after a while

[kasia]

this poem helped me through my very first break-up in high school...

"After a While"

by Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while, you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't mean security,

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises,

And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child,

And you learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans.
And futures have a way of falling down in midflight.

After a while, you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant you own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong.
And you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn...
With every goodbye you learn.

[SunWuKong]

to summarize that: after a while you learn to say to yourself, "fuck it".

[tapestrybabe]

Nice poem...
but shoot, i think Gloria Gaynor... I Will Survive lyrics... now thats every girls song to listen to when going thru a break up also....

[SharingIsCaring]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Oct 5 2002, 09:57 AM
to summarize that: after a while you learn to say to yourself, "fuck it".
True.. I agree... =0)

[wylin]

after a while it gets better after u burned her stuff or thrown it in the gutter.

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Oct 5 2002, 09:57 AM
to summarize that: after a while you learn to say to yourself, "fuck it".
jyeah.....

i usually say, "fuck that bitch ass ho. fucking slut"

[thaite]

usually got through breakups by writing my own dumb ass corny poetry.

And then maybe a few drinks.

But not always in that order.

[Arex]

I just do drugs. Just kidding. The only way I'm able to pull myself outta a post-break up funk is to surround myself with friends. Do a bit of drawing. Adopt the ex's cat. And maybe a little bit of mind altering drugs.


Alex



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[deez nuts]

I look foward to try and convert them to become friend's with benefits. It's the best part of breaking up.

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by Arex@Oct 6 2002, 07:04 AM
I just do drugs. Just kidding.
Surreeee you are!:)

[artsfartsyjanet]

Well for those of you who knew about my incident (which is probably all of you), i went through a week of utter hell (puking among many other things) as an initiation or replenishing period :rolleyes: back into singledom. It's a necessary process.

[Hanuman]

Wow, that is a nice poem.

I still think best remedy is to pick a hottie right off the rebound. It's tough to think about your ex. if you're getting your rocks off (pardon my tact, I'm sure I could have said this much more eloquently.)

[princess]

i like that poem. i first saw it in chicken soup for the teenage soul, first edition.

[kasia]

Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 25 2002, 08:36 AM
Wow, that is a nice poem.

I still think best remedy is to pick a hottie right off the rebound. It's tough to think about your ex. if you're getting your rocks off (pardon my tact, I'm sure I could have said this much more eloquently.)
i agree. rebounding is absolutely necessary. people are meant to be used. it's just feelings.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by kasia@Oct 27 2002, 01:38 AM
Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 25 2002, 08:36 AM
Wow, that is a nice poem. &nbsp;

I still think best remedy is to pick a hottie right off the rebound. &nbsp;It's tough to think about your ex. if you're getting your rocks off (pardon my tact, I'm sure I could have said this much more eloquently.)
i agree. rebounding is absolutely necessary. people are meant to be used. it's just feelings.
No, no, I don't mean lie to someone to get them in the sack. I don't think there's anything wrong with hooking up with a person without looking for a long term relationship as long as it's mutually understood.

There's plenty of girls that just want to hook up too.

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 27 2002, 06:18 AM
There's plenty of girls that just want to hook up too.
WHERE?!?!?!?!


I need directions!

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Oct 27 2002, 07:56 AM
Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 27 2002, 06:18 AM
There's plenty of girls that just want to hook up too.
WHERE?!?!?!?!


I need directions!
Usually under the 5th or 6th beer. If you can't find her there, try under some shot glasses, then you'll be amazed at all the hot girls waiting to help you forget your sorrows.

For directions, look under Mapquest.

starting point -
Emotionally devasted.

destination -
Easy, sex loving girl who just got dumped and wants to hook up with you so you can be her rebound.

Ah, if life could be so easy.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Oct 27 2002, 07:56 AM
Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 27 2002, 06:18 AM
There's plenty of girls that just want to hook up too.
WHERE?!?!?!?!


I need directions!
There's tons. They'll just deny it at first. But seriously, there's a lot. You just have to suggest it first.

[deez nuts]

Rebound love is the bestest type of love. :wub:

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 27 2002, 08:42 PM
Originally posted by mrazntre@Oct 27 2002, 07:56 AM
Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 27 2002, 06:18 AM
There's plenty of girls that just want to hook up too.
WHERE?!?!?!?!


I need directions!
Usually under the 5th or 6th beer. If you can't find her there, try under some shot glasses, then you'll be amazed at all the hot girls waiting to help you forget your sorrows.

For directions, look under Mapquest.

starting point -
Emotionally devasted.

destination -
Easy, sex loving girl who just got dumped and wants to hook up with you so you can be her rebound.

Ah, if life could be so easy.
ahh.. wise master.

I always thought that was taking advantage of a girl. ?
Oh wait, I'm a YWMWS member now... no problem.




So then, which YW female wants to be my rebound and have mad drunken sex?

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Oct 27 2002, 09:04 PM

I always thought that was taking advantage of a girl. &nbsp;?
Oh wait, I'm a YWMWS member now... no problem.




So then, which YW female wants to be my rebound and have mad drunken sex?
Umm, I meant the shots for you! Everyone looks that much better then! This way some lucky girl can take advantage of you.

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 29 2002, 04:07 PM
This way some lucky girl can take advantage of you.
lucky? heh heh heh.

Well tre, you did say your standards go away after a drop of alcohol.

[BeTheReds]

Breakups suck, but the last one I had I didn't give a shit about because I was already beginning to detest the girl anyway.

But if you actually liked the girl:

It really hurts if the girl broke up with you. And it especially hurts if she left you for another guy. And it extraspecially hurts if that other guy is a fucking dork and she throws a few cheap shots at you to trigger a hapa identity crisis to go along with the seperation anxiety.

But have you ever noticed that the girl never breaks up with you until she has already found someone else or knows that she soon will?

Or have you noticed that if you are in a relationship that girls are all over you, but when you are single they are nowhere to be found?

[karizma]

>> bethereds: are you a lil bitter sweety? lol...its alright i am too haha..

>> from my pov girls who find someone else before they break up with their bf's have been thinking of breaking up for a while and they need something to push them over the edge...not trying to make you feel bad!!...but yea...either that or they genuinely found someone theyre better matched with. *shrugs*

[BeTheReds]

Originally posted by karizma@Oct 30 2002, 07:37 AM
>> bethereds: are you a lil bitter sweety? lol...its alright i am too haha..

No, I'm not bitter. Okay well I am kinda.

But in the case I was talking about, I guess she wanted to break up but she still wanted to have the comforts of dating (like regular sex, guy paying for dates etc) until she could find another guy so that her horniness and cashflow problems would be fulfilled without interruption.

If you wanna break up then just break up and look for the guy later. IT hurts the other party even more if they have to think that their woman is screwing another dude and possibly making the same sounds and fucktalk that she made for you. (for me, this is the true pain of the breakup, thinking of her doing another dude, it's a serious ego killer)

Sorry if the post came out vulgar.

[deez nuts]

Hey breaking up hurts, but everyone goes through it.

I'm the total opposite when an relationshio ends I go straight into another one since basically I have a back up plan already going into the previous one. Shrug call it my insecurities as my ex-psychiatrist gf calls it. I'm thinking more along the lines I gotta keep the buns coming in continuously. I hate draught periods.

And it's always the case for me: When you're with someone you wish you were single. When you're single you wish you're with someone.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Oct 30 2002, 12:56 PM
And it's walways the case for me: When you're with someone you wish you were single. When you're single you wish you're with someone.
What's that saying? Grass is always greener on the other side...

Or is it "if there's grass on the field......."

:blush:

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by BeTheReds@Oct 30 2002, 08:04 AM
Originally posted by karizma@Oct 30 2002, 07:37 AM
>> bethereds: are you a lil bitter sweety? lol...its alright i am too haha..

No, I'm not bitter. Okay well I am kinda.

But in the case I was talking about, I guess she wanted to break up but she still wanted to have the comforts of dating (like regular sex, guy paying for dates etc) until she could find another guy so that her horniness and cashflow problems would be fulfilled without interruption.

If you wanna break up then just break up and look for the guy later. IT hurts the other party even more if they have to think that their woman is screwing another dude and possibly making the same sounds and fucktalk that she made for you. (for me, this is the true pain of the breakup, thinking of her doing another dude, it's a serious ego killer)

Sorry if the post came out vulgar.
bang her sister, that's what i did.

[ren28]

:lol:

[karizma]

bang her sister, that's what i did.

>> or her mom!!! hahaha...:D

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by karizma@Oct 30 2002, 10:43 PM
bang her sister, that's what i did.

>> or her mom!!! hahaha...:D
hey i did that once! only once :( . x_X i thought it was my friends sister tho :( .


:(

[LilCPChik]

yupyup just fuck it! =P