Partying solo

[noname]

Do you any of you also do it? Ever? Often?

I do find it easier to do (i.e. I'm more comfortable) in clubs than in other places (like those mentioned in one of kasia's threads). I was reminded of that when I went to a lounge for a college alumni happy hour last night, but at least things got better when I saw a few people I knew later on.
Clubbing solo is all good for me because I can come and go whenever I want, and I usually like to be in a place from start to finish (and I'm not in Boston, with its city-wide 2 am closing!), or at least be able to hear every record thrown down by the featured DJ.
In any case, when you're solo, do you find some kinds of places easier to enjoy than others? Are other places more enjoyable when you have company?

Maybe if I can hone my skills in striking up conversations with strangers of the opposite sex, I could enjoy bars more when going solo. Is that the case for those who are more skilled?



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[angel nympho]

^-- I feel LESS comfortable. I mean, then there's all this pressure to go out there and "mingle."

[bigwong235]

and I'm not in Boston, with its city-wide 2 am closing!

oi! that's san francisco...

umm, yeah i'm not too good w/the going out and partying/clubbing solo scene... i always have to hang out w/some friends. i feel wayyyy too uncomfortable trying to meet new ppl. much too shy. although, i do feel more comfortable dancing by myself... must improve people skills...



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[kasia]

can't say i've done it before. but i would like to just for the experience.

[amietron]

am i the only one who has never done any partying and such?

[kasia]

Originally posted by amietron@Sep 15 2002, 08:40 PM
am i the only one who has never done any partying and such?
you're also one of the youngest members in the forum, amie. i never went clubbing when i was your age.

[karizma]

>> partying alone? 0_o...ive never heard of anyone doing this. i dont think i could ever do it, im a little on the shy side and id probably feel VERY uncomfortable seeing everyone else talking with their friends while i sit there alone sipping a drink. id also be a little self conscious about what everybody else was thinking about me...*shrug* i usually go out with at least 4 er 5 people.

>> amie dont tell me youve never in your life been to a party!...geez you gotta come out with me sometime haha.

[deez nuts]

I would think more guys would approach you if you're there alone.

[karizma]

>> why would i want guys at a club to approach me 0_o.

[noname]

Would it be different if you knew that people you knew would be also be there, whether planned or not?

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by karizma@Sep 15 2002, 10:00 PM
>> why would i want guys at a club to approach me 0_o.
because that's what some guys do. And maybe with you not being with a group of friends, might seem less intimidating for the guy to approach you. Seems feasible.

[noname]

Originally posted by bigwong235@Sep 15 2002, 05:09 AM
and I'm not in Boston, with its city-wide 2 am closing!

oi! that's san francisco...

umm, yeah i'm not too good w/the going out and partying/clubbing solo scene... i always have to hang out w/some friends. i feel wayyyy too uncomfortable trying to meet new ppl. much too shy. although, i do feel more comfortable dancing by myself... must improve people skills...
I see from 1015's site that they're open sometimes til 7 am. Is that the only place open so late in SF?
Too bad for some that it's 21+

btw, Did anyone catch Armin van Buuren there last Friday? (too bad I didn't know about it until now, otherwise I would have said something before)
In any case, catch Ferry Corsten, coming up this Friday
You can find a video of him in Japan at http://www.eurodancehits.com

Actually, Boston had an afterhours club called Rise, which was open from 2:30 to 6, but to enter, you either had to be a member or come with a member. Unfortunately, it closed after a fire.

When I'm by myself, I usually spend most of the time just dancing.

[bigwong235]

I see from 1015's site that they're open sometimes til 7 am. Is that the only place open so late in SF?
Too bad for some that it's 21+


yup... that's me alright.

yeah, and i heard on the radio that ferry corsten is going to be there on friday... just 3 more years to wait to see some talent.

[thaite]

I got too many friends who are married, mortgage and some with kids so their in the rent-a-movie-and-stay-at-home mentality. I'm single and I rent a friggin' movie any time I want, so yes. I go out by myself every now and then.

I pretty much like to find a place and stick there for the night. I never really like hopping, esp. if I was driving. The less driving the better, as least where I'm at -- there's too much distance between clubs.

But if it were Vegas, well, I'd be all over the place.



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[kimpossible]

I've gone out to have a drink before solo. The problem is when a woman is solo (as in no girlfriends either) the freaks really hone in on it.

[achtungbaby]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Sep 20 2002, 11:52 AM
I've gone out to have a drink before solo. The problem is when a woman is solo (as in no girlfriends either) the freaks really hone in on it.
Like you didn't know this before you went out :D

[tapestrybabe]

i've been to dance clubs by myself. and sometimes its easier to go by myself than with others... cuz you dont have to worry if the other person.. is enjoying themselves or not... and you really cant have any meaningful conversations in dance clubs anyways... and yeah, you can stay or go as you please...

but i've attended like social events that have taken place at bars and what not.. by myself.. and i find thats more difficult... cuz you than have to try to mingle... and i always end up mostly just drinking my drink by myself.. hoping someone will approach me first...



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[Jenny]

I'm so chicken, I would never go to a club solo... First off, because I'm a female it's always good to have some sort of buddy system. But also, I would just be self-concious of looking like a loner or something. I dunno, I'm the kind of person who always has to have someone with me for me to feel comfortable in public situations.

[LeahLe]

I would feel so awkward If I go solo to a club. I don't know how to free myself when all the guys begin to hit on me..usually my friends and I have this system to rescue each another if we get trap in such a situation. When I'm alone I wouldn't know how to say "Get Lost You Drunkard" or brave enough to say no.......*sigh* then I'll be left with some guy with some lame ass pick-up lines.

[537]

I went on a cruise with my s.o. not too long ago. It was late, she was tired, and I wanted a beer so I went to a lounge. I think that counts as partying when you're old and practically married, right?

:cry:

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by 537@Dec 31 2002, 10:24 AM
I went on a cruise with my s.o. not too long ago. It was late, she was tired, and I wanted a beer so I went to a lounge. I think that counts as partying when you're old and practically married, right?

:cry:
:cry:

[Chris]

I usually club solo and then meet my whole bunch of freinds there. LOL

[terence]

i don't mind going to a club by myself if i've been there before and i know there's a good atmosphere. it's all about the music, remember? when i was in london, i went by myself to a few clubs. nobody i was traveling with was into clubbing...so i went on my own! had a blast!

[teaz0r]

i go out by myself all the time. after work. i go for a drink at a bar/club. doesn't really matter. yeah it's easier when you're a regular there. but i don't mind going to a spankin' new club alone either. done that a couple of times. normally to get buddy buddy with the bartender so i can get me an extra splash of whisky when i'm having my neats.

i guess i don't really care if i'm there alone or not. i always end up meeting people. and it's not like when i go with my friends we talk or whatever...for me it's the same. go to a club. drink. dance. and go home either alone or not alone. o.O

[iris]

I don't because I think it's dangerous. There are some shady people on the club circuit and nyc isn't exactly the safest place at night. Plus, it's more fun with friends. :dance:

[pfc beansprout]

no way....would be boring goin by myself..the fellas would make things 'interesting' to say the least....we are all goofballs. besides, dangerous too...too many hardasses frontin on you at the club scene (hate to say it, but asian club scene especially).....can't we just all chill at one place w/o fights busted out? <_<

[ellsworth81]

i always thought the social perception of the purpose of clubbing/partying was to pick up members of the opposite sex.... not for the music or dancing. it's kinda weird seeing a pack of guys roaming around a party or club in my mind ... gives them a wolfish kind of appearance rather than a "lets dance/listen to music".

i guess you can go for the atmosphere ... but i'd feel too pressured to mingle, talk the talk with the girls, buy drinks, blah blah ... if i wanted to unwind, i could sit on my ass in the comfort of my own home and spin my own musics.

[pfc beansprout]

wolfish appearance??? nah...we're hyenas!!!!!!! heheh :D

[ricecakes]

Well there's a difference between going to a party and going to a club alone.

Clubing, for me, is to hard to go at it alone! With the music all the way up its hard to mingle.

But if it's like a house party, or some other type of gathering I might be able to have a good time. =P

I dunno that's just my 2 cents

[amietron]

I know somebody who is partying solo toniiiiiiiight :!

[bigwong235]

Originally posted by amietron@Jan 17 2003, 11:40 AM
I know somebody who is partying solo toniiiiiiiight :!
watch out everyone! here i come!! :D

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