How would you want a guy to come up to you?

[John0101]

This is just a spin off of the "picking up girls" thread in the men's forum.

Well, how would you want a guy to introduce himself to you for a possible date, relationship, etc. ?

[Hiroshi2]

Now this is the type of thread where I wouldn't say shit, just sit back and listen.

[John0101]

Now this is the type of thread where I wouldn't say shit, just sit back and listen.

exactly, learn young one. :wink:

[nonamerasian]

Straightforward.

Humor's helpful.

[moJo]

yeah, humor works. a LOT.

aside from that, i wouldn't want him to be blatantly and obviously hitting on me. like...it would cool if he made some small talk. but nothing like "so uh, do you come here often" or "you have the most beautiful smile i've ever seen" cuz really, that's not very natural. i've had some guys just make little cracks or comments about something related to where we're at or something like that. and then conversation can flow from there. easy-going and natural. i may not even know that he's interested in *that* way, and he could just be a friendly guy. i like that way.

[Hiroshi2]

Humor's cool, but how do you define being funny and just being retarded, i.e. not attractive and too goofy for me to be with.

[BigLew]

This is a loaded question...

[TB4000]

This is a loaded question...
OK, Dubya. :rolleyes:

[John0101]

ok, so easy and natural is the way to go? Try to make the other person feel comfortable.

also is it defferent from guy to guy? like how would u expect somebody whose attractive versus someone whose just so-so to come up to you?

What if the guy doesn't want a possible relationship and just wants to be friends, are the standards lowered?

[mrazntre]

yeah, humor works. a LOT.

aside from that, i wouldn't want him to be blatantly and obviously hitting on me. like...it would cool if he made some small talk. but nothing like "so uh, do you come here often" or "you have the most beautiful smile i've ever seen" cuz really, that's not very natural. i've had some guys just make little cracks or comments about something related to where we're at or something like that. and then conversation can flow from there. easy-going and natural. i may not even know that he's interested in *that* way, and he could just be a friendly guy. i like that way.

Yeah, but if the girl don't know the guy is hitting on her, what happens from there? He might just end up in the friend zone.

I've known some girls to like to know upfront what the guy is all about because she doesn't want to befriend some guy and then 6 months later she finds out that he wants to get in her panties. If you grow close to someone as a "friend" that you have no sexual interest in and then they drop the bomb that they wanna get down wit you... just imagine how that would feel. Girl friends have voiced to me that they feel betrayed when that situation occurs.

[asvenus]

yes this is very true..it can be quite hurtful although if the feelings are genuine and have developed out of respect due to getting to know us as a friend then usually its cool and if the feelings mutual then..WAHEY!!
men that approach with respect, humour is nice at times..and honesty..but respect is the most important thing to me..even the guys being abit cheeky/saucy its all good as long as i know he is not going to overstep any mark..otherwise its time to take to the streets!!

[pretense78]

You can never know when it comes to that...if you're too nice, you end up in friend zone, if you're too naughty, you could turn her off....always a guessing game.

[so_fee_ahh]

I feel bad for guys. Girls are just too damn hard if you ask me. I'm glad I'm not a guy. I like to keep them on their toes. ;)

Anyway, personally for me...I like a guy with a good sense of humor (I think that's what most girls look for too), like a guy who's not afraid to poke fun at himself. Someone who trips over his feet and brings me down with him, all the while laughing and making everyone feel completely at ease. Like, I always put up this front (unconsciously of course) and if a guy is able to make me just slowly ease into my comfort zone, that's hot, man.

[Green_Circle]

I thought this thread woulda helped but now i'm even more confused. I never even suspected girls would feel betrayed/hurt if they knew I wanted to get down with them. If that's the case, I'm gonna be right up front doing what I've been doing which is the 'do you come here often?' line. Friendships are cool and all but my first and foremost priority is to get into her panties. I find it extremely hurtful when a girl rejects me saying, I only 'view' you as a friend.

[Kris]

one thing i hate about this is how i am supposed to know "body language". WTF is that supposed to be?? i already have problems understanding regular language. last thing i need to learn is how a girl is supposed to act when she likes me.