Do you care about her past

[deez nuts]

Do you care how many partners your current girlfriend/lover had in the past?

Is it really a big deal amongst us men?



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[achtungbaby]

*pin drop*

Heh...I can't recall a time where I'd ever asked a girlfriend, point-blank, how many lovers she'd had (although, now that I recall, for some reason, I've always sort of had a ball park number).

If we're to believe that in general women have sex for the same reason as men, then it shouldn't matter. On the other hand, if we're to be un-p.c. (which happens to be my mood for today) then we'll say that, on average, they have sex for different reasons, and therefore, it does matter, because whereas you have a guy who's had 20 partners by the time he's 25, it's because he's horny and a dog, but with a girl with the same number, it's indicative of possible emotional issues and poor self-esteem.

[deez nuts]

I don't care, but I do draw a line if I see her on the "World's Greatest Gangbang."



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[optiontoo]

I actually prefer women that most guys would deem "slutty." I <I>way</I> prefer women this way. Maybe because I ain't exactly no angel myself. ;-)

Hey, when I was 24 I dated an 18 year old girlie... let's leave her race out of it, but even at 18 let's just say she behaved like a 30 year old. And young and pliable to boot.

[Arex]

I would prefer at least some experience over no experience whatsoever. I like a girl that knows what works and doesn't work for her. 'sides, I wouldn't want to take on the responsibility of being the girl's first. As for the upper limit, I'll go with a combo of ABs and Bunboy's asnwers: So long as she was doing it for the "right" reasons (i.e., 'cause she just happens to like sex as much as the rest of us guys, as opposed to emotional issues), I never saw her in some bukkake video or something of that sort, and getting it on with her isn't like having sex with a paper bag, then I'd give her the green light!

Alex

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Arex@Sep 24 2002, 11:59 PM
I would prefer at least some experience over no experience whatsoever. I like a girl that knows what works and doesn't work for her. 'sides, I wouldn't want to take on the responsibility of being the girl's first. As for the upper limit, I'll go with a combo of ABs and Bunboy's asnwers: So long as she was doing it for the "right" reasons (i.e., 'cause she just happens to like sex as much as the rest of us guys, as opposed to emotional issues), I never saw her in some bukkake video or something of that sort, and getting it on with her isn't like having sex with a paper bag, then I'd give her the green light!

Alex
Good answer! We like men with answers like that!

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by Arex@Sep 24 2002, 06:59 PM
and getting it on with her isn't like having sex with a paper bag, then I'd give her the green light!

Alex
Lol

[Uncle Tat]

I'm probably the only one that feels this way...but yes I DO care about her past.

I'm fairly choosy about who I get intimate with and I expect the same from my partner. I think intimacy...be it as simple as a kiss or as serious as sex should be something that you really think about, you shouldn't really just do it with any random people.

I've actually dumped many a girlfriend after finding out that either:
1) She was willing to go down or let me "have her" after a few weeks of dating.
2) She's had a dubious past...as in many boyfriends for short periods of time.

No offense to all you nymphos out there, but don't you have any self respect? Maybe I'm just old fashioned but sex should be something sacred and a representation of love.

Sure it's nice to be able to do it with someone you love, but if there isn't anyone...you shouldn't really be doing it with random joe schmo or jane blogg that you met 3 weeks ago and are dating.

No offense but the instant I find out that a girl I'm dating has been intimate with more men than I can count on 1 hand, she's dumped. I don't care how hot, smart, funny, etc... she is, she's not worth my time in my eyes.

Yes I can count the number of girls I've been intimate with on 1 hand and yes I've rejected sex. I feel like I deserve the same from my partner. I've long accepted the fact that a virgin is a ridiculous and probably unfair pre-requisite, but over 5 gets a little ridiculous.

Yes believe it or not people, there are attractive girls that have had sex with less than 5 guys or girls in their time. This is after accounting for the 2X 2 rule...where X is the number of guys she tells you she's been with and 2X 2 is the actual number.



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[jimbo]

Wouldn't really make a difference to me unless she was annabelle chong then i'd have to say yes it would certainly bother me!

[Green_Circle]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 8 2002, 04:44 AM
I'm probably the only one that feels this way...but yes I DO care about her past.

I'm fairly choosy about who I get intimate with and I expect the same from my partner. I think intimacy...be it as simple as a kiss or as serious as sex should be something that you really think about, you shouldn't really just do it with any random people.

I've actually dumped many a girlfriend after finding out that either:
1) She was willing to go down or let me "have her" after a few weeks of dating.
2) She's had a dubious past...as in many boyfriends for short periods of time.

No offense to all you nymphos out there, but don't you have any self respect? Maybe I'm just old fashioned but sex should be something sacred and a representation of love.

Sure it's nice to be able to do it with someone you love, but if there isn't anyone...you shouldn't really be doing it with random joe schmo or jane blogg that you met 3 weeks ago and are dating.

No offense but the instant I find out that a girl I'm dating has been intimate with more men than I can count on 1 hand, she's dumped. I don't care how hot, smart, funny, etc... she is, she's not worth my time in my eyes.

Yes I can count the number of girls I've been intimate with on 1 hand and yes I've rejected sex. I feel like I deserve the same from my partner. I've long accepted the fact that a virgin is a ridiculous and probably unfair pre-requisite, but over 5 gets a little ridiculous.

Yes believe it or not people, there are attractive girls that have had sex with less than 5 guys or girls in their time. This is after accounting for the 2X 2 rule...where X is the number of guys she tells you she's been with and 2X 2 is the actual number.
Well what if she just had a couple of partners before you and perhaps one of them had instructed her in the fine art of lovemaking? As a result she was extremely well schooled in all phases. Would that disqualify her even tho' she only had 2 partners in her life, more than satisfying your first set of restrictions.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 7 2002, 11:44 PM
I've actually dumped many a girlfriend after finding out that either:
1) She was willing to go down or let me "have her" after a few weeks of dating.
let me ask you this, do you think then that you deserve to be dumped by her because she let you have her?

[Uncle Tat]

Green_Circle

I'm fairly asexual...doesn't mean I don't know how to please a lady...but I could care less if she was good at bed or not, she's still dumped.



SunWuKung

I'm not really sure I understand your question but in this matter I don't feel I deserve to be dumped (unless it was for another reason...I'm a jerk, I don't pay enough attention, etc...). I just feel that if I hold myself to a certain standard, my partner should be at least somewhat on par with that standard as well.

I don't see how it's unfair to expect the same from my partner. In fact it should be even EASIER for girls, less testoserone. It's not a lot to ask that a girl have slept with less than 5 guys.

If that's not what you're asking, feel free to elaborate.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 21 2002, 10:25 PM
Green_Circle

I'm fairly asexual...doesn't mean I don't know how to please a lady...but I could care less if she was good at bed or not, she's still dumped.



SunWuKung

I'm not really sure I understand your question but in this matter I don't feel I deserve to be dumped (unless it was for another reason...I'm a jerk, I don't pay enough attention, etc...). I just feel that if I hold myself to a certain standard, my partner should be at least somewhat on par with that standard as well.

I don't see how it's unfair to expect the same from my partner. In fact it should be even EASIER for girls, less testoserone. It's not a lot to ask that a girl have slept with less than 5 guys.

If that's not what you're asking, feel free to elaborate.
I don't understand how YOU can be so arrogant to say that SHE's not worth your time if she's slept with "too many men." As long as it's not unprotected sex, how many men she's been with really isn't much of your business. It IS possible to be sexually active and STILL have self-respect.
And testosterone doesn't really have much to do with how easy it is to turn down sex. It's not EASIER for girls, trust me. There ARE guys out there who will HATE on a girl who won't sleep with them. Not saying that you have to sleep with a guy to get him to like you, but there's a lot more pressure out there than guys seem to understand.

[wylin]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 21 2002, 02:34 PM
Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 21 2002, 10:25 PM
Green_Circle

I'm fairly asexual...doesn't mean I don't know how to please a lady...but I could care less if she was good at bed or not, she's still dumped.



SunWuKung

I'm not really sure I understand your question but in this matter I don't feel I deserve to be dumped (unless it was for another reason...I'm a jerk, I don't pay enough attention, etc...). &nbsp;I just feel that if I hold myself to a certain standard, my partner should be at least somewhat on par with that standard as well. &nbsp;

I don't see how it's unfair to expect the same from my partner. &nbsp;In fact it should be even EASIER for girls, less testoserone. &nbsp;It's not a lot to ask that a girl have slept with less than 5 guys.

If that's not what you're asking, feel free to elaborate.
I don't understand how YOU can be so arrogant to say that SHE's not worth your time if she's slept with "too many men." As long as it's not unprotected sex, how many men she's been with really isn't much of your business. It IS possible to be sexually active and STILL have self-respect.
And testosterone doesn't really have much to do with how easy it is to turn down sex. It's not EASIER for girls, trust me. There ARE guys out there who will HATE on a girl who won't sleep with them. Not saying that you have to sleep with a guy to get him to like you, but there's a lot more pressure out there than guys seem to understand.
it is my buisness because i do care if she has made that bond inneumeral times, sex w/ sumone is sumthing special its intimate and it leaves lasting connections and feelings, you dont forget who u have been intimate w/ the best way to describe it as 2 pieces of Square oragami paper that become glued together once u have become one piece of paper (hence 1 flesh) you do leave sum of ur flaws and impression on the other paper. Say i end that connection and linkage, hence u seperate 2 fine pieces of paper, u leave a little of urself and they leave alittle of their own impressions and indetations and scars from seperation on you. imagine repeating thing many times, how much damage can the origami paper take b4 it cant make a perfect match/ square any more its flawed and damaged and nothing will make it go back to normal its lost alot of itself in others and ne say newer square origami tries to bond it still wont make an exact match or square. hence its damaged.

thats my view that analogy i got from sum church retreat and yes it does hold true. every time u give yourself to someone u leave-loose a little bit of urself and using that logic i dont want a girl whose lost so much of her self im just a notch on her belt.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 21 2002, 05:34 PM

I don't understand how YOU can be so arrogant to say that SHE's not worth your time if she's slept with "too many men." As long as it's not unprotected sex, how many men she's been with really isn't much of your business. It IS possible to be sexually active and STILL have self-respect.

I wouldn't call it arrogant, it's what he wants in a woman. If in his mind she had too many partners in her past and he don't want none of it, so be it. It's prolly gonna affect the relationship and it's prolly doomed anyways.

To each their own!

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 21 2002, 10:43 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 21 2002, 02:34 PM
Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 21 2002, 10:25 PM
Green_Circle

I'm fairly asexual...doesn't mean I don't know how to please a lady...but I could care less if she was good at bed or not, she's still dumped.



SunWuKung

I'm not really sure I understand your question but in this matter I don't feel I deserve to be dumped (unless it was for another reason...I'm a jerk, I don't pay enough attention, etc...). I just feel that if I hold myself to a certain standard, my partner should be at least somewhat on par with that standard as well.

I don't see how it's unfair to expect the same from my partner. In fact it should be even EASIER for girls, less testoserone. It's not a lot to ask that a girl have slept with less than 5 guys.

If that's not what you're asking, feel free to elaborate.
I don't understand how YOU can be so arrogant to say that SHE's not worth your time if she's slept with "too many men." As long as it's not unprotected sex, how many men she's been with really isn't much of your business. It IS possible to be sexually active and STILL have self-respect.
And testosterone doesn't really have much to do with how easy it is to turn down sex. It's not EASIER for girls, trust me. There ARE guys out there who will HATE on a girl who won't sleep with them. Not saying that you have to sleep with a guy to get him to like you, but there's a lot more pressure out there than guys seem to understand.
it is my buisness because i do care if she has made that bond inneumeral times, sex w/ sumone is sumthing special its intimate and it leaves lasting connections and feelings, you dont forget who u have been intimate w/ the best way to describe it as 2 pieces of Square oragami paper that become glued together once u have become one piece of paper (hence 1 flesh) you do leave sum of ur flaws and impression on the other paper. Say i end that connection and linkage, hence u seperate 2 fine pieces of paper, u leave a little of urself and they leave alittle of their own impressions and indetations and scars from seperation on you. imagine repeating thing many times, how much damage can the origami paper take b4 it cant make a perfect match/ square any more its flawed and damaged and nothing will make it go back to normal its lost alot of itself in others and ne say newer square origami tries to bond it still wont make an exact match or square. hence its damaged.

thats my view that analogy i got from sum church retreat and yes it does hold true. every time u give yourself to someone u leave-loose a little bit of urself and using that logic i dont want a girl whose lost so much of her self im just a notch on her belt.
It IS possible to have sex without getting emotionally involved. I've done it and I don't feel like anybody's ever taken something away from me.

I agree that it's probably not in your best interest to date a SLUT... but basing that distinction on who is and is not a slut doesn't have much to do with how many sex partners they have. If sex is for the right reason, then by all means, do it.

Sex with someone is special and intimate and leaves lasting connections? What are you, a GIRL? Sex doesn't always leave lasting connections. Sex is the best when it's with somebody you really love and want to be intimate, but sex without strings by all means can be good, too.

Calling a girl a slut because she's got more experience than you're comfortable is a real quick way to miss out on some really good experiences.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 21 2002, 05:25 PM
SunWuKung

I'm not really sure I understand your question but in this matter I don't feel I deserve to be dumped (unless it was for another reason...I'm a jerk, I don't pay enough attention, etc...). I just feel that if I hold myself to a certain standard, my partner should be at least somewhat on par with that standard as well.
are you sure you're holding yourself to the same standard? i mean here you are saying that a girl deserves to be dumped if she goes down on you too soon, but you're saying that you don't deserved to be dumped if you let the girl go down on you in the same amount of time.

[deez nuts]

I'm kinda with angel, but at the same time I don't see why Uncle Tat has to be grilled for having his own rules of engagment and weeding out potential girlfriends.

As for me when it comes to the flesh, I'm a hedonist. Get it now, take it as it comes and worry about it later.

It's all good Uncle Tat, you play by your rules and make the women play by your rules (no matter how unfair it may seem to others) or you don't play at all. I admire that.

Wish I was like that at times. But the power of poontang is too strong for me to resist and I love it too much for me to say no.



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[wylin]

stick to your guns. i am and i always do.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 21 2002, 11:54 PM
stick to your guns. i am and i always do.
I agree. But there's a difference between choosing not to date somebody for whatever reason and writing her off as a slut. Before you dump somebody based on how many sexual partners they've had, I think it would help if you figured out if their motivation was understandable or if they really were just slutty.

[ChinaLama]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 21 2002, 11:57 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Oct 21 2002, 11:54 PM
stick to your guns. i am and i always do.
I agree. But there's a difference between choosing not to date somebody for whatever reason and writing her off as a slut. Before you dump somebody based on how many sexual partners they've had, I think it would help if you figured out if their motivation was understandable or if they really were just slutty.
I don't think Uncle Tat's so much writing off a girl as a slut, as he feels that if a person's had too many partners, it doesn't feel special making love to that person anymore cuz it's almost like "well you're just the next in line." And it doesn't help if the girl's like "well i didnt really love the other guys and i don't think about them," cuz that puts doubt in a guy's mind that she loves HIM. On the other hand, if she DID love all the other guys, then the guy feels hidden competition. So i understand why a man would like to have a gf whose previous history is short, to reduce those 2 feelings. Also, it reduces the chances of getting an STD. condoms can protect against HIV, but they don't always protect against other STDs. Most people don't even KNOW they have STDs cuz the symptoms aren't that extreme or unique. Plus most ppl don't have oral sex w/ condoms, and a few yrs ago, i think it was proven or at least warned that oral can transmit HIV too. OF COURSE most women and most men who've had many partners DON'T have STDs, but it could be a lingering worry.

[wylin]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 21 2002, 03:57 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Oct 21 2002, 11:54 PM
stick to your guns. i am and i always do.
I agree. But there's a difference between choosing not to date somebody for whatever reason and writing her off as a slut. Before you dump somebody based on how many sexual partners they've had, I think it would help if you figured out if their motivation was understandable or if they really were just slutty.
just its a pride issue too i rather not of had as many men to have known my girl in that way. sorry if u dont cut it too bad is my view. Auto-FAIL

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by ChinaLama@Oct 22 2002, 12:20 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Oct 21 2002, 11:57 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Oct 21 2002, 11:54 PM
stick to your guns. i am and i always do.
I agree. But there's a difference between choosing not to date somebody for whatever reason and writing her off as a slut. Before you dump somebody based on how many sexual partners they've had, I think it would help if you figured out if their motivation was understandable or if they really were just slutty.
I don't think Uncle Tat's so much writing off a girl as a slut, as he feels that if a person's had too many partners, it doesn't feel special making love to that person anymore cuz it's almost like "well you're just the next in line." And it doesn't help if the girl's like "well i didnt really love the other guys and i don't think about them," cuz that puts doubt in a guy's mind that she loves HIM. On the other hand, if she DID love all the other guys, then the guy feels hidden competition. So i understand why a man would like to have a gf whose previous history is short, to reduce those 2 feelings. Also, it reduces the chances of getting an STD. condoms can protect against HIV, but they don't always protect against other STDs. Most people don't even KNOW they have STDs cuz the symptoms aren't that extreme or unique. Plus most ppl don't have oral sex w/ condoms, and a few yrs ago, i think it was proven or at least warned that oral can transmit HIV too. OF COURSE most women and most men who've had many partners DON'T have STDs, but it could be a lingering worry.
But it shouldn't be a general rule. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis. Sometimes there's good reason for leaving things that were in the past as the past. If this hypothetical girl has had a few more sexual partners than necessary, it doesn't mean that what she has with you is any more or less special to her. It is what it is. Each partner, each story, each relationship is something completely different and cannot be compared. And I think the same way with sexual partners. There's just no comparing. What if this girl has had her history of mistakes, bad relationships, or broken hearts... but she finds that what she has with you is special and different? And you feel the same way for her. Are you going to rule her out on some stupid technicality?

But I definately agree with the cleanliness factor. I'm a strong believer in personal responsibility, and I know better than to sleep with anybody who isn't sure if they could be at risk. If you don't get tested regularly and don't practice safe&reg; sex, then don't bring your genitals anywhere near me.

[Uncle Tat]

SunWuKung -

The point is that they were WILLING to go down, I didn't LET them. I think that's where you were confused with what I was saying. Of course I'd be a hypocrite if I said "eww you went down on HOW many guys?" while I was taking advantage of her carefreeness...

angel nympho -

It's been scientifically proven that testoserone is the major driving hormone for sexual drives. Last time I checled, females don't have that hormone surging in high quantities (yes they have it but in lower quantities).

I don't go around calling people "slut," "skank" or whatever. If they want to go around and sleep around freely, that's their business...not mine...which is exactly why I want nothing more to do with them. I'm not going to judge them or lecture them, I just don't want anything to do with them.

As for social pressures? While I do understand that young girls of today are pressured into having sex, you think the pressure is any LOWER for young boys? If anything there's even MORE pressure for guys to have sex. Guys who "score" a lot are seen as studs. Guys who don't are either loser nerds or people with no balls and can't stick it in.



To each their own. All I'm saying is I don't want to think about a number of the following issue illustrated in this dialogue...

Her: "I'm doing this just for you honey..."
Me : "Special as in you've only done it for 3 other guys before me? Just 3? WOW I FEEL SPECIAL!!!"

While I AM willing to accept the fact that "anything special" has been done by her for someone else before me, I'm not willing to accept the fact that she would call this "special" if she's done it for joe schmo boyfriend that she met in her high school years when she was vulnerable after a breakup and needed a quickie rebound relationship to "feel better."

[ChinaLama]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 22 2002, 03:19 AM


As for social pressures? While I do understand that young girls of today are pressured into having sex, you think the pressure is any LOWER for young boys? If anything there's even MORE pressure for guys to have sex. Guys who "score" a lot are seen as studs. Guys who don't are either loser nerds or people with no balls and can't stick it in.


This is precisely the reason why all men and women should have fool-proof chastity belts, with a key only held by the great China Lama, who will liberate all the nubile maidens from their prison of chastity while the supple lads bring me wine...lots of wine, to make the way easier for the nubile maidens into the ways of womanhood.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 22 2002, 03:19 AM
angel nympho -

It's been scientifically proven that testoserone is the major driving hormone for sexual drives. Last time I checled, females don't have that hormone surging in high quantities (yes they have it but in lower quantities).

I don't go around calling people "slut," "skank" or whatever. If they want to go around and sleep around freely, that's their business...not mine...which is exactly why I want nothing more to do with them. I'm not going to judge them or lecture them, I just don't want anything to do with them.

As for social pressures? While I do understand that young girls of today are pressured into having sex, you think the pressure is any LOWER for young boys? If anything there's even MORE pressure for guys to have sex. Guys who "score" a lot are seen as studs. Guys who don't are either loser nerds or people with no balls and can't stick it in.



To each their own. All I'm saying is I don't want to think about a number of the following issue illustrated in this dialogue...

Her: "I'm doing this just for you honey..."
Me : "Special as in you've only done it for 3 other guys before me? Just 3? WOW I FEEL SPECIAL!!!"

While I AM willing to accept the fact that "anything special" has been done by her for someone else before me, I'm not willing to accept the fact that she would call this "special" if she's done it for joe schmo boyfriend that she met in her high school years when she was vulnerable after a breakup and needed a quickie rebound relationship to "feel better."
I don't mean special in action, I mean special in emotion. Sometimes it can be special just from the emotion you put into it. I don't mean "I'm giving you this BJ justtt for you," I mean "I'm doing this for you for a different reason than I've ever done it before."

And I don't think testosterone is the only driving force that makes people want to have sex. It's a sex drive, and anybody who tells you that women don't have them is lying.

I understand if you don't want to have anything to do with somebody who is like... "slutty" or whatever, but I'm saying that just because somebody has had a lot of sexual partners that doesn't mean they're any less deserving of your attention. Maybe before you back up and run off, you should try to understand the reasons and motivations behind it. Sometimes there's a good reason why a girl wants to put her past behind her.

I think the pressure is worse for girls. If you don't have sex, you're a prude or a lesbian; if you do, you're a slut.

[Uncle Tat]

angel nympho

You said...
"I understand if you don't want to have anything to do with somebody who is like... "slutty" or whatever, but I'm saying that just because somebody has had a lot of sexual partners that doesn't mean they're any less deserving of your attention. Maybe before you back up and run off, you should try to understand the reasons and motivations behind it. Sometimes there's a good reason why a girl wants to put her past behind her."

Yes yes I can understand mistakes and am more than willing to forgive someone for them. But someone who just goes around sleeping for the sake of sleeping is just undeserving of my time, in MY opinion. And in a relationship, my opinion is just as, if not more important to ME (not saying my opinion is more important overall...just more important to myself).

As for "putting her past behind her," people only do that when they're ashamed of something they did. I can certainly understand that. One or two times I can understand...but people these days, it's ridiculous the number of random hookups people do.

I'm probably far more conservative than the average male though so likely that most guys you know/meet will not think this way. Heck even on THIS forum, I seem to be the only person this conservative (and most Asians are more conservative...well not Asian Americans...)

By the way, how do you guys do the copy previous comments things into little boxes?

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 22 2002, 11:18 AM


I'm probably far more conservative than the average male though so likely that most guys you know/meet will not think this way. &nbsp;Heck even on THIS forum, I seem to be the only person this conservative (and most Asians are more conservative...well not Asian Americans...)

By the way, how do you guys do the copy previous comments things into little boxes?
I'm conservative about certain aspects, bit in regards to sex, I just view it as just sex. It's not a big deal to me, but like you said it's one's own opinion and no clear wrong or right.

By the way, how do you guys do the copy previous comments things into little boxes?

Just click on the yellow "quote" box on the poster you want to quote, it'll bring you to your message screen with the other poster's quotes on the bottom.

[amietron]

for now, i'm all about the 5 finger rule.

I think the pressure is worse for girls. If you don't have sex, you're a prude or a lesbian; if you do, you're a slut.i'm not a lesbian or a slut. i don't think i'm prude, either.



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[bluecollarjap]

i'll be the first to admit i'm a jerk, male whore, mimbo, but i have my standards. i'm really up front about sex. i want to know everything and i tell everything. i have this dilemma, i'm a horn dog but have an issue about cleanliness. i will not have sex with a girl until i'm sure everything is kosher. and when i do, its with every protection known to man. i have never had unprotected sex even when the girl insisted she was on the pill. but do i care how many partners she had. no, unless like chasiubao_boy said if she was on "World's Greatest Gangbang."

[amietron]

Originally posted by bluecollarjap@Oct 22 2002, 08:33 AM
i'll be the first to admit i'm a jerk, male whore, mimbo, but i have my standards. i'm really up front about sex. i want to know everything and i tell everything. i have this dilemma, i'm a horn dog but have an issue about cleanliness. i will not have sex with a girl until i'm sure everything is kosher. and when i do, its with every protection known to man. i have never had unprotected sex even when the girl insisted she was on the pill. but do i care how many partners she had. no, unless like chasiubao_boy said if she was on "World's Greatest Gangbang."
maan. that "jap" in your sn doesn't help us very much since westerners already think of pictures like this -
http://users.bigpond.net.au/xeyr/circum/shrine.jpg

when they think of japan. that, and all sorts of crazy porn stuff, not only with real people but even anime. then you add in the geishas, and the list goes on..

[bluecollarjap]

Originally posted by amietron@Oct 22 2002, 04:44 PM
Originally posted by bluecollarjap@Oct 22 2002, 08:33 AM
i'll be the first to admit i'm a jerk, male whore, mimbo, but i have my standards. &nbsp;i'm really up front about sex. &nbsp;i want to know everything and i tell everything. &nbsp;i have this dilemma, i'm a horn dog but have an issue about cleanliness. &nbsp;i will not have sex with a girl until i'm sure everything is kosher. &nbsp;and when i do, its with every protection known to man. &nbsp;i have never had unprotected sex even when the girl insisted she was on the pill. &nbsp;but do i care how many partners she had. &nbsp;no, unless like chasiubao_boy said if she was on "World's Greatest Gangbang."
maan. that "jap" in your sn doesn't help us very much since westerners already think of pictures like this -
when they think of japan. that, and all sorts of crazy porn stuff, not only with real people but even anime. then you add in the geishas, and the list goes on..
jap.... i already said there was no derogatory intent on my log-on. maybe i should change it. but back to the subject. i being japanese, cannot be a pig and sleep with as many women as i want just because of some oversexed stereotype. having lived in europe, i view sex differently than an american would. my first sex partner had been on the pill since she was 13. here in the states all aspects of sex is taboo. just because japan is more open about it, doesn't mean that japanese people have more of an appetite. americans need to loosen up. that puritanism is a bunch of hypocrisy.

[deez nuts]

OMG what the hell is that, amie? Gives whole new meaning to giving her my "golden rod."

off topic: I don't see how BCJ's use of the word Jap in his SN is any different than the word chink we use sometimes here. Perhaps he means Jewish American Princess heehe, anyways my 2 cents. I really have no say because it's between the Japanese members here.

[amietron]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Oct 22 2002, 09:06 AM
OMG what the hell is that, amie? Gives whole new meaning to giving her my "golden rod."

off topic: I don't see how BCJ's use of the word Jap in his SN is any different than the word chink we use sometimes here. Perhaps he means Jewish American Princess heehe, anyways my 2 cents. I really have no say because it's between the Japanese members here.
i was only kidding, doc. you know, the whole sex sex sex kinky kinky kinky aspect of japanese.

it's a fertility shrine.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by amietron@Oct 22 2002, 12:31 PM
you know, the whole sex sex sex kinky kinky kinky aspect of japanese.

Unfortunately no, I've never experienced it firsthand :cry:

[bluecollarjap]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Oct 22 2002, 05:38 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Oct 22 2002, 12:31 PM
you know, the whole sex sex sex kinky kinky kinky aspect of japanese.

Unfortunately no, I've never experienced it firsthand :cry:
idon't think its any different. people think japanese men are pervs. not true, culture allows them to be more vocal about it. like some drunk salary man can say to his buddies, look at that sweet ass. similar to what american men could get away with back in the 50s. also my sister has told me that italian men are worse. get on public transportation and they'll grind against you and make comments about your body. she always carried a spiky umbrella in italy.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Oct 22 2002, 04:18 PM
angel nympho

You said...
"I understand if you don't want to have anything to do with somebody who is like... "slutty" or whatever, but I'm saying that just because somebody has had a lot of sexual partners that doesn't mean they're any less deserving of your attention. Maybe before you back up and run off, you should try to understand the reasons and motivations behind it. Sometimes there's a good reason why a girl wants to put her past behind her."

Yes yes I can understand mistakes and am more than willing to forgive someone for them. But someone who just goes around sleeping for the sake of sleeping is just undeserving of my time, in MY opinion. And in a relationship, my opinion is just as, if not more important to ME (not saying my opinion is more important overall...just more important to myself).

As for "putting her past behind her," people only do that when they're ashamed of something they did. I can certainly understand that. One or two times I can understand...but people these days, it's ridiculous the number of random hookups people do.

I'm probably far more conservative than the average male though so likely that most guys you know/meet will not think this way. Heck even on THIS forum, I seem to be the only person this conservative (and most Asians are more conservative...well not Asian Americans...)

By the way, how do you guys do the copy previous comments things into little boxes?
For the most part, I do agree with you. Somebody who's not interested in me as a person and just wants to fuck is obviously not worth my time... unless I'm just looking for a quick fuck, too. :rolleyes: But when I find somebody who I think really is interested in more than just ass, I will listen to what they have to say about their number of sex partners and their reasoning as to why I should disregard it... that is, if they want to tell me. I've never been one to ask about past partners... I only ask that they get themselves routinely checked for STD's and that there must be a 100% complete honesty policy about getting extra booty on the side. For cleanliness reasons.

I agree that it's pretty ridiculous the way some people slut themselves around, but sometimes the number of how many people they slept with doesn't necessarily mean they've been slutting themselves around.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by amietron@Oct 22 2002, 04:32 PM
for now, i'm all about the 5 finger rule.

I think the pressure is worse for girls. If you don't have sex, you're a prude or a lesbian; if you do, you're a slut.i'm not a lesbian or a slut. i don't think i'm prude, either.
Werd. I know that, beb. I'm saying, though, the pressure isn't much different for guys than it is for girls. If you don't have sex, it feels like you're being denied membership into some club. Well, not now, I guess. Lately people have been pretty good about giving props to people who want to save it. *Sometimes* I think the roles are beginning to even out a little more, now too. Sure, if you fuck around a lot, guys label you a slut. Girls, too. But it's starting to change, I think. I think there's times when a girl scores a lot and is given props for it. *Rolls eyes* People care about the stupidest things, don't you think...?

[wylin]

but angel sex and chasity arent stupid things to everyone atleast to me its some insight to the character of a girl. Or how emotionally stable or unstable she is, and where her religious beliefs lie. To be i prefer some more chaste, then eroticized, sumone more innocent and naive then used and grizzled and as a man i and human being i have my right to be picky and disagree.

To me whats shez done is important, the reasons and times for, i'd rather not have a woman whose been used and abused because like a used car her motor/ mind will be beat up from the abuse and she'll have random problems like a beat up used car. If shez been driven right and cared for i dont mind a quality used car hence forth non-virgin girl. My belief is people dont want a car thats been boosted and VTEC kicked in many times and her valves and drivetran are tired...the annology means b4 ppl misunderstand is psychological abuse and attachment. Many times girls just give it up because their expected to serve their partner sexualy and society itself has influenced that status and availibility of chaste women.

Abstinence i recomend for those who wish to choose that path and as a guy i give mad props to girls who have kept abistinent or just limited their sexual activity. Not an easy thing, takes alota self confidence and strength a whole lot more then spreaden them and hoping on for a ride because of being pressured, perversion, or hedonistic desire.

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by amietron@Oct 22 2002, 11:44 AM
Originally posted by bluecollarjap@Oct 22 2002, 08:33 AM
i'll be the first to admit i'm a jerk, male whore, mimbo, but i have my standards. i'm really up front about sex. i want to know everything and i tell everything. i have this dilemma, i'm a horn dog but have an issue about cleanliness. i will not have sex with a girl until i'm sure everything is kosher. and when i do, its with every protection known to man. i have never had unprotected sex even when the girl insisted she was on the pill. but do i care how many partners she had. no, unless like chasiubao_boy said if she was on "World's Greatest Gangbang."
maan. that "jap" in your sn doesn't help us very much since westerners already think of pictures like this -
http://users.bigpond.net.au/xeyr/circum/shrine.jpg

when they think of japan. that, and all sorts of crazy porn stuff, not only with real people but even anime. then you add in the geishas, and the list goes on..
I almost fell off my seat... :lol: :lol: :lol: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHAH


Oh the horror. It looks like an overcooked microwaved hot dog. pshhahahhaha... I can't breathe... Amie, what the hell was that for?



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[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 22 2002, 06:52 PM
but angel sex and chasity arent stupid things to everyone atleast to me its some insight to the character of a girl. Or how emotionally stable or unstable she is, and where her religious beliefs lie. To be i prefer some more chaste, then eroticized, sumone more innocent and naive then used and grizzled and as a man i and human being i have my right to be picky and disagree.

To me whats shez done is important, the reasons and times for, i'd rather not have a woman whose been used and abused because like a used car her motor/ mind will be beat up from the abuse and she'll have random problems like a beat up used car. If shez been driven right and cared for i dont mind a quality used car hence forth non-virgin girl. My belief is people dont want a car thats been boosted and VTEC kicked in many times and her valves and drivetran are tired...the annology means b4 ppl misunderstand is psychological abuse and attachment. Many times girls just give it up because their expected to serve their partner sexualy and society itself has influenced that status and availibility of chaste women.

Abstinence i recomend for those who wish to choose that path and as a guy i give mad props to girls who have kept abistinent or just limited their sexual activity. Not an easy thing, takes alota self confidence and strength a whole lot more then spreaden them and hoping on for a ride because of being pressured, perversion, or hedonistic desire.
If a girl has been in love before she falls in love with you, it doesn't mean she loves you any less. If a girl has slept with a man she loved before she loved you, it doesn't mean she loves you any less. If a girl has slept with a man she loves, it doesn't make her emotionally unstable, eroticized, used, or abused. It makes her comfortable with herself, with her sexuality, and able to trust the man she loves.

I see what you're saying about the difference between a girl who's a non-virgin, but treated right, and a girl who's been slutting herself out. I think I've addressed that several times, and even mentioned it to you in our IM conversation. There is a huge difference, and I'll respect whatever decision you make, but I'll warn you not to write somebody off immediately when you don't know their past. And just because a girl chooses not to tell you her past doesn't mean it's bad. It means it's personal.

On a similar note, I think most people DO limit their sexual activity. Will, even I limit my sexual activity. So not everybody who has sex has sex 24 hours a day and with anybody they see.



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[wylin]

lol yes i do know ppl limit their activity to special friends and lovers and the times. please angel dont think im like 15 and learning sex ed and in their budding relationship. :ph34r: i've had enuff experiences and girlfriends to know what i want, because im getting old also. i have changed my views from when i was ur age and moderated them a bit more because i general have become more conservative and mature... Knowing is half the battle.

love is relative i think real love is ellusive, lust is easy, infatuation is easy but real love and aspects of commitment and maturity that goes past just sexual matters but like i say always it plays a part. And everything in a persons past experience influences how they think and feel therefore influencing what they see love as. I want sumone whose moderate and really isnt controlled by animalistic desires and the I want idealology i want sumone who understands a godly way to love and live. rather then spending more time on her back staring at the stars and moaning. Those are my idealistic views and so far my pickiness has worked and kept me pretty happy. so to each his own. :dance:

i write ppl off all the time in general because really they dont class up to my standards. Its just like car parts do i want an inferior quality part to use no i dont i want a nice and quality unit and maybe its used a little.

its funny tho i mean in general u act as if i dont know anything. i know alot i pretend to not. Works better and suprises are fun are my attitude.

girls are like cars good analogy!



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[amietron]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 22 2002, 01:56 PM
girls are like cars good analogy!
it's great, will.

the whole used car parts/used car thing works for the most part, but there are people who love old cars like 69 chevys.

[amietron]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Oct 22 2002, 11:33 AM
I almost fell off my seat... &nbsp;:lol: &nbsp;:lol: &nbsp;:lol: &nbsp;HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHAH


Oh the horror. &nbsp;It looks like an overcooked microwaved hot dog. &nbsp; pshhahahhaha... I can't breathe... Amie, what the hell was that for?
yeah. look here, too. ;) http://farstrider.net/Japan/Festivals/HounenMatsuri/

[karizma]

>> wow reading this gave me a fatty headache...

>> but for the most part i totally agree with angel...a person goes through a lot of changes in her lifetime and to write off a girl simply because she has had more sexual partners in her past than youd like her to is wrong in my opinion because maybe she wants a change in her life and is ready to settle down with someone who she thinks would treat her right?

>> although if she's had a history of cheating maybe that would give you reason to be a little more hesitant about hooking up...idenno man...my brain stopped working after the first sentence haha...

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by wylin@Oct 22 2002, 09:56 PM
lol yes i do know ppl limit their activity to special friends and lovers and the times. please angel dont think im like 15 and learning sex ed and in their budding relationship. :ph34r: i've had enuff experiences and girlfriends to know what i want, because im getting old also. i have changed my views from when i was ur age and moderated them a bit more because i general have become more conservative and mature... Knowing is half the battle.

love is relative i think real love is ellusive, lust is easy, infatuation is easy but real love and aspects of commitment and maturity that goes past just sexual matters but like i say always it plays a part. And everything in a persons past experience influences how they think and feel therefore influencing what they see love as. I want sumone whose moderate and really isnt controlled by animalistic desires and the I want idealology i want sumone who understands a godly way to love and live. rather then spending more time on her back staring at the stars and moaning. Those are my idealistic views and so far my pickiness has worked and kept me pretty happy. so to each his own. :dance:

i write ppl off all the time in general because really they dont class up to my standards. Its just like car parts do i want an inferior quality part to use no i dont i want a nice and quality unit and maybe its used a little.

its funny tho i mean in general u act as if i dont know anything. i know alot i pretend to not. Works better and suprises are fun are my attitude.

girls are like cars good analogy!
*Shrug* I don't think you're like 15 and just learning about sex ed or whatever. But sometimes I get the feeling that you think that just 'cuz I'm younger than you, I don't know what I'm talking about. All your "when I was your age" crap doesn't mean much. When you were my age, times were different. When my boy was my age, things were REALLLLLY different. Just 'cuz you guys are older doesn't mean I'm stupid or something.

I just keep saying that I KNOW what you're talking about. You want somebody who isn't all crazy, I already KNOW this. But I'm just trying to keep you from being too close minded. Sometimes people aren't who you orignally think they are. It bothers me because church people, like you, always hated me back in high school. And I mean they HAAAAAAAATED me. If you knew me well, you'd wonder why. I never said a single bad thing about ANYBODY. There were a lot of rumors flying around and a LOT of backstabbing going on... so it would really really upset me when people wrote me off as a SLUT. Even though I'd only slept with ONE guy. Just goes to show that people are stupid. They think they know me because they know my name... All I was trying to say is that people aren't always the way you percieve them to be. But in the case that you DO get to know someone who really IS a disgusting skank, I'll be MORE than happy to help you take out the garbage.

And I'd like to think it's the entire car as a whole, and not the individual parts, that makes it a good buy.

[wylin]

sumtimes sum cars are doomed to fail i rather not be partnered w/ one prone to failure same goes for girls whats the point i dont like wasting my time.

[himura-dono]

as far as number of partners, i have a shadier past than any girl or guy i've ever met. i had problems, but for those reasons, i can understand why people do what they do.

i would never judge another person, unless it was more like they were just being a skank or a fuggin hound.

i was scared to death when i told my fianceé my past. she was quiet the whole time, and it went on for hours. she asked me why i did it. she was understanding and felt that although i had been passed around to more girls than a doobie in the 60's, it was ok.

2 yrs later, we're still happy and discovering new things.

i think it's best to judge on a case by case basis, and only if it really makes u feel uncomfortable. each person will have their own feelings on the matter and it should be respected whether we agree with it or not. it's not going to change how they feel. it's better to be able to understand from their perspective, offer understanding of your perspective, and hopefully both be able to accept both ideologies.

just my two fen.

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by himura-dono@Oct 22 2002, 06:46 PM
as far as number of partners, i have a shadier past than any girl or guy i've ever met.
That's cause you don't know bun boy really well yet.

bun boy = Chasiubao boy

[himura-dono]

i dunno, maybe you need to read my other post about having *edited for content*. x_X

if bun boy has done that and stuff that beats anything else i've done in stupidity, he wins.



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[deez nuts]

Originally posted by himura-dono@Oct 23 2002, 02:58 AM
i dunno, maybe you need to read my other post about having *edited for content*. x_X

if bun boy has done that and stuff that beats anything else i've done in stupidity, he wins.
Don't view it as a competition from my end. It's all good. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do, ya know what I'm sayin?


**Chants: MILF...MILF....MILF**

[ChinaLama]

Originally posted by bluecollarjap@Oct 22 2002, 05:43 PM
Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Oct 22 2002, 05:38 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Oct 22 2002, 12:31 PM
you know, the whole sex sex sex kinky kinky kinky aspect of japanese.

Unfortunately no, I've never experienced it firsthand :cry:
idon't think its any different. people think japanese men are pervs. not true, culture allows them to be more vocal about it. like some drunk salary man can say to his buddies, look at that sweet ass. similar to what american men could get away with back in the 50s. also my sister has told me that italian men are worse. get on public transportation and they'll grind against you and make comments about your body. she always carried a spiky umbrella in italy.
hmm i always that the Japanese were more repressed about sex, and weren't open about it cuz of tradition, and that's why they have such a huge and quite extreme sex culture on the other side. But shrugz, never woulda guessed Japan is actually more open that America about it. If that's the case, thanks for shattering one of my stereotypes. :D

of course being a Chinese commie wannabe, I'm obligated to scream death to the Japanese empire regardless. :)

[pfc beansprout]

~just curious, if you were dating a girl, and she had somewhat of a 'past;'&nbsp; how many cats would u think is acceptable for your girl to be with before you feel too uncomfortable....




-yeah, i know it's a double standard....but plz answer honestly as much as u can... :confused:

[VV o n g B a]

past thread (http://forums.yellowworld.org/index.php?showtopic=2229&hl=)

[RasFarengi]

Well I know exactly how many, and I will leave it at that. hehe

[sOKaLiBoY]

<!--QuoteBegin-pfc beansprout+Jul 30 2003, 06:55 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (pfc beansprout @ Jul 30 2003, 06:55 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> ~just curious, if you were dating a girl, and she had somewhat of a 'past;' how many cats would u think is acceptable for your girl to be with before you feel too uncomfortable....




-yeah, i know it's a double standard....but plz answer honestly as much as u can... :confused: [/b][/quote]
honestly if it's 5 or under, i'm koo with it. however i've never gotten down with a girl that wasn't a virgin. so i guess i don't know how i would really feel.

[BeTheReds]

Well I don't ask.&nbsp; Sometimes they will tell me anyway, but I usually don't ask.&nbsp; I'll wonder about it, and I will care about it, but i guess it isn't that important.&nbsp; If it is more than me I will be slightly bothered, but that's okay.&nbsp; Cuz then I have to try my best to be the best and make her forget about all those other dudes.&nbsp; And even if I fail, I still get to have orgasms.&nbsp; SWEET!

I've been asked before and when I tell her and she starts throwing a hissyfit I just remind her that she asked. And would it be better to lie to her or to be perfectly honest?

[himura-dono]

i think in the end, now that this has been resurrected, i wouldn't care how many, just&nbsp; as long as she's clean.

[DragonKnight]

Hey, as long as she's not carrying any contagious diseases, I'm all for it.&nbsp; I don't exactly have a shining past so why judge. :P

[RasFarengi]

I don't exactly have a shining past so why judge


I don't have a shining past either, but she better have one. haha Yeah that's sexist... :P&nbsp;

[DragonKnight]

<!--QuoteBegin-RasFarengi+Jul 30 2003, 12:29 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (RasFarengi @ Jul 30 2003, 12:29 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I don't have a shining past either, but she better have one. haha Yeah that's sexist... :P [/b][/quote]
To each their own. ;)

[mr. x]

dont nobody here want a virgin like me (am i this out of date?)

i mean really, if i were to find out the girl of my dream had been with other guys and that broke my heart this is my fault? well sure i cant change her past but a guy can hope right....

[AliBabaIncorporated]

<!--QuoteBegin-mr. x+Jul 30 2003, 07:23 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (mr. x @ Jul 30 2003, 07:23 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> dont nobody here want a virgin like me (am i this out of date?)

i mean really, if i were to find out the girl of my dream had been with other guys and that broke my heart this is my fault? well sure i cant change her past but a guy can hope right.... [/b][/quote]
Hell, I'd prefer a virgin. Of course, admitting so in female company gets ya labelled as an evil patriarchal sexist bastard with the medieval value of viewing women as property. And actually being able to find a virgin is another thing entirely. Oh yeah and the fact that if she hasn't had sex by our age, she's probably saving it for marriage.

[tommyhtown]

Chasing Amy is a classic movie with regard to this topic.

A girl's past doesn't really matter to me if we are talking strictly about her sexual experience.&nbsp; I prefer women who knows her way around in the bedroom anyway.&nbsp; &nbsp;

On the other hand in a serious relationship, her past could be a factor like who she used to date.&nbsp; what if she used to date your cousin?&nbsp; Or she is an ex-stripper (actually I dated one ex-stripper before her past profession is not really a factor).&nbsp; Her mom and your dad had an affair together.&nbsp; Her past becomes even more important if you are in a small community.

I guess my answer is yes.

[hooligan]

as long as we're talking about disease free, i'm good

[DragonKnight]

<!--QuoteBegin-dac+Jul 31 2003, 01:35 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (dac @ Jul 31 2003, 01:35 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Well, I never asked my gf or ex(es) the number of partners she had but rule of thumb is she must NOT have more partners than ME. [/b][/quote]
Hehe, there goes half the women in your area. :lol:

Just playin. ;)

[Fireblade]

<!--QuoteBegin-tommyhtown+Jul 30 2003, 11:50 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (tommyhtown @ Jul 30 2003, 11:50 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Chasing Amy is a classic movie with regard to this topic. [/b][/quote]
Wow. I would recommend everyone to watch this too.

As in regards for her past, it would depend on how I strongly I feel for this particular individual. After watching the movie, I felt like if I was caught in a situation like that, I wouldn't judge, but I know deep inside I would. Although things that have been done in the past, I know it would bug me inside also. But then again I'm not a clean slate.

Chances are, I would care about her past. If it's negligable, I would not press on the issue. But if it bugs me, then the relationship is doomed. Sad to say, but it's the truth.

Hopefully that will never be an issue with me. Hopefully.

[mr. x]

i can understand what u folks are saying about experience, but i would prefer she EXPERIENCE with me

[Eros]

Yes!&nbsp; I'm not the only one who was thinking about Chasing Amy while I read this (of course, it doesn't help that I just watched that again this past weekend).&nbsp; Anyway, I really wouldn't care about a person's past.&nbsp; Well, I would like to know they got checked recently for STIs and admit to any children they might have, but aside from that I don't care.&nbsp; It's not like I've exactly been innocent in my past so I can't judge.&nbsp; In fact, experience is kind of nice because then they know what they like sexually and, as chasing amy said, they've tried it and decided that us is what they want.

Heheh...&nbsp; the whole virgin thing reminds me of Hooper from the movie.&nbsp; "All the boys need to feel like they're Marco Fucking Polo when it comes to sex."&nbsp; Then his line about always playing into their fantasies and tell them the truth when he's bored with them.&nbsp;&nbsp; :lol: