liking sumone u been friends w/ a long time

[wylin]

Amy brought this up to me that she thinks i like sumone i have been friends w/ for a long time.

Bout the girl, well other then shez pretty cute and really sweet, and we get along well talking bout nerdy stuffs...and is churchy, and that i think i could fall for her if she wasnt 18! chee... too young the 21 and up rule applies. shez been a long time platonic friend who i really havent noticed until now and for a long time years by now have treated like a kid. hmm i wonder do or could i like her.

hmm...blah too many issues.

So whats your experience w/ this? everyone



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[thaite]

I've been liking this chick I've been friends with for a long time, but she ain't havin' it.

Damn artist chicks and their poseur Bohemian lifestyle "Oh, I have to suffer for my art and blah blah blah.

:angry:

[bigwong235]

ugh.. well my experience with this wasn't so good...

best friends since freshman year. started liking her in the middle of sophomore year, and then she got a boyfriend. once she got a boyfriend, she hardly talked to me anymore. she kinda cut off contact w/me cause well, she didn't really need me anymore. this was when i needed a friend the most, cause i was going through some shit. so that didn't really help that she pretty much ditched me. fast forward to summer between junior/senior year. things are getting rocky w/her boyfriend, she starts talking to me again. i still have feelings for her at this point, which is kinda stupid, cause crushes aren't supposed to last that long. night before she breaks up w/her boyfriend, she spills her guts to me about everything that's wrong and stuff. the next day she breaks up w/her boyfriend. all of a sudden she wants me to be her pseudo-ftf. me, being mr. straight-edge-not-gonna-take-advantage-of-a-rebounding-girl decides not to. i still like her at this point though, so it's real hard... we get really close for a couple of months, and i still have feelings for her, but i never knew what i was to her. not a boyfriend, but more than just friends. apparently not much though, cause some other shit went down w/her and one of my "close" friends that she hadn't told me before, and she found a new boyfriend anyway right at the end of summer. i had to lose her friendship again to another boyfriend, and it was just too much to take. i've never talked to her since. relationships w/me and other girls haven't been the same since.

so, if you want my opinion, don't go for it unless you're absolutely sure that things won't get TOO messed up between you two.

i hope someone else has a better best-friend to significant other story for you.



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[SunWuKong]

yeah i've become a boyfriend before to a good friend. i had no idea she was attracted to me until she told me she was jealous that i was spending so much time with this other girl.

or maybe she wasn't even attracted to me until i was spending time with that other girl... damn women and their... their... i don't know what...

[thaite]

Okay, ok. there was another woman I was good friends with for a long time. She wanted us to be together and I resisted, until I eventually relented.

Now how did that turn out? I haven't talked to her in five years and I still got her stupid wedding dress hanging in my closet!

<_<

[bigwong235]

wow looks we're 0 for 2 so far... :(



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[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by bigwong235@Oct 2 2002, 03:24 AM
wow looks we're 0 for 2 so far... :(
hey by the way, i'm still good friends with that girl i dated who was my friend first.

[deez nuts]

Go for it. It might work or it might not work, it's just like any relationship. Sure, there's gonna be tension and the possibility of losing a friend if it doesn't work, but if your friendship foundation was tight before entering the relationship, time will mend it.

Step up, wylin. It's your turn to bat. Go fo yours.

Plus, eventually the sexual tension is gonna kill you.



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[AliBabaIncorporated]

ends in disaster, at least for me, to hook up with, or to move towards a long term relationship with, anyone who i've been friends with for a while. regardless whether it's me or the girl initiating it. causes not only problems between us, but problems among our mutual friends as well, those interfering bastards.

seriously, in high school i chased after this girl for two years, but in all those years, if you asked either of us we each would have said the other is an acquaintance, not a friend. before we started going out, there were no deep late-night conversations, no activities together like which one of us might misconstrue or rationalize as platonic "chilling" while the other really hopes it would lead to something romantic, etc, none of me joining in activities with her clique just to hang around her and pretend to make friends, no such bullshit. when we finally did start going out, it was a lot simpler. i asked her to come to boston for day. intentions were pretty clear on both sides despite, or maybe because, at that point we weren't exactly "friends" and didn't need to deceive each other so much to show concern for making the other comfortable. no worries about ruining a friendship or screwing up our relations with mutual friends.

[wylin]

chee, denno been thinking bout it nah, its too much of a weird thing when theres lotsa girls closer by cant break my 30 minute rule.

"if i can drive to her house in 30 min shez not worth dating"

[karizma]

>> you have way too many goddamn rules homie. take a chance. live it up...cliche as this may sound...cmon man why miss out on something that might be damn good? well...actually...only take the chance if you think she's interested too =)...

>> on a totally unrelated note...wassup with the new smilies?

>> :retard: <-- da hell is that???

[amietron]

Originally posted by karizma@Oct 2 2002, 02:11 PM
>> you have way too many goddamn rules homie. take a chance. live it up...cliche as this may sound...cmon man why miss out on something that might be damn good? well...actually...only take the chance if you think she's interested too =)...

>> on a totally unrelated note...wassup with the new smilies?

>> :retard: <-- da hell is that???
i want that smiley to be my new avatar. it looks like me. wouldn't you agree, woot?


you guys need female friends to nurture you. i've adopted my brother's friends (who are for the most part 14, freshmen in high school) for this exact reason.

boy likes girl. he's liked her since 6th grade. currently they're in 9th grade. he does everything to try to "win" her. even bought her a MAC lipgloss (requested by girl's friend) for the girl and her friend. he went to the mac store and bought 2 $13 lipglosses all by himself. i've taken it upon myself to help him out with his chic situations so he doesn't end up being anyone's bitch, kinda like that--once she got a boyfriend, she hardly talked to me anymore. she kinda cut off contact w/me cause well, she didn't really need me anymore. this was when i needed a friend the most, cause i was going through some shit. so that didn't really help that she pretty much ditched me.thought that i might be able to give better advice than his friends. every time he listens to them, or tries to interact with her when they're nearby, they make him out to be an ass.. and he's NOT. he's my dream boy! haha. seriously though, in 12 years if he's not married, i'd marry him.

[bigwong235]

Originally posted by amietron@Oct 2 2002, 04:31 PM
he doesn't end up being anyone's bitch, kinda like that--once she got a boyfriend, she hardly talked to me anymore. she kinda cut off contact w/me cause well, she didn't really need me anymore. this was when i needed a friend the most, cause i was going through some shit. so that didn't really help that she pretty much ditched me.
hey! are you calling me a bitch?? :huh:

:D j/k.

"i am NO ONE'S beetch!!" -jet li :dance:

[amietron]

Originally posted by bigwong235@Oct 2 2002, 04:49 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Oct 2 2002, 04:31 PM
he doesn't end up being anyone's bitch, kinda like that--once she got a boyfriend, she hardly talked to me anymore. she kinda cut off contact w/me cause well, she didn't really need me anymore. this was when i needed a friend the most, cause i was going through some shit. so that didn't really help that she pretty much ditched me.
hey! are you calling me a bitch?? :huh:

:D j/k.

"i am NO ONE'S beetch!!" -jet li :dance:
not to be mean or anything, but yes. i think you were used, abused and tossed into the garbage can.

faster than homer can stuff 5 donuts in his mouf. faster than we drive to school in the morning. faster than nail polish dries. faster than i can write out my name. faster than the time it takes AB to smoke 1 red. faster than the speed of a bullet train. faster than the time it takes room temperature water to boil. faster than how long it take the power puff girls to beat the bad guys. faster than fred can scream yabba dabba doo. faster than george jetson can fly to work. faster than speedy gonzalez. faster than road runner. faster than taz. faster than cars at the indy 500s.

you were her bitch. you were you were. what else do you call being there for her when she needed a shoulder to lean on, then not having her be there for you when you most needed her? a friend? sure, i'll give ya friend, but.. not good friend. a good friend would balance the two. boyfriend, and other friends. she'd still give you the time of day if you needed her. she'd give up fucking her boyfriend's brains out to talk to you for a few minutes on the telephone or to go out for coffee. maybe that's high expectations on my part of friends, but really, it's not right.

i could go on a bit more, but i don't want to shove this in your face as to make you feel bad or sad or anything like that.

--
after reading what i just posted, it makes me sound like a bitch. err. sorry. it's straight-forward and what i think. not sugar-coated to anyones' likes. just my 2 cents, or cent and a half.



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[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 2 2002, 06:21 AM
Amy brought this up to me that she thinks i like sumone i have been friends w/ for a long time.

Bout the girl, well other then shez pretty cute and really sweet, and we get along well talking bout nerdy stuffs...and is churchy, and that i think i could fall for her if she wasnt 18! chee... too young the 21 and up rule applies. shez been a long time platonic friend who i really havent noticed until now and for a long time years by now have treated like a kid. hmm i wonder do or could i like her.

hmm...blah too many issues.

So whats your experience w/ this? everyone
I wonder who you're talking about....??? Who I think it is? I bet it is.

Anyway, don't you watch Dawson's Creek?!? Being friends first is okay.

Anyhoo, I'd rather end up with a guy I was friends with first. Watching how the guy treated other girlfriends would be a big hint as to how he'd treat me. I wouldn't have to be the oblivious idiot.

[amietron]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 2 2002, 10:24 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Oct 2 2002, 06:21 AM
Amy brought this up to me that she thinks i like sumone i have been friends w/ for a long time.

Bout the girl, well other then shez pretty cute and really sweet, and we get along well talking bout nerdy stuffs...and is churchy, and that i think i could fall for her if she wasnt 18! chee... too young the 21 and up rule applies. &nbsp;shez been a long time platonic friend who i really havent noticed until now and for a long time years by now have treated like a kid. hmm i wonder do or could i like her.

hmm...blah too many issues.

So whats your experience w/ this? everyone
I wonder who you're talking about....??? Who I think it is? I bet it is.

Anyway, don't you watch Dawson's Creek?!? Being friends first is okay.

Anyhoo, I'd rather end up with a guy I was friends with first. Watching how the guy treated other girlfriends would be a big hint as to how he'd treat me. I wouldn't have to be the oblivious idiot.
cough cough.
yeah, it's who you think it is. ;)
go see his xanga for more hints.

..or subtract e from the. :P

[wylin]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 2 2002, 10:24 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Oct 2 2002, 06:21 AM
Amy brought this up to me that she thinks i like sumone i have been friends w/ for a long time.

Bout the girl, well other then shez pretty cute and really sweet, and we get along well talking bout nerdy stuffs...and is churchy, and that i think i could fall for her if she wasnt 18! chee... too young the 21 and up rule applies. &nbsp;shez been a long time platonic friend who i really havent noticed until now and for a long time years by now have treated like a kid. hmm i wonder do or could i like her.

hmm...blah too many issues.

So whats your experience w/ this? everyone
I wonder who you're talking about....??? Who I think it is? I bet it is.

Anyway, don't you watch Dawson's Creek?!? Being friends first is okay.

Anyhoo, I'd rather end up with a guy I was friends with first. Watching how the guy treated other girlfriends would be a big hint as to how he'd treat me. I wouldn't have to be the oblivious idiot.
lol, sarah. u and me have 2 ppl in common and one is male and the other is female. cough cough why u think its her?

lol amy u dork for putting this in my head. amy thinks im refering to a friend i and angel/ sarah have. whose also amy knows....

give a few yrs and see if her skooling trains her right. and go out w/ her more to see if its fun. would be my plan if i wanted to be w/ her. also i have a GF amy and sarah her names silvia she sucks 3.5 qts of mobile 1 every 2.5-3months, she boosts 9.2psi over the atmospheric pressure, and moan loud when i step on her. :blush: :unsure: