This is really F&#ked up

[blkazngirl]

:confused: I would love to hear some feed back on this. I have a friend that met this guy that is here attending college from India. Well, needless to say things got hot between the two and she got pregnant. He was cool, they got married, continued to go to school, finished and lived semi happy.

I say semi happy because he never told his parents that he had gotten married. His parents sent him money every month to help support him. Because they didn't know he was married. Whenever his wife wanted to speak, met his family or friends he had an excuse.

Well as fate would have it one day the crap hit the fan. His parents came to America to surprise him at his graduation. And instead, they were the one's surprised. They even brought his "wife" from India!

After much explaining to everyone, he told his American wife that he had to go back with them to divorce his real wife. That was four years ago! You think he got lost on the road to Moroco? (haha, there goes my sick sense of humor)

[achtungbaby]

Sounds like your friend is better off without a weasel who still takes orders from his parents like that.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by achtungbaby@Oct 4 2002, 10:25 PM
Sounds like your friend is better off without a weasel who still takes orders from his parents like that.
Keep in mind he is from India. They're ingrained with a much greater and much stricter sense of respect and obedience for their parents than we are.

But seriously, the guy's a dick. The least he could have done was called to say the divorce wasn't going to happen. And he should be around to take care of his child. Is he still married to both of them?!? If I was her, I'd file for divorce, too.



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[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 02:42 PM
Keep in mind he is from India. They're ingrained with a much greater and much stricter sense of respect and obedience for their parents than we are.

Bah! I understand and accept the fact that in many cultures, including my own, guys have to sell-out to their parents. But where exactly does that end? Some Korean parents restrict on the basis of class, others on how "culturally-preserved" a person is, still others on race. When I was growing up, one of my best friend's parents used to casually remind her not to get too close and start dating me, since my father had died when I was 16.

Where does it end?

I say fuck the parents !

Sorry, am in a pissant mood today:)

[ren28]

Sounds like a real life soap opera to me. Two wives... if it was not messed up, I'd think he was a pimp.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by blkazngirl@Oct 4 2002, 05:01 PM

Well as fate would have it one day the crap hit the fan. &nbsp;His parents came to America to surprise him at his graduation. &nbsp;And instead, they were the one's surprised. &nbsp;They even brought his "wife" from India! &nbsp; &nbsp;


Geez nice graduation present. I guess giving cars or cash money for graduation isn't chic anymore?

Here son, here's your pre-arranged wifey to be from India, knock yourself out.



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[SunWuKong]

this is not the first case i've heard of a south asian guy's life being in such control of his parents. i wish we had some south asian members who can contribute to this discussion.

[Craig]

I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys.

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:19 PM
I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys.

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.
I think it has a lot to do with his culture and relationship with his parents. Had his parents not brought him home an arranged marriage wifey, he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been raised to be allowed to do his own thing and marry for love and blah blah blah, then he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been taught that it was okay to do so, he probably would have told his parents to fuck off.

[Craig]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 11:31 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:19 PM
I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. &nbsp;Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys. &nbsp;

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. &nbsp;He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.
I think it has a lot to do with his culture and relationship with his parents. Had his parents not brought him home an arranged marriage wifey, he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been raised to be allowed to do his own thing and marry for love and blah blah blah, then he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been taught that it was okay to do so, he probably would have told his parents to fuck off.

The original post doesn't make a definite statement saying the guy was unmarried before he came to America. I am going to interpret the message to said he was already married before he came to this country, because of the statement about getting a divorce. He was doing his own thing in getting some action, while he had a wife overseas. Whether or not the marriage was arranged seems secondary to the statement that the marriage likely existed prior to his American escapade.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:38 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 11:31 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:19 PM
I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys.

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.
I think it has a lot to do with his culture and relationship with his parents. Had his parents not brought him home an arranged marriage wifey, he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been raised to be allowed to do his own thing and marry for love and blah blah blah, then he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been taught that it was okay to do so, he probably would have told his parents to fuck off.

The original post doesn't make a definite statement saying the guy was unmarried before he came to America. I am going to interpret the message to said he was already married before he came to this country, because of the statement about getting a divorce. He was doing his own thing in getting some action, while he had a wife overseas. Whether or not the marriage was arranged seems secondary to the statement that the marriage likely existed prior to his American escapade.
Picture it this way:

If you were in an arranged marriage set up by your parents to a woman that you tolerated, but did not love, then were sent overseas and ended up meeting somebody that you DID love... What would you do?

In no way am I tolerating his actions, but I'm keeping in mind that maybe there's more to this story than what we see. If I was his American wife, I'd divorce him and get all the alimony I could get. But let's not be too quick to judge.

[Craig]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 11:41 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:38 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 11:31 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:19 PM
I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. &nbsp;Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys. &nbsp;

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. &nbsp;He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.
I think it has a lot to do with his culture and relationship with his parents. Had his parents not brought him home an arranged marriage wifey, he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been raised to be allowed to do his own thing and marry for love and blah blah blah, then he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been taught that it was okay to do so, he probably would have told his parents to fuck off.

The original post doesn't make a definite statement saying the guy was unmarried before he came to America. I am going to interpret the message to said he was already married before he came to this country, because of the statement about getting a divorce. He was doing his own thing in getting some action, while he had a wife overseas. Whether or not the marriage was arranged seems secondary to the statement that the marriage likely existed prior to his American escapade.
Picture it this way:

If you were in an arranged marriage set up by your parents to a woman that you tolerated, but did not love, then were sent overseas and ended up meeting somebody that you DID love... What would you do?

In no way am I tolerating his actions, but I'm keeping in mind that maybe there's more to this story than what we see. If I was his American wife, I'd divorce him and get all the alimony I could get. But let's not be too quick to judge.

This guys actions do nothing to indicate that he loved the girl in America. He got an American wedding because he knocked her up. She doesn't know where to find him in India and would have a hard time collecting alimony if the wedding were proven not to be technically legal.

Most of the statements seem to be making lots of assumptions based on people's idea of a mythical pan-Indian culture. I know a number of guys of Indian descent that got married in both arranged and non-arranged marriages. In none of the arranged marriages did any guy have to blindly follow their parents choice, but they met a number of differing individuals and both sides (bride and groom) agreed to the union.

There is also a pre-supposed assumption that this guy loved his wife in America and not his wife in India. Which based upon my knowledge of guys (Indian or not) seems unfounded based upon the data given.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:52 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 11:41 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:38 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 4 2002, 11:31 PM
Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 11:19 PM
I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys.

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.
I think it has a lot to do with his culture and relationship with his parents. Had his parents not brought him home an arranged marriage wifey, he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been raised to be allowed to do his own thing and marry for love and blah blah blah, then he probably wouldn't have a problem. Had he been taught that it was okay to do so, he probably would have told his parents to fuck off.

The original post doesn't make a definite statement saying the guy was unmarried before he came to America. I am going to interpret the message to said he was already married before he came to this country, because of the statement about getting a divorce. He was doing his own thing in getting some action, while he had a wife overseas. Whether or not the marriage was arranged seems secondary to the statement that the marriage likely existed prior to his American escapade.
Picture it this way:

If you were in an arranged marriage set up by your parents to a woman that you tolerated, but did not love, then were sent overseas and ended up meeting somebody that you DID love... What would you do?

In no way am I tolerating his actions, but I'm keeping in mind that maybe there's more to this story than what we see. If I was his American wife, I'd divorce him and get all the alimony I could get. But let's not be too quick to judge.

This guys actions do nothing to indicate that he loved the girl in America. He got an American wedding because he knocked her up. She doesn't know where to find him in India and would have a hard time collecting alimony if the wedding were proven not to be technically legal.

Most of the statements seem to be making lots of assumptions based on people's idea of a mythical pan-Indian culture. I know a number of guys of Indian descent that got married in both arranged and non-arranged marriages. In none of the arranged marriages did any guy have to blindly follow their parents choice, but they met a number of differing individuals and both sides (bride and groom) agreed to the union.

There is also a pre-supposed assumption that this guy loved his wife in America and not his wife in India. Which based upon my knowledge of guys (Indian or not) seems unfounded based upon the data given.
Right then. I agree with you on some of those points, and I see that as my bad. But the guy wasn't exactly forced to marry this American chick. I assumed he wanted to because she stated that they lived their happy lives for a little while. *Shrug* But seeing as how I don't know anybody in this situation, I probably shouldn't say anything. And just to get the record straight, in no way was I condoning what this guy did and in no way was I defending his actions. I was just trying to keep your minds open to realize that, in reality, nobody really knows what was going on except those involved. Perhaps I should have said that my statements were more hypothetical than not.

I really think, though, that his being from India might have played a role in this. Otherwise, why would it have even been brought up? And I wasn't too clear on why "wife" was in quotes in the original post. Maybe that's why I automatically assumed that his American wife was more of a wife to him than his wife from India.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Craig@Oct 4 2002, 06:19 PM
I don't really see where this discussion has any relevance to whether or not this guy is a Desi or not. Perhaps if he's a Momma's Boy, it may be an issue; I know Whites and East Asians that are also Momma's Boys.

The guy is a dog just out to please Mr. Happy. He's likely gone from this other girls life that he met in America.
depends. is the central point of discussion that he lied? or is it that his parents have such control over his love life? if it's the former, then yeah, he's just a dog. if it's the latter, well, from what i've seen, i think south asians are more beholden to their parents than east asians.

[blkazngirl]

To up-date this:
The guy skipped his ass back to India. And he hasn't been seen since. She did divorced him, so he couldn't waltz back in and cause trouble later in life (honey, I'm home about 20 freak'in years). Money for child support? Forget about it. You'll never get it when they skip out of the country.

She met a really nice guy, re-married and doing just fine.

[Uncle Tat]

angel nympho -

Asians are just as ingrained about filial piety and responsibility as Indians are. I don't see how racial or culturual differences account for anything.

blkazngirl -

No offense but your friend is really really dumb. If he wasn't able to admit to his parents the first few times that he had a girlfriend, much less a wife, she should have gotten the hint that SOMETHING was wrong.



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[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 11 2002, 12:12 AM
angel nympho -

Asians are just as ingrained about filial piety and responsibility as Indians are. I don't see how racial or culturual differences account for anything.

i think this is arguable. from what i've seen, south asian families are able to exert more control over their children than east asian families are able.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 11 2002, 05:12 AM
angel nympho -

Asians are just as ingrained about filial piety and responsibility as Indians are. I don't see how racial or culturual differences account for anything.
Sorry, but I don't believe that.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 11 2002, 05:12 AM
angel nympho -

Asians are just as ingrained about filial piety and responsibility as Indians are. &nbsp;I don't see how racial or culturual differences account for anything.


I'd agree with that, of course this changes the more generations removed you are from the initial immigrating parents. I'm first generation, my folks are both immigrants, and filiel piety is still pretty huge in our family.

I think we are also making asumptions about the level of commitment and sense of responsibility that we attribute to South Asian cultures, could we also be perpetuating a sterotype? Maybe this guy is just a creep that chose the easy way out....

How different is this then from a white guy who joins the military, gets a girl pregnant in panama (just to keep it non-asian), claims to love her and come back for her, then makes it back home to good ole US of A. He never makes it back cause he's a jerk and he's got his nice comfortable life back....Has nothing to do with his culture. He's just a creep.

[Arex]

Originally posted by Tawee@Oct 24 2002, 12:42 PM
Maybe this guy is just a creep that chose the easy way out....

How different is this then from a white guy who joins the military, gets a girl pregnant in panama (just to keep it non-asian), claims to love her and come back for her, then makes it back home to good ole US of A. &nbsp;He never makes it back cause he's a jerk and he's got his nice comfortable life back....Has nothing to do with his culture. &nbsp;He's just a creep.
I think people've been sidetracked and seem to forget about this key issue. The cultural aspect is nothing more than a red herring. First off, if he was already married when he knocked this girl up and then married her? Automatic creep. There are no excuses for this kind of fraud and deceit on person you love. Even if the prior marriage is "just" an arranged marriage with someone you don't love, you still owe it to the one you supposedly "really love" to inform them of such. And if he wasn't married when that all went down? Only a complete asshole would use the promise of divorce as an excuse to flee the country and then disappear without a word. Even if he actually did intend to divorce the other wife when he first made that promise, the mere fact that he hasn't been heard from in years, I believe, is conclusive evidence that the dude is a piece of shit. This is all regardless of any influence his parents could possibly have over him. It's not a matter of being too quick to judge--it's been four years since this fucker's been heard from. I don't imagine it'd be too difficult for him to have at least written a letter (e-mail perhaps?)explaining and apologizing for changed circumstances during that time. Dick dick dick. No ifs ands or buts: this guy deserves a beat down. That is, unless he's already dead...in which case I suppose he can be forgiven for not writing or getting the divorce...??

Alex

[Grass Monkey]

The guy's a half-ass. Yeah, he loved her, knocked her up, and married her. But he also lied.
Last time I checked, lying is a no no in love relationships.
Love is going all the way or nothing at all. Can't do it half-assed.

I dunno about this first generation thing though. I'm pretty much emancipated in terms of control from my parents. Sure, there are some of their decisions I must follow. But they also understand that the big-ass things in my life are my decisions and mine alone, screw up or whatnot.

[blkazngirl]

Uncle Tat:
I have to agree with you on that.

I have a client that is Korean. She married a white in the army. He brought her to the states and treated her like shit, (sorry for the mouth), sexually abuses her and beats her. After she had three kids for this guy, he tells her that he doesn't want to be with her any more, and divorces her.

The really sad part is that this woman has lost everything. She's been in this country for 26 years! Can bearly speak the language, she has no skills except factory work. Has had no contact with her family in Korea since she married this man, don't know if her family in Korea is living or dead. Has forgotten how to speak Korean. And up until she came into my office wasn't even a citizen. And had no contact with her kids!

I have worked with this woman trying to fit her back into the Asian/Korean community. We live 1 hour from NYC, you should have seen her when I took her into the city. When we got home, she was so greatful.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by blkazngirl@Oct 24 2002, 09:38 PM
Uncle Tat:
I have to agree with you on that.

I have a client that is Korean. She married a white in the army. He brought her to the states and treated her like shit, (sorry for the mouth), sexually abuses her and beats her. After she had three kids for this guy, he tells her that he doesn't want to be with her any more, and divorces her.

The really sad part is that this woman has lost everything. She's been in this country for 26 years! Can bearly speak the language, she has no skills except factory work. Has had no contact with her family in Korea since she married this man, don't know if her family in Korea is living or dead. Has forgotten how to speak Korean. And up until she came into my office wasn't even a citizen. And had no contact with her kids!

I have worked with this woman trying to fit her back into the Asian/Korean community. We live 1 hour from NYC, you should have seen her when I took her into the city. When we got home, she was so greatful.
She doesn't speak English, has forgotten how to speak Korean... wTF does she speak? And how did she communicate with her husband for 26 years???

[blkazngirl]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 24 2002, 10:11 PM
Originally posted by blkazngirl@Oct 24 2002, 09:38 PM
Uncle Tat:
I have to agree with you on that. &nbsp;

I have a client that is Korean. &nbsp;She married a white in the army. &nbsp;He brought her to the states and treated her like shit, (sorry for the mouth), sexually abuses her and beats her. &nbsp;After she had three kids for this guy, he tells her that he doesn't want to be with her any more, and divorces her. &nbsp;

The really sad part is that this woman has lost everything. &nbsp;She's been in this country for 26 years! &nbsp;Can bearly speak the language, she has no skills except factory work. &nbsp;Has had no contact with her family in Korea since she married this man, don't know if her family in Korea is living or dead. &nbsp;Has forgotten how to speak Korean. &nbsp;And up until she came into my office wasn't even a citizen. &nbsp;And had no contact with her kids!

I have worked with this woman trying to fit her back into the Asian/Korean community. &nbsp;We live 1 hour from NYC, you should have seen her when I took her into the city. &nbsp;When we got home, she was so greatful.
She doesn't speak English, has forgotten how to speak Korean... wTF does she speak? And how did she communicate with her husband for 26 years???
I meant she doesn't speak english that well.

ps: :) you're back.

[Uncle Tat]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 24 2002, 10:11 PM
Originally posted by blkazngirl@Oct 24 2002, 09:38 PM
Uncle Tat:
I have to agree with you on that. &nbsp;

I have a client that is Korean. &nbsp;She married a white in the army. &nbsp;He brought her to the states and treated her like shit, (sorry for the mouth), sexually abuses her and beats her. &nbsp;After she had three kids for this guy, he tells her that he doesn't want to be with her any more, and divorces her. &nbsp;

The really sad part is that this woman has lost everything. &nbsp;She's been in this country for 26 years! &nbsp;Can bearly speak the language, she has no skills except factory work. &nbsp;Has had no contact with her family in Korea since she married this man, don't know if her family in Korea is living or dead. &nbsp;Has forgotten how to speak Korean. &nbsp;And up until she came into my office wasn't even a citizen. &nbsp;And had no contact with her kids!

I have worked with this woman trying to fit her back into the Asian/Korean community. &nbsp;We live 1 hour from NYC, you should have seen her when I took her into the city. &nbsp;When we got home, she was so greatful.
She doesn't speak English, has forgotten how to speak Korean... wTF does she speak? And how did she communicate with her husband for 26 years???
Sounds like she didn't even NEED to communicate to her husband...

just nod her head to acknowledge his orders, put her head down in shame if she did something wrong...

kinda like a small pet...

That's a damn shame of a story. I hope things like that don't happen often but I have a feeling they do...

[Uncle Tat]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 11 2002, 09:36 PM
Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 11 2002, 05:12 AM
angel nympho -

Asians are just as ingrained about filial piety and responsibility as Indians are. &nbsp;I don't see how racial or culturual differences account for anything.
Sorry, but I don't believe that.
You must come from a VERY Americanized family because I don't think I know a single Asian American that is first generation and doesn't know what filial piety is.

[mrazntre]

I believe that all cultures have a sense of filial piety, yet that aspect in some cultures may have been extremely stereotyped causing it to stand out more than others.

We see it with the influence that Confucianism has had on East Asian countries. As immigrant families come to the US, the generations seem to wash away the intensity of filial piety due to the social norms in America where it is acceptable to rebel, to a certain point, and become
"independent."

Filial piety in India may be enhanced due to religion and due to the fact that women's rights have not been taken to the next level.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 25 2002, 12:34 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 24 2002, 10:11 PM
Originally posted by blkazngirl@Oct 24 2002, 09:38 PM
Uncle Tat:
I have to agree with you on that.

I have a client that is Korean. She married a white in the army. He brought her to the states and treated her like shit, (sorry for the mouth), sexually abuses her and beats her. After she had three kids for this guy, he tells her that he doesn't want to be with her any more, and divorces her.

The really sad part is that this woman has lost everything. She's been in this country for 26 years! Can bearly speak the language, she has no skills except factory work. Has had no contact with her family in Korea since she married this man, don't know if her family in Korea is living or dead. Has forgotten how to speak Korean. And up until she came into my office wasn't even a citizen. And had no contact with her kids!

I have worked with this woman trying to fit her back into the Asian/Korean community. We live 1 hour from NYC, you should have seen her when I took her into the city. When we got home, she was so greatful.
She doesn't speak English, has forgotten how to speak Korean... wTF does she speak? And how did she communicate with her husband for 26 years???
Sounds like she didn't even NEED to communicate to her husband...

just nod her head to acknowledge his orders, put her head down in shame if she did something wrong...

kinda like a small pet...

That's a damn shame of a story. I hope things like that don't happen often but I have a feeling they do...
If the woman didn't speak English, how the hell did she understand any of her oppressive white husband's "demands" then?

Apparently she DOES speak English.... so oh well.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 25 2002, 12:36 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 11 2002, 09:36 PM
Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 11 2002, 05:12 AM
angel nympho -

Asians are just as ingrained about filial piety and responsibility as Indians are. I don't see how racial or culturual differences account for anything.
Sorry, but I don't believe that.
You must come from a VERY Americanized family because I don't think I know a single Asian American that is first generation and doesn't know what filial piety is.
I'm not first generation. Sorry that my family is so Americanized that I don't know what filial piety is. The reason I don't believe this is because I don't know any Asians who have ever been subjected to an arranged marriage. But the reason I said that earlier was because the original post story said he refused to mention anything to his parents. Which led me to believe that he's probably got a strong sense of obedience to his parents and would probably do nothing to upset them.



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[wylin]

lol sarah goin off on people and takin things too seriously. :blink:

u go girl :P

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 28 2002, 06:05 PM
lol sarah goin off on people and takin things too seriously. :blink:

u go girl :P
wut the fuck? ok i'm not trying to be mean or wahtever to whoever posted before me. the inet does nothing to capture sincerity or sarcasm.

i wasnt going off on anybody.

[wylin]

at times it comes off as somewhat abrasive IHMO, i am just noting that. but its all in good fun and intresting postings keep up the good work.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 28 2002, 06:16 PM
at times it comes off as somewhat abrasive IHMO, i am just noting that. but its all in good fun and intresting postings keep up the good work.
i'm an abrasive person. i hold a grudge. i'll admit it. if i don't like you, i'll hurt your feelings. so... yup. hahaha...

[wylin]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 28 2002, 10:18 AM
Originally posted by wylin@Oct 28 2002, 06:16 PM
at times it comes off as somewhat abrasive IHMO, i am &nbsp;just noting that. but its all in good fun and intresting postings keep up the good work.
i'm an abrasive person. i hold a grudge. i'll admit it. if i don't like you, i'll hurt your feelings. so... yup. hahaha...
exactly :luv: :cry: :dance: u go girly

[lethal]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 28 2002, 05:54 PM
the original post story said he refused to mention anything to his parents. Which led me to believe that he's probably got a strong sense of obedience to his parents and would probably do nothing to upset them.
I gathered from the original post that he didn't say anything to his parents because he was already married in India and didn't want them to know he married an American girl too.

That and he was still dependent on his parents for money, so he didn't want to upset them for fear of losing his income stream.

Either way, being married in one country, then going to another and 1) cheating on his first wife and 2) marrying another wife are dispicable acts against both the first and second women.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by lethalweapon@Oct 29 2002, 02:11 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 28 2002, 05:54 PM
the original post story said he refused to mention anything to his parents. &nbsp;Which led me to believe that he's probably got a strong sense of obedience to his parents and would probably do nothing to upset them.
I gathered from the original post that he didn't say anything to his parents because he was already married in India and didn't want them to know he married an American girl too.

That and he was still dependent on his parents for money, so he didn't want to upset them for fear of losing his income stream.

Either way, being married in one country, then going to another and 1) cheating on his first wife and 2) marrying another wife are dispicable acts against both the first and second women.
Worse for the first wife, I think. I would think that if he was gonna try to repatch things with one of them, it'd be the first one. Just 'cuz, well, she was first. *Shrug* And the fact that he married her after she got pregnant kinda says to me that he probably didn't love her much to begin with anyway.

[wylin]

why not just live a life of poligamy, it cool to have more then one wife. and should be ok in india. sharingiscaring

[blkazngirl]

Aren't you thinking about the Moron religion?

[ren28]

Eh? Was that sarcasm for Mormon? :confused:

[blkazngirl]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 29 2002, 05:05 PM
why not just live a life of poligamy, it cool to have more then one wife. and should be ok in india. sharingiscaring
Was refering to the multi wife thing. The only person that benefits from this is the guy. What make you think that the wife wouldn't want to have a different husband?