Relationship question

[golden_buns]

If you had been dating a guy for about 2 months and at some point he felt that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship, and somehow he was getting more and more attached to you and was starting to feel vulnerable, and in the end he freaked out and ran out on you.

What would be the best way for him to make it up to you?

[mrazntre]

If you had been dating a guy for about 2 months and at some point he felt that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship, and somehow he was getting more and more attached to you and was starting to feel vulnerable, and in the end he freaked out and ran out on you.

What would be the best way for him to make it up to you?

I'm assuming you're the asshole that left the girl hangin and now you're feeling guilty?

:biggrin:


PLAYYYA!!!

[golden_buns]

I'm assuming you're the asshole that left the girl hangin and now you're feeling guilty?

:biggrin:


PLAYYYA!!!

SHUDDUP and gimme some advice!

[mrazntre]

you're screwed homie. just move on to the next chick.

[golden_buns]

you're screwed homie. just move on to the next chick.

Not a chance, I'm not giving up on her anymore

[kasia]

depends on if she's still interested.

[golden_buns]

depends on if she's still interested.

I get the feeling that she's really mad at me, which means that it still matters.

[coagulated fat]

Probably stop being an asshole. There's no way to make something like that up except for future good behavior and non crazitude.

[nonamerasian]

Find a way to tell her what you wrote in the first post of the thread.

[golden_buns]

Find a way to tell her what you wrote in the first post of the thread.

I tried to, I cancelled a trip over the weekend to just to meet her in person and tell her. But she didn't pick up on saturday, and on sunday she said she wasn't comfortable in seeing me at the moment. Hence, I'm running out of ideas on how to tell her and I'm asking you guys.

[BigLew]

Sit back and wait, that's all you can do. If there is something there she will call back and you guys can pick up where you left off. If she doesn't then there were probably other issues besides this incedent. In the future I don't suggest doing stuff like sacrificing trips for yourself. Just my $1.50.

[mrazntre]

I tried to, I cancelled a trip over the weekend to just to meet her in person and tell her. But she didn't pick up on saturday, and on sunday she said she wasn't comfortable in seeing me at the moment. Hence, I'm running out of ideas on how to tell her and I'm asking you guys.


How about sending her a single rose with a note attached ? Is that too cliche?
I'd suggest sending her something simple that's not too overwhelming, but just a lil sumn sumn so she knows that you are really thinking about her and not just trying to get her in the sack.

[golden_buns]

How about sending her a single rose with a note attached ? Is that too cliche?
I'd suggest sending her something simple that's not too overwhelming, but just a lil sumn sumn so she knows that you are really thinking about her and not just trying to get her in the sack.

Yeah, a rose would be too cliche.
I just wrote on my online journal that I was sorry for the things I did, and that's what I wanted to tell her.
I also uploaded the song "Reason" from Hoobastank as background music, I know it's a bit cliche, but that song says everything I wanted to say.

If she ever gets to see that then good, but I guess meanwhile it's time for me to move on

Thanks for the advice y'all

[kitty]

how long has it been between the running out and coming back?

[applehead]

buy her something.
and wrap it up nicely.
:biggrin:

[so_fee_ahh]

If I were that girl...the only thing that would suffice is for you to GET ON YOUR HANDS AND KNEES and kiss the ground I walk on, BIATCH!!!!!

Beg and sound like you mean it! Muhahaha...nothing like that to give that girl a big boost back.

Nawh, but seriously...back the fuck off. Don't smother her like some desperate dirty, one-eyed dog. Give her time to think about how much she misses you, not time to get a restraining order on your ass. Just wait. Hope that helps, g'luck. Have fun bar-hopping in the mean time.

[kimpossible]

If you're serious about this you'll just have to make yourself available for like the next month and 1) be patient 2) risk rejection. I don't know the female in question so I don't know what will 'work' on her but that sounds like some crazy mind game shit even though I realize you didn't intend it to be so. Just thinking from her point of view.

I'd recommend starting out with a handwritten, very simple, letter.

*sorry blah, blah, blah
*reasons, the all important "why" - keep to about 3-4 sentences
*you would like to start over
*you'll let her decide how she feels in her own time

Then wait. I think less is more in this case. Too many extremes already. Be straight, keep your communication simple.

[Kris]

heres what you can do. i'd leave a note signed by an anonymous person (that being you of course) confessing how much you liked her and etc etc etc. tell her to meet you at whatever whatever. show up and spill your guts about how youve been feeling(explain what you said in your original post). and then if she ignores you..then i suggest you do what sophia does and get on your knees and beg like bitch just like keith sweat does in his songs. my advice, get another chick. she probably feels like shes the "back up goods" for the original.

[golden_buns]

how long has it been between the running out and coming back?

About a month and a half or so

If you're serious about this you'll just have to make yourself available for like the next month and 1) be patient 2) risk rejection. I don't know the female in question so I don't know what will 'work' on her but that sounds like some crazy mind game shit even though I realize you didn't intend it to be so. Just thinking from her point of view.

I'd recommend starting out with a handwritten, very simple, letter.

*sorry blah, blah, blah
*reasons, the all important "why" - keep to about 3-4 sentences
*you would like to start over
*you'll let her decide how she feels in her own time

Then wait. I think less is more in this case. Too many extremes already. Be straight, keep your communication simple.

She had an on-line journal just for the 2 of us. Last week I bumped into it and noticed that she hadnt been there since we broke up. I wrote a message similar to what you're saying, but I guess she found out over the weekend and deleted the hole page.

that's when I decided to cancel my trip and tried to contact her to tell her how sorry I am.

But since she chose not to listen to me saying that to her face to face, I just left a message on my on-line journal saying how sorry I was, in case she ever gets curious about what I'm up to.

I think I did all I could to show her how sorry I am, and like you guys said it's better to back off and let her think on her own.

You're right, I've thought about how this would look if I was in her shoes, and it all looks like a really fucked up game.

And talking about my online journal, it always marked 0 or 1 visitors b4 since it was empty, and I'm sure the only visitor was her bc she always nagged me about having such a boring page, but now that I wrote that apology and uploaded that song it says that I had 10 visitors yesterday and so far 1 today

[mrazntre]

About a month and a half or so



She had an on-line journal just for the 2 of us. Last week I bumped into it and noticed that she hadnt been there since we broke up. I wrote a message similar to what you're saying, but I guess she found out over the weekend and deleted the hole page.

that's when I decided to cancel my trip and tried to contact her to tell her how sorry I am.

But since she chose not to listen to me saying that to her face to face, I just left a message on my on-line journal saying how sorry I was, in case she ever gets curious about what I'm up to.

I think I did all I could to show her how sorry I am, and like you guys said it's better to back off and let her think on her own.

You're right, I've thought about how this would look if I was in her shoes, and it all looks like a really fucked up game.

And talking about my online journal, it always marked 0 or 1 visitors b4 since it was empty, and I'm sure the only visitor was her bc she always nagged me about having such a boring page, but now that I wrote that apology and uploaded that song it says that I had 10 visitors yesterday and so far 1 today

give us the link and we'll all post how sorry you are.

[kimpossible]

give us the link and we'll all post how sorry you are.

yeah, bring her here. we can tell her en masse.

[mrazntre]

and if you're not nice to us, we'll tell her how much of an ass you really are..... :biggrin:

[golden_buns]

Am I getting blackmailed?

I'm heading to LA next month, u know!!!!

[Craig]

Am I getting blackmailed?

I'm heading to LA next month, u know!!!!Planning on avoiding the YW get togethers again ?

[golden_buns]

Planning on avoiding the YW get togethers again ?

I don't think I'll be able to make it this time, it's gonna be my brother's formal weddinng so I have to help him out and then come back immediately cuz I'm working and going to grad school, so I cant miss many days

[mrazntre]

I don't think I'll be able to make it this time, it's gonna be my brother's formal weddinng so I have to help him out and then come back immediately cuz I'm working and going to grad school, so I cant miss many days

That's okay, we can meet you at the wedding ! :tongue:

Oh.. btw, try writing the girl a lettter. A real letter, no email, no v-mail, a handwritten letter with nice paper, a nice pen, and spray some cologne on it and hand deliver it wit a big ribbon wrapped around it (blah blah blah blah blah blah), etc. Mebbe write her a poem.

gluck!

[golden_buns]

That's okay, we can meet you at the wedding ! :tongue:

Oh.. btw, try writing the girl a lettter. A real letter, no email, no v-mail, a handwritten letter with nice paper, a nice pen, and spray some cologne on it and hand deliver it wit a big ribbon wrapped around it (blah blah blah blah blah blah), etc. Mebbe write her a poem.

gluck!

I think I did more than enough, too much sweetness might get her sick, so I'm just gonna leave things as they are.

Thanks for the advice though, I appreaciate it

[Craig]

I think I did more than enough, too much sweetness might get her sick, so I'm just gonna leave things as they are.

Thanks for the advice though, I appreaciate itHow about a picture of YWers in California all holding up small posterboards spelling out a message to her ? We can take the picture at your brother's wedding.

[golden_buns]

How about a picture of YWers in California all holding up small posterboards spelling out a message to her ? We can take the picture at your brother's wedding.

you should change your middle name to 'Cupid'

[mrazntre]

How about a picture of YWers in California all holding up small posterboards spelling out a message to her ? We can take the picture at your brother's wedding.

You've watched "Meet the Parents" 1 toooo many times.


golden_buns: I guess if you've been sweet enough to her, you should really think about changing the game and just start treating her like shit. Girl respond to that because they want to be liked and it'll bother them that you're not liking her. They get all crazy, thinking to themselves "what's wrong with me that he's so mean to me?" Then they'll decide "i'm gonna make him like me." kna mean ?

[deez nuts]

buy her a louis vuitton bag.

what woman can't resist a louis vuitton bag.

she'll be like butter in your hot korean man hands.

plus you look like rick yune, goddamnit.

[Craig]

You've watched "Meet the Parents" 1 toooo many times.I've never seen the movie.

[applehead]

buy her a louis vuitton bag.

what woman can't resist a louis vuitton bag.

she'll be like butter in your hot korean man hands.

plus you look like rick yune, goddamnit.

rick yune is ugly.

[rice cracker]

buy her a louis vuitton bag.

what woman can't resist a louis vuitton bag.

she'll be like butter in your hot korean man hands.

plus you look like rick yune, goddamnit.

I turned down a LV bag. Yep, I did.







I'm holding out for the luggage set.

[mrazntre]

I turned down a LV bag. Yep, I did.

I'm holding out for the luggage set.

Prolly cuz it was fake.


How about making that chick some little origami thingies?
Remember those stupid stars that girls would have?

[kasia]

is this girl even asian? what is she like? i'll keep this thread open if you are trying to obtain advice from other asian women b/c she happens to be asian. however, if that is not the case, i'll be closing it so that the forum won't turn into a general relationship advice forum. nothing personal. thanks.

[golden_buns]

yeah, she's asian, but you can close it down.

Thanks everyone

[mrazntre]

is this girl even asian? what is she like? i'll keep this thread open if you are trying to obtain advice from other asian women b/c she happens to be asian. however, if that is not the case, i'll be closing it so that the forum won't turn into a general relationship advice forum. nothing personal. thanks.

He's in Seoul so 99.9999999999999999999999999999999999% chance, she's korean.