?

[tommyhtown]

I don't thing it's wrong thing if you are dating with someone who is outside of your race. but It's big problem to make parents understand about that.
One of my friends had interracial dating on internet(okcupid.com) . He has good relationship with this girl till date but his parents against this relationship.
Does Anybody know how to handle this situation?

ooh I must go to okcupid.com now, really!

[snow ninja]

i had a pretty cute east indian chick approach me a few weeks ago.

she said her ex boyfriend was chinese.

[Sunflare]

^ What a concidence. An Indian chick just approached me yesterday. I knew her for a couple of months. We were talking for an hour and she even brought me some food from home. (with a big hug). Girl's a little sweetheart.

[Jimmyboi]

have you ever been the target of Asian fetish or exoticised by non-Asian women? or have you ever dated/been involved with non-Asian women that specifically like Asian men?

how was it like and how did you feel about that?

i have casually dated one non-Asian woman that had a thing for Asian men. i have to admit part of the reason i did that was because i thought she would be easy to get into bed. on a few occasions random non-Asian women have said "ni hao" to me before at a bar or some social settings. i usually ignored them or just smiled politely if i didn't find them attractive, but i talked to those who i thought looked good.

why do you care. Most of the time if non asian girls are attracte dto Asian guys its cause of the asian features.

there are 3 type of girls that like Asian guys:

- Doesnt give a fuck about race, and just find you attractive and likes your persnonality.

- Like your bank account

- Has a Asian fetish.

[j&j2]

^ Lol!

[Sunflare]

- Has a Asian fetish.

Yep. Got stalked and the whole nine yards by those who are non Asian women. I'm constantly on the run for my very life from black chicks who are suffering from yellow fever or hapaphilia. I take it all in good sport.

[J Honcanese]

have you ever been the target of Asian fetish or exoticised by non-Asian women? or have you ever dated/been involved with non-Asian women that specifically like Asian men?

how was it like and how did you feel about that?Kinda. There was this one British girl who was really interested in me although I think a lot of was because of her love of anime and final fantasy and all that. I think she somehow got the idea that everything Asian was cool. It was nothing serious though.

To be fair, the exoticisation was mutual - at the time I had quite a thing for British women. But now that I'm actually here, reality has hit me hard in the face!

[WONTONnPHO]

have you ever been the target of Asian fetish or exoticised by non-Asian women? or have you ever dated/been involved with non-Asian women that specifically like Asian men?

how was it like and how did you feel about that?

i have casually dated one non-Asian woman that had a thing for Asian men. i have to admit part of the reason i did that was because i thought she would be easy to get into bed. on a few occasions random non-Asian women have said "ni hao" to me before at a bar or some social settings. i usually ignored them or just smiled politely if i didn't find them attractive, but i talked to those who i thought looked good.

We need more womenz like dat :biggrin:

[Nidus]

where do you guys live at so i can go there

[WONTONnPHO]

oops. wrong window sorry

[Jimmyboi]

why do you care. Most of the time if non asian girls are attracte dto Asian guys its cause of the asian features.

there are 3 type of girls that like Asian guys:

- Doesnt give a fuck about race, and just find you attractive and likes your persnonality.

- Like your bank account

- Has a Asian fetish.

doesnt this apply to all men, regardless of race?

[kimpossible]

The core principles are indeed the same for all genders and races. Though instead of a list flow chart would be better?

Is individual in question correspond to my sexual orientation?

N - person is evil asiaphile
Y - continue

Is individual in question hot in eyes of the Asian objectified?

N - person with fetish is evil asiaphile
Y - continue

Does the fetish increase my chances of sexing him/her?

N - too bad
Y - continue

Does sexy time with qualified person reach parity with blabbering about Asian stuff?

Less than equal - disqualified
Equal to - end is near
Greater than - continue

Can person move on from blabbering or at least be shut up long enough?

N - dump
Y - continue

Is person so incredibly hot and worth mental baggage?

N - dump
Y - you love him/her long time

[pikachupacabra]

The core principles are indeed the same for all genders and races. Though instead of a list flow chart would be better?


this is really the only flow chart that should ever matter

http://rudd-o.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/01/90s_flowchart.png