are you anorexic?

[kasia]

i was, in high school. but definitely not anymore.

[princess]

no. ive had a lot of people tell me im fat ...and i am fat compared to some of my friends...but i try not to let it shake me. i weigh about 100. i still eat whatever i want, whenever i want. i wanna enjoy life. and i know when im on dates that my guy wants me to eat. same goes for me when i go out with friends. its no fun if im the only one eating. it does hurt to have people tell me that i need to lose weight .... :(

[Saiko]

My mom tells me I'm fat all the time. So I stopped eating for a week or so, and then went back to eating but I felt bad about it all the time. I still do. I'd finish food and be like "god damnit". I'm trying to get from 110lbs to 100lbs. Somebody told me that was underweight for me, but for some stupid reason, that's how I want it to be. Geez. What's wrong with me? o_O

[SunWuKong]

jeez how tall are you two?

[karizma]

>> 100lbs is fat??? geez how tall are you 4'5"??? im 5'1" and 103lbs and ive never been called fat well...not seriously anyways...im kinda thick but its all good...im fine with the way i look, weights never really been an issue for me and until my metabolism slows down when im like 20 something it probably wont be

[angelnympho]

i dont have the discipline to be anorexic. its too hard.

[princess]

5'3. i dont think im fat...it juss pisses me off that people tell me i am. really wears me down...

[SunWuKong]

[quote:9d024feac1="princess"]5'3. i dont think im fat...it juss pisses me off that people tell me i am. really wears me down...[/quote:9d024feac1]


5'3" 100 lbs? i don't see how people would think you're fat. anyway even if they do, don't take it too personally. i mean if you're not really worrying about your weight, it really shouldn't bother you what people say.

[Saiko]

People who tell you you're fat are crazy, Princess. I'm 5'3" and 109lbs. It'd be nice to be 100lbs. Aren't you already underweight though? I'm confused.

[PnaiAqui]

[quote:216794ebdd="princess"]5'3. i dont think im fat...it juss pisses me off that people tell me i am. really wears me down...[/quote:216794ebdd]


Don't let other people push you down. Moreover, don't let others dictate how they want you to live your life. You set your own standards, not them. They can say whatever they want to say, but in the end it's still your view... your thought or opinion that counts. You know yourself better than any other Pontius Pilate. You know the [b:216794ebdd]truth[/b:216794ebdd]... and, that is you're not fat.

[CrX3183]

Not to be mean or anything... Wouldn't want u want to be more thinner than fat because it would take more work to lose the weight then gain it right????

[karizma]

>> " happy to be thick "....there was a point where i wanted to gain weight? why? because i wanted to be stronger...i wanted muscle not flab...but i still want to look feminine. so i guess ill just settle for really toned. ^_^... princess is nowhere near fat....tell everyone who says that to shove a stick up their ass =D

[CrX3183]

Ouch!!! *stands up to podium* to all out there, princess is not fat at all she's damn near perfect...

[princess]

haha u guys (and gals) are all so sweet...but yeah...i didnt post up my comment to try to get people to reaffirm the fact that im not in need of losing any weight =)

[quote:6bd7d25fcd="SunWuKung"] 5'3" 100 lbs? i don't see how people would think you're fat. anyway even if they do, don't take it too personally. i mean if you're not really worrying about your weight, it really shouldn't bother you what people say.[/quote:6bd7d25fcd]
true its just that hearing something over and over again can wear down ur self esteem, nevertheless. after a while of hearing it, slowly with each comment a small part of u becomes more inclined to believe it.

[quote:6bd7d25fcd="Saiko"] People who tell you you're fat are crazy, Princess. I'm 5'3" and 109lbs. It'd be nice to be 100lbs. Aren't you already underweight though? I'm confused.[/quote:6bd7d25fcd]

yeah i am underweight. i should weigh a bit more...around 110+ i just happen to hang around with a lot of girls that are bone thin. many of them are taller than me, so instead of weighing more they weigh about the same or less. u know the type, right?

[quote:6bd7d25fcd="PnaiAqui"]Don't let other people push you down. Moreover, don't let others dictate how they want you to live your life. You set your own standards, not them. They can say whatever they want to say, but in the end it's still your view... your thought or opinion that counts. You know yourself better than any other Pontius Pilate. You know the truth ... and, that is you're not fat.[/quote:6bd7d25fcd]

=) thanks, girl. very true, i know. im not one to make myself go on diets or try and conform to someone elses standard of what weight thin really is. thanks for the words of encourgement.

[quote:6bd7d25fcd="karizma"]>> " happy to be thick "....there was a point where i wanted to gain weight? why? because i wanted to be stronger...i wanted muscle not flab...but i still want to look feminine. so i guess ill just settle for really toned. ^_^... princess is nowhere near fat....tell everyone who says that to shove a stick up their ass =D[/quote:6bd7d25fcd]

yep i wanna get toned, too. as for the ass comment...jae the protector..hehe my womans the best!! =)

[deez nuts]

Yeah just be happy with yourself. So long as you're not overweight to the point of obesity and underweight to the point of anoxeric. I mean 5'1-5'5 around 105-120 is fine.

Don't listen to anyone else.

[mizkisses]

my dad thinks i'm anorexic. all he does is try to feed me. bleh.

[krissy]

Wow, reading all of these posts makes me feel really uncomfortable. It concerns me that people worry so much about their (or other people's - which makes no sense to me) weight. I don't believe in weighing myself, but as of the last time it had to be done (doctor's office), I think I weighed maybe 10 pounds less than some guys I know. I'm 5'4" and I wear a 6 and I'm fine with it. My body's not perfect - there are definitely changes that could be made to make it more aesthetically pleasing to other people - but why should I care? As long as I feel healthy and I still fit in my clothes (way too expensive to buy a whole new wardrobe!), I'm happy. Besides, I'd much rather have something to grab than to be all skin & bones. ;)

[kasia]

Originally posted by "Krissy"][color=red:8c2d747e50]Wow@reading all of these posts makes me feel really uncomfortable. It concerns me that people worry so much about their (or other people's - which makes no sense to me) weight. I don't believe in weighing myself, but as of the last time it had to be done (doctor's office), I think I weighed maybe 10 pounds less than some guys I know. I'm 5'4" and I wear a 6 and I'm fine with it. My body's not perfect - there are definitely changes that could be made to make it more aesthetically pleasing to other people - but why should I care? [/color:8c2d747e50


werd.


[quote:8c2d747e50="Krissy"][color=red:8c2d747e50]As long as I feel healthy and I still fit in my clothes (way too expensive to buy a whole new wardrobe!), I'm happy. Besides, I'd much rather have something to grab than to be all skin & bones. ;)[/color:8c2d747e50][/quote:8c2d747e50]

although that's why i'm trying to lose weight. i outgrew all my clothes in one year and i don't have money to buy new clothes. :wink:

[SunWuKong]

well there is a difference though, between keeping yourself from being overweight and being anorexic. a person obviously has psychological issues when s/he is statistically underweight, but yet thinks that she is overweight. but on the other hand, i don't think it is particularly healthy for a person who is statistically overweight or even obese to be perfectly comfortable with his body and think that he does not need to lose weight.

[CrX3183]

hey how can u type in red????

[Saiko]

[code:1:c1f2a27041][color=red]Text[/color][/code:1:c1f2a27041]
Nothing to it.

[krissy]

[quote:2721948938="SunWuKung"]well there is a difference though, between keeping yourself from being overweight and being anorexic. a person obviously has psychological issues when s/he is statistically underweight, but yet thinks that she is overweight. but on the other hand, i don't think it is particularly healthy for a person who is statistically overweight or even obese to be perfectly comfortable with his body and think that he does not need to lose weight.[/quote:2721948938]

[color=red:2721948938]I agree that it is not healthy for t ruly overweight/obese people to ignore their weight if it is a problem - but these people don't sound remotely obese to me. Nor does it appear (or at least I hope) that they've reached the extremes of anorexia. It 's just that a lot of women unnecessarily have sort of twisted perceptions of their bodies - which isn't healthy either.[/color:2721948938]

[princess]

[quote:7a7f5c7d79="Krissy"]

[color=red:7a7f5c7d79]I agree that it is not healthy for t ruly overweight/obese people to ignore their weight if it is a problem - but these people don't sound remotely obese to me. Nor does it appear (or at least I hope) that they've reached the extremes of anorexia. It 's just that a lot of women unnecessarily have sort of twisted perceptions of their bodies - which isn't healthy either.[/color:7a7f5c7d79][/quote:7a7f5c7d79]

well we're all selfconscious to some extent. its hard to find the happy medium

[SaladShooter]

I have an eating disorder. :(

[angelnympho]

i dont care so much about how i look anymore. a real man will realize that that's not what im about. :P but i kinda like being on the meaty side... better than being all boney and awkward looking.

[deez nuts]

[quote:babc7d2a55="SaladShooter"]I have an eating disorder. :([/quote:babc7d2a55]

Are you seeking help?

[SunWuKong]

[quote:e05d58d4d5="angelnympho"]i dont care so much about how i look anymore. a real man will realize that that's not what im about. :P but i kinda like being on the meaty side... better than being all boney and awkward looking.[/quote:e05d58d4d5]

well, usually people wouldn't care until they actually gained alot of weight. and you're just starting college right? hehheh... watch out for the freshman 15 then.

[SaladShooter]

[quote:2789c5fc79="Chasiubao_Boy"][quote:2789c5fc79="SaladShooter"]I have an eating disorder. :([/quote:2789c5fc79]

Are you seeking help?[/quote:2789c5fc79]

Sometimes I want to, but I don't think I'm ready for it.

[SunWuKong]

[quote:3599365e6a="SaladShooter"][quote:3599365e6a="Chasiubao_Boy"][quote:3599365e6a="SaladShooter"]I have an eating disorder. :([/quote:3599365e6a]

Are you seeking help?[/quote:3599365e6a]

Sometimes I want to, but I don't think I'm ready for it.[/quote:3599365e6a]


are you underweight and is your weight steadily going down?

[deez nuts]

Whatever eating disorder you have, I suggest you start by talking to a counselor. They can be found in any area hospital near you. I'm not gonna ask you what eating disorder you have, because thats your perogative on whether or not you want to share it on an internet chat forum or any other personal aspects. But I would say this, if you feel you aren't ready to confront the problem head on, speak with a counselor. They will guide you and remember it is totally confidential (physician-patient confidentiality) and you don't have to do anything that you're not ready to do. Besides, it might be nice to have someone to talk to you in regards to your eating disorder. Hope it all works out for you and good luck.

[Green_Jade]

I like food too much to have an eating disorder... I'd give up and eat..or something. But my take on whole..dont eat anything bad for ya blah blah,... it's ok in moderation..life is too short to avoid the good things..even if they ARE bad for ya... gaa...i confused myself.

[terramera]

I have had weight issues in the past, I've taken diet pills, fasted, did unhealthy diets, checked my weight 1000x a day, was even bulimic for a while in college. It's hard out there, especially for Asian women because weight emphasized even more. I mean, my own mother would tell me things like, "You're so embarassingly fat" or "You better be careful or you won't find a boyfriend because you're so fat", etc.. Gee thanks mom. And I think, actually, I know I was underweight at the time (5' and 95 lbs) . I just got tired of obsessing over my weight. I would always think things like- if I was skinny my life would be better, or I'll have more boyfriends, or friends, or more of a social life. That is just ridiculous.

Anyways, now I just don't care anymore. I do the whole eating healthy and exercising thing instead of starving myself. And I don't weigh myself at all.

p.s. This is my first post!!

[princess]

Originally posted by terramera@Aug 13 2002, 08:41 AM
I have had weight issues in the past, I've taken diet pills, fasted, did unhealthy diets, checked my weight 1000x a day, was even bulimic for a while in college.  It's hard out there, especially for Asian women because weight emphasized even more.  I mean, my own mother would tell me things like, "You're so embarassingly fat" or "You better be careful or you won't find a boyfriend because you're so fat", etc.. Gee thanks mom. And I think, actually,  I know I was underweight at the time (5' and 95 lbs) .  I just got tired of obsessing over my weight.  I would always think things like- if I was skinny my life would be better, or I'll have more boyfriends, or friends, or more of a social life.  That is just ridiculous.

Anyways, now I just don't care anymore. I do the whole eating healthy and exercising thing instead of starving myself.  And I don't weigh myself at all.

p.s. This is my first post!!
glad to hear ur doing better when it comes to ur eating habits and how u see urself...

and on ur first post...congrats :)



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[kimpossible]

The total opposite of the freshman 15 happened to me. I actually lost a lot of weight in school. People accused me of being anorexic and looking back I realize I was underweight, but jeezus, wasn't my damn fault.

Now when I look at myself nekkid I think I want to weigh a toned 120-125lbs. I just didn't look good as a size 2. Too boney.

[artsfartsyjanet]

I'm 23, 5'4" (without shoes :) ) and 120 lbs. i work out 2-3 times a week consistently strength training and swimming. I don't consider my weight an issue because being toned actually maintains or slightly increases my weight. My metabolism's high, and I like food A LOT.... As far as junk food's concerned, I don't eat it that much. Same goes for fast food. I'll eat it from time to time, but I'd rather cook with fresh ingredients prepared in the convenience of my kitchen. I always enjoy having potlucks at my place. How else am I going to feed my guinea pigs... I mean my guests any of my concoctions! :D So, all of my friends come over with their own special recipe or contribution. So, it's hard for me to become anorexic b/c I could care less what society wants or what the media portrays is "beautiful".



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[kasia]

*bump*

[Jenny]

http://www.jennyhyun.tv/home/viewthread.php?tid=326

That's my little rant on people who claim to have or have had eating disorders... If you're offended by it, then I'm probably talking about you.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Jenny@Jan 1 2003, 12:26 AM
http://www.jennyhyun.tv/home/viewthread.php?tid=326

That's my little rant on people who claim to have or have had eating disorders... If you're offended by it, then I'm probably talking about you.
you have to register at the site to read the thread. can you just re-post it?

[Jenny]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Dec 31 2002, 10:08 PM
Originally posted by Jenny@Jan 1 2003, 12:26 AM
http://www.jennyhyun.tv/home/viewthread.php?tid=326

That's my little rant on people who claim to have or have had eating disorders... If you're offended by it, then I'm probably talking about you.
you have to register at the site to read the thread. can you just re-post it?
Does it seem like almost every girl in the world has an eating disorder? Half of the girls I've ever known swear they have or used to have either anorexia or bulimia. I get so annoyed when just because a person has an issue with their weight and vomited a couple times or starved themselves for a week, they think they've had it... It isn't an eating disorder, it's stupidity. I'm not trying to sound cold-hearted towards people who really have had an eating disorder, just to those who feel as if an eating disorder is something to be proud of and waved around like a banner. So how do you guys distinguish an eating disorder from just attention starvation.

[artsfartsyjanet]

obese people... thin people.
white..black..
have's... have-nots..
foreign... not foreign
diseased-- healthy
gay-- straight


Social constructions have a way of categorizing/naming/dividing people into their "perfect" little boxes in society. Once people create a label for two polar opposites, the next question one thinks or asks is, "which or who is better?" It's easy to stigmatize groups of being lesser of value than what is perceived as the standard or the "norm." Everything's relative and there are shades of gray, so to speak. Until we think that there's a duality in life rather than having this either-or thinking, the degree to how much we care about what the majority thinks is irrelevant, non-existent, or weighed less than our own view on our self-worth.

What someone thinks is fat, someone else may think is skinny. Who cares. The old saying goes, "can't make everyone happy." My motto is: be positive, healthy, and look forward.

[angel nympho]

I almost turned bulemic because I was too lazy to get out of bed and eat for a few days. When I finally got back to my normal schedule and activities, I kept throwing up whenever I ate cuz eating made me feel sick. LOL, but I don't think that really counts as an eating disorder...

[teaz0r]

not anorexic. but was bulimic in through high school and up till sophomore year of college.
had a rather abusive boyfriend at one point.
who made me eat protein powder, just so that if i don't workout i'd get fat.
after i grew a brain. that relationship ended.

as for now. i get into brainless moments and take the notorious bangkok diet pills.
i'd lose and average of 20lbs or so when i'm on it.
i'd also be pooping all day.

i was a size 0. now i accept that i'm not.
i can't be stick skinny either. cuz i don't want to lose my tits or ass.

this new year i started the atkins diet. just to see what everybody's raving about.
5'4 and 128lbs right now.
if i lose 8lbs or so. then good.
if not. then squeeze my fat.

[angel nympho]

I popped diet pills all through high school. They got me high, but I don't remember if I lost much weight. I think I did, but ended up getting all weak and weird.

I'm too lazy to change my eating habits. I'm not too lazy, though, to bitch and whine to everybody about my weight. Hehehe~

[iris]

I'm 5'3 and I fluctuate between 110 lbs and 120 lbs depending on how much I work out. Before I came to HK, I ran every morning at the gym and swam every other day. Now because the air is so bad here, I do yoga indoors. Muscle weighs so much more than fat and I am happy with my weight. For me, it's not about numbers. It's more about whether I can fit into my favorite jeans or whether I jiggle in not-so-good places when I walk. I think I was running to release tension and go to my "happy" place, not for weight loss. :)

My roommate and best friend in college suffered from bulemia and it stemed from insecurity, no matter that she was one of the prettiest and thinniest girls I've ever seen. She was maybe 5'6 and about 90-95 lbs at one point and still thought she was fat. Since high school, she would throw up after ever meal and go into depression at least once a week. It was really hard on her and our suite. We had to do an invervention for her and get her into counseling. After a year with a therapist, she started to get better. She will sometimes lapse, but at least now she understands it isn't healthy. It's a scary disease and it's horrible to watch someone waste away.

[Saiko]

Well, lately I've been feeling really shitty because I checked my weight and it came to 119lbs. I'm 5'3", and the last time I checked, I was 108lbs. I was scared that I'd get over 110, and now I'm very near 120lbs. To top it all off, my family has been calling me fat a lot. =\ Right now, I really want to lose 19lbs but don't know how. >_<

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Saiko@Jan 2 2003, 05:48 PM
Well, lately I've been feeling really shitty because I checked my weight and it came to 119lbs. I'm 5'3", and the last time I checked, I was 108lbs. I was scared that I'd get over 110, and now I'm very near 120lbs. To top it all off, my family has been calling me fat a lot. =\ Right now, I really want to lose 19lbs but don't know how. >_<
i think one of the reasons people get fat is that they eat when they shouldn't. try to pay careful attention when you eat, whether or not you're really hungry or not. eat only when you're hungry. and stop eating your meal if you're no longer hungry.

[wylin]

just do that one all meat diet, no carbs and run alot like jared from subway.

[wylin]

why not think about all the furry critters going into your mouth, ur helping the planet with its overpopulated biomass problem. I say eat only manly meats such as beef and pig, only eat it if it has 4 legs, and hoofs!

[wylin]

no actually one of me and sy's friends did that diet, our friend Jai Hoon, hez a big buff korean guy and he trimmed down and got more muscle mass w/ the jai no girly meats diet! basically for 5 months he only ate protein and very little carbs or greens, he ate only pork and beef and maybe sum french fries once in a while, oh and he ate lots of ground beef!

[wylin]

no he has other issues that precluded any BO issues, beats me i dont get that close to him physically sy and i have a funny story ask us one day bout a buff korean barbarian!

[applehead]

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

[mrazntre]

BO ?

BO has BO

[applehead]

BoBo. you have BO

[wylin]

awww couples talking in luby duby voices!

[angel nympho]

I didn't eat carbs for a month and I didn't run short on energy or have BO... I don't think...?

[lilomui]

i tried atkins diet and quit after...what, 2 days? NEVER going back to that diet again...its so gross, eat only protein...no greens,no carbs...sure itll helpu loose weight, but could you really stand eating that FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? atkins is a lifestyle change not a diet, so unless u could keep eating proteins it wont work for you.

ive always had a image problem...always, i dont even know WHY i have it. I remember in 6th grade already wanting to diet already...ive been on so many 'diet's i dont remember how many..among the hundreds, im not kidding. 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 grade..even right now im on diet, healthy diet.

the extreme days i use to...limit myself to around 400-600cal a day, i know that cuz i still have a book i kept track of my record..if anything >500 id freak out. I lost a lot of weight doing that, lowest weight ive even been (not even that low either...125->110 in 2-3 months) but im 5'5...its quite noticable.

obiously gained it all back in a month or so, cuz i love food, so switched to bulimic and did that on off for 2-3 years...didnt loose weight, and if i did i gained it all back.

what i learned from all this, i regret it so much. ANybodyout there that has bulimia or anorexia..you're going to regret it so much later, please dont start, and dont continue...but if u dont listen, i understand, ive done that before too =\.

the only diet that has ever worked and has ever succesfully managed to maintain a healthy figure is when i ate healthy and EXERCISED...yes, thats the only diet that will work...any diet gimmick is a joke, if it works its only going to be temporary...those diet pills, any blah blah soup diets are all jokes.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by lilomui@Jan 4 2003, 05:05 PM
atkins is a lifestyle change not a diet, so unless u could keep eating proteins it wont work for you.
well, if you're serious about keeping fit or losing weight, it's still a lifestyle change. people say diets don't work because they want to lose too much too quickly. it took you some time to put on the weight, it's going to take you some time to lose it.

[applehead]

there are sites on the internet that's run by aneroxic girls who are proud of their disease. they claim it's not an illness.. but a lifestyle.

they post up pictures.. it's disturbing.

[SunWuKong]

hmmm
fiona is back
and meena is gone

[applehead]

i don't know how you people do it.
it was really weird seeing my face there...

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 5 2003, 04:46 AM
hmmm
fiona is back
and meena is gone
Yea

One of them is way hotter than the other one ^^ :P

[lethal]

Aww...I liked seeing Meena.

[SunWuKong]

i vote to have meena back
who's with me?

[applehead]

=)

[kasia]

Originally posted by lilomui@Jan 4 2003, 02:05 PM
what i learned from all this, i regret it so much. Anybodyout there that has bulimia or anorexia..you're going to regret it so much later, please dont start, and dont continue...but if u dont listen, i understand, ive done that before too =\.
well, what were the specific effects of bulemia and anorexia on you? and what exactly made you finally decide that a normal healthy diet was the only way to go?

btw, thanks for sharing your experience with us...

[kasia]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 4 2003, 07:36 PM
there are sites on the internet that's run by aneroxic girls who are proud of their disease. they claim it's not an illness.. but a lifestyle.

they post up pictures.. it's disturbing.
do you still have the links?

i guess i used to think that anorexia was more of a lifestyle than a disease. part of it had to do with my dancing (chinese ballet). our teacher would always notice and announce it to everyone when any of us gained even a point. seriously, she would notice if we gained half a pound. it wasn't entirely the chastising that made us weight conscious. a lot of it had to do with competition, too -- the teacher would favor the skinniest girls and choose them for certain parts even if they weren't exactly better dancers. the incentive was clear - as soon as you started losing weight, you would get more and more parts in performances.

i gave up fast food completely in 8th grade because of dance. the only time i remember really eating a burger in high school was when four other girls from my dance troupe and i took a break during practice and to carl's jr. or bk (??). anyhow, the 5 of us shared a whopper jr. it was kinda neat - like tasting a burger for the first time. (even though i had my share of fast food in elementary school and jr. high.) if you don't eat certain foods for a while, you stop craving them.

anyhow, guys, what's in it for meena if she puts her picture back up? :)

[lilomui]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 5 2003, 04:37 PM
well, what were the specific effects of bulemia and anorexia on you? and what exactly made you finally decide that a normal healthy diet was the only way to go?

btw, thanks for sharing your experience with us...
bulimia
one of them is my teeth.
they have becoming eroding...not to the point of decay and those really serious ones, but i can tell that the roots of my teeth are a little deeper then they should be...
so, if you guys want your teeth to be pulled out, go for bulimia!

anorexia
was always short on breath, always cold...and my heart beat was always irregular...i had to keep catching my breath, ppl around me would ask me whats wrong and ill be like 'nth..fine'

i once had a very, very scary experience. panic attack...
one night, my heart started pounding very, very loudly, and very fast
i was short of breath, felt like i was having a heart attack
so i layed in my bed and started relaxing...relaxing...took about 10minutes for me to calm down...the next day, i searched online for symtoms and found out its a panic attack...the experience is unforgettable.

what made me finally decide to a normal diet is FEAR. I am scared of my teeth eroding any more, so i am completely afraid of bullimia now...and anorexia, i dont trust them now...i read a lot of books on health and all that crap, to the point that its sinked into my mind: exercise and eating healthy is the only way to loose weight.
:) np for sharing the experience...i hope i helped...somebody..out there...

[lethal]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 5 2003, 07:50 PM
the only time i remember really eating a burger in high school was when four other girls from my dance troupe and i took a break during practice and to carl's jr. or bk (??). anyhow, the 5 of us shared a whopper jr. it was kinda neat - like tasting a burger for the first time.
5 of you shared a whopper jr.??? What did you each take 1 bite?

[kasia]

Originally posted by lethalweapon@Jan 6 2003, 12:08 AM
5 of you shared a whopper jr.??? What did you each take 1 bite?
no...we all took little bites. i ate the bread and meet separately in little bites...savoring the taste. pretty lame, eh?

that's pretty much what i did during all of my meals. at home, i would eat a grain of rice at a time. it kills time. that way, i wouldn't finish my dinner before everyone else.

during college, i started eating normal.

first year law school, i fell back into it again. for many days, i'd eat just a few pieces of kim chee radish for dinner. partly to lose weight but partly b/c i was addicted to that stuff.

now i'm eating normal again.

i definitely think a person's diet correlates with how good he/she feels about himself/herself.

[applehead]

oh i tried looking for those sites again.
i couldn't find it.
i think i saw it in a newsweek or time article a year ago.
or maybe it was 2. i'm not sure.
but i'll keep on looking.

[iris]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 6 2003, 08:50 AM


i guess i used to think that anorexia was more of a lifestyle than a disease. &nbsp;part of it had to do with my dancing (chinese ballet). &nbsp;our teacher would always notice and announce it to everyone when any of us gained even a point. &nbsp;seriously, she would notice if we gained half a pound. &nbsp;it wasn't entirely the chastising that made us weight conscious. &nbsp;a lot of it had to do with competition, too -- the teacher would favor the skinniest girls and choose them for certain parts even if they weren't exactly better dancers. &nbsp;the incentive was clear - as soon as you started losing weight, you would get more and more parts in performances. &nbsp;


I can totally relate. After a summer away at a Russian dance camp, I came back only to hear my horrible and White dance teacher say to me, "someone's been digging into the Chow Mein a little too much," while patting me on the ass. I think I was about 90 lbs and 5'2 at that point. I was pretty pissed.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by iris@Jan 6 2003, 09:46 AM
I can totally relate. After a summer away at a Russian dance camp, I came back only to hear my horrible and White dance teacher say to me, "someone's been digging into the Chow Mein a little too much," while patting me on the ass. I think I was about 90 lbs and 5'2 at that point. I was pretty pissed.
not to make light of a serious issue... but...

HAHAHHAHAH that's funny as hell what she said and did!

would you get pissed if i did that? :D

[wylin]

Originally posted by kasia@Jan 5 2003, 04:50 PM
anyhow, guys, what's in it for meena if she puts her picture back up? :)
lethal and tre will then worship her and bow toward her image.

[applehead]

yeah will, that's great. what i've always wanted.

[wylin]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 6 2003, 12:16 PM
yeah will, that's great. what i've always wanted.
or u can serve and worship me, since i am "the will, the one, and the way".

[applehead]

will, that's very clever. :)

[SunWuKong]

fiona's eyes are really freaking me out

[applehead]

oh yeah and your dancing bananas are so kosher!!

[iris]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 6 2003, 11:43 PM
not to make light of a serious issue... but...

HAHAHHAHAH that's funny as hell what she said and did!

would you get pissed if i did that? :D
if you patted me on the ass and called me fat? hellz yah! I was 14 I think. It was called puberty and they were hips, not extra weight dammit!

[iris]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Jan 7 2003, 06:36 AM
fiona's eyes are really freaking me out
Sorry Meena. I'm gonna have to go with SWK on that one. I feel like she's staring at me...Stop it Fiona!

[applehead]

BLAH. no fiona.
blah blah blah.

okiee. found some pro-ana sites that hasn't been closed down yet.

http://www.anasaneassylum.fabpage.com/

http://www.megspace.com/politics/bedazzled/

http://myweb.ecomplanet.com/BOUC2329/

http://www.futurebird.com/~dietpep/anorexicnation/

http://myweb.ecomplanet.com/FUMB1613/default.htm

one of the site's title is "nothing tastes as good as hunger feels"
god, i can so relate to that.

[Commando_turned_MD]

I prefer a girl to be skinny vs FAT!!!!!
anoxeric= GOOD................... :P

[applehead]

so i have a question.
how inconvenient is it to always have your foot in your big ole mouth?

[Commando_turned_MD]

Like I said,

I prefer a girl to be skinny vs FAT!!!!!
anoxeric= GOOD...................

Dont get piss-off just because you dont meet social standards of what consider hot......Anoxeric=GOOD....
Fat girls=BAD.......

[applehead]

um. excuse me. social standards don't consider aneroxic, as you put it, good.

and i'm not pissed off at you. just dumbfounded by your stupidity.
there's a difference.

[Commando_turned_MD]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 09:00 PM
um. excuse me. social standards don't consider aneroxic, as you put it, good.

and i'm not pissed off at you. just dumbfounded by your stupidity.
there's a difference.
Same here, I'm just flabbergast by the way ugly chicks always trying to justified why beauty is not important.....

[Commando_turned_MD]

But dont worry, some day, being thin and beautiful is not going to be important.....That's when all the fat ugly chicks can come out and play.....That means you.

[applehead]

yeah i can't wait for that day to come!!

:cry: :cry: :cry:

[Jenny]

Believe me, anorexia does not look good... you can literally see the bones through their skin and it just looks very sickly. The social standards of a good body type is slender, fit.

[Saiko]

I think you might need some lube to pull your head out of your ass, Armycommando.

[Commando_turned_MD]

You're right Saiko.........
I'm sorry Applehead.........

[Saiko]

I dunno if that's sincere. <_<

[Commando_turned_MD]

I'm being sincere.........really :)

[Saiko]

Then... huzzah, I say. XD

[Adaon]

-sighs- somethings just aren't funny....

[kasia]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 17 2003, 09:00 PM
and i'm not pissed off at you. just dumbfounded by your stupidity. there's a difference.
why? would you expect any more from some people?

thx for posting the links, btw.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Hey ArmyCommando, so what made you pick Vietnamese, did you just put all the Asian ethnicities on separate cards into a hat and draw one out at random as you were registering for this forum?

You can take that however you want it :lol:

[Commando_turned_MD]

Originally posted by FrozenPizza@Jan 18 2003, 03:49 PM
Hey ArmyCommando, so what made you pick Vietnamese, did you just put all the Asian ethnicities on separate cards into a hat and draw one out at random as you were registering for this forum?

You can take that however you want it :lol:
Pick Vietnamese for what?
I do not understand what you are asking........

[applehead]

Originally posted by FrozenPizza@Jan 18 2003, 03:49 PM
Hey ArmyCommando, so what made you pick Vietnamese, did you just put all the Asian ethnicities on separate cards into a hat and draw one out at random as you were registering for this forum?

You can take that however you want it :lol:
oh goodness. hubert and i are such haters.
playa haters. damn. :lol:

[mrazntre]

Originally posted by Jaley@Jan 18 2003, 05:22 AM
Believe me, anorexia does not look good... you can literally see the bones through their skin and it just looks very sickly. The social standards of a good body type is slender, fit.
which is the exact opposite of your ass, which izz *bam* hizzzasss!

[applehead]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Jan 18 2003, 11:46 PM
which is the exact opposite of your ass, which izz *bam* hizzzasss!
sy. quit while you're ahead please.

[kayla]

I agree with Jaley. Some girls are so skinny, you can literally see their back bones. Their skin is literally wrapped around their bones. People who are anorexic to that extent thinks looking like that is absolutely gorgeous.

I was an on and off anorexic for a year and a bulemic longer than that. I once didnt eat for 3 weeks. I didnt even dare to drink water cuz I was afraid to gain weight from drinking water. And I was 14 at the time. I eventually passed out during class and was sent to the hospital and did the whole IV thing because I was dehydrated. And during that summer, I didnt leave the house AT ALL. I didnt even dare to walk out to get the mail. I eventually got over it because of my special someone at the time. The smallest things he said made me feel so good about myself. So guys, tell your girlfriends nice things about her once in a while. It might mean more than you think.

[LeahLe]

I am not anorexic, but I should shed some pounds though..the healthy way, that is.

[Commando_turned_MD]

Originally posted by LeahLe@Jan 19 2003, 09:49 AM
I am not anorexic, but I should shed some pounds though..the healthy way, that is.
unhealthy way is faster

[babysakura]

most of the girls i know with nice figures are either born with a high metabolism rate or have some sort of eating disorder

in some way or another i guess i can be considered anorexic.. like i'm super obsessed with my weight. gain 1 pound and i'll be off food for a week.

the prices you have to pay for beauty ;)

[AznYam]

fat girls are the sh*t.

[Commando_turned_MD]

Originally posted by babysakura@Jan 19 2003, 09:39 PM
most of the girls i know with nice figures are either born with a high metabolism rate or have some sort of eating disorder

in some way or another i guess i can be considered anorexic.. like i'm super obsessed with my weight. gain 1 pound and i'll be off food for a week.

the prices you have to pay for beauty ;)
This is the ideal girl.....
Always concern w/ her outter beauty........which is one of the most important element.......... :P
Finally someone who understands the importances of beauty.........


:lol:

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by armycommando_turned_doctor@Jan 20 2003, 01:53 AM
unhealthy way is faster
And more fun.

[enygma]

Originally posted by AznYam@Jan 19 2003, 10:38 PM
fat girls are the sh*t.
and people like you make anorexic girls anorexic.

[babysakura]

Originally posted by armycommando_turned_doctor@Jan 19 2003, 10:57 PM
Originally posted by babysakura@Jan 19 2003, 09:39 PM
most of the girls i know with nice figures are either born with a high metabolism rate or have some sort of eating disorder

in some way or another i guess i can be considered anorexic.. like i'm super obsessed with my weight. gain 1 pound and i'll be off food for a week.

the prices you have to pay for beauty &nbsp;;)
This is the ideal girl.....
Always concern w/ her outter beauty........which is one of the most important element.......... :P
Finally someone who understands the importances of beauty.........


:lol:
the name we call all men that think this way -JERK

hahaha -no offense

but sometimes its rather ironic where girls go " i want him to love me for who i am" and on the other hand dieting her bones out *shrugs*

females are complicated? you got that right :P

[kasia]

Originally posted by babysakura@Jan 20 2003, 07:29 PM
but sometimes its rather ironic where girls go " i want him to love me for who i am" and on the other hand dieting her bones out *shrugs*

females are complicated? you got that right :P
it's not really that ironic. if a girl seems to get more attention (or "love") from guys when she's thinner, that may positively reinforce dieting, anorexia, bulemia, etc.

[silvernova]

I only tried to be anorexic once in high school, when I played a lot of sports and ate a little. I'm 5'4" and used to weigh at 105 lbs. I never forgot how that felt...way too thin for my taste. Being adopted doesn't help matters because my family always ate American food and large portions so you could say I grew up sorta chubby, but not fat. Now I weight about 125 pounds, but even that is considered "fat" to many Asian girls I see out there. I kept seeing so many Asian girls so skinny that it made me balk and wonder how they can stand that way. I love to eat and enjoy food. But I do watch what I eat and eliminate junk food. I'm trying to slim down a bit and more buffed. Lots of exercise will make me lose weight really fast opposed to eating much less.

I kept questioning that Asian standard of beauty...it seems that the most popular Asian beauty is skinny, pale and dewy skinned, doe-eyed (large) and long, flowing hair. I mean, it's the most most popular image amongst Asian girls I see out there and everyone's trying to be this very image. Goes true for Caucasian beauty...most beautiful women in the world are thin or skinny. Nada for chubby or fat girls (very few). Will this standard change? I seriously doubt it because women themselves as well as men will always want THAT skinny girl in ads or in the media or even in real life.

Meanwhile, most guys I know admitted they prefer skinny girls to chubby or fat girls because they live for beautiful or gorgeous, cute girls. Ironically, a few of them cannot land a beautiful girl they desired so much. They want their own girlfriends/wives to be very beautiful/pretty and show off to other people, feel proud and all of that stuff. They don't want to be with ugly chicks who are overweight, even if they're warm-hearted, intelligent and possess great personality. Sometimes this makes me sick because that means I'll be constantly be judged by my beauty and weight, not by my intelligence, personality or anything else. Very few guys accept the women regardless of their weight, and those very guys are usually on the fat/chubby/ugly side (no offense or trying to stereotype, just examples I see in real life). Most of the times beautiful girls land handsome/cute guys and rarely beautiful girl with ugly guy unless he is famous and filthly rich. Furthermore, very few handsome/cute guys are willing to settle down with below the average girls who are obese/fat. Again, I'm just merely observing this phenomenon in the real life.

[KiTTY2babe]

When I'm hungry and there's food, I dive mouth-first and just eat. But if there's nothing to eat (like pizza and all the other junk) in the fridge, I just smoke my hunger off or down it with soda. I don't worry about my weight and obssess on what the boiz are gonna think. Like, who cares about them, you know? I'm 5'7 and 112lbs. Skinny maybe, but definitely not a stick. I'm just loving the way I am.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by KiTTY2babe@Jan 28 2003, 02:55 PM
are gonna think. Like, who cares about them, you know? I'm 5'7 and 112lbs. Skinny maybe, but definitely not a stick. I'm just loving the way I am.
**Ears perk up**

[Napoleon Chynamite]

The thing is tho is that no matter how beautiful a girl or guy is, their opinion and/or standard of what is beautiful differs from person to person, so often times you will see a beautiful girl/guy with someone else that you yourself may not see as hot or good-looking. Of course, in terms of status and/or money or style of dress, that's different. It's all black and white there. Rich is rich. Unless you are filthy rich.

[mr. x]

Forget fat or skinny or whatever, its all about looking good.

[snuffles]

Originally posted by silvernova@Jan 24 2003, 01:42 AM
I kept questioning that Asian standard of beauty...it seems that the most popular Asian beauty is skinny, pale and dewy skinned, doe-eyed (large) and long, flowing hair. I mean, it's the most most popular image amongst Asian girls I see out there and everyone's trying to be this very image. &nbsp;Goes true for Caucasian beauty...most beautiful women in the world are thin or skinny. Nada for chubby or fat girls (very few). Will this standard change? I seriously doubt it because women themselves as well as men will always want THAT skinny girl in ads or in the media or even in real life.
it's the "trend" now for skinny to be a main attribute of beauty... makes it sorta strange to think that in the past, "plump", "rounder" women were considered to be THE ideal beauty -- i think it had to do with well-fed being equated to having money to fill your tummy with good food?? now that society in the US is, in general, well-fed, they're now leaning towards skinny?? In both cases, society is going for the "outliers"... so what is desired is what is not the norm?? just a thought...

on a more personal note, i'm 5'6". after my frosh year at college, i was 95 lbs not through dieting but because i forgot to eat a lot of the times (stoopid dining hall hours were short, and i was usually in class or at ballet until after it closed.. and i was being a cheapy and didn't want to pay for food). i bumped into an ex-boyfriend that i dated back when i was a senior in high school (i weighed about 115 back then) and he noted my loss of weight and said something to the effect of "man, i got the short end of the stick... i dated u a year too early!!" he's a pretty decent guy and a good friend but.. man... i really wanted to slap him... but i guess he got "brainwashed" by society standards... *sigh*

[kasia]

Originally posted by snuffles@Jan 30 2003, 10:02 PM
it's the "trend" now for skinny to be a main attribute of beauty... makes it sorta strange to think that in the past, "plump", "rounder" women were considered to be THE ideal beauty -- i think it had to do with well-fed being equated to having money to fill your tummy with good food?? now that society in the US is, in general, well-fed, they're now leaning towards skinny?? In both cases, society is going for the "outliers"... so what is desired is what is not the norm?? just a thought...

on a more personal note, i'm 5'6". after my frosh year at college, i was 95 lbs not through dieting but because i forgot to eat a lot of the times (stoopid dining hall hours were short, and i was usually in class or at ballet until after it closed.. and i was being a cheapy and didn't want to pay for food). i bumped into an ex-boyfriend that i dated back when i was a senior in high school (i weighed about 115 back then) and he noted my loss of weight and said something to the effect of "man, i got the short end of the stick... i dated u a year too early!!" he's a pretty decent guy and a good friend but.. man... i really wanted to slap him... but i guess he got "brainwashed" by society standards... *sigh*
out of curiosity, when guys say that to you, does it serve as some sort of positive reinforcement? when they compliment you on being skinny, would it make you think twice the next time you want to pig out?

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Yea, a lotta times when I call girls skinny (meaning it in a neutral tone/way or fashion), they seem pleased and some even say 'thank you'. I have yet to meet a girl, no matter how thin or beautiful (those two words are not the same contrary to popular belief), who doesn't think that she is fat or needs to diet.

[ism]

Originally posted by FrozenPizza@Jan 31 2003, 06:13 PM
Yea, a lotta times when I call girls skinny (meaning it in a neutral tone/way or fashion), they seem pleased and some even say 'thank you'. I have yet to meet a girl, no matter how thin or beautiful (those two words are not the same contrary to popular belief), who doesn't think that she is fat or needs to diet.
Hmm the obviously fat ones don't usually bring it to my attention. The others... sometimes I'm pretty sure they're just fishing for compliments.

[eyespooge]

maybe anorexia is just one of the fews things that girls can do to drastically change their appearance (towards whatever they think is "good-looking"). after all, you can't run to the bathroom in between meals and stick a finger down your throat to fix a broken face. :\

on the flip side, i think that girls haven't figured out how hot muscle tone is :P

[syclick]

I was anorexic in high school. In my sophomore year I went from 220 lbs to 150.

[Elizabeth A.]

I found an interesting quote:

"A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience."

--Naomi Wolf

[beachgerl]

Originally posted by Elizabeth A.@Feb 1 2003, 11:37 AM
I found an interesting quote:

"A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience."

--Naomi Wolf
How true. I prefer being toned and slim to being bony and skinny. Having a toned bod means you can wear smaller sizes and not worry about eating because of exercise. I agree with someone above that exercise and maintaining healthy diet is the dealbreaker of lifelong slimness and youthfulness. I knew this person who exercised and ate healthy (occasional junk food) regularly everyday for 30+ years, right now she looks like she's 30 when she's actually 54 years old! I admire her because she looks so young and slim, and she didn't have to resort to unhealthy methods at all! That makes big waves with me. I want to look like that when I hit 50s and 60s and have people mistaken me as 30 or even 25 years old! Another friend, she's 36 years old now but she looks like 25 years old because she is slim and exercises.