How do you fight with your SO?

[kimpossible]

I am grandmaster of the passive-aggressive Silent Treatment. Just leave a couple things obviously out of place. Bang a door loudly. Clang some dishes together. Then I emit waves of displeasure and pissiness.

edit: shoot, should have put this in relationships. Can someone move it, please?



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[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Sep 6 2002, 07:39 PM
I am grandmaster of the passive-aggressive Silent Treatment. Just leave a couple things obviously out of place. Bang a door loudly. Clang some dishes together. Then I emit waves of displeasure and pissiness.

edit: shoot, should have put this in relationships. Can someone move it, please?
oh man that would annoy the shit out of me...

[kimpossible]

exactly

[Hito]

I fight with a sword... :unsure:

[karizma]

>> its all about the silent treatment man...MUAHAHA....

>> oh and the occasional smack to the genitalia....

[SunWuKong]

but seriously though, i wouldn't stick around to deal with that. i guess i would have nowhere to run if i was married to the girl.



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[AliBabaIncorporated]

my ex-girlfriend liked to throw mugs of coffee

[karizma]

>> i threw a towel? and i flailed my arms and stamped my feet hahaha...my ex broke stuff like glasses and punched holes in walls...=/ thats some scary shit right there...i dont suggest any of you guys do it even if you're really really angered.

[artsfartsyjanet]

I just get quiet, and that bugs the crap of my ex. Funny thing is that my silence isn't meant to be a silent treatment. I like to think before I speak about anything that's bothering me b/c I don't like to put impulsiveness before my critical thinking.

[mrazntre]

karizma Posted on Sep 7 2002, 05:10 AM
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>> i threw a towel? and i flailed my arms and stamped my feet hahaha...my ex broke stuff like glasses and punched holes in walls...=/ thats some scary shit right there...i dont suggest any of you guys do it even if you're really really angered. &nbsp;

Then don't provoke us.

[deez nuts]

I give her the good old sex embargo!

that'll show her who's boss, goddamnit!

Nah I just don't respond when I'm pissed and leave the house.



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[kimpossible]

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Sep 6 2002, 06:02 PM
but seriously though, i wouldn't stick around to deal with that. i guess i would have nowhere to run if i was married to the girl.
That's the difference between you and Mr. HH. What would make him walk out is whining, nagging, yelling - he can deal with the silence until I'm ready to talk rationally.

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Sep 8 2002, 11:15 PM
Originally posted by SunWuKung@Sep 6 2002, 06:02 PM
but seriously though, i wouldn't stick around to deal with that. &nbsp;i guess i would have nowhere to run if i was married to the girl.
That's the difference between you and Mr. HH. What would make him walk out is whining, nagging, yelling - he can deal with the silence until I'm ready to talk rationally.
hahhah i would probably walk out of the whining, nagging, and yelling too!

[johnny]

I yell, is that so bad?

[kimpossible]

Originally posted by AliBabaIncorporated@Sep 6 2002, 08:27 PM
my ex-girlfriend liked to throw mugs of coffee
did she still drink it after?

[teaz0r]

*bump*

i just go quiet and ignore the ass fucker (literally).
and then i turn all manipulative and go all out with my
psychological warfare and wait until he cries. then comfort
him with my sweet self that he first fell in love with and tell
him that it's okay that he's wrong and that i forgive him.

if all else fails, i jump him, and fuck him till he cries like a little boy.
either way he's gonna cry.

i'm never wrong.

[amietron]

Originally posted by pipSy@Mar 2 2003, 10:58 AM
i'm never wrong.
neither am i. but i still apologize for being a bitch on the occasion.

i hang up on him. or get quiet and not talk. or give one word answers. usually it's stupid stuff. nick and i have only had 2 "fights" both about stupid shit. wanna hear about 'em?

fight #1: nick goes to UC berkeley and he lives in the dorms. when we talk on the phone, people sometimes start talking to him and he goes off on tangents and engages in full conversation with the other person all the while i'm still on the phone. amy didn't like this. for a while, she tolerated it, but then got sick of it and started hanging up anytime it lasted for more than a few minutes. she told nick about how she didn't like it, and now it doesn't happen with the exception of once in a while.

mean text message: "if you're not willing to put forth effort in communicating with me, this relationship isn't going to work. really, it's up to you." after the text message, we didn't talk for 2 days. i didn't call him. he didn't call me. and it ended okay, because we're still together.

fight #2: amy called nick wednesday(?) to ask him if he wanted to meet up in the city on saturday to go to SFMOMA, the museum. nick said he couldn't. why? he had to do his comp sci project. on a saturday afternoon? yeah, that's what he said. did i doubt him? yeah. did he end up doing his comp sci project? no. was i right? yeah. so i threw a hissy fit because he wouldn't come out. it's okay though. i spent time with other friends. friends who had time for me. i only asked for a few hours. in my head, it was like- computer games vs. amy. games win.

mean text message: "so, are you doing your COMP SCI project, nick? hard at work?"

now i'm just ticked off about the fact that i might only have a few hours with him next saturday, when he's coming home. it might be the only time i see him during the month of march. bullshit. and he only lives 45 minutes away.

[kitty]

*sigh*... fighting with him right now. I'm not so good with fights... I try HH's silent treatment but I'm usually the first to snap and want to talk it through.

I'm glad I'm at work... give's me a chance to get away from things.

[jimbo]

Call me a spineless toad but I just walk off and say nothing, My last Ex chose to disclose some exaggerated stuff about me on another forum and said it was a demon she needed to exorcise, Nice huh? <_<

[Hanuman]

I hate the silent treatment - it's back to that game "guess why I'm angry now"

My girl does this and does the look away too, like we're in the car and I'm driving and she's been staring out that window for 20 minutes without saying a word. Secretly, I relish the silence.

When I'm in a fight I'm a reasoner. I'm that dude that tries to lay it all out and explain it logically. It has to be annoying, I don't know why I haven't gotten punched out yet.

[pfc beansprout]

yeah...don't say nothin....try to cool off...talk to her when things are more chill....ain't easy

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by Tawee@Mar 5 2003, 03:10 AM
I hate the silent treatment - it's back to that game "guess why I'm angry now"


ugh, no shit. and of course it doesn't work the other way around. you ignore her, she could give half a shit.

[amietron]

so, do any of you guys apologize for the sake of apologizing, even though you know you're not wrong?

[kitty]

Originally posted by amietron@Mar 5 2003, 07:17 PM
so, do any of you guys apologize for the sake of apologizing, even though you know you're not wrong?
moi. :blush:

[moschikat]

I'm right and you're wrong! You're big and I'm little! I'm the girl and *pout pout pout* - I am an only child!!
*throw a tantrum* You don't LOVE me!!!!

uhm, wait - oh right - i don't have an SO right now . . . so this is my tactic with Cleo (the cat) . . . .

:P

either way, the pouting works :)

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by moschikat@Mar 5 2003, 03:05 PM
I'm right and you're wrong! You're big and I'm little! I'm the girl and *pout pout pout* - I am an only child!!
*throw a tantrum* You don't LOVE me!!!!

uhm, wait - oh right - i don't have an SO right now . . . so this is my tactic with Cleo (the cat) . . . .

:P

either way, the pouting works :)
I like cats. Can I pet your pussy?

*pouts*

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by amietron@Mar 5 2003, 11:17 AM
so, do any of you guys apologize for the sake of apologizing, even though you know you're not wrong?
yes, all the time. profusesly even.

[teaz0r]

Originally posted by himura-dono@Mar 6 2003, 04:13 AM
yes, all the time. profusesly even.
*squashes you like a bug*

[himura-dono]

Originally posted by pipSy@Mar 5 2003, 02:10 PM
*squashes you like a bug*
*stands up for self*
















*crawls away quickly* :P

[bigwong235]

everything's my fault. :ph34r:

[kangal]

everything's always my fault too...but for some reason thats not enough.....my biggest fights come over hanging with the guys....biggest blunder ever was that we went to sleep, but i wasn't tired so i went out of our room, into the den area and hung with my roomies....she woke up and gave me hell....grr